Ep 88: When Love Feels Too Good to Be True, Question It, Because It Probably Is!

You know what no one warns us about? The red flags that come wrapped in charm, fairy tale promises, and “I’ve never felt this way before” energy.

In this episode of The Dimple Bindra Show, I’m breaking down the hidden signs of love bombing, and why so many powerful, beautiful, intuitive women keep falling for it. If you’ve ever said, “But it felt so good in the beginning,” this one is for you.

I walk you through:

• The 6 red flags most women miss in the beginning stages
• Why your nervous system confuses chemistry with danger
• How charm, urgency, and mirroring are used to manipulate
• The one body signal you should never ignore (and most of us do)
• Why trauma survivors are more vulnerable to fake fairy tales
• A practical step-by-step guide to avoid being emotionally hijacked
• Plus: powerful declarations to rewire your nervous system for real love

If you’re tired of doubting your gut, rushing into connections, or getting swept up in someone else’s fantasy, this is your wake-up call.

 Love should feel safe.
 Not like a high. Not like chaos. Not like confusion.
 Let this episode bring you back home to yourself. 

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Transcript

You know what, sometimes the biggest red flag is how fast it feels like a fairy tale.

If it feels too good to be true, you better believe your nervous system is trying to warn you.

Welcome to the Dimplevindra show.

Today we are gonna talk about a topic that I hear over and over and over again from most women because they never get warned about until they have been broken by it.

Which is red flag education.

This episode is for the woman who keeps saying, but it felt so good in the beginning.

If this is you.

This is for the woman who keeps falling for intensity and calling it chemistry, when really it's just manipulation in disguise.

And if you have ever wondered.

Is it me, or is it this relationship that's moving too fast?

Or why do I feel anxious when everything looks perfect on paper?

Then this episode is going to land in your lap like a wake up call.

And if you're ready to stop falling for the charm and start recognizing patterns, then please take the healing archetype quiz at dimplebindra.com.

The link is in the show notes.

You need to know what wounded part of you is making you a match for emotionally unavailable or manipulative people.

Let's do this.

Today's podcast topic is about when it feels too good to be true, let's question it, OK?

And I want you to start with this.

I want you to really think about this for some things that I'm gonna start speaking, like, keep your ears open, keep your heart open, keep your mind open.

Toxic men don't always show up with obvious red flags, OK?

They show up with the fairy tale scripts.

They tell you, I have never felt this way before, or you are everything I've ever wanted, or I knew you were the one the second I saw you, or in my case.

I feel so good.

I know it's just been two days, but I feel so good about us.

This wasn't my case.

So, does that sound familiar?

I'm like, I'm like laughing when I read this because, I mean, not reading.

Yeah, I have to read my scripts, you know, cause sometimes I talk and sometimes I have to stay on track to really deliver a good podcast, I make scripts, I write them down and then I repeat them, and then I speak my story, so.

It makes me laugh and I'm saying all this, right?

And I know it's probably making you laugh too, and you're probably thinking about.

If you have been through this, and let me be clear, these words are not always lies, but when they come up too soon, without any history, like without any time, without actions to back them up, that's not intimacy, girl.

That's called love bombing.

And love bombing ends up in a divorce, OK?

I'm going to be very clear.

It ends up in a divorce, it ends up in a separation, it ends up in a betrayal, it ends up in a breakup, either from you or from the other person.

But it may be coming in your case, if you're still in a relationship, but it started off with love bombing.

All right.

Here's the real definition of love bombing.

If you don't know what this means.

Love bombing is when someone showers you with affection, with attention and adoration very early on, not to build a relationship, but to hook you emotionally, so that they can later control or manipulate you.

I just have to drink my water right now so that you can really soak that in.

And let me break down the early red flags that so many women, especially trauma survivors, miss.

So if you have been a survivor of trauma, whether it's domestic violence, whether it's SA sexual assault, whether it's any sort of abuse, I need you to really understand these red flags for your own safety, for your own emotional well-being, and for you, OK?

So, here are some of the red flags.

We talked about love bombing.

2, it's fast forwarding the relationship.

That's your number 2.

Fast forwarding the relationship, it simply looks like, hey, let's move in, you know, move in with me, or I'll move in with you, or let's get married.

Let's have babies, all within the first month.

OK.

You see what I'm saying?

When someone wants to skip stages, that's not love, it's urgency, and urgency is never, never with an N romantic.

It's dangerous.

And I don't want to tell you horrific stories right now, but you probably have heard this, and maybe it's happening to you right now.

Maybe you have been in a love bombing situation early on, it was love bombing and all of a sudden, now it looks like a very abusive relationship.

So keep listening, cause by the time you finished this episode, I also want you to go back and listen to my other podcast, because some things that I talk about is all for a woman like you, OK?

So, fast forwarding the relationship, we talked about love bombing.

Number 3.

It's just the over the top compliments with no real knowledge of you, you know, like, like, oh my God, you're so sexy or your body looks so whatever, like all these over the top compliments.

So they say you're perfect, but they don't actually know you yet.

That's not love.

That's projection.

And you are filling a role in their fantasy.

They want you to be a certain person, so they give you compliments so that you can fill in that role for them, OK?

So that's your Third point that I want you to pay attention to.

If that's happening to you, Keep listening.

Number 3, they mirror you.

Which means they like what you like.

I'm into yoga.

Oh yeah, I'm into yoga too.

I work out.

Yeah, me too, I work out too.

I believe in spirituality.

Yeah, me too, I believe in spirituality too, you see what I'm saying?

They believe what you believe.

They had a similar childhood.

Sometimes, yeah, they had a similar childhood, even in reality.

And sometimes it all seems too aligned, and it might be, yeah, because mirroring is how manipulators gain trust fast.

If something has happened to you, it has happened to them too.

If it has happened to them, it's relatable, right?

So manipulators can gain your trust this way, so be careful of that.

OK, I have 2 more points for you.

Number 4, so we are at number, first one was love bombing, second one was fast forwarding the relationship too quickly, right?

And then number 3 was giving us the compliments, as over the top compliments.

Number 4, they mirror you.

Number 5, your gut is uneasy.

Here is something to really watch out for.

Some people who do not practice yoga or meditation or any form of body movements may not know this feeling, but.

Even if you don't do any movements, you may know this feeling, which is your gut is so uneasy, but you feel guilty for questioning it.

Like, you know something is off, but you just feel like, nah, it's probably, I'm just overthinking about this.

So this one is the biggest one, because this is your intuition talking to you, but you are rejecting it through your ego mind, right?

Like it could feel like you feel anxious, but then you shame yourself.

Like, why can't I just be happy?

Everything looks so good.

We had a great date.

We had an amazing vacation.

Because your intuition gets hijacked by your survival mode, OK?

So, if something feels uneasy, you have to question it.

All right.

I'll get down to the steps later on what you need to do, but for now, we're just getting on to red flag education points that I need you to just reflect on.

And last point is, they call you too sensitive when you start to express your needs, or they call you, oh my God, you get so angry, or you're overreacting, or you're crazy, or you're needy, or you talk so loudly.

Yeah, they say that to you.

They call you too sensitive when you express your needs.

And they flipped the script.

They changed the story.

Suddenly you're needy.

Suddenly you're crazy.

Suddenly you're ruining the good thing.

And now you're back to proving yourself.

So Why do many of us fall for this?

Because our nervous system is so used to chaos.

Because we mistake intensity for love.

Because we have been conditioned.

To be grateful for any attention we get at all.

A text message, we got to be grateful for that.

A call we're getting from a stranger, oh, we better be careful, we better be grateful.

Some guy is calling me.

Finally someone is calling me.

You see what I'm saying?

So here's the deal.

If you have childhood trauma, or just trauma in general, which is unhealed.

Healthy will feel very boring.

You know, you'll naturally crave the highs and the lows.

You'll crave the obsession of being with somebody.

You'll crave the push and the pull dynamic.

Because that's what your body thinks love is, but it's not.

But then what do we do, right?

Like, it's not love, and how do we come out of this crazy red flag situation?

Let's get practical.

Here is what we need to do, all right?

So take notes.

If you're listening, listen to it again.

If you miss a point, cause sometimes I can talk fast.

I'm sorry.

OK.

Number one, step one, slow down the pace because real love doesn't rush.

Real love does enforce.

Real love will respect your rhythm.

If it's real, it'll still be there in a month's time or 2 months or 4 years or 7 years.

It will be there.

OK.

Step 2, you get the point.

Step 2, you need to watch the patterns, not the potential.

Which means watch the patterns that you're sensing from this person, not the potential of what they could be in the future, OK?

For example, anyone can show up perfectly for 30 days, right?

Like I could be a whole new person for 30 days straight.

But someone's character is built over time, so ask yourself.

How do they respond when I say no?

Or how do they respond when I set a boundary?

Or when I'm not convenient.

How do they respond?

And that will tell you their pattern.

And then you don't have to believe in their potential.

You have to watch their pattern.

OK.

Step 3.

Hope you get this.

If not, you know how to reach me.

All my contact information is on the show notes.

Step 3.

You gotta journal your body's signals, OK?

So keep track of them.

When you're with them, how do you feel?

Do you feel expanded or do you feel contracted?

After they leave, do you feel safe?

Or do you feel anxious?

You need to basically journal this.

Like literally take a book or on your phones, in your notes app after you meet with them, right after the day, sit down, write.

How do I feel with this person?

How do I feel with this person?

OK.

Step 4.

I need you to talk to your circle.

So, if you don't have women friends, you don't have a support group, I highly invite you to have a support group.

Do your friends feel like you're changing too fast?

Do you feel like you are isolating them more?

You know, or do you feel like, are you isolating yourself more?

You're basically only hanging around with this one person and not them.

So red flags are very easier to spot when you're not under the spell, right?

It's easier, so they can spot it better for you.

And number 5 is, I need you to learn your archetype.

You have a pattern, and your healing archetype will show you why you are attracted or you're so attracted to the wrong person, or to the wrong people, and how to shift it.

It's free.

The quiz is at dimplebindra.com, which is my website.

The link is on the show notes, and that'll be your next step.

OK?

So take the quiz and learn about your pattern, and let's close this with some truth for you.

Love shouldn't feel like a high.

Love shouldn't make you question your sanity.

And love should feel safe, slow, and steady.

And I want you to speak these declarations with me, because when we speak this into the reality, the universe helps us to manifest it, and we start shifting our identity and our reality.

So say these with me.

Even if you have to pause this podcast, pause it, come back to it later, or you can say it with me and take notes and write it down, whatever you wanna do.

Number one.

I do not confuse intensity with intimacy.

I will repeat it twice.

I do not confuse intensity with intimacy.

I will no longer rush what is meant to be revealed over time.

I will no longer rush what is meant to be revealed over time.

I trust the pace of my body.

Not the pressure of the story.

I trust the pace of my body, not the pressure of the story.

I will not be swept away by charm.

I will not be swept away by charm.

I will be grounded in truth.

I will be grounded in truth.

I'm no longer a home for red flags.

I am no longer a home for red flags.

I question what feels too good to be true, because I trust myself now.

I question what feels too good to be true, because I trust myself now.

If this episode opened your eyes, let it open your heart too.

Girl, you're not broken for falling for love bombing.

We've all been there, OK?

You're healing by finally seeing it for what it is.

So I want you to really go to dimplebindra.com and take the healing architect quiz and find out what pattern has been attracting the very thing that you're trying to escape.

You deserve real love, not just the performance of it.

I see you, I love you.

I trust you.

And I'll meet you in the next episode of the Dimple Bindra show.

Thank you for listening.