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46. How to have a better relationship with yourself with Charlotte Wright

• Grace Secker / Charlotte Wright • Episode 46

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In this episode of the Heal with Grace podcast, I speak with Charlotte Wright, a human design consultant, life coach, and energetic guide. Charlotte shares insights into the importance of self-discovery and authenticity on your healing journey. We delve into the significance of human design, explaining how it blends scientific and spiritual elements to provide a unique blueprint for each individual. Charlotte discusses the challenges and misconceptions related to understanding one's true self and emphasizes the necessity of compassion and curiosity in this journey. We also explore practical ways to slow down and create space for introspection and connection. Charlotte underscores the value of embracing one’s unique energy and offers advice on balancing information intake with embodied practice.

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Hello, and welcome back to the Heal with Grace podcast. I have a special guest, Charlotte Wright, who is a human design consultant, life coach, and energetic guide to get dedicated to helping ambitious business owners and entrepreneurs unlock their authentic potential. Version of themselves. I have worked with Charlotte before and I absolutely love her insight.

and to really just how to get more in tune with yourself. So I'm excited to have you on. Thank you for being here, Charlotte. Thank you so much. Super excited to be here, to have this chat. Yeah. One thing I recognize, which I think I told you is that the more I'm, I'm speaking on this podcast working with my clients and we're working on some specific things like chronic issues and nervous system and mental health, but.

Really, at the end of the day, everything comes down to our relationship with ourselves, and it made me think of the work that I did with you. So can you explain, can you just tell us a little bit about how you came to be a human design consultant, life coach and energetic guide and what's your, what you're doing right now?

I mean, I feel like if there was, a title I could give myself, that would be great, but I seem to have many. So sometimes I, I describe myself as like multi modality or multi disciplinary, you know, holistic for sure, because I cover lots of different bases. But I think what I do really is, I'm not sure we can put it into a couple of words because it's kind of developed over the five years that I've had my business of allowing people to go on this journey of self discovery and really understand who they are so they can like release these societal expectations that they have of themselves or trying to fit into some sort of mold and just like letting that go and I know you.

All over the place we see like be your authentic self and people kind of pooh pooh that a little bit. But I think it's so valuable to understand who you are, why you're here, what makes you tick, your energy and how that works. I just think it's so powerful, so worthwhile to understand. I think you're right.

It, those words are out there and we just kind of move past them. I think too, because it's not fully explained. And it might feel really far from someone that that the idea of connecting with your authentic self. I mean, I've had many people be like, I don't, how, what do you mean? What is that? You know, so when we read words, but we don't actually connect with them.

Yeah. We just kind of pass through. Yeah. And I think because it's intangible, right? We can't feel it to do anything with it particularly. and I often see. Using being the authentic self or your authenticity as a vehicle to get something else like a better job or more money or a relationship. and that's the only reason that you might like to discover who you are, but actually, I think from all the clients that I've worked with, the.

Kind of the peace that they gain from understanding that it's okay to be who they are and have their own energy and, you know, human design, et cetera, et cetera. I think that's so worthwhile. Like just that serenity, that peace, that, understanding of self, you know, and not chasing something for the sake of something else externally.

How do you start with someone to help them understand their, their true self? Like, what is their true self versus? Maybe what they're, how they're feeling right now or how they're feeling when they, you know, come to you or just in general. Yeah, I think working with energy is understanding their energy and asking a lot of questions.

So I tend to ask questions that are thought provoking and allow people to like examine what's actually going on. But we go through things like that if their needs are getting met.that type of thing, because we often forget about that. And it's, it's so valuable understanding if your needs are getting met, and things like values work, but I don't do it in a typical way that you're like, choose these words if they're your values, but really getting down to the foundations of why you do the things that you do and why you want to do the things.

that you want to do in the future or have the things that you want to have. But I think human design, then, when we bring elements of that in, you get to see. the validation of self. Like, oh, it's okay to be that, so I no longer need to hide that part of me. I feel like we're all walking around, before we understand this stuff, like, we've got many, like, veils or covers or layers over who we are.

And really, we're just, like, hiding ourselves all the time. One, because we're just afraid of people, like, judging us. And two, maybe we have been judged in the past, so we've kind of hidden a little bit more. But when you start to unravel all of that and see underneath the layers and you create safety and create that possibility to, to be yourself without being judged, I think that's so important, but it does take time, obviously.

but I think it is just this, like, going through the layers, really. Yeah. I'm wondering if we can bring in, and we can use me, as an example to understand, okay, what would that, what does that look like? What would veils look like, right? And then what would taking those off look like? I think, I think you mentioned just, learning about ourselves from really any modality can help, right?

Information can help us because we can resonate and be like, Oh, that is me. Right. But we never recognized it before. So what would those type of tools be? Is that human design or energy work? Anything other than that? And can you describe that? Yeah, I think often human design can be the first thing that comes in.

It depends, honestly depends on the person. Sometimes it's like the life coaching that comes in first. And sometimes it's bringing in the energy work first. But often human design can also open up so much because if you're really hidden from yourself, You're kind of hiding from yourself when you see your human design, it opens up your awareness and then you get to see things that probably well, one, you might not have wanted to say, but also things that where you create validation and have the ability to look and.

almost open yourself up to those parts of your personality or your energy. So I think, whilst a lot of people look at human design as like a cool tool, like, you know, astrology or something like that, just to nerd out and find out more information. I see it as this like, beautiful, chart to be able to see parts of you because it opens up so much.

For example, imagine that you're incredibly emotional and you're like, there's something wrong with me. Like, I cry at a drop of the hat. Like that's so bad. We have that negative connotation with being emotional. and you beat yourself up for that and you start to hide that part of you. And you're like, you know, holding my emotions.

I shouldn't cry at this movie. Like that's ridiculous. But then you look at your design and see you're an emotional being, for example, you have emotional, authority, then there's so much like permission and validation. Well, you are emotional and that's completely normal for you and for your type and you should embrace it.

Like there's so much depth of emotion there and that's so important. I love emotional people because they can share things in an emotional way. They feel things very deeply. And actually crying at the drop of a hat is a way of releasing that emotion. I, I just think it's so great for, for those components.

Yeah. Okay. I have two questions. One first, can we back up and describe exactly what human design is? Yes. So human design, if you don't know, is, Kind of like a part scientific part spiritual tool. It takes into the elements of astrology. And then we've got the chakra system. We have got two extra chakras there.

so we've got the Hindu chakra system. We've got astrology. We've got the Kabbalah is in there as well. And they're all. Brought together, including some quantum physics. it all comes together into a chart that tells you everything about yourself, your personality, your body, how your energy functions.

It's very similar, I guess, to doing something like Myers Briggs, apart from you're very unique. It's like having a fingerprint. So you're not asking and answering questions about yourself in order to receive a result. It's there. It was, produced the day you were born. so it's very individual for you.

It's nobody is the same as the other person because there's so many components in it. And that's what I love about it. Like you can, there's no way of like, cheating the system almost with answering questions. It is you, you know? Yeah, it is. When I first Learned about it? Well, actually the first time I ever even read something, probably on social media about it, I remember looking at what my type was and I was like, I don't, I don't know.

I don't see that, I don't see that with me within me. And I had done a lot of people on here. know the Enneagram, it's a little bit, more talked about than the Myers-Briggs. Right? There's a lot over the past years and mm-Hmm, , that was honestly the same for me when I first learned about the Enneagram.

I. I tested as a different number, then I tested again, I was a different number, and that's kind of my type. And over time, I really have resonated with some parts of it. But then when I looked again into human design, and I had you read my chart and list out all the things you're mentioning of, actually, these are really truly you, there was this just like, aha moment and a, a feeling of peace.

Like, oh, that's okay to be me. Those aspects. Yeah, that's okay. I don't have to cover them up. And I realized I was trying to be someone else. And no wonder I've been burnt out on so many levels in life because I was trying to be different than actually what my true being is. That's what really helped me about it.

Was so powerful. Yeah. And I think with that as well, when you understand you and your human design, you open up so much like, discovery and understanding of other people. And I think you have all this compassion with the people around you. Cause you suddenly realize, Oh my God, maybe the design is completely different to mine.

Maybe they're supposed to be doing that. Maybe part of their design is to A, B, or C. Maybe they're a completely different type to me and maybe that's okay because they're getting to be themselves. And honestly, every single day when I meet people or talk to people that I know already, I, I always think about human design because I'm always like, Oh, maybe she's doing that because that's how her design works.

And it's just like, You no longer have this, like, blaming or judgment of people. I mean, you're a human being, you're always going to have elements of, you know, little parts of you that could be judging others. But when people do things, you don't internalize it as like, they're wrong and I'm right. It's more of a compassionate feeling.

Towards them. Yeah, exactly. It's, it's, it's the same thing that happens when people go through something together and you go through maybe something difficult, right? You understand a deeper part of them. And so it becomes, you have more compassion for them. I see this a lot on, if anyone watches, I don't watch a lot of reality TV, but I have watched love is blind.

And you see all the people in the, like the, the men's group and the women's group in the pods. There's plenty of them that are all very different people, right? But man, do they have this incredible bond whenever they see each other? They're just so excited and they're compassionate and cheer each other on.

And sure, there's some drama between people, but overall, you can see the bond between them because they've created out of this, this, this. hard experience, right? And when you do that, you understand someone. So that's kind of how I see it too. The more that you can discover something about them, their true self, it's kind of hard not to have compassion.

Yeah. Yeah, it's so great. And also for me and my, I guess my like family upbringing and, and childhood and things like that, it really helped me to heal a lot of that because I was able to see that the way people might have acted or reacted or whatever, when I was a kid might've been pertinent to their design, for example.

And the way I felt like an outsider was because I'm a projector and the way that I wanted to stay home and didn't want to do all of these activities and things because I'm a two line. Do you know, I just think it's so, It's so cool. And then looking at my mom and being like, well, she had all this like energy to do stuff because she's a generator and she just loves to do stuff, you know?

Yeah. Yeah. So you can see, yeah. You can see the differences in people and it, it creates that, yeah, that understanding that compassion. Yeah. How did you get into it? Yeah. Yeah, often. We're kind of told that if you're, if you get into human design, you've kind of been invited in a way. I know I'm a projector, so I get invited.

But often you're bought into the system, they say, by somebody else, which is what happened to me. so, a few years ago, I, My business, I've had my business for just over five years and it was always a spiritual type of business. I always did energetic guidance. I used to do healing work and things like that.

one of my, I guess you could call her a colleague. Like she had a similar business to me. We'd known each other for quite a while. She introduced me to the system and then she started to tell me all this stuff about design and about my design. And I just felt like it was some sort initiation and what happened was I learn.

The basics and then everybody kept asking me about it and it just went from there. Honestly, I felt like, you know, total imposter syndrome in the first few months because people like, can you come on the podcast and talk about design? Can you do a, a, like a masterclass for my clients on design? I'd be like, Oh my God, I don't think I know enough about it, but that's how it happened.

It was just like this initiation. I've always been into really kind of things like, astrology and, ancient wisdom and those kinds of practices. And I don't know, I was just really intrigued. I looked, I loved how it blended everything into one. Yeah. And again, we're coming back to learning about yourself, right?

That is the basis of all of this. And that's, and that's why I wanted you to have to kind of You to come on here, to talk about this because again, I mean, I want to keep talking about it in so many different ways because it resonates with different people, right? When we're talking about like learning about ourselves and coming home to ourselves, the best thing we can do is have that compassionate relationship because so much, disease, turmoil, disorders, anything happens when we're super disconnected from us, right?

And that happens usually from judgment or like you're saying, you didn't fit. It's really important to know that you don't feel like you fit in your family because you have a different type and energy than other people. And a lot of times in our society, we are judged for not being a certain way, right?

Certain energy. Yeah, and you know, I'm always telling my clients, look at things with Compassion and curiosity. If you're doing any inner work with compassion and curiosity, not with judgment or you should do this or you're not doing it quickly enough or get over it or whatever, but with compassion and curiosity and asking yourself like questions about why you feel that way or why you think that might have happened, et cetera.

Can you speak to, I think, I know we've talked about this and I've heard other people talk about it in terms of human design that. The, if we have the true belief that everyone is in their own energy and their own being is actually right for the world, you know what I'm, you know, where I'm going with that.

Can you speak to that and explain it? Yeah. I mean, look, we need one of everybody. I feel like everybody has a unique blueprint, their unique skills, unique talents, personality traits, Gifts to the world, path, purpose, all of that. And I think that, you know, it is a bit like a jigsaw puzzle that we're all like on this earth and there's pieces, you know, where each human has this piece to give to this puzzle and then we create a whole.

And I think that's really important that we're not like. We are one. I know it sounds kind of cliche, but we do create one and we are one. And I think that's really important to understand because if we didn't have, for example, to talk about human design, if we didn't have projectors, then we couldn't move things forward in terms of the, the view we have of the world or making deep change or guiding people or having deep wisdom, et cetera.

And the same with generators, we need the generators with that drive to move things forward too. And I think when you understand design, you understand that everybody has a part to play in it.and that we can't do it alone. You know, which goes back to so many things. We really can't do anything alone.

We try to, but I think we need everybody to be part of the one, you know, that is at least to me when I, you know, when you've talked about it and I've, I consciously and spiritually, I recognize this, but we forget things and we need reminders. Right. But that the essence of that, it creates so much. Peace knowing that, oh, yeah, we all our differences are all very much.

So needed, right? There's not 1, right? 1 or 1 wrong 1, especially at least for me coming, coming as a projector as well. I've at least my upbringing and where I've been in the world. It hasn't been as accepted to be this a little bit more slower pace and quieter in a way. At least that's how I show up. And instead, I think I've always been surrounded by people that are like, go, go, go, doing all the things, like full force, pushing forward.

And it felt like if I wasn't that, then I'm not, I don't know, good enough or like, I'm not doing enough. Right. You're right. I mean, we need both of those. So it really helps to, to bring that peace that that's okay. Yeah. And we go back to things like ancient wisdom when we think about the yin and yang.

You know, we've got to have both sides of that. We can't just have all yang, you know, we've got to have some and the other as well. Yeah. Okay. So let's talk about maybe the other side of this where yes, information is super helpful, right? I mean, learning about ourselves, learning about, our way in the world and how to help ourselves is important.

And at the same time. How do you see people maybe going either too far with that or being overloaded with information? Like we can know so much, but sometimes that can be, it can be too much. Yeah, I think we can almost like drown our energy and information that we can't even feel or hear ourselves anymore.

and it's this striving for, if I know more, then I'll get further ahead, or I'll be well, or whatever it is, you know, whatever thing you're trying to look at. I think it's, it's the fear of not knowing almost, like, if I know more, then of course I'm going to be further ahead. But what I see, as an example, let's talk about human design for a second.

When people come into human design, they get their read in or whatever, they always do this. They go away. And they go and dig through their design. They look at every single component, they Google every gate, they look at everything, and then they get absolutely exhausted, overwhelmed. And the tendency is that they decide human design is not for me.

It's too complicated. I can't use it. And they leave. human design and like, I'm not interested. Always, always, always they come back around and they're like, but maybe there's, there is something there. And that's when they start to be find, try and find somebody to help talk them through it because they've taken on too much information and it's just drowned them with information.

And I think with anything and with human design, it really is like taking baby steps. But also what I feel is like, take the things that feel resonant to you. Like if you don't feel connected to elements of it, trust your intuition, trust yourself and be like, I obviously don't need that because I'm not feeling that connected to it.

But there might be parts where you're like, wow, that hits me really deeply and I really want to like talk some more about this or learn some more about this or feel more into this. Like go with those things. With human design like you can just go back to your strategy and authority and that would change your life if you just focused on those things, knowing your type and understanding your strategy and authority and following them.

But if you think about information in general, I think this desire or drive for information is definitely having a negative effect on us. you know, I'm seeing more and more people with anxiety, people who are overwhelmed, people who cannot focus, people who can't make decisions, people who are annoyed that they're forgetting things.

And I really, really think it's because We're overstimulated and we have too much information. I mean, there's so much out there, right? Which is positive and negative, right? It's great to understand and learn, but yes, you're right. We can get stuck in that loop of learning because when we're learning, we're in the cognitive, we're up in the brain.

And although again, important sometimes, if we're stuck there, we're not actually Embodying maybe what we need to for ourselves and talk about this a lot with nervous system regulation. You can learn all the tools. You can learn all the science behind the mind and body connection, but if you're not actually practicing being in your body, doing some of the things that things really going to shift, right?

We're just stuck in the loop of like, learn, learn, learn information. so yeah, I totally see that. And it's so interesting that you said about being stuck in the head because if we go back to human design and the work that I do, like human design focuses on your body and not using your mind for everything because the mind often cannot be trusted.

and I know we've been bought up to believe that you should use your head and go through the pros and cons and be more logical and don't feel into your emotions. Don't trust your gut. Don't trust your body. Human design does the opposite. Human design welcomes you to listen to your body and don't trust your mind.

You know, so when we're stuck in the mind, you get that fog in us, right? Because you've got so much stuff going on and you're disconnected from everything because you're just there and the chatter is happening in your head all the time. and you've, you've disconnected from everything else going on. in your body and there's so much power in your intuition and other, you know, things like your emotions, et cetera.

Also with the mind, I feel like the mind needs a lot of energy to process stuff. So I feel like it burns through a lot of energy. So you can see where probably your energy starts to dip because you spent so much time learning or taking in more and more information. And also think, you know, when you're trying to discover more and more and more.

It really does lead to that sense of, anxiety, because if I've got more, I need to get more. And, you know, it's like quicker, quicker, quicker energy of trying to get more and more stuff. I don't know if you, I'm sure you've heard this, but this is like, I was going to say statistic, but it's not an official statistic, how Shakespeare in his entire life, he would have learned and taken in the same amount of information that we take in one day.

I know I have not heard that. Yeah. yeah. So can you imagine like, obviously he was reading things, et cetera, like manuscripts, books, newspapers, they had them back then, but we take in a multitude of information every minute. Like, it's just constant. All the time, information, wherever we look. Often, if we've got a break, we're looking on social media or the internet.

If we're not doing that, we might be watching a YouTube video or trying to learn something new because we're trying to cram in as much as possible at any moment in time. Then, when we have space, we're like, Oh, listen to a podcast on my walk. It's just constant. The brain is the same as Shakespeare's. You know, and whilst we have evolved a little bit to, to kind of take in more, our evolution hasn't been that significant that we can take in that amount of stuff, you know?

Wow. That's such a tangible, I mean, visual, right? I mean, it's so, that's powerful. Because we yeah, we can talk about like, yes, we are overstimulated. We're taking in way too much content and information. But yeah, to put it in those terms is really powerful. And it, it's so true. I mean, you know, if you've listened to this podcast, you've heard me talk about slowing down because I think that it can be another like we talked about earlier.

I think it's another, Yeah. Another thing that's somewhat talked about, but I think we scroll past be like, move past it. Yeah. Yeah, I get it. I need to slow down. But what does that really mean? How do we actually do that? And when we can do that, I think that's how we understand ourselves a little bit more.

And I think that's what you're speaking to that. Yes, we need we can understand and learn, but then, okay, how do we pause and, you know, Take it all in. Yeah, and I feel like the most important information that you can ever gather is the information about how you move around the world. And you can only really get that when you're having that space in between, you know, to integrate and to feel things and understand things that are happening within you and within your world.

Atmosphere, you know, I think that we just don't take enough space and people are scared to just like have that rest time and just do nothing. obviously, we're kind of addicted to having things all the time and doing nothing feels. Kind of weird. Like, what am I supposed to do with that? You know? but I think the more you practice having spaciousness, the more connection you have to yourself, but also to be on the spiritual side, you start to receive more information.

You know, you start to hear things that you didn't hear before, but you can't do that if you're constantly stimulated and constantly looking for stuff. Do you have certain practices for yourself or that you talk about to help slow down to give yourself that space? Yeah, I mean, spaciousness is a huge deal for me as a person because I can't really do my work to the best of my ability unless I've, you know, Got space in my life because I can't really hear what clients are saying.

I can hear them, but I can't hear the deeper meaning of what they're saying underneath that energy. So I really need to have that space. And for me, I've been meditating every morning when I wake up for many years. I love meditation. I trained in meditation. I know some people don't particularly like it, but.

Honestly, it's not what happens in the meditation. It's what happens outside of the meditation. It changes your life, you know, it really does, but it takes a little bit of time.what I tend to do is I, every day I go for a walk in nature always, and I do the senses check where I'm like, what can I see right now?

What can I feel? What can I hear? And it sounds really like arbitrary. It sounds really simple. Like that's not going to work. Like, I'm not going to do that. Oh my god, it really works to like drop you back into the present, to really feel like what's going on, and you start to notice things. And it's, it reminds me of the art of noticing.

I am the best person ever to just sit and look out the window. It's my favorite activity. Now it is in my design. I do have contemplation in my design. I love that I just sit and I'm looking, but I think you can incorporate spaciousness in your day by just doing things like getting your cup of tea in the morning and sitting with it, smelling it, tasting it.

Like we don't, we rarely taste or smell anything anymore. You know, we're often looking at something at the same time. So if you're. a beginner and you want to take baby steps, I would recommend something like your first hot drink in the morning and really take time with that and smell it and sit with it and just be grateful to have it.

Yeah. It's so easy to have that hot drink or go for the walk and not be present, right? Listen to music, listen to a podcast, be distracted by your dog or your kid or whatever, right? And you're completely forgetting what's around you. so I think that's a really, really important reminder. You're right.

It's simple, but it's so effective. Yeah, and I think also, when I think about myself and my practices, whilst I love them and I've been doing it for many years, I do have to have boundaries with myself. It's almost like I have to have an adult self of me telling the child self of me to like, cool it with the phone or whatever.

Sometimes when I go out for a walk, I do, the odd time, think, should I take my ear pods with me? And it's that moment where I'm like, no walks are for being present, et cetera. We leave that at home. And it's almost like me being a parent to myself, you know, and saying, no, this is not the time because I know myself very well.

And I know my energy. And if I go for a walk with ear pods in, I don't connect to anything. I don't connect to myself, to my surroundings. And I start to get this like fog going on in my head. And I really, I really don't like that feeling. Yeah, which comes with overstimulation, right? Yeah. I think you were mentioning that earlier and I think, you were saying that more people you're noticing more people talk about that, like, just brain fog and forgetting things and right.

And that totally happens when we're in the stress response. Yeah, and what worries me about, about that is, it's almost like they're blaming themselves, like there's something wrong with me and I'm wrong, you know, because I'm feeling like I've got a foggy brain or I can't focus, I don't feel motivated, like there's something wrong with me inherently, like.

What is it? And it's so interesting. Like what I mentioned to you earlier is that what I'm seeing in the women who are saying that they're feeling this way and they're forgetful and they can't focus, et cetera, is they're trying to put it on to something else. Like perimenopause must be this problem. It must be.

We need a diagnosis.and I think there's so many practices we can do ourselves just to like, create the space.Do you know what I mean? It's yeah. Yeah. Anytime there's something like that brain fog, something we blame it. Most of the time we blame it on ourselves. What's wrong with me? I'm broken X, Y, and Z.

Right? Which just creates more shame, which creates guilt, which then creates more, just wreaking havoc on our bodies, our minds. Yeah. And shame, like we can't heal through shame, right? Yeah. Yeah. And so going back to actually what you said, if we can approach it, I'm guessing from curiosity. And compassion, right?

it's slowing down. I think it's the best medicine we can give ourselves. Yeah, I mean, I mean, if you listen to this, this is two projectors talking about slowing down. Two, true. But I feel like that's part of the reason why we're here on this planet, is to help people understand it, you know? and it's not that it's been easy for us.

I mean, I'm talking for both of us, but, yeah. Yeah, exactly. Okay. can you give just a little, example of maybe a projector versus something else so people understand what we're saying when we say that? Yeah. So in human design, we have four types. Projector is one of them. There's like 20 percent of the population.

We've got generators and manifesting generators taking up around 72 percent of the population. We've got manifestors who are 8 percent and reflectors who are just 1%. Now the difference is projectors, the way their aura and their energy works, it's very penetrative, but we can see how other people move through the world and we have ability to guide them through the world.

And you can see that if we're helping other people with their energy and helping to guide them through the world, we can't do that in a rush. We kind of really need to slow down, but also projectors don't have something called a sacral motor. And the sacral motor is like when you're driving a car and you have a battery or an engine.

We don't have a battery or an engine. So, we, we have to be very careful about our energy and how we use it because we can burn out very quickly. We can take in other people's energy and use it, but it's not, it doesn't last, you know, because it's not ours. So, those other types I mentioned, the generator, manifesting generator, 70 odd percent of the population have that engine, that drive, that motor to move around the world.

So they, they have all the energy they need to do everything they want. So you can see 70 odd percent, 20 odd percent of the projectors. And we're in a world along with the manifesters and reflectors in this world of that energy of people around us who have engines. And we're like, I don't have the engine, but we spend our entire lives.

Without the engine, pretending that we do have an engine, or we should have an engine, or maybe there's something wrong with me because I don't do the same things, or have the same drive. And that's why we are slower as projectors, because we just don't have the actual physical energy. That's exactly, I mean, yeah, and that's exactly what I was talking about earlier.

I was always operating like those other people and. Yeah. No wonder I've burned out many times on many levels. okay. That's a really helpful description. And can you also, and I can link it to, can you tell our listeners where they can find out about their human design? Yeah. So I tend to use genetic matrix.

it's free to get your chart. it's genetic matrix. com. I'm sure Grace will put it somewhere in the link. and you'll get a really good chart for that for free. Yeah. You do need your time. your birth date, your place of birth. Yeah, it's super interesting. And like you said, it, there is a lot, I mean, you could spend.

Years trying to understand it, right? so when you first like research in my design, I look at design every single day and I still look at stuff in my own design, you know, so then what would you suggest for someone who's just looking at the first time they've looked at their chart? I would always start with your type.

So are you a projector, generator, manifesting generator, etc? Your strategy and your authority. Those two things tell you how you move around the world and which is the best way for your energy. and I think, like I said, if you did nothing else with your human design but followed your strategy and your authority, your life would change.

Awesome. Okay. Is there anything around what we've talked about human design, tuning into ourselves, and for taking in information that you feel like is important? We haven't talked about,

I think that really, when you start to understand your design as well with the with the information and the way you. assimilate information or take in information that changes as well because some people are here to have, you know, research everything and get to the bottom of everything because it's part of their design and they're supposed to search and find things.

Whereas some of us are supposed to just have an overview and actually when we start to learn too deeply it throws our energy off. So I think looking at elements of that can be really helpful as well. But going back to compassion and curiosity, I'm all about asking yourself the questions, like why do I feel like I need to know this, for example, or why do I feel like I am feeling like I've got a foggy brain or I'm not focusing, etc.

What could that be? And the way I ask those questions to myself with the curiosity, hmm, what could that be? Not with like, we have to find out what that is. You know, like how come I feel that way? Because we, I think we forget that we're energetic beings and we're so connected to everything, to source, to everything, but you receive answers through your intuition anyway, you know, by asking those questions, you might not get an answer right away, but you're open it up to receive an answer.

So I always go back to these, you know, these curiosity questions, like, huh, why is that that I feel that way? Yeah, when you're doing that, you're taking off the judgment and the meaning, right? Yeah. Okay. Okay. That's really helpful. how can people find you? What are you offering right now? Yeah, so I am always offering human design readings and I do one on one sessions.

I do three, six month packages, et cetera. The difference between the reading and the session is if you come for a reading is just human design. If you come for an energy session with human design, it's a blend of everything. So it really is down to choice. and then I do coaching, which includes all of those modalities.

if you're a business owner, I do business by design, which is all about understanding yourself. and your business through your design. and you can find me on my website, which is CharlotteWright. co. I do hang out on Instagram predominantly, but I also have a sub stack called The Contemplation, which looks at Contemplating life and, things like elements of life coaching, healing, spiritual work, but also some human design there as well.

I can also attest to working with you for, I can't remember how long, for months at a time. and it was really, really powerful and helpful. So if you're interested in this and you want support, Charlotte's awesome. Thank you so much. It was a pleasure as always. Yeah. All right. one last question that I ask every guest, what are you enjoying right now in your life, your wellness, your, yeah, your life's journey.

Yeah. Go ahead. Yeah. When I think about this, I automatically think about yoga. You know, I, I, I feel like that's slightly, I don't know, is that quite boring, but I've always loved yoga and there's something about me with bare feet stepping onto the mat just every time that feeling of just being like, oh my gosh, I just love it so much.

And the feeling afterwards, I just love it. But I am a bit of a nerd when it comes to spiritual kind of stuff. I do like sound healing. and I like to try different types of sound healing as well. So recently I was in Thailand, I went to healing center to try a crystal bowl sound healing, which I've had many of, but then I've had Tibetan bowl healing.

I went to one recently that was completely different. So yeah, I just kind of like to try things most of the time to see how it makes me feel. And do I, have other things coming through. I'm all about receiving guidance myself as well from source, etc. so yeah, those type of things. Mine are all about being connected to myself and being connected to the universe.

It's gonna have one of those components in it. Awesome. I don't. As well. And what? Ah, yeah. Yeah. I don't think, I mean, honestly, I think that yoga has become, there's so much about yoga, right? These days. That. We forget what you just said, like the actual being on your mat with your feet, being present. I mean, there's so much power in that.

I know that feeling. Yeah. All right. Thank you so much, Charlotte. I really appreciate you coming on here. It's great to be here. Thank you.