31. Rapid fire ADHD dilemmas!! ❤️‍🔥 Alarm fatigue, meds, demand avoidance & diagnosis doubt

Hellooooo dopamine-deprived babeeeees

In today’s episode: 

We're recording from our new studio and we're very excited and so are the drunk rascals below us on the street!

Tara admits to reading the end of books before she finishes them (only sometimes!) and hating hairdresser scalp massages - forward your hate mail to @adhdbestiespodcast on instagram, she is expecting it.

Today we're doing a RAPID FIRE DILEMMA ROUND ❤️‍🔥
(see: slightly faster than we normally answer dilemmas and not at all rapid)

• Divergent Dilemma #1 – I hate having my feet touched!
- We both HARD agree.
- We discuss soft touch and why it's deplorable 
- We touch on proprioception and vestibular regulation

• Divergent Dilemma #2 – I have exercise demand avoidance!
- Why ADHDers experience this, particularly with exercise
- Seeking out joyful movement
- Finding intrinsic motivation
- Reducing the transitions to exercise

• Divergent Dilemma #3 - I constantly forget to take my meds!
- We HARD relate
- Habit piggybacking
- Helpful tools for remembering medication 

Divergent Dilemma #4 - I’m gaslighting myself into thinking I don’t have ADHD!
- We discuss being gentle with yourself and putting a pin in your self-analysis when you’re first diagnosed
- Finding your neurodivergent people!

Divergent Dilemma #5 - How do I know that I’m not just pipe dreaming?
- We discuss how important pipe dreaming can be
- Embrace the pipe dream! 
- Playing devils advocate for yourself - stretching that divergent thinking muscle
- Ask the key question “How many administration days are involved?"

This week’s Ireggy Seggy 

- Pipedreamzzz -

• Tara is going to make her own ancient grains bread AND croissants *said in a really bad French accent*
• What ISN'T Grace doing for her little 'crunchy Christmas'?? She's stamping cloth with root vegetables, dehydrating citrus and sourcing only the highest quality Austrian ginger.

Recommendations:

• Grace recommends: The Diplomat (NOT THE SPY), a political drama with strong female leads & neurodivergent coded characters that is insanely binge worthy.

• Tara recommends: Garron Noone, an Irish creator that has made Tara laugh out a million times; and he also has an Irish accent which is t

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Transcript

Treat yourself. Treat yourself, babe, treat yourself to that little pipe dream. Yeah? PD, and share it with your friend, and then maybe they'll have the same one and you'll start a business. Never know, yes, but if you don't, don't shame yourself. Get pipe dreaming. Yes, love it. It's important part of the ADHD experience to pipe dream. Yeah, leveling out the dopamine. Yeah. We love it.
Hello and welcome to your ADHD besties, the podcast for people who have had charity donation boxes banging around in the back of their car for the past eight months. I actually do have that. Yeah, are you basing that on me always?
I'm Grace Kumar, founder of future ADHD and diagnosed ADHD. And I'm Tara BRUCE Oh, dietitian and diagnosed ADHD as well. So Tara, yes, tonight, we're recording for the first time in our brand new office studio. Yes, which is very exciting. It is exciting. We're recording in here at night for the first time, and we usually record in the day. Yeah. So if you hear people being a little bit rascally outside, it's because people are having fun on the main street tonight. Yeah, they are. And we're all about it, yeah. And there's Yeah, standard cars driving past. So anything you hear, it's all above board and all good. I approve it. Grace is okay with it, okay. So with that out of the way, it's Tara, yes. How are you feeling after your anxiety deep dive episode last week, I am feeling, I was feeling so exposed, but I'm feeling so so happy. It's just made my year to see all the responses we've had in our DMS, or we've been overwhelmed. I've still haven't gotten back to everyone that has messaged us, and it's just Oh, to help other people feel seen. I just feel so privileged. Yeah, it's just been amazing. Love that. So yes, let's get into our Rex for this week. What have you got up your dainty little sleep, not the DS again. Go for it, my babe. Okay, so I've never recommended a creator before, yeah, so this is my first time. Welcome, welcome.
I'm recommending that you go and follow a creator called Garren noon. Yeah, I think that's how you pronounce his name. He's an Irish creator, and he makes commentary on Irish culture and about the world in general. Yeah, I just I've laughed out loud so many times watching his reels that I just have to recommend him, because I absolutely adore his content and his videos, and I think he deserves a follow, love that, okay, I'm definitely gonna follow. I feel like a lot of things are way funnier when said in an Irish accent. So everything's funnier in an Irish straightaway. Big tick for me. And as we know, Irish accents are my favorite thing. Top shelf accent, Mm hmm. Number one, listen to Tara is your ADHD Allen to find out why that's there's no reason. I just love them. She just loves them. Um, amazing. And we'll put a link to that creator in our show notes. Yes, as always. What about you Gracie babes? What are you recommending to us this week.
So I have loved for a long time a show on Netflix called the diplomat, and the second season has just come out this week, and I have binged almost the entire thing in two nights. Oh, my God, I love this show, the one with Sasha Baron Cohen. No, oh no, babe, but what's that show?
Pause while we google.
Okay, we're back. Yes, it was not that show. No, I was thinking of the spy, a show with Sasha Baron Cohen. So my wreck, to be clear, is the diplomat. It's got Carrie Russell as the lead with Rufus Sewell as her co star. So what I love is that it's a political drama, which is one of my favorite genres, quick witted scripts, really interesting, very strong female leads. Kerry Russell's character is very AUD coded, which I love. Yes, we love that. Just like when you see someone who's kind of doesn't give a shit what people think, says whatever she wants, kind of doesn't follow the rules in a political drama, that's really like an interesting character, yes, yeah. And she has an amazing supporting cast as well. Ali on is a CIA agent, who's also a strong female co star. So yeah, I absolutely love it. My husband loves it. We've binged almost all of season two already. And yeah, Can't recommend it more highly. If you're going to start watching it for the first time, definitely start with Season One. Gorgeous, where people normally start. Thank you. You know some people you included. I.
Yeah, Grace gets so upset because sometimes, and I know that I'm going to get hate mail for this, but
sometimes I will read grace, yourself, everyone, yeah, I will read the end, the final few pages of a book.
Don't talk to a bit about dirty little secrets. I just don't care about things. Like, everyone's like, spoilers. And I'm like, Oh, I just don't care
about spoilers. If we're watching a show, you'll be like, No, to start in the middle. I'm like, No, you can't start in the middle if I go back to the beginning, and then we need to, like, cross reference every episode and compare notes. You're like, no, no contact, no. I don't like to watch the first episode of anything because I just, I hate seeing the pilot. I hate Do you know what? I get really bad. Like,
I get really bad RSD, rejection, sensitive, dysphoria, RSD, around
the pilot of an episode, yeah, of a series. Sorry, yeah. Because I feel like I can watch them trying so hard and like I just had to, like, to make the characters Yeah, so that it gets picked up by the Yeah. And the other thing that they'll do is that they'll try and give you the backstory of the characters without, actually, it makes me cringe. Yes. It's like, oh yeah, Mom,
no one says that, yeah. It makes me cringe. Yeah, I don't like contrived stuff, and that's a common trait. So yes. So do you like how I steamrolled your wreck, baby? I enjoyed every minute that you actually did. A great example of what the main character in that show is. Like, yes, perfect, good. So if you like what Tara just gave you, go and watch the diploma. You would love her, babe. You love political shows. Yes, I do. I love it. Thank you. Well done. Good job. Yeah. Shall we get in to some divergent dilemmas? We will and we shall, but today, we're gonna do something a bit different. We just did. I love that you act like I'm surprising you. You know what I probably am, because I did tell Tara this 45 minutes ago. Yeah, and she's already forgotten. Whoa, what's happening, guys? This is a genuine surprise. Yeah. ADHD, working memory in action. So we're gonna actually try and do a bunch of dilemmas today. Oh, yeah. And give, oh, look, there it is, landed. And give short and sharp answers, because we want we feel like we've done some very long and beautiful and intense episodes lately. Now we're going to just lighten things up a little bit again. Yes. And just what are we calling? This rapid fire dilemmas. Rapid Fire dilemmas as rapid as we can be, which probably still won't be that rapid. No, try, because I love a waffle. The waffle. Okay, okay, so let's get into it, babe, let's do this.
So I think before we get into it, yeah, we need to have this. Yes, I agree, because we might go rogue. In fact, we will go rogue. Going rogue is kind of my favorite,
but probably best to just disclaim away. Yes. Okay, so how about this? Take everything we say with a neurodivergent grain of salt. Yes, an enormous grain of salt, like a salt lamp, sized grain of salt. Take that salt lamp, throw it through a window. That's how much you should pay attention to what we're saying, but
don't actually throw it through a window. Oh, yeah, see, that's a really good example of why you shouldn't take out pacing points. But yeah, we're not professionals and enjoy love.
Love
okay. This person is from Australia, but they have asked us to keep them a nod. Okay. They say, am I the only person who hates having their feet touched, even when it's in the doctor, physio, podiatrist? I just hate it. I feel like it's similar to the hairdresser massage mentioned in Episode 28 and for those who haven't listened to that, that was me divulging another thing that I'm going to receive hate mail for, and that is that I hate when the hairdresser does that scalp scratchy massage when you're getting your hair washed. I just could do without which I love. Grace loves it. Tara hates it. It's absolutely revolting to my sensory to my nervous system. Yeah, no, thank you. I actually though I think we were going to both be on the same page with this dilemma. Because when the person said, even when the doctor, I was like, especially when actually the doctor, that's the worst, don't touch me. Get your hands away. No, no. Tara, if you've been to uni and you're now at a massage foot, not mine,
to be clear, we're not saying that we don't appreciate them. It's the feeling, yeah, the feeling, no, I just No, don't touch my feet. Yeah. We will put this.
On Instagram, yeah, and because we want to hear if this is a universal thing. So here's my theory, though, yes, I like firm pressure on my feet. Actually, it's very regulating. So I'll often put my foot, I'll just be lying on the end of the couch, and my husband's at the other end, and I'll just, literally just touching
like a Chihuahua. I'm just like, and I'll be like, sorry. But you know, we really need to know how these things feel. You're in Eric's shoes, and I Chihuahua him with my foot, yeah. And I'm like, can you please hold my feet? I get Jesse. Hold my feet. No, I get Jesse. I just want him to hold my feet in the air. I'll put my feet up in the air. And I'm like, hold my feet up. What? What do you mean? Hold your feet up. Like,
like, he'll be standing up and I'll be on the couch, and I'm like, Can you hold my feet like, high, yeah. I just like that, yeah, you're a weirdo. Yeah? I Yeah. Don't yuck. My sensory yum.
I know. And all jokes aside, yep, these are our different parts of our nervous system needing to be regulated, yeah. So mine might be vestibular. Graces might be proprioceptive, yeah? So I My theory is that, because we like firmer touch, we like to be in control of how we receive the touch on our feet, when you think about it, doctors and physios and physios and podiatrists go in, they're going soft. And the reason is
too soft. Lunge in there. Oh my, they want to be respectful and, like, gentle and, like, I'm a practitioner, yeah, yeah, that's why I'm actually getting, like, a physical reaction. I think we need to, you're right. It's too gentle eyes. I don't know if we have any, just, you don't need advice on that. Yes, you're right. It's disgusting. It is. Yeah, that's it. That's what they were asking for validation. You've received it. Yes, nothing for the end, it feels awful. Yep, and we will ask on Instagram and get more people on board this no soft touch train. Yep, okay, okay. This dilemma comes from Sydney, Australia, and it's from Lana. Hi. Lana, hi. Lana says I love exercising, but anytime I want to go exercise, my brain goes into demand avoidance mode, almost like a Oh, you want to do you Well, no, and I've had success with a friend one time where we went out for a drink gym session for the lols. But I actually drink gym session. So, yeah, drinking at the gym? Yep, that's what I'm assuming. Oh my god, I'd have the worst hangout. Okay, yeah, so she said for the lols, but I actually loved it, but I recognize that's probably not the best habit.
Um, firstly, yeah, what is demand avoidance? Grace. Demand avoidance is the innate feeling experienced by lots of neurodivergence of deliberately opposing a demand made upon you. So even if the thing that's asked of you to do is something you want to do, like, let's go to the beach, or I'd like you to come to the beach with me, yes, you may just want to say no, because somebody else has asked Yes. I remember, actually a good friend of mine, she was
quite hormonal post having a baby, yeah, and it was a beautiful day, and her husband came out of the water, and he goes, Oh, baby, you have to go in. And she's neurodivergent. And she turned around to him, and the look on this
so, yes, I have seen that in action. I've seen it in myself. You know, when you're at work and if your boss tells you to do something, you're like, I'm not doing anything now, no, but I will do the whole everything. Yeah, yes, things yes, things that aren't even asked of me, if they just trust me, yeah, to do my job, yeah, but I'll go above and beyond. But if I'm asked to do something, I'm sort of not doing one thing. Yeah, exactly. It's very mature,
but I think it's interesting, yeah, that you say, oh, it's very mature, because I think people assume that it's immature, yeah. And again, this is something that for Neuro divergence is a very real desire for autonomy, yeah, yeah. So we have a stronger desire for autonomy, yes, than our near neurotypical counterparts, yes.
Um, and that's seen in our justice sensitivity, in our ability to book at the norm, yeah, or, like, whatever everyone else is doing. We might be the ones to actually go. I don't support that. We need to do it differently. Be a whistleblower, which is actually a really important trait, but it really comes with a lot of demand avoidance, because basically, we don't want to give up control. We don't want to surrender to anyone else's autonomy over us. Yes, we want to be we need self autonomy. Yes, so like there is a real, valid reason for it, and I think it's important to state that, before we get into the exercise part of it, because this applies to anything in life. Yes, where you're finding demand of what it's around, eating around, sleeping around, work around, you know, doing stuff with your kids, all of that kind of stuff, it crops up everywhere. Yes, why?
Crops up more when it comes to exercise, yeah, and often food, yeah. It's because our society is demanding a lot from us when it comes to movement, yeah. And we have been told our whole lives, no pain, no gain. And you know you if you don't go to a boot camp at 6am on a Sunday morning, then you're a failure of a human being, yep, and that it's something that we have to do. We have to find 30 we have to get 10,000 steps, or whatever the health message is. And we have disconnected from that innate sense of enjoyment and that intuitive connection that we can have to exercise, yeah, so I said I like to separate the two words Exercise and Movement, because exercise has become something with quite a negative stigma attached to it for me now, yeah, and movement is something that my body inherently wants to do, but I've lost that connection with it. Yeah, we can lose that connection with it. Luckily, I'm feeling like I'm gaining that back through thinking of ways that I can find that joyful movement that's just for me, that I don't feel is is has any external pressure to it, and that's where that demand avoidance comes in, is what is going to make me feel good, and a big part of that is thinking about the outcomes. So in our society, the outcomes that we are usually aiming for are things like becoming more toned, weight loss, social virtue, you know, like it's seen as a as a virtue if you move your body and, yeah,
those things are all external motivators, and we use a lot of things like time tracking. And, you know, did I do 30 or 45 minutes or an hour or whatever it is, we're counting steps. We're using all of this external motivation, and what we need to be looking for is those internal motivations, because they won't give us that demand avoidance. You know that, okay, I want to go for a walk because I want to reconnect with nature, and that's really calming to my nervous system and makes me feel really good. Or I want to go for a run because I love the feeling of having a shower after that run. It's that endorphins. And when I'm feeling really hot and the cold water hits my face, or whatever it is for you, finding those things that are real, immediate and personal to you, and reconnecting with them. And you have to remember that
when you look at I've spoken about this a little bit before on the pod, but if you look at children and dogs, they seek out movement constantly, yeah, because society hasn't yet intervened and told them that this is something that they have to do. A dog is so excited to go for a walk because they feel so good and they get to explore their surroundings, and we need to think more like a dog in that way. Yeah, because it's our right to enjoy exercise, yeah, for movement. Yeah, I love that. And I just want to make a note that if you are somebody who loves all those apps and loves being motivated and it works for you, that's amazing, totally, there's nothing wrong with like Strava or apps like that. No, this, this is really advice for people who like this, person who asked, Who feels so much demand of what? Definitely, no. There's nothing wrong with using those things. It's more that we on this sort of spectrum of this stuff, as when we get too caught up in those external motivators, you know, it's it can become negative for our psyches and our relationship to movement, yeah, and even our self esteem, if we're constantly comparing ourselves to the stats of people on the apps and that sort of thing, so that intrinsic motivation is helpful. And yes, before we wrap up this dilemma, I want to quickly note that I think what's really important about using a word like movement rather than exercise, is that ADHD is struggle with transitions. And when we're trying to transition from moving, which is what we do a lot of our day, naturally, just by walking around our house or our workplace, we're transitioning from moving to exercise. Yeah, that feels like a gear shift. That's a step up, that's a transition. Yes. And so if we think of movement more gently as our we're just going to extend out what we're already doing, which is movement, and we're going to continue to move. Yeah, maybe it's that you wear joggers to your office all day, and then as soon as you walk out of the office, you just make that a really long walk to the train station. You're a big loop, or a long loop to your car. And so it's like you're just extending on the movement you've already been doing. Yes, and that's it less intimidating, I think, than trying to transition to exercise. And that's a really good point, actually, is that when we think about movement, we can get out of that really rigid mindset and start to explore things that we really like. Because if we can find joyful movement, something that we genuinely enjoy, we're so much more likely to continue doing that. So for some people, it might be dance. It might be doing movement with their Nintendo Switch. You know, you can do the ring or fit. It might be
um.
So it might be something that I've never even considered before, like Tai Chi, you know, these things we often, I'll often hear clients say to me, oh, but it's, you know, hit is the most research in terms of weight loss. And it's like, okay, but is it sustainable? Do you like it? Yeah. Do you like it? Yes. And it might be for some people, I quite enjoy things like burpees, which people are like, why? I think it's because I'm quite close
to the ground, quite
close to the ground. It's not that hard. But if you don't enjoy it, you're not going to do it. It's kind of irrelevant if it's going to get your heart rate the highest. Because if you do it for six weeks and then stop and never do it again and hate all of those movements. Comparatively, if you stick to doing a summer class every week for the rest of your life, that is going to have such a greater impact on your overall health and well being. Yeah, yeah. I love that advice. It's about consistency over the long term. Yes, finding what you enjoy, rather than forcing yourself to do it in what you think is a quote, unquote the right way, yes. And I often posit to my clients, two minutes of skipping. Does that sound like something that would help with your overall health and wellbeing? And they go, No, definitely not. Yeah. And I say to them, but what if you, over the past 20 years, had done two minutes of skipping every single day? Do you think that would have had a positive effect on your overall health and well being? And that always like, yeah, of course. You know, if you're doing that thing consistently, yeah, it does make a difference, even if it's just two minutes. But if it's two minutes that you enjoy, then you're likely to go back and do that. Yeah, love and final thought, yep, you're not alone. Yeah. It's a really, really normal thing to experience, especially for people with ADHD. Yep, amazing, love. Let's move on to the next dilemma. Okay, this question comes from Zara, who's also from New South Wales in Australia. Lots of Aussies today. Yeah. Hi, girls, I have the worst case of not taking my meds, and my friends have to constantly remind me to take my meds. I've tried setting alarms to tell me when I need them, but I just ignore them. Help me I need to take them more or I can't control myself and lose my social battery. Relate to this one.
Me never. I forget all the time. Yes, me too. Oh my god. And I have like, I have anti anxiety medication. I have my ADHD medication and multivitamins. Yes, it's just too many to be honest. It's just, it's very complicated. It is complicated. I hope you feel seen that. Yeah, we're all struggling with this. We get DMS about this a lot.
Um, what can you do? Because there's this is the thing about ADHD. There's a lot of things, and we try all the things, and often they will work temporarily. Yes, that's the hard part, yes. So we're inconsistent, yeah. And so we might get into a regime of doing these things every day, yeah. We might be like, this app works really well for me. I once had an app called Med reminder or something like that. And it used to make the noise of a pill bottle shaking, which was really good for my brain. But then I changed phones and the yes no longer Yeah, into the voice setup. It did really help me for a long time. I think it's remembering that you're going to be inconsistent, yeah, and when you notice that one technique has dropped off trying to find another one, but also having as many structures in place to help you to remember, yeah, it's so tricky with the alarms, because I have alarms set up, I always ignore my alarms. I don't know why I do it. I think it's because I'm not next to my pill box. It's also when it goes off, yeah, and it's alarm fatigue, yeah, it is like we have when you're kneading. I feel like, with alarms, I get a bit nervous because I'm like, Look, I need to reserve alarms for the things that really like, so that you don't get that fatigue and ignore, like, pick up kids from the bus Exactly. That's what we're afraid of. It's almost like, you know, with New Age parenting, it's like, you should never bribe your kids. And I just remember this one really great talk, and the lady was like, one of the big reasons that you shouldn't bribe your kids is because you need to have that in your back pocket sometimes when you really need something to happen. And that's how I feel about I love that for a parenting coach, that's my kind of parenting coach, yeah. And I Yeah, you do. You need to have those alarms in the back pocket. And you can't, you can't be getting that alarm fatigue. Yeah, one thing that's worked for me is having medication in safe locations, in my car, in my handbag, in my bedroom, in my office. Yes, that's because I'll, if I don't remember at home and I get to the office, I'm more likely to remember sometimes, because I'll see something will remind me, and I find that if I'm close to my meds, when it comes through my mind, I'm likely to do it. It's the step of having to actually walk across the house. Agree, my working memory. I've talked about this on the pod before, but I literally have to say, meds, meds, meds, over and over as I walk across the house, because I'll get so distracted on the way and do something else. Yes, I.
I That is great advice, yeah, and I've never actually thought of that to have them in different places, because, yeah, you'll remember it's that's a thing, like, we usually will remember, yeah, at some point in the day. It's just that at home, and I live 30 minutes from town, and I'm like, I'll take it when I get home. And, yeah, get home and the kids need me and blah Yeah, definitely. So actually, this is a really timely dilemma, because I forgot to take my anxiety meds for three days in a row. Yeah, and then yesterday I was feeling quite anxious. Yeah, um, I, so there's some real life experience about once a month. Yes, like either of us is doing that? Oh, I haven't taken them in three days. Yes, the other thing that's helped. And obviously this can't work for everyone, but Tara and I spend so much time together that we end up kind of being inadvertently each other's pill buddy. Yeah, medication, medication buddy. So like, if I'm taking mine, I'll be like, have you taken yours this morning? And then she'll take hers at the same time. Yeah? So that can help. If you're I never have taken mine when she asked, no, never, it's never worked. Great advice. Sometimes you do, sometimes you do, yes, so yeah, yeah. And when Grace said, finding a safe place before making sure you have, like, kids safe, animal safe, containers, yeah, with ADHD meds, you can get the little push down, you know, child lock, yeah, containers. Ask your pharmacist if they have any of those spare so that you can if you're taking anxiety meds and not ADHD meds, or if you have ADHD or any other meds, yeah, or any other meds that have that, that's that child proof lead, save them and then put amounts across, you know, some in your handbag, some in your car, those things finding that pill buddy that maybe you could text each other a little emoji when you've had your pill to remind each other, but also so that you don't go at 4pm have I taken my medication today? Which I always do. There are so many things that you can do, and I don't want you to feel like at the start of this dilemma that we were feeling like it was futile. It's more that we just resonate. We resonate, and also think of it as a monthly challenge, rather than like, How can I solve this for the rest of my life? Because you might go through a period of a year where you're really doing really well with it, and some people find things that just work for them, like those water bottles with the pills you're mentioning those to me today, yeah? Like they've actually got the pill box built into the side of the water bottle seamlessly. Yeah? Law looks part of it. And so therefore you've got your pills right next to your water you're not separating those two elements with executive functioning that can slow everything down if you're piggybacking onto the other Yeah. And so if you carry your water bottle around everywhere with you, chances are you'll always have your meds on you. Yes, yeah. So there's lots of things you can do. You can do. You can get little key rings. You can get, I have a key ring that it looks like another one of my car keys, but it's actually a safe hiding, like it's a child safe one, but yeah. So you can put pill. You can put medication in there, yeah, which is extra safe because I've got kids, because I'm, you know, they, if I had little container on there, they'd want to, know, open it up. But, yeah, gonna open up a main car key? Yeah? So there's lots of things you can do. I love that. I feel like, if that was me and I had a fake car key on my I already have, like, so many racist key ring is a non stress. It's like, I am the owner of an apartment block, and I have, like, what's that person called that has all the keys to the apartment block I have, because I have no not janitor, Mr. Trigger from friends, yes, yes. Superintendent, super Yes, yes, yes. I've got this massive set of keys. And if I had a fake key on there, I'm like, scrabbling around trying to start my car. Like, quit getting the car. I'm like, this damn
Yeah. Why is the key working? Hey, we've got to get the car service. It's a favorite. Just pills explode over dashboard.
Take that, take that tip. If it works for you. Yes, each to their own. Yeah. Okay, should we move on to the next dilemma? We should. This one is from a little Anon, yes, and they're from a tiny town on the south coast of England. Oh, cute. I'm thinking, what's that show? Doctor, what's the show instead of that? Detective, no, the fishing village, and he's a doctor. Doc, Marden, Oh, yeah. Did you ever watch that? No, that's great. It's very quiet of it. Yeah,
okay. And this person says, Yes, high ADHD, besties. Yes, I found your podcast shortly after being diagnosed with inattentive ADHD, and I have binge listened. That's a thing, right? It definitely is to every pod. My divergent dilemma is that despite being diagnosed, I feel like I'm now gaslighting myself into believing I don't have ADHD and that I somehow manipulated the assessment I'm finding myself masking more than ever. Is this normal? I don't have anyone else to ask. Only a handful of people know, but no one who is neuro spicy, though, I have my suspicions. Thanks, besties. Oh, I I'm so glad that this person wrote in Yes, since she has no one to ask, or they have no one to ask, yes and the.