Truce with Food with Ali Shapiro, MSOD, CHHC
You've done Weight Watchers. Therapy. The functional medicine workup. You know more about nutrition than most people. And yet, you still can't make it stick. So now you're wondering if you're just the problem.
You are not the problem. The framework you needed—that integrates real, lasting change—just never showed up, so you keep blaming yourself instead.
Truce With Food® is a podcast for women in perimenopause and menopause who are exhausted from emotional eating, binge eating, overeating, and food noise taking up more space in their lives than they ever wanted. If you're eating when you're not hungry, can't figure out why what used to work no longer does, or just want a real conversation about your relationship with food and your body, you're in the right place.
Host Ali Shapiro is a holistic nutritionist, cancer survivor, and creator of the research-based Truce With Food® framework that’s also built on 19 years of real client results. She healed her own relationship with food and has spent nearly two decades helping other women do the same through honest conversations about food, psychology, physiology, and why showing up with a C+ effort gets you further than any plan that demands perfection ever will. And how the real work is to be counterculture and trust in satisfaction, not more discipline.
New episodes every other Wednesday.
Truce with Food with Ali Shapiro, MSOD, CHHC
298. Why Wholeness Beats “Being Good” with Elise Loehnen
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Today Elise Loehnen returns to Insatiable for a much-needed reminder that you don’t have to be good. And in fact, focusing on being “good” or “nice” might perpetuate your battle with food and leave you feeling deeply unfulfilled.
In this conversation, we unpack what it means to be whole, why it’s fine if some people don’t like you, and how to stop seeking external approval. We also tap into how the stories we tell about goodness impact our relationship to food and our body (including what the deepest layer of body image is really about).
Tune in for a huge permission slip to rest and replenish — even when you’d rather push through (and learn how this supports staying on track with your food). And stick around until the end for a great reframe for envy!
We discuss:
- How your desire to be “good” shows up in your daily life
- Ways to unhook from external validation
- The shadow & why it matters in midlife, health included
- Rejecting the “sin” of sloth & learning to rest
- MAHA and why it’s not selfish yet essential to tend to your inner life during political turmoil
- Envy as a GPS for your soul
More about our guest: Elise Loehnen Fissmer is a writer and editor living in Los Angeles with her husband, Rob, and their sons, Max and Sam. She is the host of *Pulling the Thread* where she interviews cultural luminaries on the big questions of the day. While she’s co-written 12 books, including five New York Times Best Sellers, her first book under her own name, *On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good* (Dial Press, an imprint of Penguin Random House), was also an instant New York Times bestseller. Previously, she was the chief content officer of goop, where she co-hosted The goop Podcast and The goop Lab on Netflix, and led the brand’s content strategy and programming, including the launch of a magazine with Condé Nast and a book imprint.
Connect with Elise:
- Preorder Elise’s new workbook Choosing Wholeness Over Goodness: A Process for Reclaiming Your Full Self
- Get Elise’s book On Our Best Behavior
- Listen to Elise’s podcast Pulling the Thread
- Follow Elise on Instagram @EliseLoehnen
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