Like a Phoenix Rising from the Ashes Wisdom Wellness Wednesday 040925

Facing life-altering diagnoses led me to discover powerful lessons about acceptance, resilience and recognizing when the universe is preparing us for something greater.

• Processing emotions after diagnosis requires acknowledging anger, sadness, frustration, guilt and shame
• We need validation of our feelings before we can truly move forward
• Meditation, affirmations and grounding techniques help center ourselves during turmoil
• The stoic philosophy reveals eight signs that your struggles are about to end
• Unexpected peace replaces emotional turmoil when you're ready for change
• Synchronicities like recurring numbers and meaningful coincidences appear as signposts
• Mourning your old lifestyle is necessary before embracing your new one
• The universe aligns people and conversations at precisely the right moments
• Our struggles don't define us - they strengthen us and prepare us for something greater

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Transcript

Welcome to Elkivate Your Life

Speaker 1 0:00

Bow , chicka , wow , wow , what's up ? Party people , thank you for tuning in to Elkivate your Life . I am your hostess , with the mostess L as in the letter L and key as in the key to your heart . Thank you to all my loyal listeners who continue to follow like share . I really appreciate you .

Speaker 1 0:39

For those of you who have been following and listening lately of you who have been following and listening lately , I've been talking about overcoming challenges and how to advocate for yourself and basically how to overcome adversity . A lot of things happening

From the Ashes Rises the Phoenix

Speaker 1 1:01

. So real quick , I just want to pop on here . I did do a recording on From the Ashes Rises the Phoenix , basically was the gist of it , and I was referring to myself on this Wisdom Wellness Wednesday and the reason I was referring to that is because I realized that through all this stuff that I just I want to be able to share some things , because I've just been doing a lot of self reflecting I guess you could say couple days as far as you know just trying to figure out what this all means for me , what you know , the change that I'm going through in my life , because I always believe that there is a lesson here , right , and so in saying that , interestingly enough , good old professor Kyle , dr Kyle , came to the rescue again , dun-da-da-da . Whenever I am having any sort of emotional , physical , mental , anything , he'll send me something that he's reading or has read , or you know , just share his wisdom with me . And I , I really appreciate that .

Speaker 1 3:09

And so what happened is that I just realized that I had been in such a funk from , in such a funk from , you know , my lifestyle change . That's really what it is . It's a lifestyle change , and a lot of us are resistant to change , right ? Nobody wants to change , or do they ? There are a lot of us that become comfortable and complacent with our daily routines and regimens . And so , basically , what he brought to my attention is that there's a reason you're going through these struggles , and the reason you're going through these struggles is because there's something bigger and better out there for you .

Speaker 1 4:11

And usually in these moments he will send me something to sort of elaborate on that I'm like , okay , what do I got to watch now , kyle , what do you got me listening to ? And I hope you're laughing , kyle , because you know I'm like okay , what do I got to watch now , kyle , what do you got me listening to ? And I hope you're laughing , kyle , because you know I'm totally teasing , well , anyway . So when I was going through this funk of the whole , poor me , my life is ending . I have these three incurableurable diseases and I don't know what to do . Excuse me , not a lot of sleep last night , guys , sorry . And he'll usually

Processing Emotions After Diagnosis

Speaker 1 5:01

send me something to give me new perspective just one of the many reasons why I love him so dear . So he sent me something . Bear with me taking a sip of my hot chocolate slash tea . When all else fails and things are not moving properly , feel free to take my tip of smooth move tea with a splash of sugar-free hot chocolate . Anyway , don't judge me on that one , kyle . Anyway , don't judge me on that one , kyle . Okay , moving on . So he'll send me something . And he sent me this If you notice these eight signs that are your struggles , then your struggles are about to end . And it talks about stoic philosophy . And , kyle , you'll be happy to know that I listened to another one on my own today and I passed them along to a couple of people and they listened to them both and they were like hey , this really resonated with me . The other one was don't force anything in your life 10 stoic lessons for inner peace . Okay . So , going back to the one that Kyle shared , he sent me this if you notice these eight signs , your struggles are about to end . And so I'm'm like , okay , let me listen to it , let me see , there's probably something to this . There usually is , and I have to tell you , everything has been in alignment with me since I got my diagnosis . I do want to let you know .

Speaker 1 7:02

I definitely went through all of the different phases of emotions . I was mad , I was sad , I was frustrated , I was pissed off , I was , um , I had guilt , I had shame . Because I'm like what if I did this to myself ? What if I combined these things and that caused it ? You know , you just go through an array of emotions and once I got past that , I went back to my meditation techniques , I went back to my affirmations . I went and stood outside , took my socks and shoes off and stood in the earth and just grounded myself and centered myself and was just breathing and thinking about okay , you went through all these emotions . People have validated for you that it sucks , and so now , what are you going to do about it ?

Speaker 1 8:08

Well , I sort of , in a way , mourned the loss of that person , life lifestyle I used to live and then I moved forward with acceptance of this is the new lifestyle I have to learn to live with and it will look differently . So this is a new chapter for me . So , to make things even more interesting , I had lunch with my friend Lulu yesterday and she tells me about her boyfriend and how . I'm not going to go into any details , but she ends up sharing how he became ill and his life changed and it was a drastic change for him . Um , and basically he , like myself , is going through the rollercoaster of emotions , of learning how to overcome adversity and figure out how to live this new life and accept that that old life and old way of doing things is no longer , at least not right now . Maybe it could be , but for now , acceptance is the key .

Speaker 1 9:31

Acceptance and then moving forward on . How do I live for the now ? Going forward with this new lifestyle , with these changes . What do I need to do ? And I do think it's helpful to have a support system . I do think it's helpful to talk to somebody . Hopefully you have family and friends for a support system , but also there are groups available to people because you will find yourself going into

Signs Your Struggles Are Ending

Speaker 1 10:02

a tailspin of emotions and you will become depressed . And it's important that you surround yourself with the right people or get connected with the right people or plugged into the right resources , or get connected with the right people or plugged into the right resources , because there definitely is an array of emotions that nobody prepared me for my doctor certainly didn't , and it doesn't sound like Lulu's friend was prepared for all this , and so he's going through anger , sadness , frustration , a lot of different things , a lot of the things I experienced .

Speaker 1 10:38

So I realized in that moment I was meant to see her for lunch yesterday . I was meant to see her and talk to her about him and his situation , because in doing so she was going oh yes , but you still got your legs , you can still walk , and at least it's not cancer . And well , let's , and I'm . I was telling her , sure , the key is to look at is the cup half full , half empty , or are we grateful to have a cup ? Thank you , brett , for that saying . That has stuck with me and I told her exactly what I wanted for me . I go . We just want somebody to say I know it sucks . It sucks that you used to be able to go and lift weights at the gym and bend down and pick things , these , these things up and play basketball with ease and I'm giving examples and now you can't . That really sucks and I'm sorry . And then , after validating their feelings because we , the feelings that we're going through , are valid , we , we have to listen to them , we have to process them . We have to process them so we can move on to the next phase . And so I told her just acknowledge and validate . I'm really sorry that this happened and that sucks , and I know it's a bummer that you can't do A , b and C . Here's what we can do . For some reason , six Million Dollar man theme song and I know I'm aging myself here always comes to mind . Or even Bionic Woman like he will be stronger , he will be faster . Like he will be stronger , he will be faster , and da-na-na-na . Anyway , to you youngsters out there , you probably don't know what I'm talking about , but there was a show Six Million Dollar man and Bionic Woman where they were in accidents and they had to be rebuilt . Yeah , that'll be another podcast in itself .

Speaker 1 13:02

The point I'm trying to make is we have to accept what has happened to us and find a way to move on in a healthy way and not hang on to the past and move into the present . And so the past few days is exactly what I've been doing . So I did the meditation , I went outside and stood in the earth and grounded myself and just breathed in the air . And then today I actually went to a buddha retreat on my way to my other happy place , which is the beach , the sound of the waves , the ocean , the Sun on my skin , feeling the soft sand in between your toes , just all of that . And in going to the Buddha retreat I realized all of their practices all revolve around chanting , acceptance , being quiet , being present , listening , focusing , manifesting . And then I went back to the video that I was , that Kyle referred to me and I passed along to my friends , and there were some things that stood out to me that I want to share with you guys . And then I got to tap out because it's getting late and the hubby's going to come in and disrupt the podcast and it's going to be a hot mess .

Speaker 1 14:33

So , number one , you are going through struggles . It might be pain , fear , uncertainty , and while you're going through this , struggles , of course , you're in a frenzy . You are spiraling , you feel like you're on a roller coaster of emotions and then you get to a point where your energy shifts , your subconscious mind calms you , it actually quiets and you're left with this unexplainable peace . I have gotten to that point and I have to say it's a wonderful feeling . Number two things that used to go wrong have begun to change . All of a sudden , you're hitting all the green lights when you're running late to work , or you get that close parking spot so that you manage to get to work just in the nick of time . And once upon a time all the doors were closing on you , and now you notice doors are opening .

Speaker 1 15:58

Number three you start losing interest in things that drained you . You were surrounded with people who were takers or who took from you , with people who were takers or who took from you and this could be some example , like somebody that always calls you for advice or calls to ask for money or needs a favor . Or maybe you're the person that always shares your snacks and they're always asking you for snacks . Maybe they don't come and say hi , they're just like do you have any snacks ? Hey , I need your advice . But then suddenly your mind and soul align and you make space for better things . Stay focused during these times .

Speaker 1 16:54

And number four you feel tested . Something comes back to haunt you and you're like wait , I was making such progress . I don't understand . Why is this happening ? Well , this is your final challenge , to see if you're ready for the change . So what will you do ? Will you give up or will you push through it ? You see , the struggles won't define you , they'll only strengthen you .

Speaker 1 17:31

And number five you keep seeing these random numbers on receipts . Maybe you hear them in songs , your friends mention them to you . The universe is literally aligning to show you 11-11 , 222 , 777 . Hey , elkie , so come over to my party tonight . I'm apartment building number 1111 . You're going to park in space 222 and the code to get in the gate is 777 . Hmm , and then in your conversations with people , in getting receipts , you're seeing these numbers In songs . You start hearing words like breakthrough change . Listen to that . The universe is telling you something . Listen to that . The universe is telling you something . These strange synchronicities are leading you to the new chapter in your life .

Speaker 1 18:54

So I just want to encourage you all to be aware on this Wisdom Wellness Wednesday . Pay attention to the signs . Trust your instincts , whether you believe in God or Buddha or Allah or whatever your belief system is , or the universe . There are signs that are presented to us and we have to be listening and watching

Embracing the New Chapter

Speaker 1 19:18

or those opportunities may pass us by . So what ? This ? All of these things that have been happening to me since I got the diagnosis and got through the roller coaster of emotions and allowed myself to feel and be heard and acknowledged and validated . Then I put old , previous Elkie . I mourned the loss of her and how she used to eat or drink or do things , and now I am embracing the new Elkie Bait your Life and I'm excited for the new chapter . I am ready . So I'm listening , I'm watching , I'm ready . So I just want to make sure that all of you are listening and ready and embracing it .

Speaker 1 20:17

Thank you to all my lovely , loyal subscribers . Mike Kaufman , the water guy , thank you for your subscription . I appreciate you . Mr Kyle , Professor Kyle , dr Kyle , you for your subscription . I appreciate you . Mr kyle few . Professor kyle few . Dr kyle few . Guru kyle few . Thank you so much for being a loyal supporter . Jeff para para palooza what's happening with that , my friend , by the way ? Thank you for telling me to meditate and go and put my feet on solid ground without socks and shoes . You helped me with that , and lisa roberts curbelo , thank you for your loyalty .

Speaker 1 21:02

Thank you for listening , sharing , being open to talking to me about your struggles , and thank you for supporting and to my lovely dental office , persimmonnet . You can have all of your dental needs met . Dr Lam is wonderful , teresa is wonderful , all of the staff , kenzie , everyone that's from the teeth cleaning to the receptionist , everything're all wonderful , gentle , kind . Be sure to use hashtag Elkivate

Podcast Closing and Acknowledgments

Speaker 1 21:57

so that they know that I referred you . They are located in the Persimmon Plaza in Dublin , over next to the Habit and Pacific Catch , and , yes , I can't say enough great things about them . They're just wonderful . I've been going to him and his staff for 10 years now and , yes , I have to say I'm very happy with them . So I think that's all I have .

Speaker 1 22:27

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