Ep 90: Stop Forcing Yourself to Do Sh*t That Doesn’t Feel Good

How many times have you forced yourself to stay in a job, a relationship, or even a “healing” practice that secretly drained your soul? In this unapologetic episode of The Dimple Bindra Show, we’re exposing the truth about why women push themselves into toxic cycles that don’t feel good, and how to finally break free.

If you’ve ever felt the weight of burnout, betrayal trauma, toxic love, or emotional abuse, this conversation will hit home. You’ll discover why exhaustion isn’t weakness, it’s your body screaming for freedom. 

Your intuition, your feminine energy, and your truth are the medicine you’ve been waiting for.

Here’s what you’ll learn inside this no-BS, healing-from-the-inside-out episode:

• Why “should” is the most dangerous word in your vocabulary
• How forcing yourself to perform is actually self-abandonment
• The hidden ways your body has been protecting you all along
• Clear signs that your job, relationship, or healing journey is out of alignment
• A grounding exercise to get radically honest about what you’ve been forcing
• Soul-level declarations to reclaim your truth, power, and embodiment

This isn’t another motivational pep talk. This is a wake-up call for your nervous system. If you’ve been faking smiles through burnout, staying silent in toxic relationships, or numbing yourself with “spiritual to-do lists,” this episode is your permission slip to stop performing and start living in alignment with who you really are.

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Transcript

You know what's worse than failing? Forcing yourself to keep doing shit that feels wrong just to prove you're strong.

Welcome to the Dimple Bindra Show where we burn the rule book, we break the cycles, and we come home to truth and we speak our truth, and we don't give a shit about anybody.

Today's episode is not soft, it's not polite. It's not going to stroke your ego, but it will give you permission to finally stop pretending.

So if you've been pushing through, you're faking it, you're saying yes when your gut says no, then this one's for you.

And if you are tired of doing things that drain you, just because you think you should, then let's talk and please listen.

And if you don't know what your body's been trying to tell you all this time that I want you to really take the healing archetype quiz at dimplebindra.com, I'm also gonna add it to the show notes.

You'll get to the root of your survival pattern and understand why you override your truth to begin with.

So, let's stop forcing yourself to do shit that doesn't feel good.

Like, sister, this is the hard truth, OK?

And I want you to really listen to this podcast till the end because I'm gonna give you steps that you need to reflect on, listen to, and if something happens in your body like a sensation, a tingling sensation, feel, it feels like a cold sensation, or it feels like goosebumps, then it means your soul is listening, OK?

The hard truth is that you don't owe your energy to things that hurt you.

Let me say that to you again.

You do not owe your energy to anything that hurts you, not to the job, not to the relationship.

Not to any family expectations.

Not even to the version of yourself that thought that she had to do it all.

Why?

You're probably thinking, hm, what does that mean?

Because if it doesn't feel good in your body, it's not aligned.

You know, our body is a very sacred.

And very powerful place, which guides us on things we should be doing and things that we should not be doing, right?

If something aligns with your body, it feels good, it feels amazing, it feels like you're excited, you're happy, you're joyous, you know, the elated feeling.

But if something doesn't feel good.

You start getting a headache, you may get neck ache, shoulder aches, your chest feels constricted, you may feel anxiety.

Does that make sense?

Because that means it's not aligned, it's a no.

So your body is wiser than any other productivity chart out there, OK?

Or any cultural narrative that you're believing about yourself or any relationship advice column.

Your body knows what it's doing.

Your body will always give you signals, and it has been giving you signals and maybe you're just not listening.

So I want you to Learn I want you to know and learn what alignment really feels like.

Alignment feels like breath.

It feels like softness, it feels like peace.

It does not feel like dread.

It does not feel like tight shoulders, and it does not like saying, I'm fine with a smile that's lying, OK?

So, you know what I see too often working with so many women clients.

Even men, but now I'm focusing a lot on women, but I still have male clients.

But what I, what I'm trying to say is what I see very too often is women performing at work.

And women performing in relationships, and then women performing in healing circles, and then even performing in self-love, and all the while their bodies are begging them to fucking stop.

What does that mean?

It's begging you for space, it's begging you for rest, and your body's begging you for truth.

And let's call it like it is, OK?

Most of us learned how to survive by forcing ourselves to do it.

For me, I was always forcing myself to be the good girl.

It's probably the same for you.

Forcing ourselves to be the good girl, forcing ourselves to smile through the abuse, forcing ourselves to show up perfect and polished and productive, and go to the gym and you don't feel like going to the gym.

And doing all the other things.

But your soul was not born for performance.

It was born for truth.

And I'm going to talk about where this shows up and how to shift.

OK?

Let's talk about that.

How does it show up and how you can shift.

So keep listening till the end.

Number one, I need you to focus on.

That job that looks good, but feels like death, that's where you need to really focus on.

So if you're working based on your output, you're praised based on your output, you're successful on paper, but you cry in your car before you're going in, that is not ambition, girl.

That is not your ambition.

That's probably a paycheck, and that's also self abandonment.

So that's your first thing I need you to look on, OK?

Are you working at a place that's really causing a lot of dread for you?

If you are, you have to take steps to leave that fucking job.

You may have to do other things that make you feel better than what you're doing currently.

So that's the first thing I want you to look at.

The second thing I want you to look at is your relationship, OK?

The relationship that meets your timeline, but not your heart, right?

A lot of women, they say, oh yeah, he wants kids and he wants the house, but something doesn't feel right.

Like, OK, he wants the same things as you.

You both want kids, fine, you both probably want a marriage, you both probably want a house, but something in you knows it's not right.

If you feel it's not right about the kids and the marriage in the house with this fucking guy, then he's not supposed to be your guy.

Makes sense?

Because you could have the kids and the marriage in the house with a fucking toxic guy.

But if he's not the guy for you, your body is already giving you signals saying this, he's not the guy for you.

But yeah, you may get these other benefits being with this guy, but these benefits down the line are gonna end up in a divorce.

Like trust me I know what I'm talking about, right?

And if you, even if you don't have to trust me, at least understand that your body is more sacred than my voice.

Your body is already telling you the truth.

You need to follow what your body is telling you.

So stop making your life decisions from loneliness.

There are millions of single women out there who go and date other guys who are successful, but they are unattractive to them, so they're unattractive.

They're not even attracted to the guy and the guy.

wants kids in a marriage in a house and these women don't even like the guy in the first place, but then they end up marrying the person, right?

So that's a big no no.

Your body is telling you, hey, this is not love, this is not what you're supposed to do, so listen to what your body's telling you.

OK.

We talked about the job, we talked about the relationship, right?

So now, I'm going to talk about the 3rd thing, which is the healing journey that became another perfection project.

So many women Tell me they are, they wanna, they wanna heal.

they wanna do yoga class, they wanna do meditation.

OK, great.

So, you start meditating, you start journaling, you start doing yoga your way into fucking numbness.

And what do I mean by that?

You're sitting, meditating, but deep down, you're totally numb.

You're not aware of your body, you're not aware of your breath.

You're probably going to thinking mode.

That's not meditation.

You're journaling because you have to do journaling because your code said it or I said it.

All right, great.

You're journaling every day, but then what?

Deep down in your head, you're going into overthinking when you're journaling.

Or you're becoming numb when you're journaling, you're just doing it just because you have to do it.

So you're forcing yourself into doing it.

But you're still disconnected, right?

You're doing the work, you do yoga every day.

You wake up every day, you do like 20 so and so mutations, yeah, and you text me dimple, I've done 2020 sun rotations.

Now what?

Now nothing.

You're still fucking disconnected.

Makes sense.

You're doing the work, but you're not feeling the shift because you're doing it like another job, another project.

That's not the way to live your life.

Don’t force yourself to do anything.

And take mark it after you complete it like a to-do list.

So here is your permission slip. I'm gonna give you a permission slip. Ready?
 You don't have to keep doing it just because you started it.
 No.
 You don't have to keep doing it just because you started it, even if it's a job, it's a marriage, it's a yoga routine, it's a diet.
 You don't have to.
 You don't have to stay just because they expect you to stay.
 You don't have to.
 You don't have to finish things that are finishing you in the process.
 Makes sense?
 You don't have to.

So how do we know when to walk away?
 Obviously, you're listening to this podcast because you've been doing shit that you don't even feel good about.
 So let's talk about how do we know when to really walk away.

So here's a little exercise I'm going to give you.
 So ask yourself this question, right?
 If no one was watching me, would I still choose to do this?

Hm.
 If no one was watching me, would I still choose to do this?
 If the answer is no, let that be enough.
 That is your answer.

And I know what you're thinking.
 But I don't want to disappoint my mom.
 I don't want to disappoint my dad or my sisters or my brothers.
 I don't want to disappoint people.

You know what?
 Hear me out.
 You're not.
 I mean, honestly, you're not disappointing anybody.
 You're disappointing yourself every time you choose their comfort over your own truth.

OK.
 Because the truth is you don't want to do this, but you're doing it for ten number of reasons, and those reasons are not serving your highest good.

So let's get back in your body for a moment.
 Right now, I want you to do this.
 I want you to really close your eyes.
 If you're driving, please don't do this.
 If you're walking, you can totally walk and close your eyes and stop.
 So right now, just put your one hand on your belly, your one hand on your heart.
 And close your eyes, right?
 Breathe deeply.
 Inhale.
 Exhale.
 And ask yourself, what have I been forcing?

So I'm asking you this question: what have you been forcing?
 Notice if you get an answer.
 What truth have you been silencing?
 What are some things that you really want to say, but you're just keeping quiet, you know?
 So what truth have you been silencing?

Now, just breathe out, and let it go.
 And whatever answers you got today.
 Whether you got them or not, maybe ask them again.
 What have you been forcing?
 What truth have you been silencing?

And know that you were not born to hustle yourself into resentment.
 You were born to live from overflow.

And now I want you to repeat these out loud.
 These are declarations, so please listen to me carefully.
 These are declarations that you would repeat with me.
 It's not a wish.
 Don't repeat them as a wish, but as a command to your reality, OK?

So, repeat after me:
 I no longer force what drains me.
 I don't chase alignment.
 I listen for it.
 I don't shrink for safety.
 I expand in truth.
 I don't perform worthiness.
 I embody it.
 I do not stay where my body screams no.
 I trust my signals.
 I follow my knowing.
 I honor my rhythm.
 And I let go of what is not mine to carry.

Take a breath. Inhale.
 Exhale.

You are in the truth land, sister.
 If this podcast really hit something in you, a nerve in you, that's good, OK?
 This was your body reminding you that she's still in there waiting for you.

So here's what I want you to do next.
 I want you to go to dimplebindra.com.
 The link is also in the show notes and take the healing archetype quiz and discover why you keep overriding your truth and how to break that pattern, because you don't have to keep forcing it.

You're allowed to feel good.
 And your joy, OK, is your fucking birthright.

So I love you. I trust you. And I'll meet you in the next episode of the Dimple Bindra Show.

See ya.