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76. Breaking Free: Why We Resist What Helps Us Most with Misty Springer, Part. 1
Ever stood in your kitchen staring at your perfectly planned health routine taped to the fridge, feeling that familiar wave of resistance rise up inside you? You know exactly what to do—you could write the book on it—yet somehow, by week three, you're right back in the loop of self-sabotage rather than follow-through. Master coach Misty Springer reveals why this happens and how to break free from this frustrating cycle.
What we call "self-sabotage" is actually a form of self-protection—an invisible brick wall your body creates when change feels unsafe. Through powerful stories and practical insights, Misty explains why affirmations alone don't work, how to identify the limiting beliefs holding you back, and why creating safety in your nervous system must come before mindset shifts.
You'll discover the critical difference between your "first voice" (intuition) and "second voice" (fear), plus learn how to tap into your body's wisdom instead of endlessly searching for answers outside yourself. Misty shares her journey of building a meaningful business while raising a family, revealing how you can have both without sacrificing either.
This conversation goes beyond quick fixes to address the real reason you struggle to follow through on what matters most. The solution isn't more willpower—it's alignment between your mind, body, and heart. Whether you're trying to improve your health, grow your business, or simply break free from start-stop cycles, this episode offers a compassionate new lens through which to view your challenges.
Ready to transform self-sabotage into self-trust? Listen now, and be sure to subscribe for part two next week, where Misty will share a simple breathwork practice to help you reconnect with your truth and shift out of the exhausting push-and-perform cycle.
Connect with Misty at: www.mistyspringer.com
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From self-sabotage to self-trust, aligning with what you really want. Have you ever stood in your kitchen staring at your perfectly planned, color-coded calendar and exercise routine taped to the fridge or the bathroom mirror you may even have a few affirmations on it for good measure only to feel that familiar wave of resistance and frustration rise up inside of you? You know the feeling. You know exactly what to do Because, honestly, you could write the book on it, because you've read all the books, you've listened to the podcast. You've signed up for self-improvement classes or business workshops and events. You've bought the planner, you've paid for the gym membership, made the green juice, you've even dusted off that children's book idea that's been sitting in your heart for the last three years. But somehow, by week three, you're right back in the loop, scrolling instead of stretching, sighing with frustration instead of starting, self-sabotaging instead of following through. It's like part of you is pressing the gas while another part is quietly but persistently pumping the brakes. If you've ever asked yourself why can't I follow through on the things I know would help me, you are among many and today's episode is just for you.
Speaker 1:Hello and welcome to the Q&A File, the ultimate health and wellness playground. I'm your host, tricia Jamieson, a board-certified functional nutritionist and lifestyle practitioner, ready to lead you through a world of health discoveries. Here we dive into a tapestry of disease prevention to nutrition, exercise, mental health and building strong relationships, all spiced with diverse perspectives. It's not just a podcast, it's a celebration of health packed with insights and a twist of fun. Welcome aboard the Q&A Files, where your questions ignite our vibrant discussions and lead to a brighter you. Welcome, wellness Wires and a warm, a brighter you. Welcome Wellness Warriors. And a warm welcome to any new friends joining us. For today on the Q&A Files, I'm your host, trisha Jameson, and today I get to sit down with someone I've known since before green smoothies were even cool Someone who was not only a dear friend but also a brilliant guide in this space.
Speaker 1:So Misty and I go back over 20 years. Some of our kids grew up side by side. We shared pool parties, birthday parties, we even ran a half marathon together, but actually I think she ran it and I walked it and she, I think, even came in first in her division, walked it and she, I think, even came in first in her division. But we also started a wellness journey shoulder to shoulder, studying late into the night, dreaming of our amazing programs that we were going to put together and cheering each other on as we earned our very first certifications through the Institute of Integrative Nutrition and yes, basically that was during the dinosaur years. So we've attended and supported each other in our workshops and events that we've been doing together and separately, and we've just been each other's cheerleaders for years. So I would like to officially introduce Misty.
Speaker 1:So Misty Springer is a master coach who helps your clients release limiting beliefs, own their purpose and activate the potential to show up as powerful creators in life and business. She combines her background as a therapist, energy coach, breathwork facilitator and mindfulness expert to guide her clients through transformation experiences that result in lasting change. She works especially with women coaches and entrepreneurs who are tired of pushing and ready to align. When she's not coaching, you'll find her hiking trails, soaking up nature with her rescue pup Coda, spending time with her family or, like me, on the hunt for a perfect piece of dark chocolate. That's one of the many things that we have in common. So I'd like to give a great big, warm welcome to Misty Springer, a very good friend and a colleague of mine. Thank you so much for joining us today on this show. I'm so glad to have you here.
Speaker 2:I am so excited to be here. I just couldn't help but have this great big smile on my face as you read that introduction, just reliving all of the memories that we've shared over the years together and, yes, we have been cheerleaders and supporters and on this journey together for a lot of years and it's been wonderful and it has been quite the journey, and as I was putting this together, I could have gone into so many other stories in detail, and so I mean I had to kind of cut that short.
Speaker 1:But yes, we have a lot in common, and health is one of them. One of the things that I love, to start with, are celebrations, and so I'd like to ask you what is something that you're celebrating this week? It could be small, big, messy, magical. We welcome it all. What is something you're celebrating?
Speaker 2:I love that question. It's actually a question I ask all of my clients at the beginning. And oftentimes they'll tell me oh, that's really hard. I knew you were going to ask me that.
Speaker 1:I know it's not so funny. I have to think about it. They know every week and they struggle every week. It's so funny.
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly, and it is. It's like, why is it that we can come up with everything that is not right? But coming up with that celebration can be challenging. But I actually, when you said that, the first thing that popped into my mind was a call that I was just on with a client and she is in the process of writing a book and I am celebrating the beautiful work that I have the privilege to do. I feel so blessed every day to feel this, that I get to live out my gifts and my calling and my purpose in helping other women see the potential that's within them and that they get to step into that potential. And just watching my client fulfill this dream that has been on her heart for years and to see it. You know she made the comment today this pipe dream that I never felt was going to happen. I actually, I believe it's happening. She's got a publisher, she's moving forward with it and that's something that she never thought she was going to do and while that might sound like a celebration of her.
Speaker 2:it is Absolutely. It's also, as you know, as a coach, it just fills me with so much joy that the clients that I get to work with are doing such amazing things in the world and I get to walk alongside them as they do it.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's fantastic. Celebration them as they do it oh that's a fantastic celebration. I love that, thank you. So for me, I'm celebrating the kind of friendship that lasts for decades, and a couple of weeks ago we were moving from Spokane to Utah and Misty came and helped pack up my kitchen and clean things up, and she just showed up because, you know, she just has a lot of love there and I just really appreciated her help and her kindness, and so that to me, is definitely worth celebrating, is a great friend Thank you and isn't it so much more fun?
Speaker 2:I would way rather go and help somebody else clean out their kitchen than clean out my own Exactly.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and that was a crazy day. Oh my gosh, I can't believe that 24 hours later we were in trucks moving and, like I shared last week, but Jeff was, he was driving a 26 foot truck with a huge boat on the back. I mean, it was like he was driving a semi and I was pretty impressed. And Chase also drove a truck as well. And we still have a storage unit back in Spokane full of stuff. I just want to say just leave it, we don't need anything else.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's a good way to go through your stuff.
Speaker 1:Yes, and we have downsized so much already. But, holy cow, you just acquire a lot in 20 years and we lived in that our house for 20 years. So now, before we dive into the deep stuff, let's start with a few fun, meaningful questions to let our listeners get to know you and your heart a little bit so Misty. What's one belief that completely changed the way you see life or yourself?
Speaker 2:What a great question.
Speaker 2:The belief I think I was just contemplating on this today, actually the belief that shifted everything for me is that my body holds a wisdom that goes beyond what my mind can understand and that when I trust myself, that I can fully, fully trust myself and my intuition, but always, always believe that I can trust my intuition, but when I really believe that every answer I need is inside and that I don't need to search outside of myself.
Speaker 2:I love your introduction. I was just smiling from ear to ear as you were talking about searching on all the podcasts and having the perfect plan and reading all the books, because I've been there and I've done that and it feels like that never ending thirst, that thirst that can't be quenched because you're searching for answers in every other place and the true answers are actually found within and those are the answers that feel like they're aligned with who you are and you can take action on them. So that really transformed the way that I saw myself and what I feel is really my purpose in helping other women step into their potentials is to listen to that, listen deeply and trust themselves.
Speaker 1:I think that that's such an important and powerful statement to trust yourself and you have that information deep inside of you already and classes and more classes and just trying to, and I think that those things are important because I think it kind of it taps into some pieces of you that you may not have known and you know knowledge is power. So I definitely think that those pieces are really, once they start to formulate and come together. But I love what you just shared and it's what you find inside of you, so that's excellent. Thank you. Yeah, you're welcome. You've worked with so many women coaches, entrepreneurs and moms. What's a pattern you've noticed that shows up in most of us?
Speaker 2:I think the pattern. It kind of goes back to what we were just talking about. The pattern is that I need to look outside of myself and that someone else has the answer. I often hear whether it's somebody who is struggling with treating their relationship with food in their body or taking care of themselves, following through with an exercise plan or eating in the way that they know feels good for their body, or someone who is an entrepreneur and starting, just wanting to bring their light, their wisdom, their purpose into the world. It's the same thing the idea, the belief that just somebody tell me what to do and I'll do it.
Speaker 2:That feeling that I Give me the steps. Yeah yeah, just give me the steps, somebody tell me what to do and I'll do it, that feeling that I yeah, yeah, just give me the steps. And, like you said, knowledge is powerful and we do need that piece of it. But I think sometimes we put it's like the three legs of a stool we have our mind, we have our body and we have our heart, and the information and the knowledge is a critical leg of that stool. But it's only one leg.
Speaker 2:We often put all of our stock on that one leg and leave out the information and the wisdom that comes from our body and heart, and that's the knowing that goes beyond words. When you decided to start pursuing health coaching in the beginning part of your journey, I would guess that it wasn't information that helped you make that decision. It was a knowing and your heart that was like yes, this is the direction that I need to go.
Speaker 2:And that's the motivator. When we tap into the powerful motivator of our heart and our body, everything shifts. When we try to just motivate ourselves with logic from our brain, it feels hard and it feels like we're willpowering through. It feels like we're holding on by our fingernails. So that's the most powerful shift that I see my clients making that actually motivates them into action is shifting where that motivation is coming from from their mind and the logic, or from their knowing and their heart.
Speaker 1:That's excellent, and I love how all three brains need to turn green and turn on before you can get that go. You know let's do this, but it does take those different pieces to align in a way that you can move forward. So, thank you Excellent. So you've raised a beautiful family while building a very meaningful career. What was the most challenging? To start something new while raising your children, and what did that look like, especially in the early days?
Speaker 2:Oh, that's such a great question. I think every maybe not every mom, but the moms that I work with, I think every maybe not every mom, but the moms that I work with, the entrepreneurs that I work with there is this feeling of I meant to bring this into the world. I think that that is the only thing that has kept me going. There's been a lot of working through the guilt of feeling like I have this really important priority in my business. That feels important, it feels meaningful, it feels like this is something I am meant to be doing and I have my family. That's very important and is my first priority. My family that's very important and is my first priority, and so sometimes it can feel like those two are in competition with each other, and that was something that I really had to work with. And that belief that I had to dive into deep and do a lot of work around is that it gets to be both. Dive into deep and do a lot of work around is that it gets to be both that I can have a meaningful, impactful business and show up for my family.
Speaker 2:And I've gone through several experiences over the years with my daughter and working through some of her health journey. I remember at one point, through some of her health journey, I remember at one point I was traveling eight hours back and forth. She was really struggling in her health and she was away at college and I was trying to figure out how I was going to meet her needs and show up for her and meet the needs of my clients and run a business. And I remember at that point really having to get clear with God myself like, is this important? And I knew it was. And in that moment I knew that both were possible, that I could take care of my daughter and I could have a successful business that was meaningful for me, that one didn't have to outweigh or compete with the other, that together they were both possible.
Speaker 2:And I let a lot go in my business at that moment. I let a lot of things that were taking my time and attention. I let them go and I focused on the things that mattered and I focused on my belief. I believed that it was possible to have both and I showed up in that belief and in that month my income actually tripled. And it's where I generated the belief that our energy is our greatest asset. It's what we believe that fuels how we show up in the world and how people are attracted to us, and so that was a really pivotal moment in my business, recognizing that, yes, it does get to be both, and really All the things that I thought were important in my business. When it really got down to what was the most important, it was the energy and the belief that it was possible for me to have both.
Speaker 1:I think that that is so powerful. So I really appreciate how you just mentioned that you had to take out so many things to stay in alignment with what you needed to do for you and your family, and I think sometimes we just feel like we have to do it all. That's probably one of the biggest challenges that I hear from my clients is well, I just don't really want to take things out and I want to be able to do all the things that I'm doing, and so they have choices that they get to make. You can continue feeling crazy and not feeling in alignment with yourself because you have so much on your plate, but I think a lot of times they feel like they're failing if they take things off their plate that they feel like at that time is meaningful. So I just appreciate you really honing in to your own intuition, what you felt was most necessary for you and your family and your business too.
Speaker 2:And I think that that comes down to discernment. And I talk a lot about the first voice and the second voice. And the first voice is that voice of intuition. It is that knowing, that, that truth that's within us. But oftentimes that first voice is very quiet, it's very subtle. We hear, we hear the drop in and it's like yes, this is what I'm meant to be doing. Meant to be doing. This is like maybe it is a say no to that or it's step away from that or add that in or move in this direction or call this person.
Speaker 2:We have that drop in and then the second voice comes in, and the second voice is all the noise, it's the fear, the doubt, the insecurity, it's all the ways that we stop ourselves. And when that second voice gets so loud, it drowns out the first voice and we can't act on that knowing or that discernment. So one of the questions you can ask is is this coming from love first voice or fear second voice? Am I saying yes to everything because I fear I'm going to be a failure if I don't, or I fear I'm not enough if my schedule isn't fully booked? Do I feel like having 15 things on my to-do list actually makes me a worthwhile or meaningful person. All of those are fear-driven. That's the second voice. The first voice is the one that says I'm enough, no matter what.
Speaker 1:And we don't hear that very often, unfortunately. Those are excellent and thank you for sharing those thoughts. I really appreciate that. Okay, so we have a listener question, a very powerful question that's come in, and this is from Alana, from Austin, texas. And let's see, this one just had your name written all over it. She writes hi Tricia, or we'll just say hi Misty.
Speaker 1:Every January I make a beautiful plan, I stock the fridge, buy a new planner, even set up my meditation corner, and for the first two weeks I'm on fire, I journal, I work out, I drink the lemon water. I feel absolutely amazing. But then life gets busy. My daughter gets sick, work deadlines pile up and suddenly I'm skipping workouts, reaching for sugar and feeling like I failed again. What's worse is, I know what works for me, I've done it before, but something in me just can't seem to sustain it and I end up back in this place of shame and confusion. What's going on? Why can't I follow through on the things I know would help me feel better and why do I keep getting in my own way? So first of all, alana, thank you for your honesty.
Speaker 1:I think so many women can relate to that exact cycle. You start with something. You've got your best intentions in place, you have tools, you have plans, even this great momentum, but somewhere along the way, the follow-through, what Falls apart? And instead of compassion we pile on the shame and the guilt. We say what's wrong with me, when maybe a better question may be what's blocking me so Misty? What would you say to someone who feels like they have momentum and then it fizzles out? They know what to do, but they still can't keep going. They just feel stuck.
Speaker 2:Yeah, beautiful question. And, Alana, you are not alone. I think every single one of us have faced that same frustration, and it is a frustration that that motivates us and also, at the same time, frustrates us understand. The first is what I call patterns of protection, and that's the part that you were talking about like. Maybe a better question is what is blocking me Grading yourself with compassionate curiosity versus judgment? And those patterns of protection are the ways that we have set up, are the ways that we think, the ways that we believe, the ways that we show up in the world that protect ourselves from being hurt.
Speaker 2:One of the things that I hear often is I self-sabotage. I believe that we actually are just in a pattern of protection when we feel like we are sabotaging ourselves when I know what to do but I don't do it. It's an opportunity to pay attention inside now. P-a-i-n. Our pain, the frustration that we feel, the craving that brings us back to the cookie instead of the green smoothie, the craving that brings us back to the cookie instead of the green smoothie. That pain, that physical or emotional pain, is an opportunity to say what is stopping me. It's an opportunity to pay attention inside. Now. I talk about this like an invisible brick wall when we are moving forward. We're starting down this path. I know what I want to do. This is something that I have my plan in place for the first two weeks. I'm making progress.
Speaker 2:I'm drinking my green smoothies, I have my meditation area set up and then, all of a sudden, we feel like we stop, like we run into this invisible brick wall, and the problem is is that the wall is invisible and so we're running into it, we're banging into it, and the only way that we know that we're running into that invisible brick wall if we can't see it like how do we know we're running into it? It's only through our pain. It's only that our head hurts and our nose hurts and we're frustrated that we're not moving forward. That's the only way we know that the wall is there. So we can get angry at ourselves for running into this brick wall, this invisible brick wall, or we can step back and have a little bit of grace and understand okay, there's something blocking me here.
Speaker 2:How can I bring this invisible brick wall into awareness? And understand okay, there's something blocking me here. How can I bring this invisible brick wall into awareness? Because I can only go around the wall when I can see it. I can decide then, when I see what I'm running into, if I wanna go under it, around it or over it. But bringing it into awareness is the first step. I have to see what it is that I'm running into, and so that's the process. That's where we begin. We start with the pain. Where am I feeling the pain, the frustration? And then we use the pain to understand what's stopping you, what's getting in the way, what's the block that is keeping you from this desire. That's actually a really good desire, something you really want for yourself.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I really appreciate that, because so often people feel like that it's laziness, a lack of self-discipline, but it just like you said said it's more of a hidden form of self-protection. It's like the body is saying, hey, this feels unfamiliar, and when something feels unfamiliar, it feels unsafe. And so that's the reason that your body starts to self-sabotage is because it doesn't feel safe, and so you have to work with your nervous system to allow yourself to feel safe in your body before you can convince your mind that you're ready to move forward and to not be stuck, and there's multiple ways that we can do this.
Speaker 2:I talk about working. A lot of the work that I do, I work somatically, which means I work with the body, and so I work in the way that I describe it, from the bottom up. We can work from the top down, which is using our thoughts to change the feelings and experiences and sensations that we're having in our body and that can feel sometimes like we're yelling positive affirmations in the mirror and they're bouncing right back. You know, it's like like what Alana was saying, like I have positive affirmations, I have all the belief. It's like, yes, I'm going to do this, and yet it feels like you're fighting against yourself when your head and your body are not in alignment, when you don't have the green light in both areas. It feels like I'm trying to move forward and there's something, that invisible brick wall or that belief, that is holding or pulling you back. And so often what we can do is work with the body and understand, change the state, change your state and you change the story. So we work from the bottom up.
Speaker 2:I work with the body, understanding what are the beliefs that are blocking you, what are the patterns of protection that are getting in the way, how to create safety in your nervous system so that you do feel that level of calm in your body and then your mind can get on board with moving forward. But if you try to just plow through, having your thoughts propel you forward, it can feel like willpower, it can feel like trudging through mud. Oftentimes my clients will say when they start to shift their beliefs and shift these patterns of protection and find safety in their body, they say they're able to move forward in ways that they have been trying to for years. That felt totally impossible. And then all of a sudden it feels, it feels easy. Not not in a way, a way that you don't have to show up, but all the resistance and all the mud that they felt like they were trudging through now feels a little bit lighter and they're able to move forward with more ease.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I just want to reiterate what you just shared, and that is so often people think that they can think their self through a situation, but that actually isn't true. You have to. Your body has to feel safer. So like if a lot of times you have people with PTSD and they hear a helicopter and they, what do they do? They start to, they're scared, and so that brings up a lot of feelings if they were back in the war or something were to happen, you know, with a helicopter.
Speaker 1:And so what happens is your body actually sends signals to the brain oh my gosh, there's a helicopter, are we unsafe? Your brain then goes oh my goodness, there's a helicopter, are we unsafe? So then your body has to scan and make sure that there's safety, and so your body then tells the brain no, we're fine, we don't have any alarms, it was a false alarm, we're okay. So that's why affirmations actually don't work when your body is stuck and it is not feeling safe. So they are connected and you want to make sure. That's the three green lights that I talk about, that's the green lights that have to be on in order for you to feel that movement and that forward motion. So, yes, thank you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I really, really appreciate that. And creating safety in the body first is what I have found to be the most impactful momentum creator, because the calmest person in the room is the most powerful person in the room. The room is the most powerful person in the room and, like my client said today, who is writing the book? She. In this last several weeks, there has been just such a tremendous shift and I asked her what the difference was. Why was it that, all of a sudden, this book that felt impossible is now flowing and she's feeling this momentum and it doesn't feel hard and it feels like she's making progress? And I said what shifted for you? And she said the belief that I don't have to prove myself is taking root. I'm not coming from the energy of proving, I'm coming from the energy of I. My story is meant to be shared and I believe that she always knew that intellectually, but bringing that belief and really having it land for her coming and making that belief real, what I have to offer is enough. I don't have to be an expert in the field in order to write this book. I don't have to prove anything to anybody. What I have to share is meant to be shared and it's enough.
Speaker 2:And that has propelled her into action. What was stopping her was every time she sat down feeling like, well, who am I to share? I don't have enough information, I don't have enough credentials, I don't have enough knowledge. And so, subconsciously, in the back of her mind, that was always running. And so when she sat down to type, it felt even though she felt this, like, yes, there's something I need to share, there's a book that needs to come out of me. It felt hard, it felt like she was fighting against herself, and it's just such a beautiful gift when you can connect someone with that belief that feels true.
Speaker 1:Well and good for her for moving past those fears. I just think that that's beautiful, awesome, thank you. How can people begin to identify a belief that's no longer serving them?
Speaker 2:a belief that's no longer serving them. I think that's a beautiful question that comes back to the pain, that the pain is an opportunity to pay attention inside. Now, when we run into an invisible brick wall or a belief that's no longer serving us, we're stopping, we're feeling that pain, we're feeling the frustration, and when we can turn inward and recognize and ask and do some introspection from a place of compassionate curiosity, that pain becomes a gift. It becomes something that we get to explore with, as if we were talking with our child, as if we were coming at it from a place of love. What are you afraid of? One of the questions that I love to ask my clients is if I had what I want, if I have what I want, I fear it's a really great question to just kind of let yourself go journal on that for a while, but it brings up a lot of the beliefs that are there, that are present, that maybe you weren't aware of. Yeah, that's one.
Speaker 1:One of the things that I share with my clients are beliefs are like wallpaper and you forget they're even there until you stop and you look closely. And if that wallpaper came from you know childhood issues or an old relationship, it might be time to peel it back and ask is this still true, is this still mine? And so I think sometimes we just I love the two words that you just used, and that was compassion and curiosity. Those are just. I love those two words because it just shows so much more love and tenderness in a place that sometimes we're not wanting to feel that give ourselves compassion and love. But when we can be curious and ask some questions, then sometimes we can just go oh, my goodness, it could be such a simple answer and it's. It's right there, it's right in front of us. So I love that.
Speaker 2:I love that. One question also, because I love the the idea of just pausing. One of my clients called it. The big pause, that that was the most impactful thing for him in helping him to recognize his beliefs was, instead of just moving into the default, like feeling the trigger and then getting angry or feeling that he wasn't making progress and then beating himself up. It was feeling the trigger, feeling the pain, and then pausing and asking the question like you just brought up is it true? Is it mine to carry? I think that's a really beautiful one, because we do bring generational patterns with us that aren't maybe we never even fully bought into. It was just a generational pattern that was in our family and so it feels true.
Speaker 2:The other question that I like to ask is what else is also true? Because what that offers is that, yes, I'm experiencing frustration, I'm experiencing this feeling of shame because I'm not following through with what I say I'm going to do. That is true. I feel that in my body it feels true, and then offering yourself what else is also true, and that's when you can start to tune into that first voice which is saying you know what? I'm making? Progress, I'm moving forward. This is important to me, or I wouldn't create a plan every year. What is blocking me or getting in the way? That feels like a protective pattern that I keep repeating. What is important about that pattern and how can I meet that need in another way? Right, but that question. What else is also true? It doesn't diminish the experience we're having, because sometimes just saying I'm frustrated I shouldn't feel frustrated doesn't feel true either, because you are feeling frustrated but saying, yes, I feel the frustration, I name it, I feel it, I acknowledge it and what else is?
Speaker 1:also true. Yeah, that is excellent, and so we've kind of tapped into this earlier, but it's the role that the body plays in healing those beliefs is so significant. But it's also important, like we just mentioned, that it's never just quite enough to think differently, and I think that I really wanted to reiterate that, because so often I hear I just need to change my thoughts, and that is true. We want to change our thoughts, but you also need to feel that safety, what we just talked about, in your body. So one of the things that's been huge in my work with my couples is they think that they can talk themselves into a logical way to feel safe. And what I just said feel safe and what I just said, it's not true. Your body has to feel it first, and then your nervous system can then be regulated. So there's no amount of positive thinking that can override that sense of danger or uncomfortableness or unfamiliarity or whatever that may be. So that's why breath, grounding and movement matters so much more than people even realize.
Speaker 2:Absolutely yes, and I can't reiterate that enough. I just want to give two exclamation points to that comment, tricia. So thank you, thank you for bringing that up, and I think our breath is one of the most powerful and divinely designed gifts that we have been given to regulate our nervous system and to come back home to ourselves to tune into and feel the truth of who we are. And there is such power in using our breath and using it intentionally, like that mother's wisdom that we've heard for decades take a big, deep breath when you're feeling angry. There's mother's intuition behind that. And the other thing that I will say is that sometimes we have to get to the heart of that belief. We have to come back to the source of where that belief was created and restructure and reframe that belief.
Speaker 2:I hear that often from my clients like, well, I came from a really difficult childhood, or I have this belief that's been in my family for generations. Like, am I doomed to just carry this on? And no, absolutely. It's. The work I do every single day with my clients is restructuring those beliefs and reframing them into something that feels safe in their body, so that it becomes a new belief that feels integrated, that feels aligned, that feels connected. And you can do that two different ways. The first way is going back to the source of where that belief was created in the first place and reframing and restructuring it. The second is what I call belief statements, and they're actually different than an affirmation.
Speaker 2:A belief statement is going back to a situation or a place in time where you felt the feelings you want to feel, instead of searching outside of myself for that affirmation, which is pulling it off Pinterest.
Speaker 2:I am beautiful, I am strong, I am powerful.
Speaker 2:Right, it's coming back to a time bringing yourself back somatically, which means in your body. A time bringing yourself back somatically which means in your body, to a place where you did feel it was true that you felt powerful. When was it that you got out of bed and started your exercise program, even when you wanted to hit the snooze button? When was it that you actually drank the green smoothie, when you really wanted the cookie? Those are the moments that we want to turn the volume up on, and so you can take yourself back to that moment, anchor in that feeling that you had, that feels true in your body because you lived it, and then create a belief statement from there and then you can move forward into your daily life and when you're feeling like, well, no, it's impossible, I'm never going to make progress, you call up that belief statement. That is not an affirmation. It's connected and anchored into something you already know to be true and it helps to propel you and put you into the energy of what you want.
Speaker 1:Excellent, misty. What a gift you are. This conversation has been so rich. Already we just started to peel back the layers of why we self-sabotage, why follow-through feels so hard and how our nervous systems and belief systems quietly shape everything we do. And, alana, thank you again for your honesty and vulnerability. Your question opened the door to a conversation that so many of us needed. I have no doubt there are listeners out there nodding, maybe even tearing up, thinking that's me too. So you're not alone and your voice does matter. But this is just part one.
Speaker 1:Next week, in part two, we're going even deeper. Macy will walk us through what it really means to align with your purpose, how to shift out of that exhausting push and perform cycle, and she'll share a simple breathwork practice you can start using right away to calm your body and reconnect with your truth. So if today's episode resonated with you, especially if you're someone who's tired of starting over, make sure you're subscribed so you don't miss what's coming next week. And before we wrap up, I wanna speak to those of you who are navigating disconnection in your relationship, if their emotional distance feels heavier lately, if you're functioning like roommates more than partners, if you've lost that warmth, the trust or the spark you once had. I promise there is still hope and you're not too far gone. That is why I created my Healing Hearts program, an 8-month guided journey for couples who are ready to do the real work resentment, burnout or even betrayal. This program walks you through a path of healing and reconnection using weekly coaching, nervous system support, trauma-informed tools and powerful reconnection exercises, because your marriage just doesn't need a reboot. It may need a full-on resurrection. So please reach out to me directly at Trisha Jamison Coaching at gmailcom to learn more.
Speaker 1:Until next time, stay curious, stay connected and keep aligning with what matters most. See you next week, everybody, bye-bye. Thanks for tuning in to the Q&A Files, delighted to share today's gems of wisdom with you. Your questions light up our show, fueling the engaging dialogues that make our community extra special. Keep sending your questions to trishajamesoncoaching at gmailcom. Your curiosity is our compass. Please hit subscribe, spread the word and let's grow the circle of insight and community together. I'm Trisha Jameson, signing off. Stay curious, keep thriving and keep smiling, and I'll catch you on the next episode.
