Ep. 212: Why Midlife Women Are So Tired & Sleep Doesn’t Seem to Fix it

Before we dive in today, I want you to take a breath with me. A real one.

Because if you're listening to this while folding laundry, washing dishes, or sneaking in a walk before the day takes over I see you. And I want you to know something right now, before we go any further.

You're not tired because you're lazy.

You're tired because your mind won't stop spinning.

And today, I'm going to show you exactly why that's happening…and a little bit about what to do about it.

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Well, let me paint a picture for you. It's Tuesday night. You're staring at the kitchen counter, the same counter that you cleaned yesterday, and it's already covered again. Mail, random papers, dishes that someone didn't take care of, a water bottle that never made it back to the cabinet. And you think to yourself, why can't I just keep this together? Or maybe it's your planner. You bought it in January with all the hope in the world. You even watched the YouTube tutorial on how to use it, but now it's more than a month later and you haven't opened it in a couple of weeks.

Well, let me paint a picture for you. It's Tuesday night. You're staring at the kitchen counter, the same counter that you cleaned yesterday, and it's already covered again. Mail, random papers, dishes that someone didn't take care of, a water bottle that never made it back to the cabinet. And you think to yourself, why can't I just keep this together? Or maybe it's your planner. You bought it in January with all the hope in the world. You even watched the YouTube tutorial on how to use it, but now it's more than a month later and you haven't opened it in a couple of weeks.

And the voice in your head whispers, why can't I just get it together? That voice, that's what I call the blame trap. And it's the lie that says the problem is you. That if you were more disciplined or more motivated or more organized or more something, life would finally work. But here's the truth. The problem isn't you, it's what you've been told to believe about yourself. The reality is this, you've been misdiagnosing the real problem. You think this is a motivation issue.

And the voice in your head whispers, why can't I just get it together? That voice, that's what I call the blame trap. And it's the lie that says the problem is you, that if you were more disciplined or more motivated or more organized or more something, life would finally work. But here's the truth. The problem isn't you. It's what you've been told to believe about yourself. The reality is this. You've been misdiagnosing the real problem. You think this is a motivation issue.

A discipline issue. Maybe I'm just not cut out for this sort of thing issue, but it's not. It's mental exhaustion from chronic decision overload. Every single day you're making hundreds of tiny decisions. What's for dinner? When to schedule that appointment? Whether to say yes to the volunteer request? If the car needs new brakes now or can it wait another month? Whether to respond to that text? If you should push your adult son about the breakup with his girlfriend or just give him space?

A discipline issue. Maybe I'm just not cut out for this sort of thing issue, but it's not. It's mental exhaustion from chronic decision overload. Every single day, you're making hundreds of tiny decisions. What's for dinner? When to schedule that appointment? Whether to say yes to the volunteer request? If the car needs new brakes now, or can it wait another month? Whether to respond to that text? If you should push your adult son about the breakup with his girlfriend or just give him space?

Decision after decision after decision. And here's what most people don't understand. Decisions actually drain you, even the ones you don't actually make. Because that appointment that you haven't scheduled yet, it's still running in the background of your brain like an open browser tab. The volunteer request that you haven't responded to, yep, that one's still there too. The growing pile of things that you need to deal with when you have time. And if you have clutter, well, that's all there too. And if you have...

Decision after decision after decision. And here's what most people don't understand. Decisions actually drain you, even the ones you don't actually make. Because that appointment that you haven't scheduled yet, it's still running in the background of your brain like an open browser tab. The volunteer request that you haven't responded to, yep, that one's still there too. The growing pile of things that you need to deal with when you have time. And if you have clutter, well, that's all there too. And if you have...

clutter that you're looking at in your home, your brain is constantly trying to organize it. Even if doing anything with the clutter hasn't appeared on your list of things to do in weeks, these things, are all still there. And your brain is treating every unmade decision like an active, open task. And it's exhausting you. This isn't a willpower problem. This is an overload problem. So here's where to start. Start catching the internal narrative. When that voice shows up that says things like,

clutter that you're looking at in your home, your brain is constantly trying to organize it. Even if doing anything with the clutter hasn't appeared on your list of things to do in weeks, these things, they are all still there and your brain is treating every unmade decision like an active, open task and it's exhausting you. This isn't a willpower problem. This is an overload problem. So here's where to start. Start catching the internal narrative. When that voice shows up that says things like,

I should be better at this by now. Or why is this so hard for me? Or why can't I get it together? I want you to name that voice out loud. Say it out loud, even if you're alone in your car. Here's what to say. That's the blame trap. Or if you want to get really honest about it, you can say, that's not the truth. That's just a story that I've been telling myself. Because here's the thing. When you name it, you take the power out of it.

I should be better at this by now. Or why is this so hard for me? Or why can't I get it together? I want you to name that voice out loud. Say it out loud, even if you're alone in your car. Here's what to say. That's the blame trap. Or if you want to get really honest about it, you can say, that's not the truth. That's just a story that I've been telling myself. Because here's the thing. When you name it, you take the power out of it.

You stop accepting it as truth and start recognizing it for what it really is, which is a flag, not a fact. If you keep saying to yourself, I should be able to do this better, that's the lie that you need to name. So let me give you an example from real life. One of my clients, we'll call her Susan, she came to me for coaching and she was completely defeated. She told me, I should be able to keep my house clean. My kids are older now. I work from home. I have no excuse.

You stop accepting it as truth and start recognizing it for what it really is, which is a flag, not a fact. If you keep saying to yourself, I should be able to do this better, that's the lie that you need to name. So let me give you an example from real life. One of my clients, we'll call her Susan, she came to me for coaching and she was completely defeated. She told me, I should be able to keep my house clean. My kids are older now. I work from home. I have no excuse.

But every night, I look around and I just feel like a failure. And so I asked her, well, what is it that you're doing all day? And as we talked, it became clear. She was managing a full client load. She was coordinating her teenagers' college visits. She was dealing with an aging parent's medical appointments. She was trying to stay on top of bills and groceries and the never-ending list of household repairs. She wasn't doing nothing. And she wasn't failing. She was overloaded by everything she was doing.

But every night, I look around and I just feel like a failure. And so I asked her, well, what is it that you're doing all day? And as we talked, it became clear. She was managing a full client load. She was coordinating her teenagers' college visits. She was dealing with an aging parent's medical appointments. She was trying to stay on top of bills and groceries and the never-ending list of household repairs. She wasn't doing nothing. And she wasn't failing. She was overloaded by everything she was doing. But.

But because the house wasn't clean, she decided that she was the problem, that she was failing. That's the blame trap. And if you're in it right now, it's really important that you listen. The mess on your counter isn't proof that you're failing, it's proof that you're carrying more than you've been giving yourself credit for. And so there's this thing called the invisible to-do list. You probably know the one I'm talking about, you just didn't realize it.

Because the house wasn't clean, she decided that she was the problem, that she was failing. That's the blame trap. And if you're in it right now, it's really important that you listen. The mess on your counter isn't proof that you're failing. It's proof that you're carrying more than you've been giving yourself credit for. And so there's this thing called the invisible to-do list. You probably know the one I'm talking about. You just didn't realize it. These are the things that are not written down anywhere.

These are the things that are not written down anywhere. These are the things that don't show up on your calendar, but these things are always there running in the background of your mind like this constant hum that you can't shut off. I need to schedule that dentist appointment. Did I respond to that email? What if we're almost out of milk? I should check in with my friend. I haven't texted her in weeks. That donation pile needs to go to Goodwill. When's the last time I called my mom? And on and on and on it goes. And here's the thing, you're not even actively

These are the things that don't show up on your calendar, but these things are always there running in the background of your mind like this constant hum that you can't shut off. I need to schedule that dentist appointment. Did I respond to that email? What if we're almost out of milk? I should check in with my friend. I haven't texted her in weeks. That donation pile needs to go to Goodwill. When's the last time I called my mom? And on and on and on it goes. And here's the thing. You're not even actively thinking about these things. They're just there. They're in the background.

thinking about these things. They're just there. They're in the background, taking up space, draining your energy without you even realizing it. It's not what you're doing that's exhausting you as much as it is. It's what you're still thinking about. And so I've got a strategy for you, and I'm calling it the mental load multiplier. And it works like this. Every task, every decision, every unfinished thing you're mentally tracking,

taking up space, draining your energy without you even realizing it. It's not what you're doing that's exhausting you as much as it is, it's what you're still thinking about. And so I've got a strategy for you, and I'm calling it the mental load multiplier. And it works like this. Every task, every decision, every unfinished thing you're mentally tracking, you need to recognize.

You need to recognize that this is like an open tab in your brain. Just like open tabs on your computer and how they slow everything down, these mental tabs are draining your energy constantly. This is kind of like a strategic disadvantage to you. All of these open loops, together they create this and multiply this mental load to these huge epic proportions.

that this is like an open tab in your brain. Just like open tabs on your computer and how they slow everything down, these mental tabs are draining your energy constantly. This is kind of like a strategic disadvantage to you. All of these open loops, together they create this and multiply this mental load to these huge epic proportions that you're carrying around every day and you don't even realize it.

that you're carrying around every day and you don't even realize it. The work of thinking about the task can actually drain you more than actually doing the task. Let me say that again because it's important. Mental tabs almost always drain more energy than the actual effort. You can spend 15 minutes folding laundry and feel fine, but spending three days thinking about folding the laundry, seeing it pile up,

The work of thinking about the task can actually drain you more than actually doing the task. Let me say that again because it's important. Mental tabs almost always drain more energy than the actual effort. You can spend 15 minutes folding laundry and feel fine, but spending three days thinking about folding the laundry, seeing it pile up, mentally calculating when you're finally gonna get to it, well, that's gonna wear you out completely.

mentally calculating when you're finally gonna get to it, well that's gonna wear you out completely. And this is why you can get to the end of the day feeling utterly exhausted even if you didn't actually do that much because your brain has been working overtime managing all of those open tabs. And so here's what to do right now. Take inventory, grab a piece of paper or just open up the notes app on your phone and just start writing out the things, write out those loops.

This is why you can get to the end of the day feeling utterly exhausted, even if you didn't actually do that much, because your brain has been working overtime managing all of those open tabs. And so here's what to do right now is take inventory, grab a piece of paper or make, just open up the NAPS, the notes app on your phone and just start writing out the things, write out those loops that are still open in your brain right now. Just start dumping them out, dumping them out. It's not everything you need to do.

that are still open in your brain right now. Just start dumping them out. It's not everything you need to do, just the things that you feel like you are mentally carrying right now. The decisions that you haven't made, the tasks that you're thinking about but haven't closed. Write them down. Because here's what happens when you do this. You start to actually be able to see what's draining you. And once you can see it, then you can start to deal with it. So let me give you a concrete example.

Just the things that you feel like you are mentally carrying right now, the decisions that you haven't made, the tasks that you're thinking about but haven't closed. Write them down. Because here's what happens when you do this. You start to actually be able to see what's draining you. And once you can see it, then you can start to deal with it. So let me give you a concrete example. I need to schedule that dentist appointment. This seems small. It's just.

I need to schedule that dentist appointment, right? This seems small. It's just one small task, should take five minutes or less. But here's what's actually happening. That appointment that you haven't scheduled, it's running in the background every single day until you make it. You think about it when you're brushing your teeth. You think about it when you're scrolling your phone, when you see that reminder pop up on your calendar about something else. It's taking up mental space and it's costing you energy.

One small task should take five minutes or less. But here's what's actually happening. That appointment that you haven't scheduled, it's running in the background every single day until you make it. You think about it when you're brushing your teeth. You think about it when you're scrolling your phone, when you see that reminder pop up on your calendar about something else. It's taking up mental space and it's costing you energy. But the moment you actually make the phone call and schedule it, that loop closes. That mental tab shuts down and suddenly you've got a little bit of energy back.

But the moment you actually make the phone call and schedule it, that loop closes, that mental tab shuts down, and suddenly you've got a little bit of energy back. It's not about doing more, it's about finishing what you've started, even in your mind. So let me tell you what it feels like to live in this state of constant open tabs. It feels like you're holding everything in the air at once. Like if you were to set even one thing down, it's all gonna unravel and come crashing down.

It's not about doing more. It's about finishing what you've started, even in your mind. So let me tell you what it feels like to live in this state of constant open tabs. It feels like you're holding everything in the air at once. Like if you were to set even one thing down, it's all gonna unravel and come crashing down. Nothing feels finished. Nothing feels settled. Nothing feels decided. And because nothing is decided,

Nothing feels finished. Nothing feels settled. Nothing feels decided. And because nothing is decided, everything feels unstable and unsettled. And these are feelings that we are not wired to like as humans. They signal danger in real life, this unsettled feeling. You're not living your life. You're holding your life in this way, all of it. And it's exhausting to hold it all at once. Maybe it's your morning routine. Maybe you keep telling yourself you're going to start waking up earlier.

Everything feels unstable and unsettled. And these are feelings that we are not wired to like as humans. They signal danger in real life, this unsettled feeling. You're not living your life, you're holding your life in this way, all of it. And it's exhausting to hold it all at once. Maybe it's your morning routine. Maybe you keep telling yourself you're going to start waking up earlier, but you never actually commit to a time. And so every night, you're negotiating with yourself.

but you never actually commit to a time. And so every night you're negotiating with yourself. Should I set my alarm for 6 or 630 or maybe 7 is fine? Or maybe it's boundaries with a family member. You know you need to stop doing everything for them, but you haven't decided what you're actually going to be saying no to. And so every request feels like a new decision. You're deciding every single time. And you're constantly second guessing yourself for whatever decision it is that you make.

Should I set my alarm for 6 or 6.30 or maybe 7 is fine? Or maybe it's boundaries with a family member. You know you need to stop doing everything for them, but you haven't decided what you're actually going to be saying no to. And so every request feels like a new decision. You're deciding every single time. And you're constantly second guessing yourself for whatever decision it is that you make. When nothing is decided, everything feels unstable. And so here's what I've learned.

When nothing is decided, everything feels unstable. And so here's what I've learned. Life feels overwhelming not because you have too much to do. Life feels overwhelming because nothing is off the table. You're keeping everything open, every possibility, every option, every decision. In your brain, it can't rest when everything is still a possibility, when everything is still a maybe. This is what I would call an open tab problem.

Life feels overwhelming not because you have too much to do. Life feels overwhelming because nothing is off the table. You're keeping everything open, every possibility, every option, every decision. In your brain, it can't rest when everything is still a possibility, when everything is still a maybe. This is what I would call an open tab problem. And it's one of the biggest reasons that women feel stuck.

And it's one of the biggest reasons that women feel stuck. The thing is, you're actually not stuck. You're just tangled. You're tangled in a web of unmade decisions that are keeping you from moving forward. And so here's the shift that can help. Choose one loop and decide once. Close that loop. Decide that it's done. Not I'll think about it, not I'll see how it feels tomorrow, but decide and then close the loop.

The thing is you're actually not stuck, you're just tangled. You're tangled in a web of unmade decisions that are keeping you from moving forward. And so here's the shift that can help. Choose one loop and decide once. Close that loop. Decide that it's done. Not I'll think about it, not I'll see how it feels tomorrow, but decide and then close the loop. Let yourself be done thinking about it. If it's your bedtime, decide when you're gonna go to bed.

let yourself be done thinking about it. If it's your bedtime, decide when you're gonna go to bed and stick to it for one week. Don't renegotiate it every night. If it's your workout, decide what days you're gonna be working out and show up and do it. Don't leave it open-ended. If it's a boundary with your family, decide what you're gonna be saying yes to and what you're saying no to and then stop re-deciding every single time. Stop negotiating and renegotiating with yourself.

and stick to it for one week. Don't renegotiate it every night. If it's your workout, decide what days you're going to be working out and show up and do it. Don't leave it open-ended. If it's a boundary with your family, decide what you're going to be saying yes to and what you're saying no to, and then stop re-deciding every single time. Stop negotiating and renegotiating with yourself. Because every time you re-decide something, you're using energy.

Because every time you re-decide something, you're using energy. You're creating mental load. And you're keeping that tab open. Now it's time to close it. So let me give you an example from my life. So I used to renegotiate my walk with myself every day. I wanted to take a walk every day. But it didn't always work. And so every day was having to play this game with myself. I was having to negotiate.

You're creating mental load, and you're keeping that tab open. Now it's time to close it. So let me give you an example from my life. So I used to renegotiate my walk with myself every day. I wanted to take a walk every day, but it didn't always work. And so every day was having to play this game with myself. I was having to negotiate. Should I go today? Do I have time? Do I have the energy? What's the weather like? Maybe I'll go tomorrow.

Should I go today? Do I have time? Do I have the energy? What's the weather like? Maybe I'll go tomorrow. And it drained me. And it wasn't the walk itself that was draining me, but it was the daily debate about whether or not to do it. And so I made one decision. I closed the loop. I decided I'll walk on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, and one day on the weekend. That's it. It was non-negotiable. I don't think about it. I didn't think about it. And I don't think about it. I don't debate it. I just go. And do know what happened?

And it drained me. And it wasn't the walk itself that was draining me, but it was the daily debate about whether or not to do it. And so I made one decision. I closed the loop. I decided I'll walk on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, and one day on the weekend. That's it. It was non-negotiable. I don't think about it. I didn't think about it. And I don't think about it. I don't debate it. I just go. And do you know what happened? I had more energy, not less, because I wasn't using energy to decide anymore, and decide, and decide, and decide.

I had more energy, not less, because I wasn't using energy to decide anymore and decide and decide and decide. The decision was already made. This is what it looks like to decide once and then close the loop and give yourself that energy back. Because here's what's so important to understand. The systems that you've tried, they weren't necessarily wrong. The planner, the morning routine, the meal prep strategy, they weren't bad ideas.

The decision was already made. This is what it looks like to decide once and then close the loop and give yourself that energy back. Because here's what's so important to understand. The systems that you've tried, they weren't necessarily wrong. The planner, the morning routine, the meal prep strategy, they weren't bad ideas. They just didn't work because you layered them on top of loops that were never closed in the first place.

They just didn't work because you layered them on top of loops that were never closed in the first place. Basically, you installed a new solution on top of an unstable system already. And no new solution can take hold when the foundation underneath is already shaky. Think about it. You bought the planner, you set up the pages, you even wrote down your goals, but you never decided.

Basically, you installed a new solution on top of an unstable system already. And no new solution can take hold when the foundation underneath is already shaky. Think about it. You bought the planner. You set up the pages. You even wrote down your goals. But you never decided what you were actually committing to. You never closed the loop on what mattered most. And so every time life got busy, the system fell apart.

what you were actually committing to. You never closed the loop on what mattered most. And so every time life got busy, the system fell apart because it was never rooted in decisions that stuck. So the systems you've tried weren't wrong. They were layered over top of loops that you never closed. Here's the truth. Systems work after decisions, not before. But we love the shiny new system.

because it was never rooted in decisions that stuck. So the systems you've tried weren't wrong. They were layered over top of loops that you never closed. Here's the truth. Systems work after decisions, not before. But we love the shiny new system. The truth is you don't need a new planner. You don't need a better system. You need clearer decisions.

The truth is you don't need a new planner. You don't need a better system. You need clearer decisions. You don't need a more detailed morning routine. You need to decide once what your mornings are actually used for, and then you set up a routine that matches that desired outcome. Do you see how the decision has to be made first? What's the purpose? What am I trying to accomplish? What value do I need this to serve? You don't need another productivity hack.

You don't need a more detailed morning routine. You need to decide once what your mornings are actually used for. And then you set up a routine that matches that desired outcome. Do you see how the decision has to be made first? What's the purpose? What am I trying to accomplish? What value do I need this to serve? You don't need another productivity hack. You need to close the loops that are keeping you in constant motion without any forward movement. Because here's the thing.

You need to close the loops that are keeping you in constant motion without any forward movement because here's the thing, you can't build a life that works if you're still negotiating the foundation every single day. Decide first and then build. So let me give you a simple tool to start with. It's called the 15 minute loop closer and here's how it works. Set a timer for 15 minutes. Pick one thing, just one.

You can't build a life that works if you're still negotiating the foundation every single day. Decide first and then build. So let me give you a simple tool to start with. It's called the 15 minute loop closer. And here's how it works. Set a timer for 15 minutes. Pick one thing, just one, that's been running on in the background of your mind and finish it. Don't make progress on it. Don't think about it some more.

that's been running on in the background of your mind and finish it. Don't make progress on it. Don't think about it some more. Actually finish it. Send the email. Make the phone call. Throw away the trash. Text the no that you've been avoiding. Close the loop. And then notice how you feel. Because I'm willing to bet that you're gonna feel lighter. Not because the task was so hard, but because it's finally done.

actually finish it, send the email, make the phone call, throw away the trash, text the no that you've been avoiding, close the loop, and then notice how you feel. Because I'm willing to bet that you're gonna feel lighter, not because the task was so hard, but because it's finally done. The mental tab is closed, and that energy is now yours again.

the mental tab is closed and that energy is now yours again.

So let me tell you about the time that I had this donation pile in my house, right? And I had it for a couple of months and it was in my closet and I was going to take the clothes, but I just didn't make the time to take them. But every time I looked at it, right? I had this pile of clothes for months and I kept telling myself that I was gonna take it when I had time, right? But every time I walked past that pile, my brain registered it as an open task. Every time I looked in my closet, I thought about it and it drained me a little every single time.

So let me tell you about the time that I had this donation pile in my house, right? And I had it for a couple of months, and it was in my closet, and I was going to take the clothes. But I just didn't make the time to take them. But every time I looked at it, right? I had this pile of clothes for months, and I kept telling myself that I was going to take it when I had time, right? But every time I walked past that pile, my brain registered it as an open task. Every time I looked in my closet, I thought about it, and it drained me a little every single time.

It wasn't that the pile itself was the problem, it was the fact that I hadn't closed the loop. And so one day I decided, I'm just gonna get in my car and I'm gonna drive to Goodwill today. I'm not gonna think about whether it makes sense to do it today, I'm just gonna do it today. Not tomorrow, not when I'm already halfway there, but today. And so I loaded it in my car, I drove it there, and when I was done, it was amazing. The relief was immediate. And it wasn't because donating clothes is some life-changing task.

It wasn't that the pile itself was the problem. It was the fact that I hadn't closed the loop. And so one day I decided I'm just going to get in my car and I'm going to drive to Goodwill today. I'm not going to think about whether it makes sense to do it today. I'm just going to do it today. Not tomorrow. Not when I'm already halfway there, but today. And so I loaded it in my car. I drove it there. And when I was done, it was amazing. The relief was immediate. And it wasn't because donating clothes is some life changing task.

But it was because that was a closed loop for me. That mental tab was shut down. And I had that energy back. Because like me, you don't need more effort. You need to make decisions and then stick with them. Because it's not about being lazy or unmotivated. It's just a matter of being tangled up, tangled in a web of unmade decisions and open loops and mental tabs that have been draining you for far too long. But the truth is the empowering

But it was because that was a closed loop for me. That mental tab was shut down. And I had that energy back. Because like me, you don't need more effort. You need to make decisions and then stick with them. Because it's not about being lazy or unmotivated. It's just a matter of being tangled up, tangled in a web of unmade decisions and open loops and mental tabs that have been draining you for far too long. But the truth is, the empowering

This is such an empowering and hopeful truth. You don't need a new planner. You need fewer open loops. And you can do that today. And you don't have to spend a dime. You can start today, not tomorrow, not next week, but today. You can close one loop right now as soon as we are done. You can name the blame trap when it shows up. And you can take inventory of what's running in the background of your mind. You can decide once instead of renegotiating it every single day.

This is such an empowering and hopeful truth. You don't need a new planner. You need fewer open loops. And you can do that today. And you don't have to spend a dime. You can start today, not tomorrow, not next week, but today. You can close one loop right now as soon as we are done. You can name the blame trap when it shows up. And you can take inventory of what's running in the background of your mind. You can decide once instead of renegotiating it every single day.

And when you do, you're gonna start to feel clearer again. You're gonna start to feel less tangled and more steady, more like yourself again. Not because life got any easier, but because you learned how to carry it differently. And that's what I help women do every single day. I help them untangle. I help them see what's really happening. And I help them build lives that actually work without hype or without pressure and without pretending that life is gonna get any easier. Because it's probably not. But life is figureoutable.

And when you do, you're going to start to feel clearer again. You're going to start to feel less tangled and more steady, more like yourself again. Not because life got any easier, but because you learned how to carry it differently. And that's what I help women do every single day. I help them untangle. I help them see what's really happening. And I help them build lives that actually work without hype or without pressure and without pretending that life is going to get any easier. Because it's probably not. But life is figureoutable.

and you are capable of this. So here's what to do next. If you haven't already done so, go download the free resource that goes along with this episode. It's called Why Life Feels So Tangled, and it's gonna help you take this framework even deeper. You can grab it at whylifefeelssotangled.com. And second, I want you to pick one mental loop and close it within the next 15 minutes, not thinking about it, not adding it to your list, but actually pick one loop and close it.

and you are capable of this. So here's what to do next. If you haven't already done so, go download the free resource that goes along with this episode. It's called Why Life Feels So Tangled, and it's going to help you take this framework even deeper. You can grab it at whylifefeelssotangled.com. And second, I want you to pick one mental loop and close it within the next 15 minutes, not thinking about it, not adding it to your list, but actually pick one loop and close it.

Send the text, make the phone call, throw away the thing, just close one loop and notice how you feel. And third, if this episode resonated with you, make sure that you're subscribing here and make sure that you share this with a friend. You know the one, she's the one who keeps saying, I just need to get it together right along with you. Send this to her because she needs to hear it too. So thanks for being here. I know that your time is valuable and I know that you're juggling a lot and I'm so glad that you spent this time with me.

Send the text, make the phone call, throw away the thing, just close one loop and notice how you feel. And third, if this episode resonated with you, make sure that you're subscribing here and make sure that you share this with a friend. You know the one, she's the one who keeps saying, I just need to get it together right along with you. Send this to her because she needs to hear it too. So thanks for being here. I know that your time is valuable and I know that you're juggling a lot and I'm so glad that you spent this time with me.

If you want more honest, no fluff conversations like this, make sure that you are subscribed right here because these are the conversations that we have every day. A lot of times they're the ones that other people don't wanna have, but we're having those conversations here. So until we talk again, make it a great day.

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