Ep 74: Calling Your Feminine Life Force To Fall Back In Love With You with Brent Spirit

Are you constantly giving, yet feel disconnected from yourself?

Burnt out, overwhelmed, or unsure how to feel again? This episode is for you.

In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Brent Spirit, spiritual teacher, host of The Spiritual Awakening Show, and founder of KundaliniAwareness.org. Brent has been guiding people through spiritual awakenings and Kundalini Shakti journeys since 2013, and what makes his insight truly profound is his deep connection to the divine feminine, even as a masculine presence.

We explore
 ✨ What Kundalini Shakti really is and how it awakens within the body
 ✨ Why so many women today feel disconnected, numb, or stuck in overthinking
 ✨ How trauma blocks access to our feminine life force and how we begin to reclaim it
 ✨ The role of spiritual awakening in healing deep emotional wounds
 ✨ How overgiving, burnout, and emotional suppression are signs of a wounded feminine and what to do about it
 ✨ Why softness, sensitivity, and crying are not weaknesses but superpowers
 ✨ The journey of reparenting, self-love, and honoring your emotional truth

Brent’s story is a rare and healing invitation to see spiritual awakening through a masculine lens that embraces vulnerability, compassion, and emotional depth. Whether you're in the middle of a dark night of the soul or just curious about reconnecting with your intuition, this episode offers deep validation and tools for coming home to yourself.

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Transcript

Have you ever felt like you're constantly giving, but never truly receiving?

Like you are always showing up for others, but somehow you have forgotten how to show up for yourself.

If you're feeling burnt out, emotionally numb, or like you've lost that inner spark, this episode is for you.

Today we're talking about something so many women silently suffer with, which is disconnection from our own feminine life force, the part of us that is intuitive, creative, soft, powerful and wise.

And guess what?

You're not broken.

You have just been taught to abandon yourself in order to survive.

OK, so today I'm actually joined by an amazing expert, and I wanna tell my listeners this that I found him on podcasts where I was binge listening to his, his podcast, and it was about Kundalini.

So those of you that do not know about Kundalini, you can hear it right from the mouth of an expert.

His name is Brent Spirit.

And he is a spiritual teacher, host of the Spiritual Awakening show.

So wherever you listen to podcasts, I highly recommend you to follow him.

And he's also the founder of Kundalini Awareness.org.

Brent has been supporting people through powerful spiritual awakenings and Kundalini Shakti journeys since 2013.

What I love about him is that his teachings are rooted in heart centered, unconditional awareness.

And he really knows how to hold space for the raw, the messy, the magical moments on the path.

Today we're diving deep into something so many women need right now, which is to hone on your feminine life force, to fall back in love with yourself.

So Brent, I'm so honored you're here.

Let me just hear your story.

Let's begin with, how did you find Kundalini energy?

Yeah, Dimple, thank you so much for the intro.

I'm really honored.

I really appreciate the kind words and the support and the opportunity to share here with you.

Yeah, so Kundalini, I, I so appreciative of, you know, you having me on as, as an expert on the topic, but I'll lead by saying, you know, there is some really mysterious, transcendental, awe inspiring quality to this energy of Kundalini that I don't think anybody really has all the answers to or knows every last detail about it.

I've had, of course, you know, the majority of my life has been.

Evolved this process, this energy, this force of Kundalini, and I've connected with so many people with the intention of learning more myself and raising awareness about it.

and so we're unpacking it as we go together.

So I know you've got some experience yourself as well.

So, you know, we each have a little bit of, of a piece of the puzzle.

And so we, we compare notes and share and explore together.

How it started for me, you know, I was.

, 15 years old, I was depressed.

I was anxious.

I had kind of moved away from, my religion, that I was raised in, which was Catholicism, and I was kind of, you know, a materialist atheist suffering from immense loneliness, depression, anxiety, and, you know, nothing could really help.

I had no, no spiritual foundation there, nothing like that.

Eventually I came across, you know, some science showing that meditation can be helpful for, you know, mental health.

And so I began to meditate.

And when I began to meditate, my body began to move spontaneously on its own.

My spine, my neck began to bend and twist on its own.

And, this was just in my first meditation.

I'd closed my eyes and this started to happen and I thought, this is very strange.

I don't know what's happening to my body.

I can't stop these movements unless I open my eyes and stop this meditation.

So I, I was a young innocent kid.

I said, I don't know what the heck that was about, you know, I'm just not gonna do this thing called meditation.

So that was my first, direct encounter with this force within that we now, you know, now I would understand it to be the feminine force of Kundalini Shakti.

Kundalini Shakti was beginning to stir within me.

And so the body moving spontaneously, was my body responding to the invitation and the context that it created by sitting down to meditate my body said, he's ready now.

The body said we can begin to heal and awaken and transform using the body's own intelligence, which is not a separate thing from Shakti the Kundalini, it is the body's intelligence.

The body said, will begin to move and so looking back, though I didn't know it at the time, those movements of my spine.

They were serving to open perhaps energetic pathways, perhaps to begin to stir up and clear some trauma, some tension, some things that were stored in my body that I was holding onto.

My body said, now it's time to release and let this go.

Unfortunately, at the time I got scared, so I stopped the process.

I suppressed it, I halted it.

I just went back into my normal life.

But then, you know, once you kind of cross a point like that, it seems like, you know, eventually at some point you will come back around and continue the work.

And so years after I, you know, was exploring mindfulness throughout my day, practicing, being in the present moment.

I was reading about different, different great spiritual masters and all sorts of things from the east.

I was continuing my journey, but not so much sitting still to meditate.

Eventually, I began to learn how to meditate.

I went on some retreats and I was beginning to have, significant, releases of, of energetic, of this energetic spiritual force, and it was bringing about shifts in consciousness.

for me, it began particularly in my head.

I found myself in more meditative states of consciousness, but it didn't really involve my body.

So, in a sense, I was kind of able to go into a deep meditation where I was able to detach from my body, feel very transcended, very spaced out, very detached from the phenomena of the world and the phenomena of this body.

Now, some of your listeners may be listening and they may be thinking, yeah, that's very masculine.

It's kind of how men can be, very detached, very isolated, not embodied, you know, not really emotional, very much in our heads.

And this was exactly the type of awakening that I was going through.

It was very much in my head.

Not much in my heart, not much in my body at all.

And so, like, like many, I was carrying all sorts of trauma from my upbringing, from my ancestry, from my culture, just by being a human being.

And I was able to check out from that.

I had this big awakening in my head.

I was able to just detach.

Well, eventually over time, the body called me back in and said, We've got to start sorting out all of this tension and stuff that's blocking you up in your system.

And so the body called me back in, and then the Kundalini shaky began to rise again through my spine.

But this time, I wasn't so scared.

I was able to just trust and surrender, and I had this intuitive knowing that my body knows what it's doing.

And it was a very feminine presence.

So despite me presenting here as, of course, a male, a masculine, I have a very masculine disposition, but there's very feminine qualities within us all, as there are masculine qualities.

And when I tuned into this force, I could tell this was a feminine intelligence, the feminine wisdom that knew how to transform my consciousness, how to heal, how to, how to awaken further.

And I found that my awakening, which was much In the head, began to sort of descend into my body, and began to not only descend into my body, but also began to rise from the base up my spine.

So my whole body now was involved in this transformation of consciousness.

and over the next little while, I went on a really intense, you know, journey as this energy began to, like, you know, explode up my spine, and it brought all sorts of intense purifications and And realizations and, and psychic phenomena, unusual things were happening, but really what I understood was spirituality.

In the very beginning of my journey, I thought spirituality was about some sort of philosophical understanding or some sort of insight on the level of the mind, a piece of knowledge, truth.

Later I began to understand spirituality is about the transformation of the entire system, mind, body, heart, and spirit, entirely in the full body, head to toe, which with each of the chakras from the top of our head all the way down to the soles of our feet.

And of course this involved that I kind of.

Let go of the very overly masculine perspective of just about it being in the head and really come into the body, and that was scary as a man, scary in this culture where our bodies are kind of dismissed, scary coming from all sorts of spiritual paradigms that were very masculine, very patriarchal, that didn't emphasize the body.

, and so it was, it was a whole new learning experience from, for me, but fortunately I had this feminine intelligence, this wisdom, this divine mother, Shakti.

That's how I like to relate with it within me, guiding me along the way, like, like her child.

So I'll pause there and see if that brings up any, any, comments from you and maybe you can relate.

Oh yeah, absolutely, 100% I can totally relate, but one thing that is different to hear from you is from a male perspective when.

A masculine is really embodying the feminine force.

It sounds beautiful, because a lot of men in this world where we are filled with trauma, we are filled with violence, where we are filled with assault, and it, and we blame the masculine for it.

I feel like when it comes from a person who has awakened this energy within himself, it's a totally different experience to hear it.

So for me, when you're talking.

I am getting chills in my body.

I'm like, wow, this can happen.

This is possible for a lot of men, you know, but because our listeners are predominantly women, and I'm sure they will probably send this to the wounded masculine when they hear it from you.

I feel like this is, is great insight and you know, me and you, we can talk for hours, but I have my next question for you, which is, can you tell our listeners what is kundalini Shakti?

And in your own words, and how does it relate to the feminine life force within us?

Yeah, yeah, so this term kundalini, Kundalini shakti is the full term.

So kundalini comes out of Sanskrit.

It's the language of, of the ancient language of India of yoga.

It refers to coiled snake, coiled serpent, that is said to be at the base of the spine, coiled up.

A waiting for the right context and time in a person's spiritual life to then begin to uncoil and move up the spine to be to transform this system on a spiritual level.

So that's where this term kundalini comes from.

The the term shakti comes also out of Sanskrit, out of yoga refers to the feminine.

So we have Shiva, many are familiar with, you know, the deity of Shiva, and then there's Shakti as well, the feminine counterpart of Shiva.

Now, the name itself suggests here, this is a feminine force.

It's a feminine force.

The way I interpret it is that, you know, when we look at the masculine, it's very transcendent, very detached, very still, somewhat stoic, these are the types of words that may come to stillness, silence, whereas we think of the feminine, it's dynamic, it's moving, it's changing, it's flowing, right?

It's, it's, it contains all the expressions of consciousness.

And so as the Kundalini begins to move through our body, our system here, this is a, a feminine expression of consciousness in the body.

The body is not still, it's constantly changing, constantly moving, dancing, there's emotions coming and going.

There's all sorts of biological things unfolding.

There's all sorts of energetic movements taking place.

And so this is all orchestrated and managed and unfold by this intelligent force of Kundalini Shakti.

So it's not just this like impersonal energetic thing or this biological thing.

It's a very intelligent, wise, compassionate, expression of the divine within you, the divine within you.

And so when I described this idea of this divine mother kind of guiding my process, it was very much a personal relationship with the goddess, with God, with the divine.

In which she knew how to facilitate my own transformation.

And I, I refer to her as she for this reason.

I say she, it's almost, it not even almost, it is.

She that moves through this body that animates my system and so the kundalini.

Everybody's kundalini is always doing something, everybody on earth.

For some, she remains coiled at the base of the spine and she's carrying out all the mundane processes of breathing, digestion, growing hair, breathing your lungs, beating your heart, these types of things.

It's only that when she begins to awake and then she moves into the next phase of her potential, which is to carry out the transformation of consciousness.

So we all have this active within us to a degree.

It's just that some, whether it's through spiritual practice, through past life, karma getting ripened at a certain point, the kundalini begins to rise.

And then when it begins to rise, we will say, now you have a kundalini awakening, and now the process begins to take you from being, a mundane human being here into your fullest potential, which, which is to be a spiritual human being, feet on the ground, but also, some, some aspect of you, transcend as well.

And so this is the merger of the masculine and the feminine, the divine masculine of pure consciousness and the divine feminine of the expression of consciousness merged together.

In an integrated person, an embodied person, and that's where, you know, ideally we would all like to aim on our spiritual path towards this, you know, this integration, this balancing out of, of the the divine and masculine and divine feminine.

Beautifully expressed.

This is like profoundly expressed what is kundalini Shakti and again coming from a very awakened masculine force, which is awesome.

I want to ask you about for women who do not understand this term or for women who are like way far beyond understanding about their own spirituality, about understanding about their own force, because what I see in my work is I work with a lot of women who are.

Domestically violence, they have trauma, they have been raped and they feel emotionally exhausted, disconnected, and stuck in just overgiving.

How does trauma, if you know about this, how does trauma block our access to this life force?

Have you had any incidents where you work with someone and you're basically guiding them to awaken their kundalini, but then they're stuck in their own ways?

Yeah, yeah.

So my heart goes out to all those women that have been oppressed, abused, mistreated, denied.

Right.

I actually feel that this theme of, of the patriarchy of this toxic masculinity of this oppression of the feminine actually boils down to the fear of awakening the Kundalini, awakening the shakti, because that process within this human system is a very challenging, scary thing to the man, to the masculine, which demands that we feel, demands that we feel and that we express and that we.

You know, get in touch with our bodies, and I think on a very large scale, the masculine is afraid of that, and when we see powerful women with such potential, there's some part of us that says that we need to shut this down, control it.

Keep it, keep things, safe for the masculine that's afraid of the feminine.

And so, I see this, we see this in religion as well, when many religions, women are treated on a, on a, on secondarily.

Often some religions will dismiss Kundalini.

They'll say it's it's the serpent associated with Satan and the devil, so don't.

Mess with it, it's dangerous.

I think this all comes down to them saying, this is the feminine, we'll just stay safe in our transcendent, detached, disembodied place that we, we don't have to feel anything.

And women come and they say, I want to feel.

We want to feel, we want to express, and this can be very threatening to the masculine, the unawakened masculine, the wounded masculine.

And so, of course, this trauma is there and many women will then adopt such beliefs about their own system, their own potential, right?

which can, of course, impede their ability to then carry out a fully, embodied spiritual awakening process.

and so it's not just men like myself that were, you know, sort of focusing solely on spiritual awakening as being in the head.

Many women as well, due to cultural conditioning as well as due to trauma.

They find it difficult to move into their body, move into their heart to feel safe enough to actually allow this energy to move, right?

And this makes sense, this makes sense.

And the, the body, if you've been made to feel unsafe, well then moving in the body is not necessarily the safest place to be.

There's trauma there.

And so prior to then working with, you know, powerful spiritual practices or powerful, things like kundalini awakening.

One can work solely to just focus on self-care, to really soothe this nervous system, to soothe this body that it may have gone through so much.

And it's once we establish a degree of safety in the body, the ability to land in the body, then perhaps we can begin to then work with, you know, more direct, spiritual practices which may then in turn lead to a profound kundalini awakening.

What happens for many that have a kundalini awakening.

Without proper preparation of this body, without finding a degree of safety in the body, is the energy can begin to rise, and it will bring all sorts of intense trauma up with it.

And it can be very challenging for a person to go through.

it's a healing process, ultimately, that's not a mistake, it's just a very, very challenging way of going about it.

So we can prepare for the awakening, and it will be a little easier.

We prepare by, like I said, through self-care, to take.

Care of our body through finding safety, whether that's through therapy, through coaching, through proper nutrition, lifestyle changes, prayer, meditation, time in nature, connecting with a meaningful community, all of those things.

If we really establish a strong foundation, then we begin to engage in more specific spiritual practices which can lead to a profound kundalini awaking.

It can be a lot easier.

The other way is.

You waken the Kundalini and you deal with things afterwards.

So this is kind of what happened to me.

I didn't know what I was doing.

I had no guidance.

It just started to rise and I had to kind of figure it out as I went.

and so that's why I actually don't, tell people how to awaken their kundalini.

I don't offer any transmissions at this time to directly awaken a person's kundalini.

I see so many people that are having these experiences happening to them inadvertently.

They're going to yoga class, they're doing breath work, psychedelics, meditation like me, and it's just happening.

And so I don't think that anybody should really push, prod, or chase after this experience.

Instead, just focus on taking care of your body.

We've all been through so many intense things, and especially if you've been through a lot of trauma, really, this body just needs a chance to rest, land, feel safe, and then the spiritual development can continue on top of that.

Exactly, so, so the women definitely have to like basically calm down their nervous systems and then calm down the trauma which is coming up for them, and then hopefully if they do the right steps they can channelize their feminine force.

So have you seen any signs in women when their feminine energy is suppressed or abandoned?

Yeah, well, it, yeah, yeah, it it it leads to a degree of disembodiment, disembodiment, overly, Rational, logical, ways of moving to the world, which may not feel, in alignment with one's natural disposition in their, in their nervous system, right?

So our culture as a very masculine culture, right?

where, where, you know, if people were to engage in more feminine means of, of moving to the world and expressing and feeling, it's almost like, well this Doesn't really serve, you know, the corporate capitalistic world.

And so people have adopted this idea, right?

And so it shows up in all sorts of, different ways, where a person may just, and, and this goes for men as well, men as well, where we're just not in touch with the feminine, not in touch with feeling, not in touch with expression.

, and it can lead to all sorts of, mental health challenges, could lead us to feel cut off spiritually, could lead us to not feel in touch with our body, it can lead to relationship challenges as well, where the energetic dynamics in our relationship may be off, because our, our, our ener energy isn't flowing in the way that it could be.

And so it shows up in so many different ways, yeah.

So what about overthinking because you know I have some of, some of my clients and even though it's hard for me to even tell them about Kundalini Shakti because we're not there yet, we still have to work on resetting.

Have you seen women that constantly are overthinking and because they are in this masculine world, they think they need to operate with a to do list 24/7 and then overgive themselves and then they end up burning out.

So what about overthinking?

I would love to know your thoughts about that.

Yeah, overthinking.

I think on the other side of overthinking is under feeling, under feeling, right?

So there's great wisdom in this body.

There's so much data that the body is communicating with us through feeling.

Not through verbal thought, but through somatic experiencing in the body, feeling, right?

The body will communicate and so, we may have been told, you know, the body doesn't have wisdom.

There's no information there through our culture, through our upbringing.

Nobody informed us that we could feel our way a little bit more through life.

And so we try to solve things in the mind.

That's overthinking.

And so getting in touch with the wisdom of the body, just listening to it, and sometimes it's, it's nothing super profound per se, but it can be just, you know, my body is asking for a bit of a rest.

My body's saying, leave this, this place that I'm at or this relationship or don't talk to this person.

And we may overthink.

You know, am I, am I sabotaging my, my dating life by walking away?

you know, is this the only person for me or is this the only job for me?

And when really, your body is screaming at you saying, hey, this isn't the right place to be.

Something here isn't right for you, right?

And so if we overthink these things, then we will, will spiral and it can take a lot of time will be challenged, but if we feel the body has things to say.

As well.

And the Kundalini awakening process, involves that we, we get in touch with what this body's communicating to us.

And at times, people will, will get very clear, very clear communications from the body through feeling.

sometimes different psychic abilities come online, you know, clear cognizance, clear sentience.

, their audience, they will hear their body communicating through words at times, but generally speaking, overthinking means under feeling.

So if we begin to feel we can kind of move out of the head more into the body and, move through the world in a little bit of a different way, which is much more fluid, less structured, but I think it's, it's much more exciting as well.

I love that and because we're talking about intuition, why do you think it's so important, especially for women, because we're focusing more on women for this podcast, but I would love to bring Brent Spirit if he wants to for a part two specifically for men and all the issues that men deal with, why do you think it's important, especially for women to reconnect with softness and creativity and intuition on their healing journey?

Yeah, because that's that's.

It's so natural and innate to the feminine.

We all have those qualities, but the feminine in particular, it, it feels so right to be able to be in that place, those states of being and to express that, it feels so right.

So to cut one off from what they're naturally inclined to do, it's, it's, you know, it, it's, it's not healthy per se, right?

So it's, you know, we have certain, you know, if, if you're meant to sing, you're meant.

To dance and you're not allowing your system to do what it's meant to do, what you're really here on this earth to do.

Well, that's going to lead to all sorts of challenges on a fundamental level, right?

It's like, you know, asking, You know, like, You, you know, it's like trying to treat our pet dog as if it was a cat or something.

It's, it's not that, that's, it's just going against our nature, right?

And so, to those that are, are really caught off from the, the feminine expression, the feminine flow of energy and emotion within the body.

, it can be such an exciting journey, not only with the aim of just, you know, going 0 to 100 and finding our divine feminine embodying it, but actually the journey of rediscovery as well can have so much joy in it too.

And, and, it doesn't need to be rushed, it can be explored.

And I think that's what's really exciting about the work, which is like this journey itself is so rewarding, right?

Every day there's something new to find out about our body, our self, our gifts, new, new ways to give those gifts.

So it's very, very exciting journey.

Totally, I totally agree, and I just remember this one incident when you were talking about how a lot of females, you know, when they disconnect, they disconnect from their intuition, their softness, their creative side.

So for me as a teenager.

I was always told that you're so angry and you talk like a boy and and now I realized, yeah, because I was overworking all my life.

I was literally a teenager, but I would work like 7 days a week and I worked for 10 years constantly until Shakti came in through me and said, stop working, you need to practice yoga.

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You have to practice yoga, and that's when.

I moved from the masculine into the feminine side and I realized, oh, I have parts of me that are softer.

I have parts of me that are creative, and I never knew what that meant.

So I, I love what you're, what you're saying about why the feminine really needs to hone on her own side, like which, which she does not know because we are not taught to these, like we are not taught these things by by our parents.

So what about how can Emotional, sorry, not emotional, but how can spiritual awakening, so spiritual awakening or kundalini activation.

Actually support emotional healing from trauma, and some of our listeners will not know what kundalini activation means.

So if you can maybe give us a like a one on one on that, that'll be great.

How can it really support emotional healing and trauma for women?

Yeah, and so the awakening of Kundalini, the rising or the moving of this energy through our system in a new way, as we described a little bit earlier, this force begins to transform our system from the inside.

And so we may be carrying things like such as trauma.

And so maybe some are familiar with this, you know, there's a great book, The Body Keeps the Score, right?

Another way of putting it from a yogic perspective, you know, the chakras keep the score.

The chakras store karma, right?

Or, you know, what we could call this, this thing of trauma.

I like to just, we could just refer to it as just like just junk, just junk, just to.

Span all the paradigms.

So our system's carrying this junk.

And so as this energy begins to move through it, it can begin to stir it up.

And so it may come out through emotional releases.

So some people just begin to spontaneously cry.

They, they audit their life that day.

Nothing really triggered it, but from within, there's just grief coming out and being released.

They may get angry.

They may feel different tensions and things in their body.

The muscles begin to maybe spasm spontaneously as, as this tension that's been carried there for so long is now beginning to be released.

Sometimes people will begin to spontaneously vocalize, right?

Spontaneous movements, flitting of the arms, bending of the neck, the back, the inclination to move into different yoga poses spontaneously, stretching in particular ways to stretch, to open up this body, the muscles, the nervous system, and the chakras, the energy pathways, to allow whatever's been stored there, the junk, to allow that to be released and cleared so that the full energy can flow across our system.

So that's why sometimes people will have a very challenging kundalini awakening process, because when the energy begins to awaken.

Begins to bring all this stuff up.

So that's why I was sharing earlier that's best ideally to prepare oneself beforehand.

So that it's not all coming up at once, but, you know, depending on how our awakening goes, it can be very challenging.

And so, this is how people can heal.

And so what happens is, for example, like we were using this example of, of grief of crying, for example.

So we may be carrying a lot of grief in our hearts.

Maybe, you know, growing up, we lost a pet, a partner, someone in our, someone left, and there wasn't a proper, space to feel all of those feelings, the anger.

The sadness, the longing, the confusion.

Maybe we were told, you don't have a right to feel that way.

Maybe nobody came and told us about grief, and we were just told, you know, move on.

Maybe we then sought some way out a coping mechanism to distract.

So those feelings were still there.

We never cried, right?

Maybe you were told, don't cry.

How you're not allowed to cry.

Right?

And so we, those feelings are still stored there.

The tears are still kind of stored there in our body, in our heart.

So now Kundalini begins to awaken, the shakti begins to move through our system and it starts to stir that stuff up from long ago.

And now we have to feel it.

So now we maybe start crying, we get angry.

Maybe memories begin to arise, feelings begin to arise.

If we're able to sit with those feelings without pushing them away, without suppressing them, denying them, or, or treating ourselves maybe perhaps like we were before by saying, you're not allowed to cry, you don't deserve to cry, be strong, don't be brave, blah, blah, blah.

But instead, we hold ourselves and say, it's OK that I feel this.

It's OK.

I'll feel it.

On the other side of that emotional release, that is.

The healed state where we feel lighter, our heart feels more open.

We're not carrying that weight anymore and quite literally in our body, we don't feel the same.

We feel safer in our body.

We have more access to our gifts.

We're more compassionate, loving, caring, we're less maybe, rigid, maybe less, you know, I was very bitter, carrying grief, so maybe less bitter.

All of this is how we actually, you know, we have to feel the things.

So the Kundalini will facilitate us, facilitate our healing process to bringing things up for us to feel.

And so this once again goes back to the full, honoring of the feminine.

, expression of this human system, which is through feeling, through emotion, through movements in the body sensations, etc.

really allowing it all to be there.

On the other side, there's peace, there's joy, there's bliss.

And I would say, I would add to that that you can also call that as a dark night of the soul, right?

When we're really going through these challenging times and everything is happening all at once and our brain is getting fried and we just don't understand what's going on and maybe just the that's just the way the Kundalini wants to awaken, but it's doing its thing, it's removing the junk out of you.

Yeah, well said.

Awesome.

I want to kind of move our conversation to a topic that is trending on Instagram and social media, and I want to relate it from your perspective, so.

In your experience, what's the connection between the Shakti process, so the Kundalini awakening process, we're talking about feminine force rising and rebuilding self-love.

Hm, yeah, yeah.

So for me, self love was, you know, it continues to be the cornerstone of of my practice, As you were describing just earlier about.

Giving ourselves the space to feel, for example, grief to cry, right?

During times growing up where we were dismissed and told we're not allowed to cry, don't cry, blah blah blah, that's the opposite of self love, that's the opposite of, you know, we're being rejected for our experience.

So self love to me.

Is giving ourselves full permission to think, feel, or experience anything that may arise within the system, head to toe, body, mind, spirit.

If, if you give yourself full permission to experience whatever may arise, without judgment, without shaming oneself, without rushing it, hoping that it goes away soon, without labeling it as a as a mistake that you feel a certain way.

That's self-love to me.

I like to distinguish it a little bit from self-care.

Self-care, it's absolutely necessary, and that could be a facet of self-love where we take care of our body, go for a massage, you know, get a latte, whatever.

But self-love, love means whatever rises in my system is not separate from the oneness of existence.

Whether it's a, a shameful thought, a shameful, uncomfortable emotion, it's anger, it's rage, it's jealousy, it's grief, it's fear, it's insecurity.

All of that is part of the oneness of existence.

All of that is part of the spectrum of light, because all there is here is light, including those uncomfortable emotions.

And so by allowing yourself to feel that, you're saying no matter what, I love you unconditionally.

You can cry, you can rage, you can scream, it's OK, you're loved, which is how ideally we should have been treated as children.

Where we were should have been held and said, you're a child, it's OK, you're having a human experience.

Maybe your emotions are a little over the top.

It's OK.

You're allowed to have that.

Nobody's getting harmed by you just crying or feeling this way.

So you're allowed to.

Unfortunately, our culture didn't do that.

Most of our parents didn't do that for us.

So now we have to essentially reparent ourselves with this full unconditional permission to be human.

And so to me, that's what self-love is.

And so as I was going through this process of all sorts of crazy, uncomfortable emotions coming up, memories coming up, I could have said, Brent, you don't have a right to feel that way.

You don't have a right to, to, to feel this way, or I could have shamed myself, you're a man, you don't cry, you don't grieve, you don't feel pain, you don't have a right to be angry, blah, blah blah.

Instead, I said, no, I'm human.

All of these are valid and I'm, I'm able to feel them, and the beauty of it is none of them last forever.

And so I, that's how I love myself, which was The only way I could have got through this process of, you know, intense, clearing out of all the junk, if I fought the process with self rejection or conditional love, wouldn't have worked, it had to be unconditional self-love.

I love that.

So you're saying you're asking people to basically accept everything that's coming up for you without any judgment, because that is a form of self-love, when especially when you're reparenting yourself.

Yeah.

Beautiful.

That's beautiful.

So, so many women are also like afraid of just slowing down because they are mothers, their wives, their daughters, and they are also afraid of being too emotional or too much.

So even a lot of times we hear saying, we hear people saying men don't cry, but sometimes women also when they're crying, they will stop crying because they don't want to cry in front of a guy because she feels maybe he'll think I'm weak.

Or things like that, right?

So how do we begin to reclaim our own sensitivity as a strength and not weakness?

Mhm, yeah, yeah, to be sensitive is is a strength, right?

If we have a, a sensitive.

Instrument, tool, we would say this is great, it's sensitive, right?

it's able to pick up on so much information.

And so those that are sensitive, this is a great gift and skill.

It's challenging for the individual to be so sensitive, but there's so much value there, right?

And so, I mean, if we look at the experience of crying, the body is.

There's there's nothing wrong about crying whatsoever.

It's actually there's all upside to it, it's all upside.

You know, great chemicals are released, right?

We get to express, we get to inform it, communicate our emotional experience to those that may be listening or witnessing.

It's a form of communication, right?

So there's so much value in something like crying.

But of course, our culture has made it out to be like the, the goal isn't to cry, that actually you're a success if you are able to somehow stop yourself from crying.

You've solved the problem of crying.

Right, and, and so if, if that's, and I've, I've experienced that myself actually, With women.

If I began to tear up, it would become like their mission to somehow get me to stop, as if, and I, I, I had to push back.

That's not the goal here.

This is good.

My body is responding in a good way.

Let it flow, right?

So we've all been conditioned to shut this down in some way, right, as, as kids and culturally and whatnot.

And so, I mean, when you're relating in, in partnership.

Being with someone who you feel safe enough to actually be a human being, right?

and, and that doesn't mean, you know, somebody shuts down your car that you leave, but, you know, just take a moment to pause and think like, what are we really doing when we're denying our body a natural response that feels good.

Right?

What are we really doing and why?

And why?

Right?

So I think having conversations around that, even with oneself, to really just take it in, like crying is not a mistake at all.

It's good.

And I know there are people who would probably pay a million dollars to have a good cry because they feel so blocked up and shut down because they just can't, it's there, they want to release it, but their body just doesn't feel safe enough to do so.

And, like it would be a big deal for them to have a big release.

It's what they're asking for is what they're looking for.

and so, yeah, if, if, if tears come, celebrate it in some way, celebrate, and if you're around people that don't, support the tears, that's OK too.

I think it's very important that we create a container for ourselves where we can go and really just have our full experience, thoughts, emotions, feelings, sensations, tears, whatever it is that may come, without the.

need to be concerned with other people's receiving or denial of our experience.

so having some container where we can go and be with ourselves, I think that's also very important to this process.

That's beautiful.

That's beautiful.

I'm sure women will listen to that and really know that it's OK for us to even cry because even though we are told again and again that, you know, if you're too much and you're acting out and I, I feel like women need to understand that it's a part of them, it's a part of being human and we are still awakening, you know, we are, some of us are still awakening and we are in the process.

So for someone that actually feels Who's listening, who feels numb.

Or overwhelmed or unsure of how to even begin, what are some gentle ways to reconnect with their feminine life force?

I think one of the easiest ways is to begin to Relate with the senses in general.

And being in nature can be a great doorway into that because nature is such a sensory experience that can get us out of our heads and get us into our bodies where we feel.

, and it's of course, Mother Nature.

This is no different than the divine mother Shakti within.

It's the same intelligence, same intelligence.

And so getting out in nature and relating with, the forests, the water, for example, can really be a a safe way to tap into then, of course, over time, more of what's going on emotionally within, emotionally within.

So like for example, you know, Involving the senses in our, in our time in nature, so maybe walking barefoot, hugging trees, looking at nature and really appreciating the beauty of it with our eyes through the senses, like really taking it in, taking in the smells.

This can help.

It can be a very safe and easy way into then, like I said, finding out that whatever's going on in nature is no different than what's going on in our own body.

So why don't we look there now?

What emotions are here, what feelings are here?

So that can.

Be an easy way, a safe way to bring us out of numbness.

So, of course, this is, you know, something that takes, takes time.

It's a journey for sure.

Thank you.

I have a last question for you.

Brent, so far you have been wonderful.

This question is a little fun question, but what's one truth you wish every woman could know about herself?

What's coming to me is, I think it would be so incredible if every woman knew.

That we are in the dawning of the, the resurgence or the re-emergence of the divine feminine in a really profound way.

And they are here at just such an exciting time.

and I've been, watching it this take place within my own system, within my community, within the culture as well.

And so though times may be dark, it may be challenging, you can know that, you know, there is a, a revival of the divine feminine.

In a very powerful way.

And I think there's a lot of very interesting things on the horizon over the next few years, decades even, but this whole idea of, you know, the, the patriarchy and the masculinity and these types of things and, and, and I think that the pendulum has significantly.

, swung and will continue to swing where we're going to see much more people getting in touch with their body with healing, getting in touch with the planet, getting in touch with the rhythms of nature as well as the feminine is as, as, as women are in ways that men aren't necessarily, and I think that there's like just so much opportunity here and so I hope that can be a message of hope to women out there on the path.

Yeah.

Women, we are rising.

You just have to start feeling the power within.

This was great, Brent.

I loved having our conversation.

Can you please tell us where can our listeners connect with you and learn more about your offerings?

Now, thank you so much.

This is a fun conversation.

So Brent Spirit.com, that's where you can find all of my work.

I have some meetings that I host weekly on Zoom with the community.

You can join and connect and discuss things like Kundalini Awakening.

I've got some courses and things.

I've got a YouTube channel as well, Brent Spirit, Brent Spirit.com, though you'll be able to find all that you need.

And I'll definitely add his information on the show notes.

I have a personal question to ask you, how did you get your last name as Spirit?

Yeah, so, I, I'm a, I'm a straight shooter.

it was a branding thing actually.

I thought, how can I just let people know what I'm about.

So the word spirit is very straightforward, and, it kind of, kind of became a thing, yeah.

That's amazing.

Well, I'm definitely going to put his information in the show notes.

Please make sure that you go check out his work.

He is amazing, especially if you need help in awakening your Kundalini Shakti, the feminine force, if you're going through an awakening process, that's probably if you're going through a dark night of the soul, please go check out his work.

Thank you so much, Brent, for coming to the Dimple Binra show.

We also have re

branded our show name, so thank you so much for for being here.

Oh, thank you, Dimple and your audience as well.

Thank you all so much.

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