Karin Walker - Family Lawyer - How to leave a Narcissist - the Practical Podcast
The term 'Narcissism' has been used increasingly to describe someone who is 'difficult' or 'unpleasant' - who treats other people badly. Narcissism is however a very real condition. Those who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder are very low in empathy and therefore particularly bad at maintaining long term personal relationships. As a consequence, those who work with couples who are separating are much more likely to encounter this particular pattern of behaviour during the work that they do. And it is most definitely a pattern, which, when properly understood is quite easily identifiable. Once identified it becomes possible to plan a strategy intended to minimise the impact of narcissistic abuse and achieve an outcome based upon informed decisions.
Taking the step to leave a toxic, abusive relationship requires a great deal of courage and support. It is vital to understand exactly what you are facing. You need to recognise that a narcissist is not likely to ever change. The only thing you can change is your reaction to their behaviour.
Family Lawyer, Karin Walker and her guests, all experts in their field, talk through the various issues you need to consider with numerous practical tips and pointers, providing invaluable help at an extremely difficult time in your life.
Karin Walker - Family Lawyer - How to leave a Narcissist - the Practical Podcast
How to deal with resolution of financial matters when separating from a Narcissist
Summoning up the courage to leave a narcissistic is a feat in itself. You may have made several attempts to leave, nervous of being subjected to narcissistic rage and anxious about what the future may hold. Deciding to actually take the step to separate can feel like you have painstakingly reached the summit of a mountain. You may feel an inexplicable sense of relief.
But the decision to separate is just the first step. If you have children you need to look at how the arrangements for them will work moving forwards. In all cases you need to deal with resolution of financial matters between you.
In this episode I look at how best to approach dealing with financial matters. It is important to remember that a narcissist will never change - the only thing that you can change is your reaction to their behaviour. It is vitally important that you 'pick your battles'. There is sometime a vast difference between what is 'fair' and what is 'achievable'. It is essential that you take legal advice. Resolution of financial matters is an economic exercise. You need to be emotionally in the right place to deal with what may be 'life' choices and be sure that you have proper support (which may be both legal and therapeutic) to deal with what lies ahead of you.