What If Being Heard Is The Whole Point

• A calm Fourth of July memory can turn into a full-blown “did that really just happen?” moment in seconds and that’s exactly where we start. I’m sharing our family holiday highlights, from being together with both my kids to a day at the Alameda County Fair that ends with a sky ride surprise: a bag drops midair with my shoes and water inside. Nobody gets hurt, thank goodness, but it’s the kind of comical chaos you never forget and yes, it’s heading toward viral TikTok territory. 

• From there, I open up a Mindful Monday topic that’s been changing the way I talk to my husband: feminine energy and masculine energy, and the role validation plays in helping a woman feel safe and heard. I walk through what I learned from my daughter Brooklyn, her boyfriend AJ, and their therapist, then share a real example of how dismissiveness can sting when I’m dealing with autoimmune pain and oral lichen planus (OLP). The shift is simple but powerful: state the feeling clearly instead of only telling the story, then invite a validating response that meets the moment with empathy. 

• We also talk about what it’s like to retrain your brain later in life, especially after years of single motherhood, and how both partners can learn new patterns together. If you’ve ever wondered why one small comment can hit so hard, or how to ask for what you need without starting a fight, you’ll get practical language you can try right away. 

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Transcript

Welcome And Mindful Monday

SPEAKER_01 0:02

What's up, party people? Welcome to another episode of LQate Your Life. I'm your hostess with the most S. L is in the letter L and key as in the key to your heart.

Fourth Of July Family Highlights

SPEAKER_01 0:17

Thank you for so much for tuning into this mindful Monday, July 6th. How was everyone's Independence Day? 4th of July. 250th anniversary of celebrating our freedom. Thank you to all that have served, continue to serve. It was a phenomenal event for my family and I. I had the pleasure of being with both my children who live in two different places. So, along with my husband, we had an incredible time the day before rafting on the American River. And then we went to the Alameda County Fair.

The Sky Ride Bag Drop

SPEAKER_01 1:05

You'll probably see the viral TikTok that's happening where we were on the sky ride and my son and daughter, Brooklyn and Branna, were in front of us. And as I'm recording this beautiful, peaceful, serene moment of looking around the park, going across the park on the sky ride, lo and behold, as I get their attention, or Mr. gets their attention, they drop their bag from the Skyride, which had my pair of shoes and a bottle of water. Thankfully, it didn't hit anybody. No one was injured during the filming of this. Uh, it was just one of those comical events that you won't forget. And as I said, the TikTok is going viral. So I'm thinking about posting it on the YouTube. We'll see.

Your Fourth Of July Traditions

SPEAKER_01 1:54

At any rate, I'm curious, what is everyone's tradition for Fourth of July? Do you go to family?

SPEAKER_00 2:02

Do you have barbecues? Do you what do you do? I would love to hear everyone's thoughts and opinions of if you have any family traditions.

SPEAKER_01 2:15

Generally, my husband has to decorate our place with all kinds of American flags and Fourth of July decor. And um, of course, when we go out on 4th of July, we're wearing red, white, and blue. And we had the pleasure of seeing the fireworks at the fair, which was really cool. We didn't get to do what I wanted to do, which was a caricature photo or a black and white photo. But what am I gonna do? Can't cry over spilled milk, right?

Feminine And Masculine Energy

SPEAKER_01 2:50

I am curious how everybody feels about this mindful Monday. If you have anything that you feel mindful about, well, I'll share with you something that I learned from my daughter Brooklyn, her boyfriend AJ, and they're a therapist, which is being in feminine energy and masculine energy. And one of the things I learned is if you want your man to be in the masculine energy and you want to stay in the feminine energy, did you know that it's the man's job to validate the woman so that she can be in her feminine energy and feel safe and heard? So something I learned from that therapy session is in speaking to my husband about something that I have to state my feelings, not just tell a story, but like, hey, mister, that really hurt my feelings when you didn't validate me regarding my autoimmune

Asking For Validation With OLP

SPEAKER_01 3:55

condition, my what's known as OLP. It really hurt my feelings when I told you I couldn't eat my breakfast taco because my mouth was hurting. And your response was, oh, can I have a bite of your taco? So instead of me like being mad, I'm supposed to communicate my feelings about it, that it hurt my feelings, that I felt unseen, unheard, dismissed, yada yada. And then his job as the man, of course, is to validate my feelings in that moment of I'm so sorry that you felt A, B, and C. I know that you suffer and you're in pain a lot of the time and can't eat, and that really sucks for you. And I'm sorry that that is the case. Anyway, just a little tidbit of something that I learned from their therapists that I thought I would pass along about being in your feminine energy, being in your masculine energy, how to go about doing those things. We,

Retraining Patterns Later In Life

SPEAKER_01 5:05

I mean, I myself am 57, going on 58, July 17th. And so I am having to teach myself these things. And it's definitely challenging because I was a single mom for so long that to now not be in that energy of being the mother and the father, or saying what I need, or telling my man what I need. Yeah, definitely having to retrain my brain. And so is my 62 going on 63-year-old husband. So I thought it was some, you know, valid, informative, mindful information that I should share with all of you.

How To Subscribe And Listen

SPEAKER_01 6:00

Anyway, um, I did want to let all of you know that you can subscribe to me. Thank you to all my loyal subscribers, Kyle Fhew, Mike Kaufman, Lise Roberts, Corbello, etc., etc. Um, Roger, you're still not showing up as a subscriber, just FYI. So thank you for being a loyal listener, but thought I'd let you know that. If any of you are interested in subscribing, which obviously I would love and appreciate and adore, is you simply go to the context of basically the podcast description. And in the podcast description, it will provide you with a link that you can subscribe to me via Buzz Sprout. It's like Buzz Sprout 23257. I don't know. You could send me a message if you're interested, but generally it's displayed in the podcast content. I do want to thank all my loyal listeners and subscribers for tuning in on Mindful Mondays and Wisdom Wellness Wednesdays. I definitely appreciate all of you and keep an eye out for the video that's going viral. I'll try and post it on my YouTube. Also hoping to post a video podcast on my YouTube today. I'm on all the platforms, but um Buzz Sprout is the one I record on. Because you can find me on Amazon Music, Apple, Spotify, all of them. So thank you for tuning in and listening on this mindful

Thanks, Feedback, And Closing

SPEAKER_01 7:53

Monday. I appreciate all of you. I hope you appreciated the little bit of information that I shared and would love to hear your comments, your feedback, if you don't mind giving it a like, a thumbs up, andor a comment or share it with somebody. That definitely helps the algorithm. Helps me get my podcast out there. And yeah, so until next time, thank you all for tuning in, listening, watching, until wisdom wellness Wednesday. Ciao for now.