Karin Walker - Family Lawyer - How to leave a Narcissist - the Practical Podcast
The term 'Narcissism' has been used increasingly to describe someone who is 'difficult' or 'unpleasant' - who treats other people badly. Narcissism is however a very real condition. Those who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder are very low in empathy and therefore particularly bad at maintaining long term personal relationships. As a consequence, those who work with couples who are separating are much more likely to encounter this particular pattern of behaviour during the work that they do. And it is most definitely a pattern, which, when properly understood is quite easily identifiable. Once identified it becomes possible to plan a strategy intended to minimise the impact of narcissistic abuse and achieve an outcome based upon informed decisions.
Taking the step to leave a toxic, abusive relationship requires a great deal of courage and support. It is vital to understand exactly what you are facing. You need to recognise that a narcissist is not likely to ever change. The only thing you can change is your reaction to their behaviour.
Family Lawyer, Karin Walker and her guests, all experts in their field, talk through the various issues you need to consider with numerous practical tips and pointers, providing invaluable help at an extremely difficult time in your life.
Karin Walker - Family Lawyer - How to leave a Narcissist - the Practical Podcast
The Co-parent Way - and interview with Marcie Shaoul
If you and your partner have separated, your preference may be never to have to see or speak to them again. This will particularly be the case where your former partner is a narcissist when 'no contact' will be the ideal position. If however, you have children together, at least while your children are in their minority, that is not a viable option. Some mechanism will need to be in place to help you navigate ongoing child arrangements.
Marcie Shaoul is the founder of the award winning the Co-Parent Way and author of 'The Co Parenting Method: Six steps to raise happy kids after separation and divorce' published by Penguin and released on 27th March 2025. Marcie is a trained and certified coach, known for her practical and effective approach to helping separating parents. Her work has been described by Sir Andrew Macfarlane, President of the family Division, in the forward of the book as 'inspirational'.
When your co-parent is a narcissist you will quickly recognise the fact that they will only ever 'counter-parent'. The need to limit contact between the parents as much as possible will become apparent coupled with the need to demonstrate to the children the difference between 'conditional' and 'unconditional' love.