Ep. 217: Clutter Help: It's Not About the Mess: What Your Counter Is Actually Telling You

So I'm sitting on my couch this past weekend

Winter decorations are still out. It's mid-February. They should've come down a couple of weeks ago because I’m over winter. 

There are three loads of laundry in a pile on my bedroom floor, which is in plain view from where I sit. Clean, but not folded. Just sitting there.

My meal planning? Untouched. Haven't even thought about it.

And I'm watching a movie.

Not scrambling to fix any of these things that are undone. Not spiraling. Not mentally beating myself up.

Just... watching a movie.

I could literally see the laundry pile from where I was sitting. I knew the decorations were there. I knew the week ahead had zero meal prep done.

And I was totally fine with it.

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Transcript

here's the thing. There may have been seasons in my life where I would have made the undone things mean something was wrong with me. And this wasn't one of those times. I was completely at peace with the massive laundry pile that was sitting there. I was fine with the fact that there was no meal prep done, but I've not always been that way. And I know a lot of you are still in that place where this would be a problem.

where you aren't okay with those things sitting there undone while you're watching a movie or scrolling. Your cluttered counter and your massive laundry piles and your regular meals grabbed from the drive-through, they're telling you stories about yourself that are anything but kind. And so today we're talking about why the messy counter hits us so hard.

why it spirals into things like, no wonder I can't lose weight, no wonder I can't control my anger, no wonder I'm struggling to parent my teens, and why the problem has nothing to do with your motivation. But we're gonna talk about what it is instead. So let's start with a typical moment that you probably know all too well. You walk into the kitchen and there's dishes in the sink. There's mail stacked on the counter.

There's a laundry basket overflowing somewhere in the background and your brain, doesn't just see the clutter. It sees evidence, evidence like you're behind, you're failing. Everyone else can handle this. Maybe you're saying things to yourself like, why can't I get it together? And for most women, this is because visible mess, feels like proof of internal collapse because somewhere along the way, maybe in childhood, maybe in early motherhood,

Maybe from a thousand small subtle messages that you absorbed without even realizing it, you tied your emotional stability to how well you manage your environment. Think about it. You probably grew up hearing the message that good women keep tidy homes. Maybe you internalized the belief that if your house is a mess, you're a mess. Maybe you learned that having guests equals

going into a panic mode, cleaning everything because what are they gonna think? And now here you are decades later standing in your kitchen at 9 p.m. exhausted and staring at the dishes. And instead of just seeing the dishes, you're seeing evidence of your inadequacy. You're seeing proof that you can't keep up. You're seeing all the ways that you're falling short. And when your environment starts slipping in this way, you assume that you are slipping.

The counter becomes a scorecard of sorts and you're losing. But here's what I want you to hear. The counter isn't the problem. It's the scorecard that you're keeping against yourself. You're not actually upset about the dishes. You're upset about what you think the dishes mean about you. And that's a completely different problem because one of those problems you can solve with dishwasher, with the dishwasher and the other one,

It actually requires a mindset shift. Listen to the stories that you tell yourself when you see a mess. It might be things like, I used to be able to handle this. I used to be able to keep up. What's wrong with me? Why can't I just get it together? My mom never let the house get like this. My friend doesn't have her house look like this. If people saw this, they would know that I'm falling apart. Those are not observations. Those are judgments. And they're keeping you stuck in this

shame spiral that's not actually addressing the actual happening. It's not addressing what's actually going on. The mess, actually isn't telling you that you're a failure. It's telling you that something else is taking priority right now. And until you can separate the clutter on the counter from the story that you're telling yourself about that clutter, you're gonna keep seeing that kitchen counter as a weapon

to use against your own self. So let's talk about what's actually happening underneath all of this, because the mess isn't the problem, and it's not a signal of laziness. So let me paint you a picture of my current season. I'm in the midst of emotionally charged situations that are happening almost weekly. People I love and care about, they're deeply struggling in ways that I can't fix.

There's one expected hit after another. Some are big, some are small, but all are requiring emotional bandwidth from me. I'm solving something and before I can finish solving that, something new starts spinning. And now they're all colliding. And in seasons like this, the reality is that something has to give. It's almost always, it's almost always surrendering our visible piece that falls apart first.

So it's things like that meal plan that we have to let go of. And it's the decorations that stay up too long. It's the laundry that sits in a pile. It's the counter that collects clutter because those are kind of the lowest priority survival tasks when your nervous system is busy doing other very important things. And your nervous system in seasons like this is probably constantly in this alert mode, in this response mode.

So let me explain a little bit about what's happening in your brain. When you are essentially dealing with a season like this, your brain is consistently in fight or flight mode. And when your brain is in fight or flight mode, when you're emotionally activated, when you're managing crisis after crisis, when you're holding space for big emotions, your prefrontal cortex, it isn't fully online.

That's the part of your brain that plans and organizes and executes tasks. It's the part that remembers to meal plan and cares about folding the laundry. But when your nervous system is taxed, your brain literally cannot prioritize those things. Your brain is triaging instead. It's choosing emotional regulation over a clean kitchen. It's choosing...

connection with your struggling teenager over folding the towels. And it's choosing to keep yourself upright over keeping the house Pinterest ready. And that's not a signal of laziness. That's actually a sign of survival intelligence. Your body is smarter than you think. It knows what matters most. And right now, what matters is keeping you emotionally regulated enough to show up for the people

and the situations that actually need you. Because in reality, the dishes can wait, the laundry can sit, the meal plan, maybe it can be the drive-through for the third night this week. Because if you collapse trying to keep it all perfect, none of it actually ends up mattering anyway. And so here's what is so important to understand. Regardless of what those stories are that you're telling yourself, you are not lazy. You are in a state of overload.

and overloaded women, don't need a cleaning schedule. They need an honest capacity assessment. I see this all the time in the women that I know, the women that I see, and the clients that I serve. They come to me thinking that they need better systems. They need better routines and better schedules, a better planner. They need more motivation. And what they actually need is permission to recognize

and allow the fact that they're carrying so much. They need someone to look them in the eye and say, you know what, you're not failing. You're just carrying a lot. And that actually is something that we can do something about, but not by adding more to your plate. Because here's the truth that nobody talks about. The structure that you're trying so hard to implement and to fit inside, that structure isn't the problem, it's the support.

But the thing is that support only works when it matches your current capacity, not your ideal capacity, not the capacity that you had three years ago when your life was lighter, your current actual capacity right now in this season with everything that you're actually carrying, the emotional labor of parenting teenagers, the mental load of managing a household, the physical exhaustion of showing up day after day when you're not getting enough.

The invisible weight of maybe caring for aging parents or other family members or struggling kids or a marriage that needs attention, all of those things, they get added together and they count. And all of those things takes a lot of capacity. And if you're trying to function at last year's capacity in the midst of this year's chaos,

Well, you're going to keep feeling like you're failing because you're measuring yourself now against a version of your life that just doesn't exist anymore. And so I know what you're probably thinking right now because I thought it too. If I can't keep my house under control, then no wonder I can't. You fill in the blank. It could be lose the weight. It could be get up on time. It could be prioritize this relationship. It could be no wonder I snap at my kids. No wonder nothing works.

You're using that kitchen counter as evidence that change is hopeless. You're pointing to that visible stuff that you see and you're saying, see, this is proof. It's why I can't do anything right. And I get that. I really do because again, I've been there and I see it all day long. I've been where you are, sitting in my kitchen, looking at the mess and using it as evidence that I was failing at everything. If I can't even load the dishwasher, how am I supposed to lose weight?

If I can't keep the laundry folded, how can I possibly parent my kids well? If I can't meal plan, clearly I have no self-discipline. And so of course I'm gonna fail at everything else too. And the brain loves to make these connections. And when you're already feeling overwhelmed, it's easy to use one visible failure as proof of total collapse. But let me break this down for you. The mess, it's actually neutral.

It's just laundry. It's just dishes. It's just the mail. It doesn't mean anything about your character or your worth or your ability to change or do hard things. The pile of laundry, it's not judging you. And the stack of mail, it isn't disappointed in you. And the dishes aren't wondering when you're gonna get them done. You are wondering all of those things.

You are saying all of those things. You are making all of those judgments. You're the one assigning meaning to all of those things. And in reality, when we go through tough, overloaded, this is too heavy for me seasons, all seasons are temporary. And it's true that yes, this feels heavy right now. Yes, it feels like it's been this way forever. But the truth is that seasons shift. They always do. And

I know that it's really hard to remember that and it's really hard to feel that when you're in the thick of it. When you've been essentially drowning for months or years, it's easy to believe that this is just what my life is now. But in reality, it's not. The teenager who's struggling, they're going to grow up. The crisis that you're managing, it's going to resolve in some way or another. And the season of chaos, it will eventually calm down.

Nothing stays the same forever. And the capacity that you don't have today, well, you might have it six months from now. And so for now, in this moment, know that your nervous system is taxed out. And when you are in this constant fight or flight, when you are in this constant responsive mode, managing crisis after crisis, holding space for people you love, navigating uncertainty, your brain literally cannot prioritize the same way it does.

when the season is calmer. And again, it's not a sign of weakness. It's actually physiology. It's actually biology. When your nervous system is activated, your body goes into self-protection mode. It conserves energy for what matters most. And folding laundry typically is not going to make the cut. The problem isn't the clutter. It's the meaning that you are assigning to the clutter.

You're taking something that is neutral, like a pile of laundry or a stack of dishes, and you're turning it into a referendum on your entire life. You're using it as evidence that you're broken, that you're lazy, that you're failing. And all of those are lies. And those kinds of lies that the mess proves something about you, that is an absolute sticking point for you.

The lie that you're essentially believing is that if you were stronger or smarter or more disciplined or more organized or more together or more like this person or that person, well then you'd be able to handle it all. another common lie is that everyone else is managing just fine and you're the only one falling apart. But none of those things are true. And what is true is this, you're doing the best that you can with what you have right now.

And the reason I know that is because I have yet to meet a woman who wakes up in the morning and says, you know what, how can I drop all the balls I'm supposed to carry today? How can I totally mess it up today? How can I feel like a total failure today? We're not waking up and we are not saying those things. And that is why I know that you are doing the very best that you can with what you have available right now. And the reality is that sometimes,

your best, it is not going to include a clean counter and that is totally okay. It doesn't mean that you've given up and it doesn't mean that you don't care. It just means that you're human and humans, here's a news flash, humans have limits. So let me give you a different lens through which to see all of this, a more grounded one because

The lens that I want you to use is this, the mess, the mess that you're seeing and judging yourself for, it actually isn't a character flaw. It's just the way that life needs to be for right now. And I know that that might feel like I'm giving you permission to let yourself off the hook, but I'm not. There's a difference between understanding what is real and making excuses. There's a difference between ownership and shame.

There is a massive difference between self-compassion and letting yourself off the hook. So let me be clear. I'm not telling you to give up here. I'm not telling you to stop caring. I'm not telling you that it's fine to live in chaos forever and just accept it. But what I am telling you is that you need to start from a place of truth, not the story, not these judgments, not these lies that you've been telling yourself, not the shame spiral, but from what's actually real.

So let me teach you three truths that can change everything for you. Truth number one is that capacity is not fixed. When you carry, what you carry in one season is not necessarily going to be what you're required to carry in another. And that does not signal any kind of moral failing. That is just the reality. When my husband was in nursing school and we were navigating financial stress and teenage drama and a complete

upheaval of our family rhythm, I could not keep up with the same routines that I'd had before. I couldn't meal plan the way that I was used to. I couldn't keep the house the way that I liked it. I couldn't show up the way that I used to do before all of that. And it did not mean that I had stopped caring because I didn't. And it didn't signal that I was lazy either. But my capacity had shifted. I was using every ounce of energy that I had just to keep our family functioning.

just to keep myself from falling apart, just to keep moving forward when everything else felt uncertain and hard. And in that season, letting the laundry pile up and things like that, it wasn't failure. It was simply triage. I had to scale back, not because I was weak, but because my capacity had shifted. And pretending that it didn't, it never would have been based in reality.

it would have suffocated me. So that's truth number one is that capacity is not fixed. Truth number two is that seasons shift. This heavy season that you might find yourself in right now, it's not gonna be your permanent address, but I know it can feel like it will be. And I know that it can often feel like you've been drowning for so long that this is just your reality. This is just the way that life is now. This is just who you are now.

that you'll never feel capable or clear headed or caught up again. But it's not true. That's not true either. Seasons change. This crisis will pass. The kids will get older. Your job situation will stabilize. The grief will soften. The chaos will calm. And when it does, your capacity will shift again. I've lived through seasons where I could barely keep my head above water. That's what it felt like.

It was seasons where getting through the day itself, just getting through the day felt like the accomplishment, where I looked at other women and I wondered how they made it look so easy. But then those seasons passed and suddenly I had more energy again. I had more bandwidth again. I could pick up some of those routines that I had let go. I could rebuild structure that had fallen apart.

And it wasn't because I finally got my act together or got motivated or got more committed or more disciplined or more organized or got up earlier or any of that. It was simply because the season itself had shifted. And that meant that my capacity shifted as well. But right now, if you are in a hard season, you are probably going to have to work with what you actually have, not what you wish you had. You are doing

a fine job with what you have available to you. Again, unless you're waking up in the morning and saying, how can I sabotage my day today? You are doing good with what you have available. You do not need to be believing any of those lies that you've likely been spiraling in for a long time. So if truth number one is that capacity shifts and truth number two is that seasons shift, truth number three then is what you can carry shifts.

And really, as we mature in our understanding of ourselves and as we advance in understanding how our minds work and how to manage our lives together, we need to be able to move to this place where we can say, this is what I have to give right now, and that's enough. It's not saying I should be able to do more. It's not everyone else can handle this. It's literally just conversations with yourself that say something like,

This is my reality and I'm going to lead myself through it with honesty and compassion for myself and what I am actually having to carry. This is what essentially emotional adulthood looks like. This is what adult, an adult mindset control looks like. It's not forcing productivity when you're running on empty already. It's not collapsing in shame when you can't keep up, but

It's a matter of assessing reality and then adjusting accordingly. It's the ability to say, I'm overwhelmed right now. And instead of pretending that I'm not, I'm going to acknowledge it and make strategic decisions about what I can actually handle because of it. It's the willingness to change the bar temporarily, not because you've given up or are admitting defeat, but because you're

willing to be honest about what's sustainable and what's not. It's the courage to say no to things that don't serve you right now, even if they're very good things, and even if you could handle them in a different season. This is what it looks like to have ownership without shame, with the understanding that you are taking this ownership where it's necessary, and that you're not letting yourself off the hook, and that you're not making excuses.

But you're understanding and evaluating what's real. And then you're making decisions from that grounded place. You're saying, given everything that I'm carrying, what can I realistically manage? You're saying, what needs to stay? What needs to go? What can wait? You're saying, I'm going to prioritize the things that matter most and release the guilt about everything else for now. That's leadership. That's...

Maturity, that's mindset control. And that's what most women are missing. That's what most women have never been taught is even available to you. We've been taught to just push through, to try harder, to do it all, to never let anyone see us struggle. But we've never been taught to assess or to look at capacity honestly and to then lead ourselves and allow ourselves to respond accordingly. We've never been given permission to say, this is too much and I'm going to adjust.

instead of trying to break myself in the name of keeping up. And so I'm giving you that permission now. I'm giving you that insight now. You're allowed to be overwhelmed. You are allowed to admit that you can't do it all. You're allowed to lead yourself through this season with honesty and the lens of compassion instead of shame that you've weaponized. So,

What do we actually do with all of this? I've given you this insight, I've given you this permission, now what? Because I'm not just here to make you feel better about your messy counter. I'm here to help you move forward. So let me give you five practical shifts that you can make right now. Shift number one, stop diagnosing your character based on your kitchen counter. Mess is data, it is not identity. And so when you see the clutter, instead of kind of spiraling into this I'm a mess, ask yourself,

What does this tell me about my current capacity? Maybe it tells you that you are pouring a lot of energy into something else right now. Maybe it tells you that you need more support. Maybe it tells you that your systems or your routines need to shift, but it does not tell you that you're broken. It just tells you what's true right now if you allow it. Step two is to ask, what is my real, actual, honest capacity right now? Not the ideal capacity.

not your past capacity, not what I wish I could do right now, not the capacity that you think you should be able to manage, but truly the current capacity. Sit down with a piece of paper and write out everything that's actually on your plate right now. Do you even know what that is? My guess is once you sit down with that piece of paper and you start writing some of it down, it's just going to start pouring out of you. Think about everything that you're managing emotionally and mentally and physically and relationally.

and then start to look at that list and ask yourself honestly, given all of this, what can I realistically handle? Because until you get honest about your actual capacity, you're gonna keep setting yourself up to fail. You're gonna keep demanding more from yourself than is actually possible. And you're gonna stay stuck in that shame spiral. And guess what? That means you're gonna stay stuck. So step number three is to choose.

one stabilizing habit, not 10, just one. We're not here to do a full reset. We're not doing a massive life overhaul. We're looking to establish essentially one small rhythm that is going to support your nervous system rather than sabotage it. So here are a couple of simple examples. You can take any one of these examples and implement any one of these, or you can use them as a springboard to come up with what would be more appropriate.

for you, again, in terms of a small rhythm that can help support your nervous system. So here's an example, a 10 minute morning walk, not a full workout, just a simple quick walk outside to clear your head before the day begins. Or it could be five minutes of stillness with your cup of coffee before you check your phone, before you dive into the email, before you start to do, to work on that to-do list. It's just you and your coffee in silence. Maybe it could be a consistent bedtime.

We're not talking about an evening routine here, although valuable, that's not small enough. That's not supportive enough. A consistent bedtime, just going to bed at relatively the same time every night so that your body can start to regulate. It could be one designated meal. Maybe it's breakfast. Maybe it's Sunday dinner. Maybe it's just one meal every week that you commit.

to making it happen in the way that you want it to happen in a way that makes you feel good about how you are fueling your body. And you're going to commit to that one meal no matter what. It's one meal out of a full week of meals, multiple meals a day. You're committing to just one. Do you see how small this is? What about a weekly check-in with yourself? I love doing these on Fridays. But it could be on a Sunday, just 10 minutes at some point to ask yourself,

How am I really doing? What is it that I need this week? So I just rattled off five different examples to you, and I'm just asking you to pick one. Don't implement all five. Pick one of the ones that I shared with you. That's my challenge. And commit to it for 30 days, because small, consistent rhythms, they stabilize your nervous system in ways that big, dramatic overhauls never will. The fourth thing to do is to stop

predicting permanence. Stop feeling like this and stop telling yourself it's going to be this way forever. It could be 100 % true that this season is heavy, but heavy is not the same as forever. Your brain, it wants to turn everything into this big catastrophe. It wants to say, this is how it's always going to be. This is life now. But that isn't true because we already talked about.

I already shared that seasons shift. What's true today isn't necessarily and likely won't be the same six months from now, not in the exact same way. And so when you start to spiral into this thinking, like I'm never going to get it together, just stop yourself. Literally say out loud, this is not true. Say out loud, this season will pass because it will. And reminding yourself of this truth, it helps.

keep you from drowning in this ongoing state of hopelessness. So the fifth step is to lower the demands strategically, not emotionally. Know that there's a difference between intentionally scaling back and giving up. Intentionally scaling back, again, that comes from a place of leadership. It's saying, given my current capacity that you've already explored, it's you saying I'm gonna prioritize

these three things and let everything else go for now. This kind of conversation is strategic, it's thoughtful, and it's grounded in reality. But giving up, is totally different. Giving up is saying things like, nothing matters, I'm just gonna keep trying. And that's not what I'm asking you to do. I'm asking you to step into a leadership role in your life. I'm asking you to lead yourself well. I'm asking you to get...

out of the backseat where life happens to you and get into the driver's seat, where you have some say so over where you're going and the path you're going to take to get there. It's not going to be smooth. It's not going to be a linear path. I'm not promising that. But what I am promising you is that when you get in the driver's seat and you are the one taking an active role in your life rather than just a passive one, it's going to change where you go and how you get there. And most importantly,

how you feel about being in the car. Do you feel trapped or do you feel in control? The choice really is yours. So stop trying to do it all and start doing what matters most. This doesn't signal weakness or inability in any way. It's actually wisdom that is actually leading yourself strategically and from a wise foundation.

So let's bring this all to a close. If you feel like you are spinning underneath the weight of it all, I want you to hear me clearly. You're not broken, you're not lazy. And this is not proof that your life is unraveling. Something just has to give. And so the question is, are you gonna let it be your self-trust? Are you gonna let it be your self-confidence? Are you gonna let it be the belief that you have in yourself? Or are you going to learn to assess your capacity

and then lead yourself through what you discover. Because here's what I know. The messy counter, it's just the doorway. It's the visible symptom of something going on at a deeper level. Maybe it's emotional overload. Maybe it's a nervous system that's in survival mode. Maybe it's unprocessed grief or unspoken resentment or just the weight of caring more than one person can carry for an extended period of time.

Maybe it's the accumulation of years of putting everyone else first while ignoring yourself. Maybe it's the toll of never feeling like you're enough no matter how hard you try. Maybe it's the exhaustion that comes from living in this constant state of not keeping up. It's in this constant state of fight or flight. Whatever it is, it's real and it deserves your attention, not your shame.

Because most women come to me thinking that they need better routines, they need better systems, they need better discipline, they need a better planner, they need better time management, they need the latest and greatest productivity hacks, even though they've heard them all already. And those things can help, but they aren't the root issue. The root issue is that you're trying to build this structure with that planner or those routines or the way that you manage your time or the daily schedule or how long you give yourself for that.

this or that or whether you time block or whether you don't or whether you prioritize or whether you don't. The root issue is that you are trying to build that structure on top of a foundation that's crumbling. You're trying to be more productive when what you really need to be is more honest. Honest about what you're actually carrying. Honest about what's draining your capacity. Honest about the fact that you can't keep living like this.

This is exactly what I teach inside my four pillar reset path. It helps you identify what's actually heavy. Not just the visible stuff, the laundry, the dishes, the chaos, but the invisible stuff, the emotional labor, the mental load, the guilt you're carrying about whatever it is, including not being enough, the resentment that you're swallowing just to keep the peace, the boundaries you're letting other people railroad over because it's just easier.

The fear that if you stop holding it all together, everything's gonna fall apart. How to separate emotional overload from character shame. We need to be able to stop using that mess as evidence that you're failing. You need to stop believing that if you were better or stronger or more disciplined or committed or organized or clean or whatever it is, you'd be able to handle it all. You need to be able to understand that the problem isn't you.

It's about your capacity. And when you get honest about your capacity, then everything can start to shift. How to rebuild structure that fits in this season, not some fantasy version of yourself or your life. Not the routines that worked five years ago. Not the systems you see on Instagram, but real life structure that accounts for where you actually are right now. With the energy that you have. With the support that you actually have. With the season.

that you're actually in figured into the equation. It needs to be structure that flexes with you instead of breaking and judging you. And you need to learn how to stop spinning and start leading to move from reactive to intentional, from overwhelmed to grounded, from I'm barely holding it together to I'm leading myself well through this season. It's not perfect. It's messy.

And some days I feel like I'm failing at it all, but you know what? I'm still here. I'm still leading. I'm still in the driver's seat rather than just along for the ride because that's what all of this is really about. It's not about perfection. It's not about having it all together, but learning to lead yourself with honesty and compassion and courage, even when, especially when life is hard and heavy. If you're ready to stop using your kitchen counter as evidence against yourself and start building a life

that actually fits your current capacity, I want you to explore the work that I do with my clients all the time. It's not because you need to be fixed, but you need to walk into this because you deserve support, real support, not fluff, not hype, not another pep talk, not someone telling you to just think positive or try a new planner, but to hear from someone who understands that the mess on your counter is connected to the chaos.

in your mind. And who knows how to help you untangle both. And because leading yourself well, especially in the heavy seasons, is one of the most powerful things you can do, it's worth it. And it's not worth it just for yourself, but for everyone you love. Because when you stop disappearing inside your life, you have the ability to show up differently. For your kids, for your marriage, for your work, for yourself.

In reality, you don't have to do this all alone. And you don't need to keep pretending that you're fine when you don't. You just need honest support, real life structure, and someone who gets it. That's what I'm here for. That's what I'm here teaching you about. That's why I show up every week, week after week, and have these conversations with you. So if you're tired of spinning, if you're tired of using the mess as proof that you're broken, if you're ready to learn how to lead yourself through hard

demanding seasons instead of just surviving them. That's what I'm here for. And I actually have a great resource for you. It's called how to stop spinning and start feeling steady again. And it's yours free. Physical clutter is just the doorway. It's what's underneath it that matters because that is where the real truth lives. And that's where real transformation happens. So

I invite you to start with that download and just see what you can identify. It's linked in the notes below. So friend, you are not failing. You are just struggling to figure out what's actually going on. Let's start by learning how to stop spinning and start feeling steady again. I can't wait to hear how you love that resource. We'll talk again soon.