Ep 100: Why Emotional Neglect in Marriage Feels Worse Than Breakup or Divorce?

What’s lonelier than being single? Being married and feeling completely invisible.

In this episode of The Dimple Bindra Show, we dive deep into the truth so many women never dare to admit out loud, what it means to be in a loveless marriage. Behind closed doors, countless women wake up next to their partner, share a home, even raise children, yet feel emotionally starved, unseen, and silenced.

Dimple unpacks why women stay in marriages that are draining their souls:

• The fear, shame, culture, and “what will people say?” that keep us stuck
• The survival patterns that confuse duty with devotion
• The dangerous addiction to hope that “maybe tomorrow he’ll change”
• The silence we use to keep the peace, even when it kills us inside

You’ll learn why a loveless marriage is not just “hard times”, it’s a form of emotional neglect that rewires your nervous system to normalize absence. And more importantly, you’ll discover how to begin healing: naming the truth, reconnecting with your body, rewriting love in your nervous system, and breaking the archetype patterns (The Fixer, The Pleaser, The Perfectionist, Disappearing One and The Protector) that keep you trapped.

This episode is not about shame, it’s about liberation. It’s a reminder that you are not “too much,” not broken, and not unworthy. Your hunger for connection is holy. Your children deserve to see you whole, not invisible. And you deserve love that is alive, not absent.

If this episode resonates with you, please leave a review on iTunes and share it with a sister who needs to hear these words. You are not here to die slowly in silence. You are here to rise, reclaim your truth, and remember: You are the love you’ve been waiting for.

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Transcript

You know what's lonelier than being single? Being married and feeling completely invisible. Waking up next to someone every day, but feeling like your soul is starving, sharing a house, a bed. The dinner table, maybe even kids, but not sharing your truth. Sister, that's not marriage, that's a cage.

Welcome to the Dimple Bindra Show, the space where women finally get to name the pain they have been silenced in. Today we're talking about something most women never dare to admit out loud, what it means to be in a loveless marriage. If you have ever laid in bed next to your partner and felt the ache of loneliness in your chest, if you have ever thought, why do I feel more alone married than I did single? Then this episode is for you.

If you're ready to understand the deeper survival pattern that's kept you in this marriage, go to dimplevindra.com and take the healing archetype quiz. It's free and it will show you exactly the role you've been playing in your relationships and how to finally break free from it. And I want to be super honest with you here. Most women don't stay in loveless marriages because they want to. They stay because of, are you ready? Is the drum rolling, fear, shame, culture, the children, and what will people say?

And another harsh truth is that society praises you for staying, even if it's killing you inside. Which is such a good wife and she's a good mother and she's a strong woman. She has it all together, but here's what they never say. Strength without love is just suffering in disguise. So why do we women stay in loveless marriages? Because we confuse duty with devotion. Let me explain. From little girls we were told marriage is the finish line, that being a good wife is our highest role.

So when love disappears, we cling to duty because leaving would really mean like we failed, and that's why we stick around, we just evaporate ourselves and we become invisible. And the second reason that I have found in my experience working with clients is that we're addicted to hope. Hope that maybe tomorrow he will see us. Maybe tomorrow he'll look at it in our eyes and literally have a conversation. Or maybe that if we do more, love will come back. Hoping that if we are patient enough, we'll be chosen again, but hope when it keeps you in harm is not faith, it's self abandonment.

And I think the third reason is we mistakenly just silence ourselves for safety. You've learned to just bite your tongue, to stop talking, to stop asking for affection, to numb yourself, to don't have a conversation, because speaking your truth feels dangerous. Either dangerous to them because every time you try talking they run away or they say that. You're too loud, or what do you want from me now? Or they start looking at the clock and be like, oh my God, I gotta go someplace else, but my wife is bitching right now, you see what I'm saying? But every time you silence yourself, you die a little more on the inside.

So the truth about loveless marriages, and here's what nobody really tells you. Being in a loveless marriage is a form of emotional starvation. It wires your nervous system to normalize neglect. Let me say that again. It really wires you and your nervous system, just normalize neglect. Like this is something you need to get used to. It teaches your children that love looks like absence. And it absolutely convinces you. That asking for real connection is too much. Because what is he going to say? What is he going to think? He'll think I need him, he'll think this, he'll think that, and therefore you just don't ask. You hide, you shut down, and you stop communicating. And then in the end, you are dead. You're dead on the inside in a loveless marriage.

I need you to hear me. You're not too much. You're not unworthy, you're not broken. You are a woman starving for something sacred, and that hunger is actually holy. It's very holy. It's pure, it's divine, and that connection, that hunger is for you to start connecting with yourself. So how does healing really look like, right? You're in this crazy marriage. I'll call it loveless for now. How can you heal? What do you do right now if you are in it at this moment?

Number one, stop lying to yourself. Admit it. Say the words out loud. I am in a loveless marriage. I am in a sexless, sexless marriage. Say whatever you need to say. Naming the truth is the first step to freedom. OK, so that, that's your first step. Your second step is, I need you to reconnect with your body. Your body has been silenced for years. It has been small, so you need to stand tall. A hand on your heart, one hand on your boom. If you don't want to do this standing, lay down, breathe and ask, what do you need today? You're asking your body, what do you need today? And sometimes those little words that come out, the little voice, listen to it and give it. That is your inner child talking. OK, so listen to it and I need you to give it. No one else can give that to you. You need to give it to yourself. Whatever the voice says. My voice usually says, I need olives, and I literally have 5 bottles of olives because I love olives, OK? So that's what my body needs and that's what I give it.

Number 3, rewrite love in your nervous system. Tell yourself daily. I am worthy of tenderness. I am worthy of safety. I am safe to receive love that stays. Your body must learn that love is possible and that it doesn't come with neglect, OK? So you want to keep saying these beautiful affirmations until that becomes your reality. And step 4 is I need you to break the archetype. Are you the pleaser? Are you the fixer? Are you the martyr? Are you the disappearing one? Whichever archetype you are until you know your archetype, you will keep replaying this role. Whether you stay in this marriage or you leave this marriage. Most of you are not going to leave this marriage. Most of you are gonna stay because I recommend you to stay and heal, stay and heal, stay and heal. Until there is time for you to leave or maybe that time will never come. That's your karma. There are a lot of other complexities that involves in it. If you need, if your case is complex, reach out to me. And that's why I need you to start this quiz because this quiz is the first step, right? It's so important. It's not just information, it's your mirror. This quiz will tell you what's really going on inside, and then you can change it on the outside.

So, sister, marriage is not supposed to feel like loneliness. It's not supposed to feel like begging. It's not supposed to feel like dying slowly in silence. Marriage without love is just a contract. But marriage with love is a sacred union, and if love is gone, you have a choice. To keep betraying yourself for appearances, or to rise for the woman in the mirror. Who is whispering, please don't abandon me anymore.

Here are some beautiful declarations that you can say with me right now as you're listening to this podcast. Say this with me, I will not stay where my soul cannot breathe. I will not stay where my soul cannot breathe. I am worthy of love. That is alive, not absent. My children deserve to see me whole and not broken. My children deserve to see me whole and not broken. Next, I choose truth over tradition. I am the love I've been waiting for. That's my favorite one. I'm the love that I've been waiting for. And if this episode cracks something in you, just don't walk away, please go to dimplebinger.com, take the healing archetype quiz. I'm also gonna add it in the show notes and once you do, you'll see an invitation to join my free women's circle. It's a space where women like you finally get to be witnessed, not silenced, and I will personally email you after you take the quiz to tell you why I created it and how it can be the first step in helping you rise.

Because you are not here to live in a marriage without love. You're here to live in truth, in freedom, and in wholeness. I love you, I honor you, and I'll meet you in the next episode of the Dimple Bendra Show. Bye. If this episode spoke to you, then please give us a review on iTunes. I will really appreciate it and if you felt something, shifting your chest or your gut, that's not just a podcast moment. That's your soul saying, hey, we are ready. So head over to dimplebindra.com and take my healing archetype quiz. I'm also gonna add the link to my show notes. It's gonna help you understand the pattern that's been running your life. The one you didn't even know was there. And once you take the quiz, you'll see a button to join the waitlist for You Are Awakening. That's my Women's Circle, and it's where we do this work together with other amazing sisters. You don't have to heal in silence anymore. I'm so glad you're here, and I'll see you in the next episode. Bye.