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48. Laughter as a Stress Buster: Emotional Resilience and Mindful Living, Part 1 of Randy's question with Trisha Jamison, Dr. Jeff, and Tony Overbay
Have you ever wondered if laughter could be your secret weapon against stress? Join us as we embark on a fun-filled journey with Trisha Jamison, Dr. Jeff Jamison, and Tony Overbay, exploring the intricate dance between humor, stress, and emotional maturity. Through personal anecdotes, we shed light on how laughter can be a sign of emotional resilience. Discover how Dr. Jeff copes with a stress level of nine, battling life changes and business challenges, while Tony shares the calming effects of his mindfulness practice that keeps his stress levels in check. Our stories and insights serve as a reminder that managing stress and finding balance in life can indeed start with a smile.
The conversation doesn't stop there, as we dive into the importance of acknowledging stressors and the role of validation in managing life's chaotic moments. We're here to emphasize the critical need for feeling heard and valued before seeking solutions. By recognizing unhealthy coping mechanisms and understanding when it's time to seek professional help, we offer practical steps to regain control and calm. Plus, we underscore the significance of medical evaluations to rule out any underlying physical issues contributing to stress. Our discussion is packed with actionable insights designed to help you navigate the stormy seas of stress with grace and composure.
As we turn the spotlight on morning rituals and routines, we reveal the transformative power of mindful living and intentionality. Drawing inspiration from Brendan Burchard, we dive into strategies that help cultivate peace and balance, starting with self-awareness. Our personal stories highlight the impact of upbringing on stress responses, and how breaking free from ingrained patterns can enhance emotional regulation and personal relationships. Learn how morning routines, like consistent sleep habits and goal setting, can set a productive tone for the day and build self-trust. We promise a blend of humor, personal growth, and practical strategies that equip you to tackle life's pressures with newfound confidence and poise.
Questions: email us at trishajamisoncoaching@gmail.com
Hello and welcome to the Q&A file, the ultimate health and wellness playground. I'm your host, tricia Jamieson, a board-certified functional nutritionist and lifestyle practitioner, ready to lead you through a world of health discoveries. Here we dive into a tapestry of disease prevention, to nutrition, exercise, mental health and building strong relationships, all spiced with diverse perspectives. It's not just a podcast, it's a celebration of health, packed with insights and a twist of fun. Welcome aboard the Q&A Files, where your questions ignite our vibrant discussions and lead to a brighter you. Hello, wellness Wires. Welcome back to the Q&A Files. And boy do we have a packed show for you today, where curiosity meets solutions. I'm your host, trisha Jamison, a functional nutritionist and lifestyle practitioner and a life coach, and I love anything to do with personal growth. Joining me today, as always, is my wonderful co-host, dr Jeff Jamison, a board-certified family physician, who also happens to be my awesome husband, so no pressure there. And Tony Overbay, a marriage and family therapist with a knack for making us all feel just a little less crazy.
Speaker 3:And one of us.
Speaker 2:Just fell down the stairs, but we'll let the listener We'll let that go, we won't-.
Speaker 3:Yeah, exactly, I'm going to try really hard not to I can try really hard not to laugh I thought we had a very good discussion, though, around emotional maturity.
Speaker 1:You did so if the wife laughs and the husband doesn't get mad, then he's emotional mature mature because I used to, I used to get.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't know if we can say a rear end hurt.
Speaker 1:I think it's the kids call it and if the wife laughs and the husband gets mad, then they're emotionally immature, so just set in mind everyone.
Speaker 3:Yes, so that works the same in reverse, though correct? No?
Speaker 1:because we laugh at everything, okay, yes how often do I hurt myself?
Speaker 3:I'm not talking about you. I'm talking about other people out there that might be listening.
Speaker 2:Oh, now Trisha's made it about herself. Let's talk about that some more.
Speaker 3:I think there's definitely some issues we got to talk about.
Speaker 1:Well, it's all about me. What are you talking about, come?
Speaker 3:on Okay, got it.
Speaker 1:Okay, so today we're exploring a topic that I think most of us can relate to feeling stressed and that's why we're laughing so hard because we're definitely not stressed today, overwhelmed and, let's be honest, completely lost in the shuffle of life. And rather than diving into celebrations because I know that Tony, he has his 10.
Speaker 2:I had a lot of them prepared today, that's okay, and you know what?
Speaker 1:You're just going to have to keep those tucked away for another day, because I will call on you again and you better be ready, because I cannot wait.
Speaker 1:Thank you. Okay, I'd like to start with a different kind of reflection. So, gentlemen, I have a question for you. On a scale from one to 10, how stressed or overwhelmed have you felt in the last six months? One is like living on a beach, sipping a strawberry coconut drink, having absolutely no worries. Life is full of pure joy, peace and fulfillment. Or eight and above means you are surviving on caffeine and dreams. The stress is real, you're irritable, you have mornings that feel impossible to start or that generally, just basically, you feel stuck. Let's start with you, jeff.
Speaker 3:Probably nine.
Speaker 1:Nine.
Speaker 3:Okay, but there's no caffeine involved. Okay, not for me.
Speaker 1:Caffeine.
Speaker 3:I have a story about caffeine that made me sick in medical school and I've never gone back to it. That's something that we can talk about another day. But in the last six months we've moved our home of almost 22 years. I've had several business issues that have been difficult to work through, with a loss of a practitioner that we really liked, it's increased my workload and also just a whole bunch of family messy things that we're trying to work through. So you know, aside from that, everything's great.
Speaker 1:Well, you've got that one in there that you know makes everything great, right. If you had a nine, you've got the one that…. Yep, got know, makes everything great, right. If you had a nine, you've got the one that.
Speaker 3:Yep Got one left. It could be worse.
Speaker 2:That's right. Oh yeah, amen. Okay, tony, very cool. Or, or better than or, because right before we went on air I was telling you about some things that are very stressful, but I do feel that my stress level is fairly low. Maybe a three.
Speaker 3:No, this wasn't about how you were managing your stress. This is how much stress have you had?
Speaker 2:So, but then that would be this objective scale though of, uh, cause I, you know, I talked to people when I know, dr Jeff, you do too, but I talk to people every day that that there is that part of me that, at least several times a day, I'm thinking, oh, okay, I'm, I'm, I'm okay, my, my, my situation isn't as bad. And then, uh, and I think a year or so ago, when we were talking about this and during my move, I just hit the. You know, all it took me was 20 years of being a therapist, seven years of daily mindfulness practice, to finally get to this place of acceptance where I think I'll be okay and that that's. I'm waiting for the bottom to fall out of that still, but it's okay.
Speaker 2:So, so, uh, but, but you can almost see where I I don't want it to sound like, oh, I, I'm so not stressed and then we'll hear next week that I don't know something carted away to I don't even want to say prison or something like that. It doesn't sound very funny, no, but there are lots of things that are happening, but I feel that it only took me 55 years of my life to recognize that I think I'll be okay. Okay, we'll take that.
Speaker 1:So, jeff, I think that you need to learn to be a sophomore and get off of the treadmill at high speed. How's that one?
Speaker 3:Thank you for your advice, darling.
Speaker 1:Awesome, all right, so you didn't answer the question. What you didn't answer the question In the last six months it was pretty high, I don't know, maybe a seven. I think it's just what Jeff just shared. Yeah, and it caused a lot of stress during that time because I knew every day I was hurting them and there was nothing I could do about it. And I think that that caused even more stress for me because, you know, I just had to allow things to happen as they did and unfortunately, with my right hand I probably caused some nerve damage that may be irreversible. So I'm pretty sad about that. But you know what? I don't have to do all the yard work and all the things that I had been doing, so that's a plus, anyway, but right now stress is way lower and it's just wonderful. So I should probably say, in the last two months, what's your stress level?
Speaker 2:Okay, and I don't wanna establish I can't wait to see where we're going today, but I do. I do think there's a significance in familial stress versus maybe work stress, life stress, financial stress, and I'm I often think about this because I get to hear about people's challenges and problems all day, every day, and and so this is just one of those where I don't know where I'm at with it yet, but trying to make make this mental note of what causes the most stress. So I'm really I'm excited to see where we're going.
Speaker 1:Yeah, your insights are such a great setup for today's question from one of our listeners. Randy sent us an email describing a situation many of us know all too well. So here's his question. Over the past six months, I've been feeling more stressed and overwhelmed than ever. It's like the pace of life keeps accelerating and I'm constantly juggling responsibilities, work deadlines, family commitments and even trying to find time for myself. Some days it feels like I'm on autopilot, just reacting to everything and I can't seem to get ahead. I find myself more irritable, slow to start in the mornings and struggling to find joy or fulfillment in the things I used to enjoy. How do I break this cycle? What steps can I take to regain a sense of calm, balance and control over my life? So, Jeff and Tony, what's your first reaction to Randy's question?
Speaker 2:Well, okay, well, I was going to say I was going to defer to you, dr Jeff, just because the thing that in grad school you would get docked if you didn't say they need to first start with a medical evaluation, and so I don't know why that popped in my head it was a few weeks ago and I've been trying to pay more attention to are there medical issues that could be underlying mental health issues? So I've tried to be better in my own practice of just asking the person even when's the last time they've had a checkup, a physical, that sort of thing. So I'm curious do you go right to what physical things could be happening?
Speaker 3:Well, I usually like to listen to what they have to say.
Speaker 3:As far as the stressors and I believe those stressors are usually a big cause of whatever their symptoms are, and so you know we take that into account. But then I also just like I've said in other podcasts I start with a physical exam. You know, the history is part of what we're talking about here, of course. The physical exam to make sure that there isn't some proverbial thorn in the paw of a person, and then, lastly, a laboratory evaluation, including kidney function, liver function, electrolytes, blood sugar, thyroid, complete blood count, things like that. And once I have that information on top of their history that, and once I have that information on top of their history, we have a good place to start. And, of course, when I'm talking to a person about their medical or their mental health issues, one of my first things I do is do you have a counselor? Do you have a therapist that you work with or a coach? And nine times out of 10, they do not, and so they've started with me, and then we take it from there.
Speaker 2:Okay, I like that, so I was going to go to this.
Speaker 2:I think everyone initially needs to just feel heard, and too often, if they're expressing their issues to others, people go right into fix it mode and meaning well, so often I just like to say, okay, just take me, take me in your train of thought, fill me in, go back as far as you want. And when people typically will lay out all the things that are going on in their life. One of the things I love saying is man, I think it would be odd if you weren't stressed or feeling overwhelmed, right yeah, with all the things that are going on. Cause sometimes people will come in and say I don't know why I'm so upset, I don't know why I'm so stressed. And then I feel like it's a parlor trick of sorts of just well, just go back to the last few days and then, as they talk about it and it just goes from like jumbling around in one's head into now I'm laying this out somewhat linear. Then, oh, that is a lot that I'm dealing with. So I think that's a good place to start.
Speaker 1:Yeah, excellent.
Speaker 3:One of the things that I worry about in a person that's coming in in this situation, though, that feels overwhelmed, that has all kinds of pressures and stresses and family issues or whatever I worry about and I ask for, are any unhealthy coping mechanisms happening?
Speaker 1:That's good.
Speaker 3:And unhealthy coping mechanisms might be alcohol, tobacco, pornography, using exercise as a over-exercising to try and escape things, and where you're actually harming the body, food is another one. So you know, those are things that I ask about as well.
Speaker 1:Fantastic. Those are so good, both of those. So, randy's question sets the tone for today's focus. I love what you gentlemen just added to this, but we've got some other things that we're going to add as well. So, cultivating calm and reclaiming joy amidst chaos we're going to draw on Brendan Burchard's principles with a few personal tweaks of my own. We'll explore 10 powerful strategies to find peace and balance in challenging times. Thank you, randy, for your vulnerability and your relatable questions.
Speaker 1:So let's dive in. Number one reflect on your conditioning. Our first strategy is all about understanding how our upbringing shapes our stress responses. Our childhood and early environments often condition how we react under pressure. Let's start with self-awareness. Our reactions to stress are deeply influenced by what we observed growing up. Some of us were raised in households where calmness was valued, while others may have experienced constant tension or reactivity. Recognizing this helps us shift from reactionary patterns to intentional responses. So did you adopt or adapt the behaviors you saw growing up, where you taught to freak out or stay composed in stressful situations? I'd like to hear from both of you.
Speaker 2:I like this.
Speaker 2:I had a guy on the couch this morning we were talking about as he's tried to show up different, to provide his wife with some emotional safety because he's had some, some anger issues.
Speaker 2:They were in a situation where somebody had done something wrong, fixing something for them, and so then he called the place and he said he could sense that his wife was just ready for him to explode on this person and then he said but he's been doing an amazing job at dealing with his anger and we've been talking about where's that come from, and he would see his dad react that way to anybody that you know did him wrong. So he was going to make sure and let that person know, because nobody does that to his dad. You know that was the mantra. And so this person then just was very calm and and he just said in his job as well that, as he's adopted that that respond versus react mentality of how much, not only has he had better results, but that isn't even the goal that he feels better about himself, because then our whole conversation was around that, unfortunately, his wife saw a long period of time where it was typically anger, so it makes sense that she's gonna still feel like he's gonna go back to that place.
Speaker 2:Yeah exactly, so I don't know. Answering your question, yeah, so he talked about, he said and I loved it because he said well, of course I, that's where I started, because that's what I saw modeled, but yeah, how about you?
Speaker 2:Yeah. So I, I really think that my parents were just, uh, they just I didn't see a lot of modeling from them. I think that I was uh, I was by myself quite a bit as a kid, okay and uh, and so I'd say I love this question. So I'm doing a little introspection and I knew that I wanted to show up a certain way, but I really don't know the origin story of that. So I think I've, I've, uh, well, and I always tell the story of getting really angry and high school basketball and getting launched by this guy that was 10 times bigger than me and and I told myself, that's my, that's my origin story of peace, because I used to have a temper and I realized I was about to get beat up in front of a whole crowd of people at a basketball game, and so then I then I acted like oh no, my bad.
Speaker 2:And then from that day forward I, you know, had my anger under check. I don't know if that's really the real story, but yeah. So I think that I don't know what I saw modeled, but I know what I have now adopted.
Speaker 1:Okay, excellent, how?
Speaker 3:about you, Tricia? What were you modeled?
Speaker 1:Well, I had both. I had an angel, my mother, who continues to be an angel, and my dad. He was an alcoholic We've talked about this before but he had a. He had flash anger. He would just get super angry really quickly. So that was kind of my model.
Speaker 1:So, and, unfortunately, usually take on the loudest. And so when I first, when we first had children, I felt that I felt that kind of come out in me and I vowed that that would never be an issue, because I remember how I felt growing up and it was horrible, horrible to be on that anger side and you just, it's just so destructive. So, yeah, how about you, jeff? Yeah, tough what's yours.
Speaker 3:Well, my parents both. As I look back upon them and I use the lens of understanding that I have now, neither of them had very good coping skills and neither of them had, you know, the way they approached stressful situations were different. My father was an alcoholic until I was about 13, and then he got religion and turned that around, which was great, but he still had flash anger. And my mother also. She came from a military family, so it was grandpa's way or the highway.
Speaker 3:My mother's father he was a lieutenant colonel in the army and so he had experience in World War II and so he was somebody that you know you don't cross him, and so he translated that to my mother, and so when we crossed her, it was usually not good. So I learned as well to use emotionally immature ways to handle stressful situations until I learned a lot, especially in the last five years. I really improved my ability to control my flash anger because I was that way, but I'm not nearly so bad anymore and I recognize when my temperature goes up and I'm able to call myself a timeout or a pause, and that allows me to be able to think more clearly, and it's helped a lot.
Speaker 1:Yeah, excellent, and it's an ongoing process to pause and respond thoughtfully and as we recognize where these patterns are even coming from. It's so crucial because then we can change them, and I think that that's the part that we can become unstuck by is, once we recognize and we appreciate where these things come from, then we can change them.
Speaker 3:And I think that you're right. I think that the recognition is a huge piece of it to be able to recognize what happens and then also to be able to jump out of your reaction, or what sometimes we call the critter brain or the amygdala, and get out of that reactive phase and into taking charge of your life and not acting irresponsibly, or even responsibly with anger. It still comes out poorly and so, understanding that you know to go hmm, let me jump out of my midbrain and into my frontal cortex and be able to think through the situation, which takes a bit to do that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, absolutely. And one thing I forgot to add is Randy, or our listeners, please take a minute and answer some of these questions as well for yourselves. Number two is start each day with intention. So mornings are powerful. They set the tone for your entire day. Often, we wake up and we let the external world dictate our mood. What do we do? We check emails, social media and the news right off the bat, and we're actually handing control over to external forces that we're pulling in their agenda, into our lives, and so we don't want to pull in their agenda. But starting with an intention whether it's meditation, gratitude, ways to plan your day or quiet reflection, this allows you to step into your day with purpose and calm. So how do you set the tone for your day? Do you notice a difference when you don't set that tone? Let's start with you, tony that tone.
Speaker 2:Let's start with you, tony. So yes, so much, and I think over 20 years of my life it was literally set my running clothes out at night, get up, go on a run and then it's back home and it's shower and then go about the day. But that run was just, it was. It was the air I breathe. I look forward to listen to audio books on my run.
Speaker 2:And then at some point I started seeing clients earlier and earlier and I wasn't going to get up and run. And then at some point I started seeing clients earlier and earlier and I wasn't going to get up and run. And so now I've become an evening exerciser. But I love getting into my office really early and the first thing I do is I meditate and then I do a little bit, just a little bit of journaling, and then I'm going to create some content, I'm going to write and I'll just pull up a Google Doc or something I'm already working on and then, if I have time before a client, I'll try to get some recording in. But that has just been. That's probably been the last two or three years and I just I love it. So I'm I'm usually trying to get there an hour or two before my first client and I just I look forward to that so much.
Speaker 1:So how early does your day start?
Speaker 2:It's kind of silly. I mean I yeah, so I try to get here somewhere between four and 430 AM. Usually I have a 6 AM client is you know, as I, as I started working with more it seemed like more people that were I thought would anybody see me at eight, and then seven, and then six, and uh, yeah, so I, I, I know every day I start at least with a 6am, and a couple of days a week I'll have a 5am client when do you go to bed?
Speaker 1:When do you turn life?
Speaker 2:off, all right. Why are we, why are we picking on me, dr Jeff? Back to you, I'm just curious, okay, so in my perfect world, it is is. I try to get to bed by 1130. If I get up at 330, if I got the four hours of sleep, I'm good, and I've been doing that for 20 something years.
Speaker 1:I know we've talked about sleep on here.
Speaker 2:Well, I have been now. I've been trying to get to bed by 11. So I have added up to four and a half hours a night, and then on weekends I do try to sleep in a little bit.
Speaker 1:Can you tell a difference when you get that?
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I don't want to admit that, and I do, and now I'm rethinking the whole sleep thing and this is breaking news, this is the first time. I'm admitting it out loud. And now I'm sitting there thinking, huh, maybe it would have been nice if I would have gotten more sleep for the last 25 years. Maybe, yeah, well, accept, maybe.
Speaker 1:Yeah Well.
Speaker 2:Acceptance.
Speaker 1:Acceptance there you go.
Speaker 3:So it's time to commit.
Speaker 2:And I am trying, and that is yes, not try, no try, yoda, don't try to do or something like that. There's only do or do not. So I am really try doing yeah.
Speaker 1:That's good. Trying is good, jeff.
Speaker 3:Oh me.
Speaker 1:You.
Speaker 3:No, I have a routine as well and I do find that the routine is important and one of the things that, for me, that really helps me, is to get ready. So whether I'm if I'm working or not working, if I get myself ready, get a shower, get dressed for the day, shave, et cetera. I'm not shaving a lot today because I'm getting ready for Santa, but the more I get ready and have myself in the clothes and stuff that I need to be in to be able to perform for the day, I do better. I just do better. So having that routine really helps me. Now, of course, I take some time off on here and there and I don't jump into it as I otherwise would on other days, but it really is important to have the routine of getting ready and having the mindset of you're getting ready to work.
Speaker 1:That's good.
Speaker 3:Okay, your routine. What do you do? My routine.
Speaker 1:I love to get up and work out I think that sets my day and I love to actually listen to scriptures or something very motivating for me. It just kind of helps me realign what I'm trying to do for myself, for my family. And, yeah, I get up, get ready. I also like to think of three goals that I want to accomplish that day. Sometimes I add more, but I just try to make sure that I can at least get those three done and that makes me feel like I've accomplished something.
Speaker 3:Well, I think that you're tapping into things here. I think what things we've all said really helps a person make progress towards the things that are causing them stress. I also know people that when they feel stressed, they shut down, they do less, they get overwhelmed and they just basically don't get out of bed, and that it doesn't help anybody or anything. So it's really important, even if you don't do everything you're hoping to accomplish in the day, to do something. My dad used to say do something. Even if it's wrong, do something, and I think that really is an important key thing. The other part is is that in order to win at this game of life, you have to risk losing. So in order to really get after your goals, you have to identify them and then you have to make daily decisions to move towards them. And if you don't do that, or if you take the day off, it's okay to do that occasionally, but you need to stay on track almost always and every other day.
Speaker 1:Yeah, excellent. Well, and if I skip my morning routine, I just feel like I'm chasing my day instead of controlling it. I just feel like I'm always behind.
Speaker 2:Yeah, okay, and I like that. We're pointing out that we all did identify a little bit of stress or a lot, and we all do agree that a morning routine is very important, but that doesn't mean that it eliminates all stress. But I think it does set you up for more opportunity for success.
Speaker 1:Well, and it's also just. It sets the intentionality as well, and it helps you prep for what's going to be ahead of you.
Speaker 3:And you know, we have a teenager at home right now and he's somebody that you know.
Speaker 1:Right now he's a little behind in a couple of classes. It is his birthday it's his birthday, yeah, 17.
Speaker 3:Anyway, but he's one of those that if he doesn't have his intentions and goals set out in front of him, he will dive into pleasure seeking of video games and videos and whatever else and he gets overwhelmed with the amount and the big stack of work that he has to do. So he just quits and unfortunately he's still working on this. And this is the time of life that he's really got to change this behavior so he can be successful later. But it's never too late, frankly. It's never too late to change your behavior and to recognize you just have to get ready for the day, you just have to get up, you just have to put on your smile and you got to go to work. And whether it's doing your housework or if it's doing your job as construction and whatever it is that your job is, go, get ready and then get out and do it on time. There's power in that.
Speaker 1:Nice, super. Thank you Three. Trust yourself through follow-through. Building self-trust is foundational to reducing stress. When we consistently honor our commitments to ourselves, big or small, we build confidence. On the other hand, breaking promises to ourselves creates doubt and tension. So, jeff and Tony, do you see this often with clients? What happens when they don't follow through on their own commitments?
Speaker 2:Bless your heart for saying clients, I mean for me. I realized how my own lack of emotional consistency has been a thing, and I think this plays into a little bit of that emotional immaturity or some selfishness of I in the moment want to be, I want to make everybody happy, so I'll commit to things, and in that moment I really mean I want to do whatever that thing is. But then if something else comes up and I want to say that this is no longer the case, but if something comes up that I want to do better, well then I'm going to do that and I'm going to hopefully remember and apologize or hopefully again tell the other person that, hey, I can't do that anymore, but that's really started to sit with me of. Or how about I just try to stay more with my initial commitment, because if I'm willing to say I'll do it, then I need to do it.
Speaker 2:And then the discomfort comes in, this new opportunity that comes up that you know, unless it's some something I can die on that hill or life or death or something, maybe with my family involved. But if not, then how about I? I practice falling through on my commitments and I've noticed that that feels so much better than the Ooh. I hate to tell this person that I can't do it anymore, but I need to, because then I that's where my immaturity would kick in and I might even I don't want to say fib about it, but I don't know Maybe I'm going to try to cushion the blow, or oh, what am I supposed to do? And just not being in my authentic self. So that's been so much easier for me to. If I'm going to do it, my goal is to be able to follow through, unless something major happens, and then, yes, with clients.
Speaker 3:That's a big stress. Yeah, you know that's really an uncomfortable place when you've got two good things to do and you're trying to decide which one's the most important or the one you want to do the most. I have a tendency of if I commit to something, I'll check on my calendar, and if I've already committed to something, I don't commit to something else. And the problem is sometimes I don't get the things on the calendar and so I mess up there. Yeah, I would say note to self get calendar yes.
Speaker 3:Very, very important, or have somebody that trusts you Right on calendar yeah, very good point Okay.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:Okay so, but I just appreciate where you're coming from, tony. This is hard stuff and I think it's especially hard and you've mentioned your ADHD in other podcasts and you have a podcast surrounding that that I think sometimes we are very focused on what's happening now, more so than what you even had planned, even if the other thing you had planned it might have more priority. It seems easier to the ADHD brain, I think, to commit to the now and to disregard the previously planned.
Speaker 2:And that's so well said, and that's yeah, and so you're being very kind.
Speaker 1:Everybody's both so busy. You've got a lot going on and it just it's a challenge. Everyone wants a piece of you and you have to be able to take that step back and recognize OK, what is it that I'm willing to give? How much am I willing to give of me?
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, and you guys have been a really nice place for that, because I love doing this podcast and there's been a couple of times where I've had to deal with something and that's been hard for me to do, because I do look at this as a commitment and I like it and and it's interesting because it's really uncomfortable to say, man, I know that there's a thing I actually have to take care of, like that, you know, because it's the right thing for me to take care of, but then I still worry that I will, I will disappoint you, you know, let you do that.
Speaker 2:I know the boy is Tricia. Let me know too, yeah.
Speaker 1:I eventually had to block her for a couple of days.
Speaker 2:I, I know right. Yeah, if I eventually have to block her for a couple of days, then I can let her back in.
Speaker 1:I'm still waiting for those warm chocolate chip cookies that you're going to send my way. You didn't get those as a way for an apology, you know come on.
Speaker 2:That's weird, isn't that such a great idea? Well, I know I sent some. Yeah, it's weird.
Speaker 1:I'll tell you.
Speaker 3:What was that fibbing that?
Speaker 1:Well, I hear you, though it's hard when you've got so many things that are important and to choose the right thing every time it's tough. Yeah, yeah, exactly. Thank you, gentlemen, for being here with me today. Your insights always bring so much depth to our discussions and, let's be honest, a little humor to lighten the load is always fun. And a great big thank you to Randy for sending in such a heartfelt and relatable question. It takes courage to be vulnerable and your story has helped guide an important conversation.
Speaker 1:Today we covered the first three strategies for tackling stress and overwhelm. Let's go through them real quick. Number one reflect on your conditioning, understanding where your stress responses come from. Two start each day with intention, taking control of your mornings to set the tone. Three trust yourself through follow-through, building confidence by keeping promises to yourself. These are powerful tools to get started, but we're just warming up. In our next episode, we'll dive even deeper into more strategies, like how to compartmentalize stress, release tension and choose joy intentionally. Trust me, you're not going to want to miss this one. In the meantime, take a moment to reflect on today's insights and pick one strategy to try this week. Remember, small steps lead to great big transformations.
Speaker 1:If you have questions or stories to share, we'd love to hear them. Email us at trishajamesoncoaching at gmailcom and, who knows, your question might spark our next great discussion. Make sure to subscribe so you don't miss part two and, as always, keep asking those big questions. We'll be here to help you find the answers. Until next time, choose calm, cultivate joy and remember progress over perfection. Thank you so much, everyone. We'll see you next time, bye-bye. Thanks for tuning in to the Q&A Files, delighted to share today's gems of wisdom with you. Your questions light up our show, fueling the engaging dialogues that make our community extra special. Keep sending your questions to trishajamesoncoaching at gmailcom. Your curiosity is our compass. Please hit, subscribe, spread the word and let's grow the circle of insight and community together. I'm Trisha Jameson, signing off. Stay curious, keep thriving and keep smiling, and I'll catch you on the next episode.
