Stop Pouring Into The Wrong People

Ever catch yourself giving your best energy to someone who barely notices it and then wondering why you feel drained, resentful, or just plain sad? That’s the heart of this Wisdom Wellness Wednesday. I’m sharing a short, honest reflection on reciprocity in relationships and the moment you realize you might be pouring yourself into the wrong people, the wrong places, or the wrong things. 

We get into the frustration of expecting change from someone who keeps showing you the same pattern and how the “definition of insanity” can quietly show up in friendships, partnerships, and even family dynamics. I walk through the questions I’m asking myself too: Is this connection serving me? Is my time being respected? Am I holding on out of convenience, complacency, or history instead of mutual care? If you’ve ever felt stuck in a one-sided friendship or emotionally exhausted from always being the one who shows up, this conversation is for you. 

I also share a real-life reminder of what healthy appreciation feels like when it’s genuine, plus a quick personal update about living with an autoimmune condition and why conserving energy makes boundaries even more important. You’ll leave with a simple challenge to evaluate who fills your cup, who drains it, and what it could look like to pivot your time toward people who truly value you. 

If this resonates, subscribe, leave a review, tap like, and share it with someone who needs a reminder that their time is precious. What’s one relationship where you want more reciprocity?

Transcript

Are You Pouring Into The Wrong People

SPEAKER_00 0:01

Ow, chick wow wow. What's up, party people? Welcome to another episode of L Kivate Your Life. I am your hostess with the most S. L is in the letter L and key as in the key to your heart. Well, thank you for tuning in to this Wisdom Wellness Wednesday. I appreciate you joining us on what is it? April Fool's Day. Did anyone get April Fools pranked on? Yeah, I will tell you. As for me, I did several times. My um my kiddos, actually at school, played some some good pranks on me. One of them put a staple on their finger and colored some red paint to where it looked like they stapled their finger, and I fell for it. Another told me a joke where he put his arm in his sleeve and said, Hey, where did my arm go? April fools. Ah, the things that we do as kids. It's great, isn't it? Anyway, um, tonight's episode is going to be short and sweet because I am still struggling with my autoimmune with talking.

SPEAKER_01 1:40

So bear with me, guys.

SPEAKER_00 1:46

Guys and girls, as you'll hear me taking water breaks in between. Uh well, to newcomers, let me just say normally for the newcomers, um, since you don't know, normally Mondays are mindful Mondays where we talk about something that we should be mindful of. And Wednesdays are wisdom wellness Wednesdays. So in my case, wisdom wellness Wednesday. What is resonating with me to discuss with you today? Well, what's resonating with me? A common theme. I always take something of some experience that's happening to me, which is how many of you out there have various different friendships and relationships? And do you have any friendships, relationships of people where they might be complaining that the people in their lives are not showing up in the way that they would like.

SPEAKER_01 3:16

And it's frustrating.

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SPEAKER_00 3:19

And we or they may not learn from these mistakes until an outside source shares their take on the definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results, right? Interesting. Even as I'm sharing this with you and speaking about somebody else, I'm realizing where I'm guilty of it in my own life. So moving right along, what I wanted to share with you today for the Wisdom Wellness Wednesday is that are you the person that is pouring yourself into the wrong people, the wrong places, the wrong things? In other words, is it being reciprocated? Is it serving you? Or are you pouring your thoughts, energy, hopes, dreams, et cetera, into somebody that doesn't appreciate it, that doesn't reciprocate it? That's what's on my mind today for Wisdom Wellness Wednesday is that oftentimes we find ourselves in these situations where we're mad or sad about not having our thoughts, feelings, etc. reciprocated. Um when in reality, maybe what we should be doing is investing that time and energy into the people that love us, like us, enjoy our company, appreciate us, etc. So that's what I wanted to share today on this wisdom wellness Wednesday is let's not continue to uh waste our time, our energy, our efforts because time is precious, time is valuable, and we can't get it back. So it's important that we are fostering and nurturing the relationships that are important to us, right? So I want you all to think about who you have in your life that may be stealing your joy or not appreciating your time or respecting your time or making time for you, not showing up for you in the way that you would like. And look at that and evaluate that and think is this relationship, friendship, partnership, marriage, whatever it is serving you? Sometimes we hold on to things for complacency or convenience or just the amount of time that we've known or allowed these things to transpire. But it's up to us to invest in those that appreciate us and reciprocate that. And that is what I learned today. Today happens to be a happy paraprofessional day, so shout out to myself and my peers. Um I'm happy to say that I received a lot of kind notes from my various students from my classes, and I really felt the love from my kiddos. So thank you for that. It made me feel valued and loved, and made me realize why I love my job. Because when you do what you love, you never work a day in your life. Might not be making all the money that you want to make, but I'm happy. And they fill my cup every day just by me showing up for them. And there's a sense of gratitude that comes with that. If you ever get to a place where you can subscribe to your girl, as all of you know, it's as little as a cup of coffee, as much as a happy meal. The link to subscribe is always in my podcast content. Uh, to all you new listeners out there, sorry that it's short and sweet, but as I said, um, well, you don't know, but I have an autoimmune disease that affects my mouth, my speaking, my eating, my drinking. And during a flare, it becomes really hard and challenging to talk comfortably. Uh, I do all the things that I can do within my means. Uh, unfortunately, there's not a cure for it, so yeah, just gotta live with it.

SPEAKER_01 9:33

Um, learn to adapt, pivot.

SPEAKER_00 9:38

Uh, so I want all of you to think about this. Is there someone in your life that maybe you have been holding a space or giving them a lot of grace? Maybe you show up for them and they don't show up for you. Uh, maybe you feel like it's a one-sided friendship, partnership, relationship. Don't be afraid to speak up for what you want and to pour yourself into other things or other people. Because your time matters, your time is precious and valuable, and we don't know how much time we have here.

SPEAKER_01 10:29

What's that saying? I can never remember exactly how it goes.

SPEAKER_00 10:37

Something about the past and present is a gift. I don't know. If any of you all remember, feel free to enter it in the comments. I mean, you could Google it at this point. I could Google it at this point, but I like to go in my Spongebob brain files and try to remember because that exercises your brain to try and think of things. Um, so yes, if any of you remember that, it's gonna be driving me crazy trying to figure it out.

SPEAKER_01 11:21

Oh my gosh, what is that saying? Oh my gosh, I'm wrecking my brain. Past, present, future. Present is a gift. I don't know. I can't remember it.

Quotes, Comments, And Closing

SPEAKER_00 11:47

Sorry everybody. But if you think of it or look it up and you want to share in the comments, that would be great. Remember after you listen to this, if it resonated with you, which I know short, sweet, but if it did, remember to give it a like if you liked it.

SPEAKER_01 12:15

And remember to comment your feedback if you have any feedback that you would like to share.

SPEAKER_00 12:32

And until next time, have a wonderful week. Have a happy Easter. I don't know what any of you are doing. I don't even know what I'm doing. Going to church, I would imagine. Outside of that, no idea. I think it's coming to me. Yesterday's the past, tomorrow's the future, but today is a gift. I think that's I think that's how it goes. Anyway, thank you for tuning in. Thank you for listening to El Kivate Your Life. I appreciate you showing up for me. Remember, at the end of this, remember to click that like button, the thumbs up button, comment your thoughts or feedback or insight or andotes, and share if you know somebody that could benefit from this. Remember, doing all these things helps the algorithm, therefore, helps me. Until next time, ciao for now.