Ep 92: Divorce Isn’t a Failure, It’s a Fucking Rebirth!

What if divorce isn’t the end, but the beginning? In this soul-shifting episode of The Dimple Bindra Show, I share my raw truth about filing for my second divorce,  and why walking away isn’t failure, it’s a sacred return to yourself.

This is not just about separation. It’s about breaking patterns, reclaiming freedom, and rewriting your love story. For every woman who has been shamed, silenced, or pressured to stay in a marriage at any cost, this episode is your mirror and your medicine.

You’ll discover:

• Why divorce isn’t a dirty word, it’s a rebirth
• The deep grief and liberation that come with leaving
• How cultural conditioning tells women marriage is the “goal”
• Five soul-healing steps to move through heartbreak and return home to yourself
• How to reclaim your rituals, rewire your patterns, and rediscover your worth

Divorce doesn’t make you broken. It makes you whole again. This episode is a wake-up call for women navigating divorce, betrayal, toxic love, or cultural shame reminding you that your healing, your freedom, and your power matter more than anyone’s expectations.

✨ Plus, I’ll share a powerful invitation to discover your Healing Archetype the hidden survival pattern that may be shaping how you love, trust, and choose.

✨ Not sure why you keep sabotaging your healing or staying stuck in survival mode? Take my free Healing Archetype Quiz to uncover the hidden pattern blocking your power and discover how to rise as the woman you were born to be.

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Transcript

You know what, divorce is not the end of your story. Sometimes it's the first time you have told the truth. Welcome back to the Dimple Bender show. This is the space where women who have been shamed, silenced, and sacrificed, finally get to rise, and today's episode is for the woman who's ever whispered to herself: What if leaving doesn't mean I failed? What if it means I finally chose myself?

If that line hits you in the chest, then this episode is for you. I want you to listen to it till the end, and if you are navigating divorce, separation, or a painful decision to walk away, I see you, and I want you to know, divorce isn't a failure. It's a fucking rebirth.

And if you want to understand your deepest pattern in love and why certain dynamics keep playing out, then please take the healing archetype quiz at dimplebindra.com. It's your personal mirror and it's your map to come back home to yourself. So, let's do this together.

OK, I know this topic is such a crazy topic, right? Like people feel it's a taboo topic, they don't want to talk about it. Some women really fear this word. It's actually a dirty word, you know. And for a lot of people, it's a very dirty word. They're like, I don't want to talk about divorce. Like they just don't even want to use that word, even in relationships, a lot of people do not talk about this word.

But to me, I don't think divorce is a dirty word. I don't think it's like, it's not shameful. It's not selfish, and it's not a sign that you're broken. Sometimes divorce is the most courageous, soul honoring decision a woman can actually make, especially when the world has told her to stay small, stay silent, or to stay married.

And, you know, we have been told as girls, right, it's crazy, especially in the Indian culture. I'm sure about the Asian culture too. We're told from such a young age that marriage is the goal. You know, I remember my dad used to tell me, when you grow older, like you have to get married and that's the goal, and you're gonna go to your in-laws' home, and that's gonna be your real home. To me, I felt like, wow, it's like a fairy tale, right? It feels like a fairy tale. I was young, didn't understand what marriage means, wasn't a dysfunctional family, and I used to think, what, this is how my life is going to be, like, like you and mom. It's, and we are told like that's the finish line, like marriage is the finish line. But what if marriage wasn't the fucking goal, but it's actually a teacher, you know. Have you thought about that?

And by the time this episode really comes out, I am going to publicly announce this. I have filed for my second divorce already. Did my mom tell me not to publicly announce it? Yes, she did, but guess what? I don't care anymore about what people think about my life. This is my life, and I am saying this because I can do whatever I want to do in my life and I'm no longer going to take bullshit from people who don't serve my highest calling, right?

Through this divorce that I'm going through right now. I learned a lot and I learned my boundaries, I learned the person I am. I learned how to become powerful. I learned my worth because I don't think I had all those things when I was in when I was dating this person, but I feel like now I'm a different person. Does it hurt? Yes, it hurts. Is it gonna hurt for the rest of my life? Maybe not. Maybe it's gonna hurt for the next couple of months or days. I have my moments. I'm not saying it's perfect, or it's going to be perfect for anybody. We all are grieving in our own ways, especially when we go through betrayal or we go through heartbreaks and divorce is one of them, right?

But I'm coming back to the point that I was mentioning before. And this is what I'm reflecting on. What if marriage wasn't the goal, but the actual teacher. And what if the lesson wasn't about making it work, but about remembering your worth? Did you think I just left my relationship like that? No, like nobody does. No woman just leaves a man without making it work 1000 times, right?

And like I already mentioned, I have walked through divorce. Twice and each time it gutted me. I fucking hated it. I always felt guilty. I always felt like maybe I should have given him another chance. Yeah, like what, 1500 time chance, like a millionth time, I should have given him a chance. I questioned everything. I lost people. I lost identities, right? Different identity. I was a different person the first time. I was a different person the second time. Today I'm a whole different person, so I lost my identities, and you will too.

But what I found in the whole process of marriage was one thing. Was me. Because sometimes we don't realize how much of ourselves we gave away until we are standing alone, looking in the mirror and seeing ourselves clearly for the first time in years.

This is actually my 2nd podcast that I'm recording in my new place, right? Got divorced, got separated. And I'm in my new place right now and I still have boxes around me, but I'm still committed to making my podcast, writing my newsletters, putting up my content, right?

So I found this is who I am, and sometimes marriages is not for everybody. It's just a fantasy that we are told to live by, but we are not supposed to follow the fantasy till the end. Maybe that fantasy was programmed in us by our culture, at least for me it was by my mom, my dad, my family. You know, because they feel like when a girl is alone, oh my God, the girl shouldn't be alone, or a girl should have babies, or a girl should be married and only then she's a proper woman. No, it's not.

So coming back to. Marriage and divorce. Sometimes we just don't realize how much of ourselves we gave away until we are standing alone and looking in the mirror and like seeing ourselves clearly for the first time in years. That moment, the moment when you remember who you are. Is actually the beginning of your rebirth.

And as I'm making this podcast, I'm trying to not just teach you, but telling you that I'm also walking on the same path. And I have walked on it once before. This is my 2nd fucking time. And maybe I'm rageful today, maybe I'm upset. Because I just filed it, right?

So if you are in it right now, if you have just filed, or you're packing boxes, or you're sleeping alone in a bed that used to carry someone else's breath, I want you to breathe with me, girl. You are not alone. You're not crazy, and you're not too late. You are right on time for your healing. You are exactly at the right place at the right time.

Who said this? The Buddha. Got them with us at this, and I'm gonna talk about a few truths that we don't say enough.

Number one is that you didn't fail because the relationship ended. Some of you may be feeling this way. I mean, a part of me felt that way too. Maybe the other person whom we divorced also feels that way, but that's not the truth. You didn't fail because the relationship ended. You succeeded the moment you stopped abandoning yourself. Let that soak in for a moment. You're succeeding in this because you decided I'm no longer going to take this bullshit anymore, no matter what that bullshit was. It could be disrespect, it could be abandoning yourself, it could be abuse, it could be gaslighting behavior, whatever that person was doing to you. You're succeeding because you decided I'm no longer going to tolerate this. That's a powerful move. OK.

Number 2, grief is normal. I need you to understand that. Even if you were the one who chose to leave, even if he or she hurt you. Grief doesn't mean you made the wrong decision. It just means that you're human. It's very normal for us when we lose something. You know, we have grief over things like if you fail a test, you will grieve about it. If someone broke into your car. And they smashed your windshield. You're gonna grieve about it for a day or 2 or 4. This was a relationship. You probably had a ceremony together. You probably had people come over at your wedding. You probably had families talking, interacting with each other, relationships building, not just the two of you. So it's normal for you to feel this way. Because you are grieving that woman who you were back then, that found this person.

And the third thing I want to tell you is this. Your worth is not tied to your relationship status. Being single doesn't mean you're behind, you know, being divorced doesn't mean you're unlovable. Even though the society may claim that and be like, oh my God, she's divorced again, or she's divorced now, even if it's your 1st time, 2nd time, 10th time. It means you were brave enough to let go of a story that wasn't true anymore for you. You were brave enough to let go of a story. That you were being told and you don't want to believe it. You're like, nope, I'm not believing this bullshit about about this story of mine anymore. I don't want to live this reality. It doesn't feel good anymore and it's OK for us to step out of that story and create a reality. That we always wanted for ourselves, but sometimes. That reality is not created by the other person whom you got married to. Sometimes that reality. It's created by the universe. It's created by the divine, the, you know, divine feminine, divine masculine, if you believe in God. Sometimes we are put through these. Stories that need to be ended because the universe has its own way for us to learn. The universe wants us to learn in a better way.

Like, did I ever think I'm going to move out and live in a whole separate place? I never thought that, to be honest. I thought this person will be my last person. But he wasn't. So what? So fucking what? Does that mean I need to keep grieving my older relationship? Maybe for a certain period, but then I have to move on, and so do you. And that's when the rebirth is happening. Universe is gonna give you lessons that you need to learn, and if you do not learn the lesson, universe will do its best to take away the people that you think were going to stay with you for the rest of your life.

If you look at history, especially all our ascended masters, none of them had good marriages. Most of them had really bad marriages. You know, let's talk about Lord Shiva and Goddess Parvati. They didn't have a good marriage. Why? Because it was full of turbulence and suffering. What about Lord Ramh and Sita? They didn't have a good marriage either. They had a lot of suffering. So what makes us believe that our marriage is gonna be. Beds, bed of roses. No, it's, it's an illusion, and I wanna break that illusion and I wanna take you to rebirthing now, OK?

So, I want you to understand that divorce may be your rebirth, and it probably is. You won't believe it right now. Part of me may not believe it right now, but I'm making this podcast for a reason. And this podcast is all about making you understand that you may be under a false illusion and let's break it.

So step one that I want you to do is. If you're still with me, and if this is bringing on some emotions for you. I hear you. I feel your pain, cause I'm also feeling the same grief that you are, right?

So your first step is let yourself fall apart. You don't have to be graceful. You don't have to do your makeup every day. You don't have to be strong every day. You can live in a mess, you can be a mess. You're allowed to be messy. You're allowed to cry on the floor, on your bed, in the shower, in your car. You're allowed to delete all the pictures at 2 a.m. And then redownload them again at 4. You can only do that. That's what grief looks like. It's not perfect for anybody. Everyone has their own way of grieving. But grief is a sacred part of your transformation. So, I just want to tell you, do whatever you feel like doing in the moment. Let yourself fall apart.

Number 2, I really want you to practice this, and I have been practicing this myself as well, OK? I need you to reclaim all your rituals, girl, reclaim them. So much of your identity was likely tied to them, right? Which is tied to their life, their routine, their schedule, their needs. Now it's time for you to ask, hey, what do I want to do when I wake up? Do I want to go for a walk? Do I want to meditate? Do I want to just be on my bed for like 2 hours and then go to work? What nourishes my body? You wanna ask these questions to yourself, What quiets my mind?

So when you ask these questions, you are basically reclaiming your own ritual, because this is what your life needs to be, but it was not when you were married to that other person. For me, for example, 4:30 p.m. I would stop working because I'm like, nope, I'm gonna go out for a walk, 5:30 I come back, I'm gonna cook dinner, you know, because he's going to get home. I don't no longer have to do that anymore for him. I'm gonna do that for myself, right? Because I like to eat at 5:30 p.m. so I am gonna cook myself dinner.

Before, I didn't care about the presentation of dinner because I was so hurriedly making my dinner and do off on the plate. But now, when I'm eating alone, I decorate my plate, you know, maybe for the first time ever, but I decorate it. I'm like, no, this needs to look good. I never cared about presentation. I thought, no, man, I don't want to be high maintenance. Maybe presentation is for high maintenance. No, I wanna be high maintenance for myself.

So try this, right? Just an idea. I've tried this here in my new place. Maybe you can try it also. Light a candle every morning. And whisper an intention for your day. Just Today I want to feel good. Today I feel powerful. Today, I want my work to go smoothly as possible. Whatever your intention is, create one moment that's just yours. I want you to try that.

OK. You're still with me. We have a few more steps, 3 more steps for you to do. So the first one was, let yourself fall apart. The second one was reclaim your rituals. Do something for yourself, get your time back, get your energy back, work on your routine, work on your schedule, work on your needs.

Number 3, I really want you to rewire your story about love, OK? If you were in a toxic or unfulfilling marriage, it's easy to just start believing love is unsafe or unavailable, but that's not true, right? But love didn't hurt you. Someone who didn't know how to love you did.

So write a letter to love. Yeah, trust me, this really works. Write a letter to love and say—just the energy of love itself, right? I want you to just write a letter and I want you to tell it what you want. I want you to tell love what you won't tolerate anymore. What you believe it can be now, and you need to speak it out loud, for example:

Love, I know you're safe.
 Love, I know you're not a bed of roses every day, but I know you're calm.
 I know when I'm around you I will feel comforted.
 I know when I'm around love I'm gonna feel full of myself.
 I know when I'm around you I'll feel uplifted and powerful.
 Love, I know when I'm around you, you will bring out the best in me.
 I know when I'm around you, if I'm sad, you'll hold me.

This is just my version of a letter. You can write your own version of a letter. Because you're believing that about love, but that is not true. Some person unloved you or some person didn't love you or hurt you, but it has nothing to do with love.

And I'm gonna go on to my next step. I need you to connect with another woman, like literally connect with other women because isolation can keep us stuck, but community is medicine. So I want you to find circles. I want you to join women's groups. I want you to come into spaces where you can be witnessed and held without fixing, without any judgment, because your healing really accelerates when you feel seen.

And if you want to be part of a circle, just connect with me. If you take our quiz, which I'm gonna talk about next, on this podcast, there is a healing archetype quiz that I told you about in the beginning of the podcast. The link is also gonna be in the show notes. After you do the quiz and you find out your pattern, you will be taken over to a page where it says join our waitlist. I need you to join our waitlist for our women's circles because in August, I'm gonna start our women's circles and I want you to be part of it.

So, number 5, we talked about connecting with other women and in the circle, we are going to be connecting with other women.

Last step, I need you to get to know your survival archetype. I just talked to you about that quiz. So why is this quiz important? It's important because your divorce didn't happen out of nowhere. It was a result of a deeper pattern that you are exhibiting. Maybe you were exhibiting patterns of overgiving. I was an overgiver. Maybe you were exhibiting patterns of self-abandonment, silencing your truth.

So this healing archetype quiz that you will take will help you to see the energetic role that you have been playing. So you don't keep playing it in your next chapter. Because if you don't do this quiz, you wouldn't know your pattern and you'll repeat the same mistakes you made in this particular relationship. You will attract a similar kind of person the next time.

So, make sure you do take the quiz, it's completely free. Cause it's time for you to make the unconscious conscious, OK?

And let me leave you with this before we end the podcast. You're not just healing from a divorce, you are rebirthing a woman who is whole, who doesn't need a ring to be radiant, who doesn't need a last name changed to feel powerful. I never changed my last name, by the way, and who doesn't need anyone else's permission to rise.

You are not hard to love, you're hard to manipulate, and that's why you left, and that's why I left. You don't need to prove your softness. You don't need to justify your pain. You don't need to remember who you were, but you just need to remember who the hell you are today.

So if this episode felt like it's a medicine to your soul, please share it with your sister, maybe your coworker, your friend who's still pretending she's fine.

And most importantly, just a reminder, take the healing archetype quiz at dimplebindra.com and find out your survival pattern. And begin again, not from fear, but from truth, because your divorce is not the end. It's the sacred return to the woman you were always meant to become.

I love you. I see you, and I'll meet you in the next episode.