Karin Walker - Family Lawyer - How to leave a Narcissist - the Practical Podcast
The term 'Narcissism' has been used increasingly to describe someone who is 'difficult' or 'unpleasant' - who treats other people badly. Narcissism is however a very real condition. Those who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder are very low in empathy and therefore particularly bad at maintaining long term personal relationships. As a consequence, those who work with couples who are separating are much more likely to encounter this particular pattern of behaviour during the work that they do. And it is most definitely a pattern, which, when properly understood is quite easily identifiable. Once identified it becomes possible to plan a strategy intended to minimise the impact of narcissistic abuse and achieve an outcome based upon informed decisions.
Taking the step to leave a toxic, abusive relationship requires a great deal of courage and support. It is vital to understand exactly what you are facing. You need to recognise that a narcissist is not likely to ever change. The only thing you can change is your reaction to their behaviour.
Family Lawyer, Karin Walker and her guests, all experts in their field, talk through the various issues you need to consider with numerous practical tips and pointers, providing invaluable help at an extremely difficult time in your life.
Karin Walker - Family Lawyer - How to leave a Narcissist - the Practical Podcast
Arbitration - a better way to achieve adjudication - a discussion with Tristan Harvey
In a high conflict dispute it is highly likely that one of the couple will drive the proceeding to Court - insisting that a decision is required by a Judge - thereby increasing delay and cost. Since 2012 in financial remedy proceedings and 2016 in Children Act proceedings those decisions can be made by an Arbitrator.
Narcissists thrive on the 'courtroom' drama - keen to take 'centre stage' and force the other person to endure unnecessary cost an distress. They may be persuaded to consider arbitration due to the 'bespoke' nature of the process and it's consequential 'specialness'.
Tristan Harvey (currently co-chair of the Resolution NCDR committee with Elaine Richardson - a future guest on this podcast) is an experienced barrister and mediator specialising in Family Law dispute resolution. Tristan is also an arbitrator in financial and children cases and conducts private FDRs and early neutral evaluations.
In 2020 Tristan was appointed a Deputy District Judge on the South Eastern Circuit.
In this podcast Tristan looks in detail at the process of arbitration and how it can be of material benefit in most cases which require an adjudication.