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82: The Three Shifts Every Mom Needs for Confidence and Calm with Megan Caldwell

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Today on the Money Mom Podcast, Rachel sits down with transformational coach and Rockstar Mom founder Megan Caldwell to talk about ditching burnout, perfectionism, and people-pleasing so you can create a life that actually feels good. Megan shares why “balance” is often a trap and how to pursue alignment instead. Plus the simple foundations that help busy moms reclaim energy, presence, and peace.

You’ll learn:

  • The difference between chasing balance and living in alignment
  • How to build a personal foundation of priorities, values, and vision
  • The “Fab Five” well-being habits and how mindset work makes them stick
  • Ways to regulate your nervous system so you respond instead of react
  • Why community and real accountability make change sustainable

We also chat about the Rockstar Mom Virtual Event where Rachel is a featured speaker. It’s free to join, packed with actionable sessions, and comes with generous gifts from each presenter.

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If you’re ready to trade overwhelm for alignment and start leading your family from a calmer, more confident place, this conversation is for you. Subscribe, share with a friend, and let us know your favorite takeaway.

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Rachel

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SPEAKER_01:

Welcome to the Money Mom Podcast, the show where we empower moms to take control of their finances, break free from money stress, and build a life of freedom, confidence, and abundance for their families. I'm your host, Rachel Koons, mom, money mentor, and your personal cheerleader on this journey. Whether you're here to save money, pay off debt, or dream bigger for your family's future, you're in the right place. Here, we believe that being a mom is already a full-time job. But your role in shaping your family's financial success is just as important. And the best part, you don't need to sacrifice everything to start winning with money. Let's get started. This is the Money Mom Podcast. Hello and welcome to the Money Mom Podcast. I'm your host, Rachel Coons, and today we have a very special guest, Megan Caldwell. Megan is the host of the Rockstar Mom podcast and the creator of the Rockstar Framework, which she's gonna share with us a little bit about today. But that framework helps women ditch overwhelm and exhaustion once and for all so they can live a life with deeper presence and a lot more energy. She is an expert in guiding high-achieving women to get off autopilot and break free from constant striving for balance, people pleasing, and perfectionism, which is something I'm sure we all can relate to. Megan is here today to show us, to show you how to take yourself off the back burner and live a life where fun and joy no longer are an afterthought.

SPEAKER_00:

So welcome to the Rachel. I'm really excited for our conversation today.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, and even just like reading through your bio and what you do, it's like, oh wait, we all can relate to all of these things as moms. I think at one point we're dealing, we're trying to get balance, we're trying to get off autopilot, we're trying to break free of perfectionism and people pleasing, all those things. So speak to that. Tell us what you do and how you do it.

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, so you know, I've been in the role that I'm currently in as a transformational coach, speaker, and facilitator for, well, I've been a coach, I like to say, for my entire life, but for the last five years or so, I've run the business in the way that I've done it. And the reason I've gotten into this space and am so freaking passionate about helping women live their best, most rock star lives, if you will, is because I believe that we as women have the power to change the world. It starts with us. We and our world needs it right now. And it starts with us knowing how to and being able to truly care for ourselves on the deepest levels, mind, body, and soul. I think oftentimes we focus so much just on our physical health that some of the other things get pushed to the wayside. And so I came into this work, I could spend hours talking about my story, but just a brief glimpse of it. Um, I started my career in education, um, went through my first round of burnout right after I had my first son. I was promoted at work. I was trying to do a new role. And that is where my mental health really started to suffer. I started having anxiety attacks and panic attacks, and I said, mm-mm, I'm out. And so my husband and I literally picked up ship. We were living in LA at the time. We moved up here to the Portland, Oregon area, and I said, I just want to stay home full time. And so, well, I was still doing some consulting work back for a university in LA, but it lasted only a couple months because I realized that as a mother, I actually wanted something more and wanted something outside the home. And so it just kind of fell upon me that I had the opportunity to purchase and own a fitness franchise geared towards moms. And it truly was um one of the best experiences of my life. It combined my love for education and as an athlete movement, and I got to spend a lot of time with my kids because I was my own boss. But the challenge was as a high achiever, I found myself falling into some of those same traps that got me stuck the first time that led to a true round of burnout where I was working around the clock, where I was feeling guilty, where it looked like I had my stuff together on the outside, but on the inside, I was just slowly crumbling. So here I am in this health and fitness space. And again, people would ask me regularly, Megan, how do you do it? Over the course of that time, I had two more kiddos, you know, I had three kids, a thriving business, a successful relationship, all the things. And when women would ask me that question, my only response would be I'd smile and nod because I felt like a fraud. I I again looked like I had my shit together and I didn't. And so it that kind of led me into my second round of burnout. And it was my girlfriends actually called me out because it's the people closest to us who were like, Megan, you're full of it. Like, what's going on? And turns out I learned again, I was so caught up in the thick of the overwhelm and the exhaustion and just burning the candle on both ends that um I was highly depressed. I started seeing a therapist um soon after, hired a business coach because I realized I was no longer satisfied in the career that I was operating with the fitness franchise. And over time, um had a huge personal development journey myself unraveled from the fitness franchise. And that's what's really led me into the work I do today, which is really helping women take a holistic approach to health and wellness. Um, and that's what I stand for. And again, I I love the work you're doing in the financial space and how we work in that space and really empower ourselves in that space because that is often one of our biggest stressors. And it's a space where I know as as you teach your clients, like we can impact and have control over.

SPEAKER_01:

Absolutely, absolutely. Well, and I love that your perspective is you kind of have both ends of this burnout perspective of like doing nothing wasn't a good situation for you either. Not doing nothing that I don't want to discount staying home with your babies, right? But not having a career for yourself being unfulfilled was a a place of misery, but also doing too much was a place of misery. So being able to find that balance in the in the in in the in-between where you are taking care of your whole self is so powerful and so needed in our world.

SPEAKER_00:

Totally. And I think, you know, as women, we have been conditioned to be trained that we can do it all and we can have it all, and that we can find balance. Um, one of my tokens, my token sayings is actually balance is bullshit. Like, I don't believe that true balance is actually achievable. And I share this having spent years as a math teacher in the classroom, knowing that to balance something is to make it equal. So I'm putting equal into home and a career or home and into relationships. And the truth of the matter is life is gonna continue to ebb and flow. And so, what I've found in the work that I do with women is that even though we say we want balance, it's just like chasing a sunset. Like you're never gonna actually get to the sunset. If we continue chasing something that's unattainable, balance, which ties so closely into perfectionism, we're gonna continue failing. We're gonna continue beating ourselves up. And so, what I actually find is that most women actually want more of a sense of alignment. Does what they do on the outside match the inside?

SPEAKER_01:

Oh, wow. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

More of a sense of harmony is another word that I've heard over and over again, where it's like an orchestra where things just feel harm harmonious. Again, that's what we want is we want to feel good because again, when we feel good, we are gonna have more time and more energy to pour into whatever the heck we want, whether it be is full-time with our kids, whether it is a thriving career, or whether it is this space in between where you're not sure what's next. Um, if we don't have that sense of again, alignment and the other word that's just been coming up time and time again in my sphere is peace. Is like, how do we feel this internal sense of peace, especially with all that's going on around in our greater world?

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah. It's so interesting that you say that. I've never heard that that, I've never heard that idea of like balance doesn't work, but alignment does. And I can see it in my own life right now, in this, like in where I am in 2025, I am busier, I have more on my plate than I ever have in my entire life. And I am at so much, like I'm I'm somebody could look at me and be like, oh, she's not balanced because she does all this stuff and she doesn't have whatever, certain things. Right. But I'm like, no, because I am living in so much alignment of what I truly want to do and what I truly feel fulfilled in doing, and I get my cup is filled in so many areas of my life, I can handle it all. Whereas like five years ago, I wasn't, I wasn't balanced and I wasn't aligned. And so I was living in, I didn't have peace, I didn't have that feeling all day today. So I do think that that is a very powerful thought that that change of like how can I live with the inside out? Like starting inside, what really truly brings me joy and and create that reality for myself.

SPEAKER_00:

100%. And I love Rachel that you bring up this whole thing. Uh you'll hear me say it time and again, seasons of life, right? When I had three littles under five running around, like, and that is when I was trying to build my first business, it was all over the place. And now that my kids are all school aged, like I have more capacity and I'm just I'm in a different season where one, because of my own journey, I know myself so freaking well that I know what I need in every any given day or moment to bring down the stress and to feel at peace and to feel aligned. Um, but I think some of it starts with giving ourselves permission to like really take an audit to see like, where am I right now? And because we live in this fast-paced world of go, go, go, we're not given that time unless we choose to take it. Yeah. And so if there's one thing for the listeners to take away from today, it's like take a moment to truly check in with yourself. And that can be really hard and scary, especially for the perfectionist or the people pleaser who has been conditioned to not do that. But that's actually where a lot of real growth and change starts, is when we can just be able to feel our feelings and recognize what our true not only needs are, but what our true desires are as well.

SPEAKER_01:

It's funny that you bring that up because I have a podcast episode coming out. I just recorded it about five non-money things that we can do that help our money situation. And one of those things comes from self-awareness, re- I call it recapitulation of like at the end of the day, how are you, how are you approaching how that day went? How are you digesting yourself and how you interact with other people? And how are you kind of flushing out thoughts and feelings? I think so often we are living our lives unaware. We're not aware of it.

SPEAKER_00:

Autopilot.

SPEAKER_01:

Yes. And you just take five to ten minutes of your day to be like, am I showing up how I want to show up? Am I happy in my daily tasks? And just those those minutes can bring so much self-awareness and then so much peace and alignment as well, as we take that task and do it every single day.

SPEAKER_00:

100%. I love that. And I I love that you said just five minutes is like this actually doesn't have to be hard. And that's one of the challenges that I see a lot of women, especially high achievers, making is that we often just freaking overcomplicate it. And we're like, what's the best system? Or like, what's the new product that I need? Or like who needs to be involved? And it's like there's so much power in just being in tune with ourselves. And so while I do love like the five-minute end-of-day check, like gratitude journal or something, super powerful. I do it not perfectly, but regularly. Um what I like to remind women of is that this is a practice. And a practice that, again, we're not just gonna set the alarm for 9 p.m. to do the gratitude journal, but really how are we checking in with ourselves and bringing awareness and reflection throughout the day? Yeah. Right. So when that work email comes in that caught you off guard, we can actually take a pause and be able to respond to it versus react. When the kid comes home completely flustered, we can check in with ourselves first in terms of our needs so we can best show up for our kids. And so um, I always say exactly like like you just brought up, I can't wait to listen to that episode, by the way, is is awareness and reflection are always the first step of change. Is like we have to be in tune with where we are in order to then make strides forward.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah. Okay, so something you said a while back, but I'm I still want to hit on this.

SPEAKER_00:

Let's go.

SPEAKER_01:

The idea that balance is this is very in tandem with people pleasing. Can you can you hit on that? Like, how is that? How are they connected?

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, balance is in tandem with people pleasing. I'd almost say that it's even more in line with perfectionism, but both go hand in hand. So perfectionism and people pleasing are both coping mechanisms that we as women have adopted over time. And they usually start at a very, very young age. Think about it, as young as three or four years old, when somebody says, Oh, good girl, because you just gave grandma a hug, right? That is us learning that doing what was asked is giving us love, right? Yeah. And so I think in terms of um, I'll speak to balance as perfectionism and then balance as people pleasing. Again, when I think of perfectionism, it is again having these ideals where we set the standards so high that they're either inachievable, or oftentimes I work with a lot of really smart women and vicious women, like they're gonna put their head down and do everything they can to achieve the goal to then just achieve the next one and set the bar again and then set the bar again. And then we are constantly chasing, yeah, right? We're constantly chasing these external validations, aiming for quote unquote perfection. And I think in in chasing balance, in chasing perfectionism, again, it's almost like we're like tunnel visioned head down, where then we fall into other traps, such as people pleasing, where at any cost, I want to keep the peace here to get to the thing. And so even though it doesn't, and and that truly is, I think, why so many women have such high levels of stress and anxiety, and it will lean to burnout and and health and mental health challenges, is because we're just neglecting our own needs because we are putting everyone else's needs first. So we can almost put on that facade again that we are balanced, that we are perfect.

SPEAKER_01:

Right. So it's kind of a mask that we wear.

SPEAKER_00:

It 100% is. It won't and and I want to make sure that our listeners are aware today is like if if anybody relates, and I'm assuming 90% of the audience is like, yep, I'm a recovery people pleaser or a perfectionist because it is so common, yeah, is that it's not your fault. It's not you are a bad person and this is a trap you got caught in. Like so much of it is bigger, either societal issues or it stems back to our family upbringing. And again, they were there, they were masks that we put on to keep ourselves safe in the moment to move through time. And and what I find is that when a lot of women get to this, I was gonna say middle age, that's such a way more, but between the ages of 30 and 50, it's like I'm I'm seeing so many women having these awakenings, if you will, where they're like, wait, I don't actually care about the next degree or the next job promotion, or like even like relating to your work, like perfecting the family budget. Yes, let's do that. But like it's not about the thing, like what so many of us truly desire our presence, our connection, our that sense of inner peace. And one thing that I like to bring out in my work, hence like my branding with this, all this rock star craziness, is like we cannot let joy and fun be an afterthought any longer. Because oftentimes it's like, if I get the things done, then I'll go do the fun thing. No, no, no, no, no. What if we led with it? What does that actually look like?

SPEAKER_01:

Well, and I think high achievers specifically, if you're in that category, that's the hardest thing for them, right? Is to let loose and to just relax. I release control. Exactly, exactly. Because those are all part of the the what we're achieving for is it's feels like it's pulling that back. But what you're saying is it's not. It's 100%. Yeah. Okay, so you have through the through we talked about the three most powerful things that you can do to have more energy, more time, feel more confident, and have a lot more fun, which we're this is a perfect segue into that. So can we kind of break this down? I know you have the Rockstar Framework. Is this similar or uh similar?

SPEAKER_00:

I'm gonna touch on pieces of the Rockstar Framework. Yeah. So the Rockstar Framework consists of kind of four pillars. So I'm gonna touch on a couple of those. Um, but one thing that I really wanted to bring to the forefront here in terms of a very, very powerful thing to ensure that we are working towards, as I like to say, the woman that you are wanting to become. Because again, so much of us have just been on the autopilot, have just been heads down and kind of lose our sense of self, especially in motherhood, right? When we have these little beings that we have to keep alive and all the other things. Greatest job in the world, hardest job in the world. And it's it's just one of the roles we play. It doesn't have to define who we are. And so the first thing I want to share, um super, super powerful, is I think it is really important for women to have a very clear foundation. And let me explain what that means. So, like if you're thinking about building a house, if the foundation is faulty, it doesn't matter how pretty the house is and what color the walls are and how big the windows are, the house will eventually crumble. And so I think oftentimes women will focus on some of the doing things without a clear foundation. And so in my brain, and part of the framework is the foundation consists of your priorities in this season of life. How clear on you are you in terms of what's most important? Okay. The second piece of that foundation is getting really, really clear on your personal values. So I know many of us have done work in the, not everyone, but many of us have done work in the value space, but it's often tied to, okay, you're getting married and you talk about what your family values are gonna be or what you want for your future family, or there's values and mission in your workspace and how you show up there. But I'm talking about like your true personal values, the things deep down that you strive to be connected to. I think a lot of one women are unclear in that space, in part because we just we don't take time to do it. Um and and and knowing those values so clearly allows you to then take what I call value-aligned action. So again, rather than just take action and do the things, it's is me saying yes to going to this event actually in line with what my priorities and who I want to be right now. And if, and and when you're so clear on your actions or on your values rather, it's gonna be a very clear yes or no, which then relieves some of the mental fog. I'm thinking too, I had somebody text me just yesterday to say, Hey Megan, did you get the invite to the Halloween party? One, I don't know because I have so many emails. But two, I mean, yes, I can go back and find it, but but I I knew before even opening the invite that I was a no for that. Because in this season right now, where I've got these three unbelievably crazy awesome kids who take a lot of my energy, my focus is not going to be going to maybe a Halloween party. It's gonna be what do my kids want to do that night? And so I just know that. So it makes that decision clear. That's just kind of an example. But again, values then allow you to then even go one step deeper, which is actually to create your vision. So these three pieces priorities, value, and vision. Again, this is the forward thinking. This is stepping out of right here and now, which again, we all have so many things on our plate. So this can be a hard thing to do, which is I why I think it's important to make time and space to really think about where do you want to be for a year from now? Where do you want to be five years from now? Maybe 10 years from now is a little bit too far. That's okay. But like having again, like it's the roadmap. It is um the North Star. It is the thing that's gonna allow you to help make some of those decisions easier because you feel so connected to it. So that's kind of the first piece is like getting clear on your foundation.

SPEAKER_01:

That, and that's actually really funny because it's exactly what we do with our students when it comes to budgeting and spending when you're trying to align your spending with your values and you don't know your values, then you can't really create a budget that works for your family. And I think so often people just think they have to fill in the numbers with whatever anyone else is doing. And it's like, no, if you value designer jeans, then you need a budget for that. And if you value taking family vacations, there's nothing wrong with spending$5,000 on a family vacation because that's value. And if we can align our values, our time, our energy, whatever with our spending, then then it will be easy. Then it's clear. I love this.

SPEAKER_00:

And this is why your program is so successful, right? Is because you you you give your people the foundation to make those choices so they're in alignment. Again, not balance, but they're in alignment with with who they're wanting to be. And you better believe on our personal budget, we have a fun category.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, and you should because life is about enjoyment. And and as again, as moms, we need to find areas, whatever that is for you. It can be no, and nobody can nobody can tell you. I always say this, I say this to my members and they're just gonna roll their eyes when they hear this, but nobody can tell you what your values are. Nobody can say that's a dumb thing to value. No, because if I stand in that and I say, no, I really like to buy canned diet coke to have in my house and it's expensive and I know it is, I don't give a rat.

SPEAKER_00:

But does it freaking bring you joy? Yes, yes, it does. Yes, it does. Cheers to that.

SPEAKER_01:

It's not harming anyone. It's not harming anyone. It's not, you know, I just, anyways, this is I love the foundation piece. I love that that's where you start because I I just amen to that. Okay, so that is that number one. That's number one.

SPEAKER_00:

So that's that's one thing. Um, the other thing I want to say with that, Rachel, is like this is where like my goal is to really help empower women to take their power back. And I love that you bring that up, where it's like, just because my values are true to me and I've found success, we can have a whole nother conversation about what success means. Like it doesn't have to be the same. And I think sometimes women adopt values that either they saw growing up, that then they realize actually, this doesn't serve me. It's something that I was taught needed to be, but now I can let that go. So yeah.

SPEAKER_01:

I have a I have a business coach that told me this was like an aha moment for me. Cause again, high achiever chasing success, chasing what I think is success. And he told me, success is just doing what you want in life. That's what success is. And I was like, oh my gosh.

SPEAKER_00:

Backdrop, right? Yeah. And like, and again, this comes back to the foundation piece is if you don't know what you want, yes, how are you gonna ever achieve success? So, for example, like your high ambition and achievement and how you run your business and your home and your life might be exactly what you want, which is why you're feeling so much alignment right now. Whereas somebody else might take a look at this and be like, I could never work that much, or like, that's too much time, or like whatever it is. And and the point being is that like it's okay. Like, we get to choose that. We have the power to to make those choices. One of my one of my coaches actually, one of the phrases that I I love that she says is that life is just made up of a lot of choices.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

So you get to choose, right? You get to choose. So, anyways, tangent. Um, back to it. So, yeah, so to so two other things that allow you to kind of achieve that life with more confidence and presence and energy. Um, the second piece um is really about, I think oftentimes we focus a lot of energy on what we call like the doing habits or like those healthy habits, if you will. They a hundred percent are are one of the pillars in the framework and they are only a piece of it. So, is it important that in order for us to feel best, we need to hydrate and fuel our bodies properly and sleep and move our bodies? And the fifth one in there, which I call the foundational Fab Five, is actually rest different than sleep. Okay. Yes, those are so important and they are one piece of it. And oftentimes women start there. Again, I want everybody to start with their foundational stuff, but like oftentimes women start there. It's the new year. I'm gonna set a new year's resolution to get to the gym five days a week, and I'm gonna feel really motivated. The problem is motivation comes and goes. So it's how do we actually build those habits so they're sustainable over time? And a key piece to that that is often missing, and I know you do this work in the financial space, is the mindset mastery that goes along with the actual habits that we're looking to change. And so, how aware are we of the stories that we're telling ourselves when it comes to our own health and well-being? How aware are we in terms of how often we're self-sabotaging or beating ourselves up? And the cool thing is um when we focus on the mindset piece of it alongside the the healthy habit piece of it, we're actually what we're doing is we're better regulating our nervous system. And so again, oftentimes we get caught in these heightened states of stress. And so we are constantly operating at an eight or a nine out of a scale of 10, which means that when our kid says that thing, we're more likely to blow up at them just because we don't have the capacity. So when we can couple the actual doing piece with the stories and shifting the beliefs behind what we are wanting to do and achieve, that's when we can find long-term success. And unfortunately, we live in a culture where it's like, just give me the pill, give me the product, okay, I'll do the 30-day challenge. I'm just gonna lay it out there and be blunt. Like change takes time. Yeah. And it takes practice. And uh, I don't always like saying that it's gonna be hard. Like pieces of it will be hard, but it can also be simple. And so that's what I help women do is like, how do we actually simplify some of these pieces so they are manageable on a day-to-day basis?

SPEAKER_01:

Well, and so often we look, and exactly what you were saying, so often we look at our world with a masculine energy of doing, right? The masculine energy, and this isn't just being a man, this is just the energy that comes with it is the habits, the doing, the the checking off things and and and creating the actions behind it. But we forget about the the energy that comes with it, the feminine energy of how am I, what's my state of being? How what thoughts am I replaying in my mind? What beliefs am I holding on to? How am I viewing the world from the inside out? And really, we need both. There's not one is not more important than the other, but when we can combine those two together, when we combine the feminine with the masculine, and we get the yin and yang, right? Which we ever knows about that. But that's the true level of peace that we can get to is with those together.

SPEAKER_00:

Totally. And I was just talking with a client yesterday about how this kind of all ties together. And one piece that ties right into this space, especially with like the feminine energy, is in being in tune with ourselves is like allowing ourselves to feel the emotions because we know that the thoughts and beliefs are gonna influence the emotions that we feel. And so we actually have the power to shift our thinking. It takes practice. There's lots of tools out there that we teach, right? But that is then gonna influence how we feel. And it's also, again, giving ourselves permission to feel some of those hard and shitty things as well. It's not always gonna be rainbows and butterflies. Like people are like, Megan, you're just always so cheery. Oh, believe me. I've got my own shit going on in the background. Yeah. And I know how to manage and and regulate myself so I can then show up my best majority of the time.

SPEAKER_01:

Right, right. And I'm taking care of that inner self. Well, and and you know, the the the thing is our thoughts create our world. And that's not how we're raised. We believe that our world creates our thoughts. And when you want to talk about taking back your power, taking back your power is all just saying, no, I get to create, I get to create with what I believe, what I think. And I will say personally, as a 35-year-old woman, I didn't believe that until about two years ago, two and a half years ago. And when I started changing, no, no, no, no, no. My thoughts actually are what's creating reality. Everything changed. Like I'm talking everything about my day-to-day life, everything about my happiness, everything about how I showed up in my marriage, with my family, in my business. Like the the change that happened when I took that power back is insane. And that's why I'm so passionate about it. That's why I talk about what I do, is because I think that more people need to know about this and how life-changing it can be.

SPEAKER_00:

And we are so on page with this because I think oftentimes we put our focus into spaces outside of our control. Well, if my partner just changed, or if my kids just did the thing, or if the school district said, and it's like there are only two things within our actual control.

unknown:

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00:

And they are your thoughts and your actions. And so if you want to take power back and freaking feel awesome, that's where we focus the energy on. And so I I love that you've discovered that as well. Again, it took me to my mid-mid-late 30s to that, to get to that space as well, to just truly find the power in that.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. Okay, so we've got the one, the two, what's the third one?

SPEAKER_00:

The three. Yeah, the third. I think that this is another one that again can oftentimes be a mistake for a lot of women, um, which is like why I love the work that you're doing and so many other other people is that oftentimes we try to do it alone. We think we have to do it alone. Again, we've been conditioned to put on the superwoman cape and say, I can figure my shit out and get I can get it done, and I can listen to the podcast and read the books. And we're we're living in a society right now where it's information overload. And the question becomes how do we actually get out of educating ourselves and learning more and reading more and trying the new course and doing the thing and actually take the action as we can lean into community. And so, this pillar of the framework is called your rock star life community. And this this is A community and a group of cheerleaders, if you will, that you build. Like, yes, I actually have your Rockstar Life group coaching program. That is a space you can come into and do the work alongside other women who are saying hell yes to themselves. But I'm also talking about like who on the day-to-day is in your court. Which people know the ins and outs of your life. And this oftentimes could it be a spouse? It could be. And there's a lot of dynamics in those relationships, right? But it's like, who knows the thick of what's going on? And whether you're winning the award or whether you are at your lowest low and need support, they see you. And they see also that you've got bigger ambitions to move out of where you're at and into something more. And so I just want to give everybody here permission to find your people. And again, it might be in a coaching program such as Rachel's or mine. And it could also just be getting curious about like who else is out there. Or maybe it's asking the question right now like, who in my life truly supports me and sees me day in and day out? And maybe who are those people who I can create a little distance from because they're actually more draining than supportful. And so the third point here is just really powering community. And we know right now in our day and age that like we as women, we have to come together. Um, women empower women. Like that's what you and I are both about, is like when we care for ourselves, when we lean into others, that's when again, we change our lives and we change the world.

SPEAKER_01:

And I think that's the one thing that you can't get on the internet, right? You not necessarily like you can find community on the internet, but you can you can you can get a bunch of information, you can learn systems, you can learn whatever you want, but it isn't until you can take that and actually apply it to your life. And I think with the accountability and the support that that community can give to you, that's where the transformation happens. And I mean, we everybody knows that African proverb. What is it? You want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together. Quote Lufasa, the movie. Yes, yes. But like that's a that's a a universal truth that we've known for forever, and now it's putting that into play. Um, and I've seen it working with women is like, yeah, we need each other, and that is so powerful. And I also want to say, too, you don't have to find a group of women that fill every single cup, right? I have lots of group of women that I am engaged with, and one of them is a spiritual space. One of them is a like my kids in school space, one of them is a business space. So I find communities wherever I want that support. If I'm if I want support in a certain area of my life, I go find the community for that. Though my business women don't necessarily help me with my kids at school community, you know, like they're not gonna be able to fill that cup. So you're not gonna be able to find someone that fills every cup, but you can find communities for all those different cups, right?

SPEAKER_00:

I love that you bring that up, Rachel, because I think again, this is also pushing against again the desire for perfectionism is of finding that perfect group that's gonna meet all the needs. Right. It depends on what your needs are, what season of life you're in, what you have capacity for, where you can show up, right? And so I think that that's so, so true.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah. Well, okay, so kind of wrapping this all up in a bow because of the work that you do and because of this rockstar framework, you're hosting a rockstar event. Can you speak to that and talk about a little bit about that?

SPEAKER_00:

I would love to. Well, I am so gracious that Rachel is actually one of my featured speakers on the Rockstar Mom Virtual Event. So the Rockstar Mom Virtual Event, it is a virtual retreat, if you will, where I've brought together in this moment, I've got 26 phenomenal speakers who speak to the things that we're looking for. Again, Rachel speaking about some of the financial health piece of it. Um, but we're talking nervous system regulation, we're talking habits and routines, what it means to actually set goals that you're gonna stick to. Um, I've got a couple experts on there talking about communication and conflict resolution and relationships. Um, it is just a breadth of not only information, because again, it's not just about information gathering. One thing I've told each of the speakers is I want people to walk away from our conversations with actionable steps. And so that's what you'll get from this event. Um, so it's a completely free event where you have free access to not only these phenomenal conversations, but also each speaker is offering some type of free gift. Um, and that alone is worth over a thousand dollars. So I would love to invite listeners to join us for that. Um, I'm sure Rachel will be sharing in the show notes the link to that. Um, and that's coming up mid-November.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah, and we'll put all the information for that link. It is, it's a free ticket, correct?

SPEAKER_00:

It's it's free. And people are like, it's it's funny when I get on the phone with speakers and they're like, so how much does your event cost? And I'm like, it's actually free because again, part of my mission is to, I'm such a collaborator by nature, so I love having these conversations, but it's together we rise. If the way that I have packaged and support women doesn't fit, then maybe the way Sarah does it does it well for you, or maybe you're looking for that financial support and Rachel has it. Um, and so it is it's free.

SPEAKER_01:

Well, and I can speak, I know some of the speakers, I can speak to the level of of just absolute um education and and knowledge that is getting poured into this event. Um, and Megan's done such a beautiful job of of creating that space and inviting the right people into it. I also think that when we talk about community and we talk about how our thoughts are shaped and who we want to become, there is real power in just putting energy somewhere and showing up for an event like this and just putting in your AirPods and listening to someone, you're putting energy towards that space. So whatever it is that you want to better in your life, you get to choose. It's kind of great because you can kind of pick and choose kind of like a mortgage board. Yeah. Yeah. You don't have to listen to every single episode or every single speaker, but you can go put energy towards something. And just by doing that, you're you're showing yourself, the universe, that you want help in that area. And I believe that that's where it starts, right? The level of awareness that starts. So definitely go sign up for this event. You can come check out Megan and I's episode. Um and I'm I'm I'm very honored that you even asked me to be part of this. I'm really excited to be there with all those um amazing people in the world.

SPEAKER_00:

So glad to have you part of it. Yeah, it's gonna be, it's gonna be, it's gonna be kick-ass. We're gonna have a fun time. And again, with the mission being like, how do we as women live our freaking most rock star lives? Where again, the outside and the inside match and we have fun doing it and we have the confidence. I'm here for it. You're here for it.

SPEAKER_01:

Yeah. So go sign up. Uh, what's the date that it starts? Because this this podcast coming out November 3rd. What's the date that it's Oh, fabulous.

SPEAKER_00:

They will be able to sign up the day that this podcast is released. Um, episodes get released, I think, about a week later. Um, and they'll come out over time, so you'll have time to listen to them. There will also be an option for those that want lifetime access, that want to maybe take their time a little bit more. So um should be a lot of fun.

SPEAKER_01:

Awesome. Well, thank you so much, Megan, for coming on here today. If if our listeners want to go find you, where can they find you? I know you have a podcast, but where else can they find it?

SPEAKER_00:

Yeah, so come check out my new podcast, The Rockstar Mom. Um, super, super fun. Um, I'm also on Instagram at Megan CaldwellPDX, as in the city of Portland. Yes. Um, MeganCaldwellPDX.com can kind of find me all over the place.

SPEAKER_01:

Cool. Yeah. So go check out her episode. And again, thank you so much for being here, Megan.

SPEAKER_00:

Thank you so much for having me, Rachel.

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