Talk RD to Me
Welcome to Talk RD to Me, the unfiltered podcast where we dissect diet culture, metabolism myths, and unveil the raw truth behind the results you truly crave. Join Cat on the ups and downs in her journey from chasing the leanest version of herself, to the unexpected consequences it brought, and how she is now living her a balanced and fulfilling life. In each episode, we unravel the intricacies of fitness, metabolism, and mindset, guiding you towards a happier and more fulfilling version of YOU. Because, let's be real – it's not about the leanest you, it's about finding the joy in your journey. Get ready for unfiltered dietitian real talk that speaks to your soul and empowers you to live the life you desire.
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You Can't Fix the Outside Until You Fix the Inside
Tired of the endless Monday restart cycle that never leads to lasting change? In this powerful conversation, my client Diane reveals how she broke free after decades of weight struggles and failed attempts—from Weight Watchers to lap band surgery.
The breakthrough wasn't about finding the "perfect diet" but addressing what was happening in her mind first. After initially questioning an approach that didn't immediately focus on calories and macros, Diane discovered that photographing meals and documenting her feelings around food created more transformation than any restrictive plan ever had.
"You can't fix the outside if you don't fix the inside," Diane shares, reflecting on how she moved from using food as an emotional crutch to developing healthier coping mechanisms for stress and emotions. Perhaps most revolutionary was learning to include previously "forbidden" foods like Oreos in moderation—eliminating the sense of deprivation that had previously led to binges and self-sabotage.
Through coaching, Diane began asking herself, "What would the best version of me do right now?" This led to intentional decisions in all areas of her life—from wearing bright pink workout clothes instead of hiding in black, to walking outside during stressful workdays rather than seeking comfort in food. She learned to validate herself rather than seeking external approval.
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Hello, welcome back to the podcast. I am so excited for today's episode because I have one of my amazing clients who has had such a great transformation through one-on-one coaching, through Made for More, and I just want her to really dive into her story and really expand on what has actually changed. So let's welcome Diane, hello, welcome, hi everyone, how are you? Good, good, good, good, so excited to have you here. Yeah, I'm just really wanting to dive in. I know you're always talking on your stories. You're always talking about coaching and the shifts you're having. So I just want to bring all of those words and wisdom and the takeaways and the aha moments that you've had to the audience and really think about, have them think about a different side of things, right, because we all know working with me is not just getting a meal plan, nope. So I'd love to like hear a little bit about when you came on with me, what, what were you doing before that, what have you tried in the past and what really drew you to my coaching?
Speaker 2:Okay. So maybe the question should be what haven't I tried in the past? I have always fought with my weight my whole life. And you, when you're fighting with your weight, you're trying to trying to change everything all at once and sometimes you want that easy fix. You're like, okay, I can do. You know, let me try weight watches, let me try this, let me try that. I even tried the lap band. I had the lap band in and I had the lap band out three years later. And you, you're trying so hard to make this change within yourself and your body that you don't realize that that change needs to start within your mind. It needs to start in your mind first before you can even get the physical to change.
Speaker 2:When I had the lap band put in, they sent me to a psychologist and somebody and a nutritionist for one visit and it was just like okay, what do you want out of this? There was no deep dive into how I got to the place that I was at. How did I get to where I was at? You know, how did I get to my heaviest weight in my whole life of being over 300 and some odd pounds? Like, how did I get here? So it was just like, okay, we're going to do this and it's it's going to help you lose weight. But then, when you're in the midst of it all, you're like, wait a minute, I didn't change anything. So now, with the lap band, I couldn't eat certain foods and now, emotionally, since I couldn't eat it, I wanted it even more and it was just a downward spiral. So, not fixing what was going on within my head and in my mind, it just it was like hitting that constant wall of the cycle. I used to call it the vicious cycle, the vicious cycle of okay, today's Monday, I'm going to start. It's Monday. Here we go. It's Monday, and then the minute something's not perfect because that's what my mindset was doing, got to be perfect, you got to have everything all in line. You can't have that cookie, you can't have that, and it's so much flooding in that you end up starting over every Monday, every Monday, because by Wednesday you feel like you failed. Then comes the guilt, and then from the guilt comes the eating, and then, after the eating becomes crap, I suck, I just literally suck. So you know what the weekends here now. So we're not even going to start on the weekend, because you know how the weekends are. And then we're just going to start over on Monday again, and then it just kept going, and going, and going.
Speaker 2:And I remember seeing you one day gosh, it had to be got a good year before we started working together. And I would jump in in your groups and I'd be like you know, we even had a phone call and you, you get inside of your head thinking, okay, should I try this or shouldn't I? You know, is this something that's going to work? Maybe it will. Am I going to be disappointed again? Wait, why am I going to spend that money and invest in myself if I feel like I'm not going to get anywhere? Yeah, and then it was my mom who really pushed me forward and said you know what, just try it. What do you? Got to lose Three months with her. If you don't like it, you just stop, yeah.
Speaker 1:And so, like such a game changer, what do you have to lose at this point? Right, when you're in such a cycle you've been dieting your entire life, Nothing is changing or the 10 pounds comes off and comes back on what do you really have to lose? Right, that investment and having the answer to all of that is worth the investment. Right, Like getting sort of change and investing in yourself and your health and really getting to the root of what's going on. And I'm curious when you signed up with me I know you were in my groups, you were doing my challenges, my giveaways, probably like all of that from the beginning I'm curious when you came on and we started working together, what were your expectations? Like? What were you thinking that I was going to do and what actually stuck for you?
Speaker 2:So I had had a coach previous to that, that I just had a. Really it didn't work out well. So I was jaded, like I was totally jaded, and I'm like, okay, am I in? Now I'm gonna jump in. So I expected that you were gonna give me and I told my friends this I'm like okay, let's see what calories and macros she's gonna give me. That's gonna be the first phone call for zoom. Now, on the first zoom, you were one of the only people to push me. I never put myself on a on a video zoom.
Speaker 2:I always had just my name, my name, in the banner and you're like that's not going to work. You know I need to see you. So you're doing a podcast, you know. So that was, that was the whole start of it. Um, but then when we met and you went over my protocol, I'm like wait, what do you mean? I'm, I'm gonna, I'm going to take pictures of my food, I'm going to tell you. You said to me, I'm going to tell you what I want at each meal. I want, you know, protein, mix with this, mix with this. And I want a picture. And I'm like but what am? What are my calories? What am I? Where are my macros at? And am I going to be stuck immediately into my fitness pound? That's all this is going to be.
Speaker 2:And I remember leaving the phone call with you when you also telling me to write down how I felt at each meal and what I was feeling as I was going throughout the week. And I'm like wait a minute. I literally told one of my friends I'm like this chick is nuts. I said it's three months. Well, it's three or four months. I said we'll see how it works out. I said, but pictures of my food, like she nuts.
Speaker 2:And I woke up the next day and I started taking pictures of my food and actually charting down how I was feeling and how you broke down the foods for me also worked out well, because it was like, okay, now I'm not overthinking this from the beginning Like, oh my gosh, did I get this macro and did I get that one, and it was like, okay, I want you to have this first snack with this. Then I want you to eat your lunch this, this and this it. It was just, it didn't make any sense to me. But then that first week when I lost weight, I was like wait a minute, I'm not over, I'm a, I'm a perfectionist. Well, let me rephrase that I'm a reforming perfectionist. So it was like, okay, I can't even screw this up, meaning because you were like you know what? This was the biggest shocker when you told me get a yogurt and get two Oreos. And I'm like what? I? Wait a minute, I can have an Oreo.
Speaker 2:So when my friends were over one night, they're like you, you got Oreos. And I'm like, yeah, I have two of them with my yogurt at night. And they actually like because I was expecting the normal, I'm going to give you your macros, I'm going to give you your calories and we're going to restrict. You can't have this, you can't have this and you can't have that. And it wasn't that way it was. You know, I remember you telling me the 80, 20 and making you know get in nutritious foods throughout the day, but you can have that one thing that you want in moderation at night. And we chose the Oreo cookies and the Oreo cookies with my yogurt, and then you had me also add a little bit of the sugar-free pudding into it, the mix, and make it like a cheesecake.
Speaker 2:And I didn't feel like I was missing out and I didn't feel like I was glued to to just being so zoned in on just the macros that weren't working for me. What I was doing in the past wasn't working. So there had to be something that needed to be changed and that was how I was approaching it, how I was handling it mentally. And those first couple of weeks it was like, okay, I was handling it mentally, and those first couple of weeks it was like, okay, I can breathe while I'm doing this, like even making a simple change, as when you were like you can take so many ounces of juice and mix it with your um, your protein, and I'm like what?
Speaker 1:Yes, your juice.
Speaker 2:I was like are you kidding me? And you know I would have that before I go to the gym. So, and that's still one of my favorites, that was orange juice, orange juice and the vanilla protein yeah, yeah, it changed it, yeah.
Speaker 1:And I just think something else to kind of point out is like I will always meet you where you're at and I can see things that you cannot.
Speaker 1:You where you're at and I can see things that you cannot.
Speaker 1:So, right in the beginning, when we, when you did your intake and I was asking about, like relationship with food or things like that, on the first call, right away there's that I can't have the specific food, or you know just that, that good versus bad mentality, the stress around eating, um, and that's the whole point of you know, people are always at a different point in their journey, but for you I think it was really taking back.
Speaker 1:You know, obviously macros right now is not working and it's not the macros, it's the, the emotional eating, the reason we're eating that food, the good versus bad feeling, so restricted. So it's like if I just give you macros again, that's not going to do anything. You have to learn how to, how to eat, not how to diet, right, like you have to learn what food not only fits your macros, but that freedom it gives you right, like how to include your favorite foods and not feel that guilt, that shame, the restriction, every single time you're eating. And I remember because we were doing a lot of voice messaging in the beginning, which is totally fine, I love voice messaging but you were like I think you know I'm going to have zucchini noodles instead of my pasta.
Speaker 1:That was like a turning point for you, Cause I was like why, why are we doing that? You?
Speaker 1:know, like, you just have the carbs and you're like cause those are, those aren't good. Like those are the carbs are bad for me. And I said who told you that? Right, like, where did you learn that? Like, why is that a core belief of yours? Right, and we had to undo that. And that's what so many people don't understand is like if you truly believe, if you have this belief that all carbohydrates are going to make me gain weight, I can't have any foods that I enjoy. Like, everything has to feel harder for things to work. You better believe. That's what's going to keep showing up for you. You know you're going to be stuck in that cycle until you really change your thoughts and your beliefs about yourself, the food you're eating, your relationship with food.
Speaker 2:So I think that was such a huge turn. I remember that because you even had me start off slow. You were like, okay, how about you add some pasta to the zucchini noodles and and you know. And then I was even like protein pasta. You're like no pasta regular, just regular pasta.
Speaker 1:Some protein in there already. No need for that.
Speaker 2:Because you go through, you know when, when. The one thing that I like about you the most is that you're real. You keep it real, cause if you go online nowadays, you will see every just scroll through Instagram for a hot second. You will see every fad thing out there all over the place for a hot second. You will see every fad thing out there all over the place, and you know there's so many things coming at you at once and when you are so extremely, I think, at any weight, any weight that you want to lose, when you're that for lack of a better word desperate to want to feel comfortable in your own skin, but not even realizing that being comfortable in your own skin doesn't come from what you look like. It comes from what you're thinking up in your mind. You know, like you know, and I remember you telling me one day to eat like you love yourself, like how would you tell your best friend how to do this? How would you tell somebody who you care about to do this? And you know, I, I really do think that there are some those fads that are out there, even like everybody and this is just my opinion Everybody was like oh, weight watches, it's great. All the doctors love it. There's zero point foods on there. You have as many zero point foods as you want until you're full.
Speaker 2:But I didn't get this way. I didn't get this overweight by knowing when to stop when I was full, because I used it as a comfort. I used I was heavier as a kid. I didn't have a lot of friends, so my food was my friends and, coming from a big Italian family, every Sunday was eat until you couldn't eat anymore. And God forbid. You know I loved my great grandmother, but if you didn't eat till you weren't overly filled, it was like it was kind of like an insult. So I learned this warped dimension of what food was.
Speaker 2:And then, like, when we were in the group the other night, somebody brought it up and I was like it was another aha moment for me when they were like, cause, this is how I was thinking Okay, if I just go in there and sneak that restrictive food, nobody's going to see it, it's not going to count. Like, who the heck was I kidding? Like, just because I'm doing it and not and not noting it in my, my fitness pal, because it was a restricted food, does it mean that it just didn't happen because we get so caught up in all these webs of different information. So then, when, like, you had me just simplifying and I'm like, wait a minute, this isn't this supposed to be a little harder than it is right now? And the other thing that you did with me and I respected was that you didn't give me the easy answers, meaning you would say to me, you'd pose a question to me and I'd give you the answer, and you're like but why, why do you think that way? Tell me why you're thinking that way. Why do you think that you can't do Like? I don't know if you remember this, the first couple of weeks that we were working together, I had to go out with my friends for lunch.
Speaker 2:I was freaking, having a heart attack. I was like I had to go out with my friends for lunch.
Speaker 2:I was freaking, having a heart attack. I was like I don't usually go out, I'm going to feel weird, I'm going to be looking at the menu for 10 million times. And you were like, if you know where you're going, look at the menu before you go. And it's one day, you know, I had my. I remember I had my hamburger that day and I had hamburger. I this, you know and it was like, you know, I used to freak out over it.
Speaker 2:But because, again, that mentality of what we're taught, and you keep it real, like you, you keep it real, but you don't there were days and you know, I'm always honest with you there were days and you were never harsh about it, but you never let something go. So it was just like, okay, diane, we got to get you to that better version of who you want to be. We can't just stop at this answer, because you've been doing that answer for so long and it's not getting you where you need to be. And there was one day I'm like she don't like me, she's being so mean, no, and then the next day I texted you and I'm like thank you, now I get it. I had to step out of the walls of protection that I put around myself for so long, because if I could make that excuse, it made it all right. And there's no. There's no excuses, just there's just reality. It's what I'm willing to do and what I'm not willing to do, and I remember you telling me that. I remember you telling me that if I don't like where I am right now, I have the choice to fix it and make it right. And I always felt like I, I and I still do.
Speaker 2:Even that you know now that I'm in just the made for more, which I'll be coming back to one-on-one soon. We were, we're a team, we're a team and you just don't get on made for more with us during our monthly meetings and and just kind of, you're part of the group, you are part of it, you talk about what you're dealing with. Part of the group, you are part of it. You talk about what you're dealing with, what you're going through and how you are managing it. And it's like, okay, this is coming from a real person who understands where I'm coming from and is letting me know that it's not again, it's not about perfection, it's not about having everything in all the right answers. It's coming together and finding out the right answers for me and what's going to make my journey work together as a team and that's a big part of what I feel is missing out there nowadays with coaches is that we're a team.
Speaker 2:We're a team in this together and I I expect you to push me and I need that, I need, I'm telling you I love it Like. I even like when we would voice messaging in the mornings on some mornings, or messaging back. You're like, but why, why are you thinking this way? Help me understand, and then we can unravel it and figure out how we can move forward in a different way, absolutely. You know um. Same thing with um.
Speaker 2:You know, sometimes I think we like to also compartmentalize our lives and we really can't like.
Speaker 2:Our work life does have effects on our home life and our home life does.
Speaker 2:My work life was just all over the place and that was a big part of my stressful eating, my cortisol levels going up, and you even helped me deal with new ways of dealing with stress at work. You know, now it's getting up and walking away and taking a walk outside, and when stress hits, it's okay, I'm going to make myself a warm cup of tea and I'm going to have a warm cup of tea, hot cup of tea, or I'm going to get up out of my desk and I'm going to go walk for 10 minutes and not go walk to the refrigerator. I'm going to go walk outside and get some fresh air, cause I really don't want food right now. I don't need it right now, but my brain's telling me I need it and then, before you know it, you're like 400, 500 calories over where you're supposed to be, because now it's just like okay, I was going to take one of that, but I took a whole bag of it because it makes me feel better, right, but does it actually? No?
Speaker 1:I think that's like the so many people you know I can, I can give you macros, I can give you a meal plan and you know whether it's you and I have maybe talked about this, but even other clients. They've straight up told me. Even if you told me what exactly to do, I wouldn't do it. Like straight up, just admit that because of all the other areas of life, of like. If you're not addressing your stress, if you're not addressing the emotions you're feeling, and that you're going to food every single time you feel stressed or sad or lonely or depressed or whatever it is, if you do not, you know, address that and figure out how to actually cope with the emotion you're feeling, nothing is going to work. And same thing with your mindset If you truly believe carbs are bad, they're going to make me fat. Like if you truly believe, no matter what I do, I'm never going to be successful, and you have this. You know that inner mean girl is just so loud Every single time you try something and you make progress and you fall back.
Speaker 1:It's like if you cannot get ahead of that and really change your self-talk, your beliefs, how you view yourself, and I think something super powerful that has helped you is like that best version of you. What does that look like? And if you don't know the answer to that, you are just throwing. You know, throw in what is it? Throwing darts at a blank wall? Yeah, it's like you have to have those things, and that is missing from so many people and their goals. Like 10, losing 10 pounds is not a goal. You know, what does that? What does that actually feel like? What does that mean to you? Like what are you? What's going to be different when you lose the weight? And are your actions aligned with your expectations? Right, are we half-assing shit? Are we emotionally eating? It's all fine. We just have to admit it and be so honest and take responsibility for it. And that's where I feel like I come in Cause I will call you on your shit.
Speaker 1:I will call you on your shit, like there's no possible way you're doing this, this and that and we're not seeing it right, like something's sneaking up, something's coming in and you know, like you were saying before, with you know sneaking a food and just not tracking it, that's only hurting yourself and I don't feel guilty of that too, you know. I think a lot of people are. But that's the shit we have to own up to and like, be honest, it's only hurting you. I'm never going to judge you. I freaking love Oreos and I love cinnamon. Yes, I'll have post Malone Oreos, yeah. So like I don't know.
Speaker 1:I think it's so important. You know, when we're working together, you, we are a team and I just want the best for you. I wanted the best for you and I still do that with everything. So it takes you finding the right questions, being asked, the right questions, because you always have the answers within yourself. You already know, right, like you always will have those answers within you somewhere. You just got to find the right person to ask you the right question.
Speaker 2:Like when I'm going through the modules in the made for more. There were a couple of modules where I'm like, okay, I got to get my my tissues out, because that is part of healing. You know, I I'm not one that says oh, I can't cry, that's part of healing. Like there were things in those modules.
Speaker 2:Maybe that I was like, wow, like you know, I got my my book here, all of my writings in it, and I'm like so I can go back. And I'm actually going to go back through the course again, because now I want to see where my head is a month later or so later. Well, we started in January. I want to see where my head is now going, you know, and seeing what new words I can pick up. And you know, I I for so long. This was the other thing that changed a lot with me. One of the big trajectories of my life, like you know, was losing my dad, and I lost him eight years ago and, um, he wanted me to find my happies and go there and he wanted me to be the best me that I could be, and but the thing that I got twisted for so long was I was doing it, trying to do things for him, and I can't in his memory. I got to do it for me and that's what I've learned over the last year of working with you that I can do things in honor of him because he loved me. But I have to do this because I love me. I have to do this because I love me at the weight I am now and I'm going to love me at the weight I am when I'm less weight and I'm going to find ways.
Speaker 2:It was finding all these new ways of handling things. It was like you know, okay. So you, you actually tested me one day and you said to me well, what are you going to do when this happens? Because my old go-to like was always food. It was food, either restricting it and not eating enough, or eating too much, so I would go either way. And now it was like, okay, when stress hits, it's going to be this, this and this. What's your plan of action, diane? What is your plan of action? You know, whether it was having the rubber band on my my you know, on my wrist, or the the breathing like, what am I going to do?
Speaker 2:Because what I found I was allowing was I was allowing other people's actions to affect me. That's about them, it's not about me. How I react is about me. And how I react now has changed so much. You know, last week when, when I was stressed at work, I literally took a half an hour break, a half of my lunch, and I walked. I walked around the block two or three times. That would not have been me before. That would have been okay. There's the deli across the street, the wings place. Let me go grab something because, don't you know, just stuffing food down is going to make me happier, and it did, and it hasn't and how far I'm gonna start to cry how far I've come within the last year mentally.
Speaker 2:It was worth all the weight and gold that you know, my father's birthday was Monday and I kept it together because I could not, because I was forcing it, and it was because I could and my workout was in honor of him.
Speaker 2:You know, like I, it's just such a different way of thinking. When you're so used to thinking a certain way and when you're so used to not loving yourself enough, you're to treat yourself the way that you should treat yourself. And I think that's where it gets so caught up, because for me, I've never been and never will be in any competition with anybody else but myself. And I know, when I look at 2026, like here's an example like I got from you, which you probably don't even know yet, is that I was talking about doing um, a transformation competition with the weightlifting, and you started to talk one day about how, when you did your competition, when you were in that, and you said right now that I realized I did it and then it didn't fit into the lifestyle that I wanted. So I'm sitting here and I'm like you know what that makes sense to me? Do I want this for me, or do I want to prove this to somebody, or so I don't want to do that anymore.
Speaker 1:Wow, yeah, you haven't shared that, I know that was.
Speaker 2:I don't want to do that anymore. I just want to be the healthiest version and the best version of me that I could be without putting all of these. I just think it would be too much stress to put on me and I'm not ready for that yet. I'm still not done healing.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And that's off the table, and it's interesting one that you really thought about it, because I was, you know, in my, my bodybuilding days I mean, how long ago was that? Four or five years at this point. But when I got to the end of that, I realized that was not for me. Like that was for external validation, right, it was not for my own, like like I still wasn't happy and especially because, like when I say it didn't fit into my lifestyle, like it, my values are, my family, my values are going out to eat, spending time, like that's what you talked about, yep, right, like none of none of those values fit in with the world of bodybuilding and I, I don't ever want to like put down those sport of body.
Speaker 2:It's just not for what you, it's just not for what you need in your world.
Speaker 1:Exactly Like that no longer was fulfilling and like a lot of the things you're saying is through. This whole thing is finding the validation. The only validation you need is from yourself. The only trust you need is in yourself that you're going to make the right decisions, you're doing the right things, you're fueling your body the way you need to right. Like you're trusting that you're not going to eat the sleeve of Oreos anymore, like you're trusting your decisions when you're going out to eat. You know what you're doing because you took the time to listen in and tune in deeper to what you really needed.
Speaker 1:And I feel like so many women are ignoring that because they're just looking for the next thing, the quickest thing, easiest thing. Tell me the yes or no foods. I can do that, sure, you can do that for 20 days. But what do you do when you do want to go out to eat? Right, and then it's forward spiral again. So a lot of different things, but I think for me, and from what you're saying and how our journeys are kind of similar in that way is like the only validation you need is from yourself. Yep, and the only trust you need is in yourself and your decisions. With, with all of the things, so that's amazing.
Speaker 2:I mean even as crazy as today, when I was telling you before, when we were getting on the on the call was that I went out for a coffee date today with one of my friends and I was at the coffee place is just really nice and they had desserts and stuff and scones and all that other stuff and it my friend said you're not getting anything. I said no, but let's get this straight. It's not that I can't have it, I don't want it. Like it's not something I want. Today, where the old me would have been like Ooh, what can I get? Or feeling that pressure of having to get something. It didn't even phase me. I got my, my tea and I was, I was okay with it. Like that was like major for me, like major, that I didn't feel I was missing out on something, Right, it was just, it's just a total mind change, Right.
Speaker 1:And then and I think we were saying too like that happened because nothing is restricted, Nothing is off limits anymore. You can have whatever you want whenever you want it, you know, and that's the trust, that's the change of like. Oh my God, I went out to eat and I chose the burger and I didn't feel guilty, Right, no-transcript in that situation right.
Speaker 2:It would not have been good. I would have either. I would have. I mean, I would have gotten not one thing I probably would have gotten to. Then I would have felt guilty. It wasn't even, it didn't even come to mind. And I because I also planned ahead I ate before I went, so I was full already. I had my eggs with my egg whites. I was full already when I went and then it didn't even phase me, like it wasn't anything, that I wasn't depending on that food. It was like food and I were glued at the hip. You know like it. I don't depend on it anymore.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and you know, like you, the other thing you taught me to real quick was and this is the one thing I remember and I carried it throughout the time was having words that stick with me. Like my words are being intentional, Like I am intentional with my decisions. I'm intentional on how I'm treating my body. I'm intentional, focused and determined. But intentional for me is a big thing. Like I'm doing this intentionally. Like when you have us in the group doing our, our daily awareness. At the end of the day, I'm intentional with it. And then, when we talked about our weekly non-negotiables, they're non-negotiable. They are showing up intentionally within each one of those things that you give us intentionally showing up every day. These are non-negotiables and this is something that we intentionally need to do and make ourselves a priority.
Speaker 2:And it hit, that hit home.
Speaker 1:Yeah, all of it's intentional action, right Acting as if you already have the results, like if you woke up tomorrow and you had the results. You're hoping and wishing for right Act like you already have it. What would that version of you be doing? She probably wouldn't be snoozing her alarm or you know. Whatever. It was like you were wearing the brighter outfits to the gym, like the pink right.
Speaker 1:Like, yeah, like a pink workout outfit instead of all black. Like hell, yeah, that's how you want to show up and like those little things you can do right now to prove that you're already that confident version of yourself Like you just need some proof and, as little as that sounds, that is a game changer to wear the pink outfit to the gym instead of the black huge like everybody looked at me like wait a minute, it was bright pink too.
Speaker 2:Everybody was like huge. Like everybody looked at me like wait a minute, it was bright pink too. Everybody was like it's me yeah.
Speaker 1:That's an awesome, awesome story. I love it. So, with all that being said, I'd love to wrap up with what would you tell your previous version of yourself before joining coaching?
Speaker 2:You're a lot stronger than you think. You can do this. You will, no, not. You can, you will do this, and you know what I've changed the way I speak now too. I think I didn't give I didn't give that previous version of myself enough credit that I'm giving myself today that I can intentionally do things and I can, I can handle this. I got this like one step at a time, and I would let her know that not everything needs to be perfect. It doesn't have to be. There is no perfect. There's just progress, and if you fall back a step or two, get back up and keep walking. The only way there's failure is if you just sit down and just stand still, and if I'm telling this to the person who I was last year, I can't wait to tell the person that I am next year, when I get there is going to look back and say I told you.
Speaker 1:Yes, I love it. I love it. Is there anything else that's coming up for you that you want to like? Talk, tell, tell the audience in the sense of made for more coaching, the collective like. What are some final final words you have to offer?
Speaker 2:What are you waiting for? I think you asked yourself that too. Yes, I, I, I I'm telling you, I, I, I know I'm in the place that I'm supposed to be right now, but you, you can't. You can't fix the outside if you don't fix the inside. And once you fix, start, fix and it's a progress, it's, it's always, it's, it's going to each week Like, you just gave us a new assignment this week in the, in the group, that I actually copied and pasted.
Speaker 2:I'm going to take some time to sit down and really, because you was talking about habits and I'm like, okay, this is going to be my Friday, that's going to be my Friday, I'm going to dig into this on Friday. I just think I'm just so thankful and blessed that I took the leap and took the chance. And again, don't wait, like to me. And again what we said before too you don't have anything to lose. But I had a whole bunch to gain, which I did, and I just it. This is a whole. From being 53 years old and dealing with this more, I think I started Weight Watchers when I was like 16. This is a whole different ballpark. It's a whole different way of thinking about it.
Speaker 2:I've made some great relationships within Made for More. Made for More is a place when we meet each month and every day when we talk, you know, via the group, that we could just be ourselves. And then you sit back and you realize, wait a minute, I'm not alone. I'm not alone in this, that these other ladies are dealing with similar things that I'm dealing with and they're dealing with it. It's unity.
Speaker 2:It's an important to me. It's important to have the right community around you and a community that's open, caring, pushes you to be the best version of yourself but understand you. And that's what you get from made for more 150% the ladies in there. I am just so grateful. And here's the other thing which I got to do your dance parties. Yeah, love it, love it, absolutely love it, and you know what? We could just be ourselves and we understand each other. And that's a big thing Having a coach guiding you as being part of the group too, but also having that group that's there for each other and gets each other and understand each other, it's a big thing, it's huge.
Speaker 1:Absolutely, and that's why you know this. All started with obviously one-on-one coaching, but then the collective right.
Speaker 1:That was just an instantaneous. I was like I want accountability. I'm going to start an accountability group in like October, um, and it turned into an amazing community of women. And then I was like you know what? I have so many things that I need. Like that made for more download came in one morning and I was like that's the name, that's the next course that I'm doing, that is the next thing. Like, because you were fucking made for more. You were made for more than being a number on the scale be like living by the diet, missing out on memories and life until you see that number right. You were made for more love, freedom, joy, peace, all of it, alignment. So that's really what Made for More is.
Speaker 1:And if you want to get into Made for More, it is open. You can come in at any time and it makes sense. The community's there waiting for you. And if you don't want to fully invest yet you just want to like dip your toe in the collective. I do have the link in the bio underneath here to join the collective. It's seven day free trial and then it's $20 a month to be in an amazing community, even if you just need that space to vent, to ask questions, to share your wins, be your own hype girl, right? We want you there. If you want to be there, so try it out. There's really not. You have nothing to lose with that. But with all of that being said, thank you so much, diane, for having me sharing everything and being so amazing, and I I'm just so proud of you and how much yeah, how much has shifted and changed and how much you've grown over this last I want to say it was longer than a year.
Speaker 2:September of 2023, right Three of 20, 24, 23.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, so it's been a little bit.
Speaker 2:So next year at this time we're going to meet again.
Speaker 1:Yes, we'll do another one. I love it, amazing, amazing. Well, thank you guys for listening and we'll see you in the next episode. Bye, guys, bye.