Karin Walker - Family Lawyer - How to leave a Narcissist - the Practical Podcast
The term 'Narcissism' has been used increasingly to describe someone who is 'difficult' or 'unpleasant' - who treats other people badly. Narcissism is however a very real condition. Those who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder are very low in empathy and therefore particularly bad at maintaining long term personal relationships. As a consequence, those who work with couples who are separating are much more likely to encounter this particular pattern of behaviour during the work that they do. And it is most definitely a pattern, which, when properly understood is quite easily identifiable. Once identified it becomes possible to plan a strategy intended to minimise the impact of narcissistic abuse and achieve an outcome based upon informed decisions.
Taking the step to leave a toxic, abusive relationship requires a great deal of courage and support. It is vital to understand exactly what you are facing. You need to recognise that a narcissist is not likely to ever change. The only thing you can change is your reaction to their behaviour.
Family Lawyer, Karin Walker and her guests, all experts in their field, talk through the various issues you need to consider with numerous practical tips and pointers, providing invaluable help at an extremely difficult time in your life.
Karin Walker - Family Lawyer - How to leave a Narcissist - the Practical Podcast
The female closet narcissist - what to look out for and how deal with them
It is generally assumed that most Narcissists are male - which of course is wrong. Narcissistic Personality disorder is a condition which is not gender specific and can apply in the same way to both men and women.
This podcast is intended for those who believe themselves to have become the 'victim' of the female closet narcissist. The closet narcissist is probably the most difficult of the narcissistic personality disorder types to spot. All narcissists are excellent actors - because they have been playing a part for most of their lives as they hide behind the mask which they have created to hide their true self. The closet narcissist will usually align themselves to someone who is particularly successful and extrovert - basking in their achievements and living vicariously through the status which their partner enjoys. It therefore becomes easy for them to create the narrative that their partner is the narcissist and they are the victim in an 'abusive' relationship. As natural liars they are very able to convince even the most astute professionals that they are telling the truth.
So if you find yourself in a situation where you feel as though you have been 'walking on egg-shells for years'; feel that you have been completely manipulated and gas-lit - but you don't understand why - you may find some of the answers here.
The podcast is also intended for family law professionals who may be instructed by the closet female narcissist or who may be dealing with this dynamic as a mediator or arbitrator.