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It Takes Two
Tayler and Tanner…. Siblings, best friends, manifestors, and go-getters living hundreds of miles apart. We’re here to share with you our lived experiences, perspectives, passions, mindsets and habits. As a Personal Trainer and Entrepreneur, Tanner will share with you his knowledge and expertise around creating a transformative lifestyle that’s functional and sustainable. As a Registered Psychotherapist, Tayler will share her knowledge on wellness, relationships, and self awareness. Through diverse and sometimes chaotic conversations, we’ll be able to share with you our individual personalities and friendship.
It Takes Two
45: Breaking the Link Between Results and Self-Worth
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In this episode, we unpack what happens when your self-worth becomes dependent on outcomes.
“Tying emotions to outcomes” is the habit of linking how you feel about yourself to specific results — whether that’s hitting a PR, achieving a body goal, getting the promotion, or being perceived a certain way. On the surface, it can look like ambition. But underneath? It often fuels anxiety, fear of failure, perfectionism, and rigid thinking.
We explore:
- What it actually means to entwine your self-worth with results
- Why this pattern is so common (especially in high-achievers)
- The psychological cost: damage to motivation, confidence, and internal identity
- How internalised messages and early conditioning shape this behaviour
- Why it’s unsustainable — even when you are succeeding
Tanner shares his perspective as a personal trainer — how outcome-driven thinking shows up in body image, strength goals, and performance metrics, and where it can both help and harm progress.
From a psychotherapists lens, we dive into how this mindset impacts self-esteem, resilience, and overall wellbeing — and why learning to separate who you are from what you achieve is essential for long-term growth.
If you’ve ever felt “only as good as your last result,” this episode is for you
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