Ep 125: How I Discovered My Husband Was Cheating and Had Another Wife in India | Full Story

I waited one full year to release this episode.

In this deeply personal and unscripted conversation, I share the full story of how I discovered my husband was living a double life while secretly married in India. What started as love bombing, spiritual connection, and future plans slowly turned into projection, gaslighting, cheating, violence, manipulation, immigration fraud, and ultimately a shocking annulment case.

This is not just a story about betrayal.
It’s a story about intuition.
The red flags we ignore.
The psychological patterns that keep women trapped.
And the emotional devastation that happens when your reality collapses overnight.

In this episode, I open up about:
• The early red flags I ignored
• Love bombing, projection, and emotional manipulation
• Domestic violence and psychological abuse
• Discovering hidden phones, cheating, and secret identities
• Fighting my own annulment case in California
• How betrayal impacts the nervous system, body, and identity
• Why women must emotionally stabilize before making major decisions

If you are currently going through betrayal, infidelity, divorce, emotional abuse, or the collapse of a relationship you thought was real, this episode is for you.

You are not crazy.
You are not overreacting.
And you are not alone.

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Transcript

 0:15: I waited one full year to release this podcast. 
 0:20: This podcast is about how I discovered my husband was cheating and living a double life. 
 0:26: So many of you have reached out to me on Instagram, on Facebook, because I have said this here and there, but nobody really knows the true story. 
 0:35: So, I, this podcast is not scripted, so pardon me if I'm gonna make mistakes as I'm talking, as usually I don't script my podcast, but at least, you know, have to prepare. 
 0:46: But I'm not prepared for this because this is my true story, and this story may hit some of you, may unders and some of you may even understand that this has been happening, not just to me, but so many other girls, so many other women in this world, right? 
 1:02: And, I'm not against men, but there are some assholes out there that are doing these things to women for what? 
 1:14: For money, for status in the country, right? 
 1:18: For validation, maybe all of the three, and for multiple other things, for having a double life just because they want to feed into their ego. 
 1:28: So, let's start. 
 1:30: I didn't find out about this moment. 
 1:32: I felt it long before I had proof. 
 1:36: I met this person online, on Facebook, 2019. 
 1:41: We connected, there was a lot of love bombing that started, and this is how it goes for a lot of women. 
 1:48: Sometimes everything looks perfect, right? 
 1:51: So there was a lot of love bombing. 
 1:53: We dated, and then we met at, in Singapore multiple times before we actually got married in 2021. 
 2:01: So in 2021, by the time that I dated this person from 2019 to 2021, he lived in India. 
 2:08: And he always told me that he had this girlfriend, right? 
 2:12: I'm not gonna name her because she specifically told me not to, and I'm never gonna name her, maybe only in friend circles, but not publicly. 
 2:22: I mean, OK, I'm gonna, I'm going to forward, let's go back, 2019 to 2021, this guy always told me. 
 2:28: That he was in a live-in relationship with a woman, and he had separated from her. 
 2:35: OK, fine, you know, that's his past, I don't care. 
 2:38: Everyone has a past. 
 2:39: I mean, I was married before him and I had gone through one divorce already. 
 2:44: So for me, this was like, OK, I made one mistake, maybe this is it, maybe this is the guy for me, maybe God sent me the right person, you know, because sometimes girls like us who have been, Growing up or who grew up in like a dysfunctional family household under fathers, who are absent for their daughters, we somehow attract, and I've said this over and over again, we somehow attract partners like our fathers. 
 3:14: I thought I had healed, but sounds like I didn't, right? 
 3:18: So a part of me attracted a narcissist, a part of me attracted a guy who just love bombed me. 
 3:24: And I'm not gonna, I'm not here to say the story to like defame somebody, but my intention is so that you can relate to my story and see where are you probably making these mistakes, or where are you probably doing such things where you feel like, OK, I better watch out, I better be cautious instead of jumping all in, right? 
 3:44: So, this is what he has always told me that he, like I said, had a past and the past was just a girl. 
 3:51: Whom he had lived in a relationship with. 
 3:53: All right, so fast forward 2021. 
 3:55: I sponsor him. 
 3:57: yeah, I sponsor him all the way from India. 
 3:59: Why did I sponsor him? 
 4:00: A lot of people ask me, why did you freaking sponsor an immigrant from India? 
 4:04: Why didn't you find anyone here? 
 4:06: OK, if I had found somebody here, guys, I would have married somebody here. 
 4:11: I didn't find the right person. 
 4:13: Makes sense. 
 4:13: It's not that I was going out there and looking for the right. 
 4:17: guy, right? 
 4:18: I was not going shopping for guys. 
 4:20: This just happened. 
 4:21: It clicked. 
 4:22: And if you guys know me, I'm spiritual, and most girls are, and they think like this is the right thing and the universe is sending me this person, you know, that's all the, I should say, a tangent that we think about, right? 
 4:33: Like we have this mentality, spiritual people have this mentality. 
 4:38: Someone comes on their way, they're like, oh, the universe has sent me this person. 
 4:42: So I ignore the red flags. 
 4:44: So red flag number 1 was, one day, I think during our dating phase, it was long distance. 
 4:49: The first red flag was for 4 days he was missing. 
 4:52: Makes sense? 
 4:52: 4 days, no contact, nothing, and I'm like, consistent, right? 
 4:55: So that was my first red flag. 
 4:56: What was the story behind like 4 days that he was missing? 
 4:59: Oh, I want to really tell you something, and then he opened up that he had a past. 
 5:03: That was my first red flag. 
 5:05: The second red flag that I missed during the dating phase, while this was a long distance relationship was that on his Facebook account, there were multiple, Women that he liked pages of, you know, I mean, to some people it's like, oh, that's nothing, right? 
 5:24: Yeah, you guys can discount that, but that tells a lot about a person. 
 5:28: And his answer was, when I confronted him, I'm like, what is this? 
 5:30: Why are you liking, why is your public professional page? 
 5:35: It's a professional page. 
 5:36: Why? 
 5:36: Because he's a professional artist. 
 5:39: Artist means, you know what, let me, let me just be clear. 
 5:42: Professional artist means a singer, a singer, a Punjabi singer that sings in Hindi. 
 5:47: I thought he's a professional artist, but looks like a pro, he was not a professional artist, because if you are a professional person, you better know that your name is gonna go out there in the near future if you do something wrong publicly, right? 
 6:00: Anyway, so the second red flag was that when I confronted him on the Facebook page, I'm like, you're liking so many women, like, what the fuck is this? 
 6:07: He's like, Like, oh, no, my page is taken care of by my team and my team has to like all these other pages so that we get a lot of views. 
 6:15: I'm like, all right, maybe that's like an artist thing. 
 6:18: But something felt fishy for me on the inside, right? 
 6:20: I'm like, wait a second, do all celebrities do that? 
 6:23: Like, I did not, I did not know much about Facebook or whatever, Instagram and the likes and views back then. 
 6:28: So I'm like, all right, fell for the story, but I felt something was wrong. 
 6:32: And then this projection started, which is, if I don't answer the phone call, Here in California, he's in India. 
 6:39: If I don't answer phone calls here, he would start saying things like, oh, I know you were talking to other guys, and I'm like, no, I don't talk to other guys. 
 6:46: Like I only have clients, you know, that's it. 
 6:48: I have clients. 
 6:49: I, I don't even have colleagues. 
 6:51: Yeah, I have male personal trainers because back then I was a yoga instructor teaching at different places. 
 6:56: And I'm like, no, I didn't. 
 6:58: But then he would be like, yeah, I know it, and then he would like be so sure, and he would be like, he'll start calling me names, right? 
 7:05: And I got upset once, 23 times, 4 times, but then I'm like, let me just understand this person. 
 7:11: Here is the other part that women do. 
 7:15: We try to fix our partners. 
 7:19: We try to go beyond what we see in the relationship, and we try to understand their trauma, which is a big red flag for you because you are not supposed to be their therapist, right? 
 7:33: So that's what I did. 
 7:34: I'm like, wait a second, I'm a professional, I understand people's psychology. 
 7:38: And maybe this guy just needs, you know, some support, some help, a loving partner, because the story that he told me was, he was in a live-in relationship with a girl and that girl cheated on him, right? 
 7:52: That was a story that I believed in and I'm like, all right, this guy has been cheated on by that girl. 
 7:57: And his story was, I got cheated on multiple times by that girl. 
 8:01: OK, maybe that's a deeper trauma is what I thought. 
 8:04: But then when the projection started, he kept on blaming me, connecting me with my clients in the Bay Area. 
 8:12: I'm like, dude, something is, and then I was like, oh man, I will, I will get upset, I will get angry, and then I was like, oh poor guy has so much trauma, poor guy has so much trauma, like, I can't leave, I can't leave this guy alone, like I took responsibility right over my shoulders to heal somebody, and that's what we do. 
 8:30: Anyway. 
 8:31: That was my other mistake, which I did, you know, I should have just completely cut off the relationship, but hey, Women like us who are born with insecurities and low self-confidence and, you know, don't understand our worth, we attract such guys, right? 
 8:49: Like they know how to love bomb us, right? 
 8:52: And I'm, I'm openly saying this, why? 
 8:54: Because I know I was, I was insecure, I was, you know, I never felt confident within my own skin. 
 9:00: I had to do so much to really prove myself that OK, I am somebody, right? 
 9:05: So that's why women like us are high achievers because we're always trying to prove it to ourselves until we understand we don't need to prove it to anybody and that's my stage today. 
 9:15: Like today I'm at a point where I'm like, I don't give a fuck about. 
 9:18: Anybody, I don't give a fuck about what anyone thinks about me. 
 9:21: But let's go back to the story. 
 9:23: So that was my other mistake that I made, which is I should have cut that off, but again, I didn't, because, again, new relationship, you're trying to understand the partner, you're trying to see their weaknesses and how you fill in and how you can complement your strengths into the weaknesses, you know, that's what I did. 
 9:39: So projection was something that he would do again and again. 
 9:42: And then when we met for the first time, When we met for the first time in Abu Dhabi, there was another red flag. 
 9:49: I saw a porn video on his phone, and I questioned him. 
 9:55: And you know, we had set some rules already in the relationship, like every relationship, there are some rules, right, or agreements I should call it, like, hey, I'm not gonna tolerate that. 
 10:04: So I clearly told him, hey, because of my past assault and abuse, I can't tolerate. 
 10:10: Any my partner watching porn, I just can't tolerate it. 
 10:14: He's like, no, this is not me, it was a group and this and that, and they're sending in my phone, and he literally shut down, he got quiet, he shut down, and I'm like, oh shit, and I thought it's me. 
 10:25: I thought I made a mistake by, blaming it on this guy. 
 10:28: So he literally gaslighted me, right? 
 10:29: He's like, he just kept quiet and just went to sleep. 
 10:32: I'm like, oh shit, man, I'm so stupid. 
 10:34: Like, why did I say that to him? 
 10:36: Why did I put my trauma on him? 
 10:38: Like, that was my other, other mistake. 
 10:41: That was a red flag. 
 10:41: I did not notice it at that time. 
 10:43: OK, anyway, moving on, again, we would just have all these amazing time at trips until, until I was ready to sponsor him. 
 10:52: But here's my other mistake that I made. 
 10:55: Because he was an artist and my brother is also an artist, my brother is a music producer, and he's an amazing guy, and I'm like, wait a second, my brother is an artist, my dad was an artist. 
 11:05: My dad, when he passed away, I was like, wait, if I could make one artist's dream come true, that would be amazing, right? 
 11:11: Like if I could come, I could collaborate, like I could help him connect with my brother, they can make amazing music together, because, I felt he had a good voice. 
 11:21: And till this day, if he ever listens to this podcast, I still think he has an amazing voice. 
 11:26: I still think that because I always, always told him this one thing, dude, I saw potential in you. 
 11:33: And because when I see potential in somebody, I feel like this is me. 
 11:37: I feel like you can do so much with this potential, you know, I wish I had an ounce of that potential. 
 11:42: I would have taken it to like freaking 100, 100x, right? 
 11:45: I would have taken it to another level. 
 11:47: So, My thought process was, let me connect you to my brother. 
 11:51: Both of you can make amazing music, and I'm like visioning because I'm a visionary. 
 11:54: I have all these amazing plans for him and this, and I'm all excited for him. 
 11:59: He's like, yeah, that'll be great, blah blah, blah, yeah, and I'm like, yeah, when you come to the United States, we will make sure that we'll, we'll do. 
 12:06: Your music videos and I'll put in my own money. 
 12:08: Like, yeah, that's how crazy I was. 
 12:09: I'll put in my own money because I, I'm gonna support you because I'm an investor mindset. 
 12:13: I'm like, I'm gonna invest in this guy, he's so good, you know, not just investor mindset, but also love, right? 
 12:19: So love, and I'm like, I'm gonna support him 100% because he's good. 
 12:24: OK. 
 12:25: And he had that dream too now, and then I sponsor him. 
 12:28: He comes to the United States. 
 12:30: When he comes to the United States, the, the thing that got me a little, I should say, that ticked me off a bit was when he came here, everything was great, the day, the night before the wedding, the night before the met, so. 
 12:46: I'm stuttering, when I'm stuttering, I'm emotional. 
 12:48: OK, so the night before the wedding, my family had thrown like this henna party. 
 12:55: like a Mandy party, right, cause I'm Indian. 
 12:59: A henna party for like close friends and family, it's about 50 to 75 people, not much, and it was a surprise party for me and him because we were in New York. 
 13:07: And there, my brother had invited all of his friends, my younger brother had invited all of his friends and they all were there. 
 13:14: And during my engagement slash Henna slash Mindy party, I for the first time see him really eyeing a girl, right? 
 13:26: And I thought, I'm just being so insecure. 
 13:29: This is the night of my, of my Mindy, this is the night and I never brought it up to him. 
 13:34: In fact, even until today, he probably like does not even know this story. 
 13:38: So he was eyeing this girl, like tall girl, and I'm thinking in my head, What guy would do that? 
 13:44: Like, I wouldn't do that on my own marriage event. 
 13:48: I'm not gonna eye a guy again and again and again when my own husband is right next to me, makes sense or my fiance is next to me. 
 13:55: All right, I just let it go, you know, but I felt something. 
 13:58: I felt something is not right. 
 14:00: I'm like, this is for the first, I'm, I saw this for the first time, maybe because we were never in a public space before. 
 14:07: I don't know, never saw it, right? 
 14:09: Never felt it before. 
 14:10: For the first time I saw this, I ignored it. 
 14:12: Next day was the wedding. 
 14:13: All right, great, it was good. 
 14:15: But then the wedding, everything went well on the wedding. 
 14:20: he, he had some issues, whatever, doesn't matter. 
 14:24: Everything was good. 
 14:25: OK, now we come to California, we moved, we moved into a new apartment place. 
 14:29: Everything was great. 
 14:30: And all of a sudden, this guy again starts the same thing that he would do over the phone, right? 
 14:36: Now it's constant projection stories. 
 14:39: It is violence, it is rage, it's like I'm, I started understanding that I'm walking on on eggshells. 
 14:46: He would blame me for every little thing, and I'm like, dude, if I do something wrong, I'm a person I like to apologize, and I'm a person, if we have conflict, let's resolve it through communication. 
 14:58: So I would be like, wow. 
 14:59: This is a very tough, tough relationship. 
 15:04: So yeah, I'm like, damn, this is so hard, like, you know, I have not, I felt like I'm living my childhood again. 
 15:10: I feel, I felt like I'm in my own home where my parents are constantly fighting and that that's the person I felt, and I'm like, wait a second, I came all the way to California to live a peaceful life, and again in my marriage, I'm finding this violence, right? 
 15:25: And then one day, One day, this guy picks up something, some wooden spatula, while he was washing dishes, and he threw it at me. 
 15:35: And it came and thank God it didn't hit me directly, but all the soap off that spatula came on my face, and I looked at him and I'm like, that's not happening ever again. 
 15:47: I went to him and I'm like, you are never going to do this again in this, in this apartment. 
 15:52: Why? 
 15:52: Because a part of me felt like, dude, I got you from there, you know. 
 15:56: I am helping you build, or I should say rebuild your life in a whole different country. 
 16:02: You don't have, you don't have a solid ground in this country. 
 16:06: You don't know about this country, you don't know the ways, you're an immigrant, and I'm trying to do everything I'm going to put in my heart, my soul into this, and this is like gonna treat me. 
 16:14: That is not happening. 
 16:14: I give him one warning. 
 16:17: Second time again Yeah, I'm I'm sorry, but this is gonna trigger some of you, but if you get triggered by such things, don't worry, I'll try to keep it clean. 
 16:27: I'm not gonna give you exact, exact stories, but second time again, this guy throws like a, like we, I just made tea, and then again he gets upset, and then he throws the tea in the living room, you know, and it's the some of the splashes of the hot tea came on my skin. 
 16:44: And I'm like, OK, again, we get into like crazy violent fights. 
 16:49: All right, 3rd time, he had another phone from India. 
 16:52: He had like multiple phones, right? 
 16:54: That's another red flag, multiple electronic devices, and some devices are locked, so, understand the red flags. 
 17:00: So through my story, I'm telling you the red flags, right? 
 17:02: That's my intent. 
 17:03: My intent is not like sharing my story and you're, you know, that's not my, my intent. 
 17:07: My intent is understand the patterns. 
 17:11: On one of his phones, I was like, cause he had access to all my phones, right? 
 17:15: He's like, oh, I need your password and stuff. 
 17:16: So he had access to it. 
 17:17: I had given it to him and, and then one of his phones I saw like another girl's picture, and I'm like, some naked girl, like not really naked but half naked, whatever. 
 17:26: I'm like, dude, what is this? 
 17:28: His answer was, oh, I just used her picture for a profile, right? 
 17:34: OK, that didn't make sense. 
 17:35: And when I asked him more, I'm like, give me your password again so I can go into it. 
 17:39: He smashes the phone on the ground. 
 17:41: All right, basically gaslighting me. 
 17:44: OK. 
 17:45: And then multiple other stories, and then Other red flag was every time I would ask him about his past, which is about his wife, his wife that I know now was supposed to be his girlfriend back then, he would get triggered. 
 18:01: He would get so triggered, and I'm like, you can ask me all about my past. 
 18:04: I don't get triggered, and if someone, he's, he would get triggered to the point that he would leave the room. 
 18:08: He would leave the room, he would walk outside, he would just go out and walk out. 
 18:12: I'm like, interesting. 
 18:14: It is so triggering for him, he can't even talk about it. 
 18:17: All right, so I understood what his triggers are, and I'm like, maybe it's just a trigger. 
 18:21: I do not know. 
 18:23: But then I found out, this is like 2022, 2023, I found out that he just came up with some story saying that he told me, oh, the ex-girlfriend has filed a case against him, is what he told me. 
 18:38: I'm like, what kind of case? 
 18:40: He didn't tell me the case details, he didn't tell me nothing. 
 18:42: He's like, she just filed some case against him. 
 18:43: I'm like, OK, hire a lawyer in India, get the case resolved. 
 18:47: He, he tells me things like, he didn't say much, and I'm like, why don't you give me the case documents, and I'll help you because I'm good in, you know, I'm good. 
 18:55: I'm not a lawyer, but I'm good in like legal things. 
 18:58: He doesn't talk, he just completely ignores it. 
 19:01: And then again and again and again I see his frustration with his father. 
 19:06: That he keeps blaming his father, that his father is not helping with the case details, and I'm like, interesting. 
 19:12: What kind of case is this? 
 19:13: What kind of case is this? 
 19:14: Fast forward 2023. 
 19:16: I find out this guy is cheating on me, because his actual US phone that we got together, I saw that he had downloaded Snapchat and he's sending his naked pictures to multiple women. 
 19:28: OK, that was it. 
 19:30: And he, he was having a flight that day to New York to meet my brother actually. 
 19:35: So that's another red flag, by the way. 
 19:37: The other red flag is right before the cheating behavior, I had seen him getting dressed up and wearing cologne and doing this and cleaning his car all the freaking time, OK? 
 19:50: So if you, you know, women are intuitive. 
 19:52: If we see a different difference in pattern, you better understand something fishy is going on, and if you feel something fishing is going on, something fishy is fucking going on. 
 20:01: I already felt that during that time. 
 20:03: All right, 2023 when I found out he was cheating, I literally told my family, I'm not gonna be with this person, that's it, I'm filing for a divorce. 
 20:11: But then I made a mistake. 
 20:13: The mistake was I got my family involved, I got his family involved, that, that was my mistake. 
 20:18: Because as Indian parents want their brown girls to be stuck with a fucking loser. 
 20:24: So what, what did I do? 
 20:26: I relived my mom's story again, which is stay with him instead of him going outside, maybe you can help him because you're a coach and you can just help him through yoga, through meditation, through blah blah bullshit. 
 20:42: All right, I fell for that trap, and again, a part of me, you know, feels responsible for the person because he came all the way from India. 
 20:50: So part of me was like, oh shit, you know, if I just kick him out of the house, where is he gonna go, blah blah blah, like I was being the mother. 
 20:58: Because I didn't know any better, right? 
 20:59: This is what happens. 
 21:00: I did not know any better than I know now. 
 21:02: I was like, all right, I'm gonna give this a year. 
 21:05: We're gonna work on this relationship for a year. 
 21:07: I'm gonna see how it goes. 
 21:08: And if there's one more thing that I find out about you, dude, you are fucking out of this house. 
 21:15: What I told him clearly. 
 21:16: OK, now is the main story. 
 21:19: This guy flips 360 degrees to the best behavior possible, does not even no fights, no violence, nothing, no blaming, no projection, nothing. 
 21:28: In fact, this guy turns into a victim, which means Because I'm all agitated, frustrated, and I'm trying to, you know, work this relationship, and I tell him, listen, I will get upset. 
 21:39: I will have my triggers, and when I have my triggers, you need to give me reassurance that you're not doing something crazy, right? 
 21:46: Like that was just my way of dealing with it, and not just my way. 
 21:52: Most betrayed women that stay in the same relationship with the betrayer, this is what they go through. 
 21:58: They go through crazy sleepless nights, they go through constant, you know, overthinking, like their mind is scanning for threat every single minute is what I was going through, scanning for threats. 
 22:10: He's coming to the house, I'm scanning for threats, you know, like, He's on the phone. 
 22:14: Like, phone was my trigger, by the way. 
 22:16: Every time he's on the phone, my mind will just go crazy, like maybe he's on Facebook, maybe he's on Instagram, like all that stuff would just go on and I'm like, what are you doing? 
 22:23: Oh no, I'm, and then he would show me, oh, I'm sure, I am on Amazon. 
 22:26: Oh, OK, fine, I would just relax. 
 22:28: And then he even like went to this meditation retreat just for my sake. 
 22:33: OK, this vipasna meditation for 10 days saying, and I don't even know now that he went or he was just bullshitting with me. 
 22:39: Anyway, that's all 2023 was all about him cheating and him trying to flip 360 degrees to make, to be a better person. 
 22:46: By the time it's 2025 now, I had a trip to go to New York, so we booked a trip together in May in 2025. 
 22:56: He said he does not want to go. 
 22:58: And this trip was like a wedding of one of my cousins, and because his father was sick in India, so, OK, you know, we had assets together, so I sent the father money for his health expenses, whatever. 
 23:12: He said he doesn't want to go because his father is in India. 
 23:15: I mean, he's in the hospital. 
 23:16: I'm like, dude, what are you going to do when your father's in the hospital? 
 23:18: You have your all your family there, but if you really are so concerned about your father, let's go to India. 
 23:25: That was another trigger topic. 
 23:26: He does not want to go to India. 
 23:28: He's like, you know I cannot go to India. 
 23:30: I'm like, why can't you go to India? 
 23:32: You have never told me. 
 23:33: Then he's like, oh yeah, because that girl, she filed a case against me, and now I, I, now I'm a PO. 
 23:40: I'm like, what is a PO? 
 23:42: A PO is, now that I know it's a proclaimed offender. 
 23:47: Which I had no clue back then. 
 23:49: I'm like, I don't even know what the fuck that means. 
 23:51: It just simply means if the person enters the airport, they will be arrested. 
 23:55: I'm like, damn, this girl has a lot of power, you know, she, what, what has she done? 
 24:00: Like what is she doing? 
 24:01: So I did not know. 
 24:03: I did not know, so I just tried during that course of my relationship with him. 
 24:08: I had tried to reach out to somebody of his friends in India to find out about his case, but again, they didn't give it to me. 
 24:14: OK, fine, doesn't matter. 
 24:16: He said he's not going. 
 24:17: I'm like, OK, no worries, you can stay home and cry all cry and pray for your dad, but I, I know your dad will be fine because we are going to get him to the best hospital in India, and he will be OK. 
 24:28: Your father will be fine. 
 24:29: And I really, really loved his father, you know, like my own father, even till this day, I have a good relationship with him. 
 24:38: I absolutely loved this guy. 
 24:39: He was an amazing, like a phenomenal person, you know, he knows a lot about politics, and we should like chat and talk and anyway, so I go to the trip alone by myself, right before I go to the trip. 
 24:53: Again, his behavior changes. 
 24:55: He goes back to his older behavior again. 
 24:57: Oh, and let me remind you, in April, he already received his US passport, which obviously I helped him perceive everything because the paperwork and stuff. 
 25:05: He did it all by himself. 
 25:07: So during this entire relationship, One thing was that I look back now is every time it had to do with like green card renewals or immigration paperwork, his way was, hey, Dimple, you're so good legally, can you just help me look at these documents? 
 25:22: Oh, sure, I would love to do it, and I would just fill in whatever needs to be filled in and he would sign and we would just mail it right on time, like right on time that everybody was so surprised. 
 25:33: What, 3 years, 15. 
 25:36: Months of marriage and he already got his US passport. 
 25:40: Everyone was surprised. 
 25:41: Yeah, he got it because I used to file 90 days before, because he saw the pattern, he filed his US passport application 90 days before. 
 25:51: Before, you know, his green card expired and April, he gets his passport, May. 
 25:56: I go to New York to that wedding. 
 25:58: His father is sick in India, he has a heart surgery. 
 26:01: The night before my flight, which we were both gonna go together, this guy starts some random crazy fight with me. 
 26:09: All right. 
 26:10: I get so upset. 
 26:10: I'm like, you know what, fuck you, dude. 
 26:12: That's it. 
 26:13: That was my button. 
 26:15: That was my thing, and I'm like, he blamed me for something again. 
 26:18: He blamed me for something that was not true, I don't remember now, something related to his father, and I'm like, dude, if I don't care about your father, like why would I wire him money, you know, because I do care. 
 26:29: I took the cab by myself to the airport, went to New York. 
 26:34: Had a blast in New York. 
 26:36: Why did I have a blast in New York? 
 26:38: Because while I was going to the airport, I already knew by the time I'm gonna come back, I'm gonna end this relationship, you know, when a girl mentally checks out, she checks out. 
 26:49: That's it. 
 26:50: When she is chucked out, there's no turning back for a girl, and it's not that it's not the first time I was trying to make this better, but it's like you're trying to make it better, it gets worse. 
 26:59: You're trying to make it better, you're trying to make it better, and then you're like, fuck you and fuck everything about you. 
 27:05: So my head was saying that that's the mentality I had at that time. 
 27:10: So I remember while I was in the car, in the taxi to San Francisco, I took a picture. 
 27:19: I put it on my Instagram day one starting over. 
 27:22: That's it. 
 27:23: I already knew it and I'm gonna come back, I'm gonna file for a divorce. 
 27:26: I already knew it, like my intuition was so strong. 
 27:29: Like I do not want to live with this guy, you know, all this blame, shame, violence, rage, cheating, for what? 
 27:36: Why am I, why am I with this? 
 27:38: Man, like, what am I getting? 
 27:40: Bread crumbs, you know, burnt bread crumbs. 
 27:43: I'm like, nope, this is not my standard anymore. 
 27:46: My standard was really low, that's why I attracted this person. 
 27:50: That's not my standard in 2025. 
 27:54: OK. 
 27:55: I went to New York, had a blast. 
 27:57: During that time, I did not talk to this person at all, and we had, I have a brother in, California. 
 28:03: He was my mediator. 
 28:04: He's like, he's gonna pick you up from the airport. 
 28:06: I'm like, fine, you know, I'm like, no, he doesn't have to, but OK, fine. 
 28:10: He's like, yeah, he's insisting he wants to pick you up because I was in no contact with this with this person at all, even though we are husband and wife. 
 28:17: And I had written a long email to my brother saying, the mediator brother, I'm like, Brother, I am done with this guy. 
 28:24: I have 15 points. 
 28:25: I remember. 
 28:26: I'm like, here are the 15 points that I have that I'm not going to work on anymore. 
 28:31: I have tried to make this work and I am going to file for a divorce is what I wrote in the email. 
 28:36: OK, and I went and I had a nice party, come back. 
 28:39: This guy picks me up from the airport again. 
 28:41: He picks something. 
 28:43: Again, he starts something and I'm like, dude. 
 28:45: I didn't even talk to you for a few days, 78 days. 
 28:48: Again, you pick a fight, which means in my mind, the thought process is already solid, right? 
 28:53: So now I have like, OK, I'm already on the solid ground, and now everything he's doing is reality, is my reality check. 
 29:01: Every behavior you're gonna do, I'm gonna write it down. 
 29:03: All your behaviors, I'm gonna write it down because I know myself. 
 29:06: Tomorrow I'm gonna go and curse the shit out of myself and I'll say, oh, I made a mistake, but this time I know I'm not making a mistake. 
 29:13: So he has a fight with me while we are coming back, and I literally tell him right there and then I'm like, what do you want? 
 29:20: He says, I want a divorce. 
 29:22: All right, you got it, is what I say. 
 29:25: I think within 2 weeks or something. 
 29:28: He tries to make it work and then again some fight happens or something happens, and again I ask him, what do you want? 
 29:34: He's like, I want a divorce, and this time, I think it was May 21st, 2025. 
 29:40: I'm like, you got it. 
 29:42: I am gonna file for a divorce. 
 29:45: That's it. 
 29:45: I filed for the divorce, and right after I filed for the divorce, he brings in the mediator brother and he wants my assets. 
 29:56: Because it was community property. 
 29:58: It was community property. 
 30:00: It's not community property anymore, right? 
 30:02: So, and I'll tell you why. 
 30:04: So he thinks, so my, so basically his, his plan was this, his plan was, OK, I got my US passport. 
 30:12: I'm asking her for a divorce, she's willing to give it to me, and then his demand was, yeah, just give me 3 to 4, songs money, which means, you know, for production of the videos, and I'm like, yeah, how much is that? 
 30:26: And he's like, 60,000 to 80,000 or something is what he said. 
 30:29: While my brother was in the house, I'm like, wait a second, this is all a plan. 
 30:32: He first asked for a divorce right after I come back. 
 30:35: He got his US passport. 
 30:37: Now, as soon as I file for the divorce, he wants money from me. 
 30:41: What, is he a fucking homeless guy? 
 30:43: You know, and I was so emotional at that time. 
 30:46: I literally told my brother, I'm like, yeah, brother, give him whatever he needs. 
 30:51: We'll pay him double the money is what I told and let him get the fuck out of my life, right? 
 30:57: My brother is a financial analyst. 
 30:59: He's like, nope, that's not happening. 
 31:01: He's like, I'm gonna work your numbers and I'm gonna see who gets what if you guys are gonna go through this divorce. 
 31:06: OK, great, thank you so much, and I'm like, fine, I come back to my senses. 
 31:10: I separate from this guy, I leave the house, the apartment, I walk out, and before I walk out or one of those days, I get so threatened by him because he tells me something that he's like, Guess what? 
 31:22: Guess how I'm gonna kick you out of this house. 
 31:25: He tells me that and I'm like, what? 
 31:27: You know, a guy like you, whom I called all the way from India, sponsored you, made a life with you, married you, we were gonna have our future together, all these future plans together. 
 31:37: And he is threatening me of kicking me out of the house. 
 31:39: I don't say a word. 
 31:41: I leave this house and I called one of my amazing friends, Michelle. 
 31:45: She helps me find a place and I move out and it was rough for me to move out. 
 31:51: I move out after I move out, and the divorce is already filed, right? 
 31:56: In August of 2025, I was meditating one night and something. 
 32:03: Came up in the meditation for me. 
 32:04: I know it's gonna sound crazy to some of you in my meditation. 
 32:09: A message came that this guy is already married in India Temple. 
 32:14: So you need to amend your petition. 
 32:18: To annulment, that's all the message I got. 
 32:21: I'm like, huh, what? 
 32:22: Married in India? 
 32:24: How do I freaking find out, you know, so what do I do? 
 32:28: I put on my FBI hat. 
 32:30: I check on every court website that I can think of in his area. 
 32:35: And I spent days and nights and days and nights, despite the fact that I was going through insomnia, I was going through severe pain in my belly because of adenomysis, I was going through stress, I was going through all these crazy, crazy, crazy physical ailments, right? 
 32:52: I'm like, wow, you know, and I just couldn't work because I'm like, I'm gonna find out the truth if I'm getting this message so strongly because, you know, every time I get a strong message, I believe it. 
 33:02: I believe it because I know this came from the universe, it came from God, it came, it came from. 
 33:07: A higher power, and I have to trust this message and I trusted that message, and I think within a few days, I think a matter of just 2 to 3 days or something, I find out this guy was married in India, still married in India, no divorce, nothing, and this, I, in August, I just go and I amend my petition to annulment. 
 33:30: I'm like, if you cannot be married to me and to another woman at the same time, no divorce. 
 33:35: And then I find out. 
 33:37: His present wife has also filed a domestic violence and dowry case against him. 
 33:46: And when I read the case documents, I hired a lawyer and they sent me all the documents and I want to make sure like, this is him, right? 
 33:53: It's not someone else because I could be just making up stories in my head. 
 33:57: So I wanted to make sure my reality is matching my intuition. 
 34:02: I'm hiring a lawyer, he sends me these documents and I read the case papers. 
 34:05: I'm like, fuck, it's the same exact story. 
 34:08: This guy tried to hit me multiple times, you know, and I literally stopped him right there and then, like, in fact, I protected myself by hitting him back, because if I had allowed him to hit me, he would have kept on hitting me the way he abused physically his current wife. 
 34:27: And on the case documents, I was shocked by seeing that this guy physically abused her and assaulted her in such a way that she lost her baby. 
 34:37: OK, I was like, that's it, you know, and there's a lot of stories were adding up because I went through 60 of her stories and they matched with my story and all the stuff that I went through, like the cheating and even she caught him cheating, and then he broke his phone, like all similar stories. 
 34:53: I was like, oh my God. 
 34:55: Anyway, filed for the annulment, and then I found out sometime in October or November, another shock comes in. 
 35:03: I found out this guy's a criminal in India, because I had multiple case documents. 
 35:10: One of the criminal crime that he did was cybercrime. 
 35:13: The other crime that he did was some check fraud case. 
 35:16: OK, fine, that's not a big crime in India, but it is for the United States. 
 35:20: So cybercrime was another big fraud case that he did in India, and when I did my investigation, I found out that in the cybercrime case, he was supposed to be in jail. 
 35:33: But he got a bail order. 
 35:36: While he got the bail order, he got some bail order, you know, I don't know how many days or whatever. 
 35:41: That time frame that he can be outside the jail within that time frame is when he landed in the United States, and that was it. 
 35:52: I was like, oh my fucking lord, how much more am I gonna find out? 
 35:57: It's like one destruction and another destruction. 
 36:00: So I'm like getting all these stories and that's destructing my reality, right? 
 36:04: I'm like, oh shit, so this was not love. 
 36:07: He basically took the opportunity of that bail window and flew to the United States, and that's the time, you know, we actually got married. 
 36:15: I'm like, great, OK, so which means this is not just a guy who got married to another woman. 
 36:22: He was actually a fugitive, a proclaimed offender, had multiple identities, and in a couple of the cases that I found, he had multiple names, which means his names were different also, his father's name were different. 
 36:37: And when I was in court trying to Fight all these cases. 
 36:40: Guess what? 
 36:41: I have proof this guy is married with wedding photographs of his wife and voter IDs of his wife, and him and his wife visiting the court in India, like pictures of that, and to all that stuff in the Santa Clara family court, this person says, this is not me, this is somebody else. 
 36:59: This is not me. 
 37:00: This is fabricated, it's fabricated. 
 37:02: And I look at it and I'm like, dude, your reality, your soul is fabricated. 
 37:09: How can you, you know, how can somebody? 
 37:13: Have no conscience at all, they lived with a person for 6 years, and I believe, even if I am with this water bottle of mine for like 2 years, I'll be in love with this water bottle, you know, like humans get attached to things. 
 37:27: I'm like humans get attached to. 
 37:29: Things I was still a human being, you know, we get attached to pets, we get attached to, like, other humans like so quickly when we see each other, interact with each other, you know, I'm cooking, cleaning, I'm not just a girlfriend, I'm a fucking a wife, you know, but you're still lying in front of my face. 
 37:45: Yeah, that was very devastating for me. 
 37:46: So anyway, he kept on saying it's fabricated, it's fabricated, and I, and I kept on amending my petition until, The judge approved it until I won my annulment, and I just want to say this. 
 38:02: Annulment in California is really hard. 
 38:04: So if you're trying to do an annulment, by the way, 20 lawyers rejected me, so I fought my own case. 
 38:09: Why? 
 38:09: Because I know they don't know what I know, and they will never know what I know, and they will never feel what I feel. 
 38:15: So I had a couple of helpers, I'm not gonna name them, one day I will. 
 38:19: I had a couple of lawyer friends that really helped me, God bless their soul. 
 38:23: I fought my own case with the help of the divine, with the help of the universe to give me all these messages. 
 38:29: So my podcast today is about trust your instincts. 
 38:34: If you feel something is wrong, something is wrong. 
 38:37: If there's a red flag which you're seeing in your environment, trust it, disconnect from the person, whoever's crossing that boundary, especially if you have a core boundary within you and you feel like this is not what aligns with your path, disconnect from that person. 
 38:53: Disconnect from that person. 
 38:56: Why? 
 38:57: Because you're not going to waste a lot of time. 
 39:01: And you're not gonna get the aftereffects of what that relationship did to you, because let's be real, every heartbreak, every heartbreak hurts, right? 
 39:12: If heartbreaks can hurt, imagine what divorce does to your body, right? 
 39:17: And then imagine if it's not even a divorce, it's an annulment, which means your marriage was not even real. 
 39:22: Imagine what that does to your body and to your mind. 
 39:26: Like you can just go into a mental hospital, right, but thanks to, again, thanks to, All the practices that I do, which is yoga and meditation and helping myself rebuild my life again, and I have this strong warrior, Durga Kali energy, which I wish every woman in this world has like my prayer, my prayer is, every woman needs to understand. 
 39:49: That if you're going through a DV situation, which is domestic violence, or if you're going through a betrayal right now, there is hope. 
 39:57: You have to stabilize. 
 39:59: Do not make the mistakes I made, and this whole incident turned me into an author, right? 
 40:05: I wrote a book called Betrayal. 
 40:07: It's on Amazon. 
 40:08: It's an ebook. 
 40:09: I haven't done much marketing about it because I'm like, one day I'll do it, you know, my whole goal was, I just want to launch this book, because I want to make sure, even if one woman reads it, right, she is going to benefit. 
 40:23: And I know one day hundreds and thousands will read this book, maybe even millions will read this book, but I just want to say that this book was written because of all the mistakes that I made. 
 40:34: And I did not stabilize myself, and please do not make that mistake. 
 40:37: Learn. 
 40:38: Sometimes you can learn from your own mistake and sometimes you need to learn from others' mistake, right? 
 40:42: So my goal for a woman listening right now who is in a very crazy situation is you can absolutely heal, you can absolutely rebuild your life, but you start one step at a time. 
 40:57: You don't take any decisions right now, you first work on stabilizing. 
 41:00: Stabilize yourself. 
 41:01: If you found out that someone cheated on you, go stabilize. 
 41:04: You found out your workplace betrayed you, go stabilize. 
 41:08: How do you stabilize? 
 41:09: The book, right? 
 41:10: And it's only 9.99 on Amazon. 
 41:12: We may increase the price soon, but at the moment, I'm just gonna keep it for that because I want to make sure every woman can afford it. 
 41:19: So, if you like this podcast, with, please share it with any girl that you feel is in the situation, who can benefit from this podcast. 
 41:28: And I loved having this conversation with you. 
 41:31: Please give us a review on iTunes or wherever you listen to, and I'm gonna see you in the next episode. 
 41:37: You are awakening. 
 41:39: Bye. 
 41:40: If you just got cheated on or you have been through a betrayal, you don't have to do it alone. 
 41:46: You can book a betrayal. 
 41:48: session with me, and the link is in the show notes. 
 41:51: And if this podcast has been supporting you, please leave a review wherever you're listening. 
 41:56: It helps more women find this. 
 41:59: And if you know a friend or a sister who needs this right now, then go ahead and send her this episode. 
 42:06: And always remember, you are awakening. 
 42:10: See you in the next podcast.