Same-Sex Attracted and a Christian. Now What?
Welcome to Same-Sex Attracted and a Christian. Now what? My name is Dennis Belkofer. The title is my autobiography in a nutshell, because I know what it's like to be same-sex attracted and a Christian, and ask, "How do I align it with God's moral laws and creation ordinances of gender, sexuality, and marriage?" And it's the same "now what" asked by countless Christians, not only those who are same-sex attracted. I've recorded this podcast to share my conversion and how I was taught to biblically deal with the sinful desires that attracted me to a man, after years of confusion and struggling to find the answer. What I was taught applies to all Christians, because "all" Christians are baited by sinful desires (Galatians 5:17). I pray that this podcast will be a blessing to others, and above all, glorify the Lord Jesus Christ. From my heart to yours, Dennis.
Episodes
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In this Episode I Unpack Proverbs 2:1-4 and the 2 Promises that Follow Them (v.5) - if You Implement 1-4 in Your Life. I Speak from Experience
When I say I speak from experience, I am not implying I am special. No way. By God's grace, I decided to pour all of me into vs. 4-5. Because through YouTube, I discovered men who teach about the fear of God and the knowledge of God in ways I h...
In this Episode I Share how Living from the Perspective of Hebrews 10:14, Romans 6:11, and 1 John 1:5-7 is Foundational in Handling Desires of the Flesh that Pop Up Unexpectedly
Here is an example of a desire of the flesh that pops up unexpectedly: You're sitting in a doctor's office reading a magazine, waiting for the nurse to call your name. Something that you read triggers a memory of how someone hurt you that arous...
This morning, 9/23, as I Read Psalm 89, I saw it as a Call to Prodigals: thus, this Episode.
Psalm 89 records God's promise to David that He will establish David's throne and his descendants forever and never take His lovingkindness from them. Jesus is called the Son of David and the Son of Abraham (the father of faith) in Matt 1:1. Us...
Psalm 89:14 and John 1:17 Expose Gay Christianity and Gay Affirming Churches for Ignoring Truth and Turning Grace into Affirming People in their Sin
Psalm 89:14: "Mercy and truth go before you." John 1:17: "The law was given through Moses; grace and truth were realized through Jesus Christ." Both verses are taken from the New American Standard Bible, 2020 edition. In this episode, using Scr...
In this Episode, I Share what Prevents me from Turning what I've Learned About Biblically Dealing with Same-Sex Attraction into a Self-Centered Formula
The episode will speak for itself. But I'll say this up front: my Christian life can be self-centered, not God-centered, without me realizing it - and all born-again believers in Jesus should guard against it. So, join the club. And I pray that...
This Morning, I Realized that my Podcast is Grounded in Core Doctrines/Theology, as it Should be. But I've Neglected Psalm 147 (below)
Psalm 147:3: "He heals the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds"(NASB). In my time alone with the Lord this morning, 9/18, I thought about how that verse applies to my life: brokenhearted and wounded by mother-son emotional and sexual abuse...
This a Revisiting of the June 17, 2026 Episode: Have You Heard that Jesus Said Nothing (Condemning) About Homosexuality? Is that Blaspheming His Deity? Too Important not to Revisit
Jesus did not directly say anything about homosexuality in the gospels. But he identified Himself as "I Am" (John 8:58). It tells us that, as the I AM (God), He had already spoken about homosexuality (Leviticus 20:13). And as God, He is the sam...
In this Episode, I Identify the Episodes with the Most Downloads, which Tells of an Interest in their Topics. If You are New to the Podcast, You May Want to Check them Out. Or if You've Overlooked Them
I've recorded 71 episodes. That's a lot to choose from. Here are the episodes that have sparked the most interest: "A Prodigal Son Comes Home" (Oct. 17 and 18, 2024); "Was I Born Gay?" (Nov. 2 and 3, 2024); "Born Again: Often Misunderstood and ...
The Abridged Version of my 5-Part Series: How I Learned to Deal with Same-Sex Attraction Biblically
I recorded the original 5-part series, "How I Learned to Deal with Same-Sex Attraction Biblically," on May 3- 5. I recorded this episode on September 7 with this in mind: "The ear can handle only what the seat can endure," as I did in the...
This Episode is the Abridged Version of the Four-Part Series I Recorded: The Gay Christian, Upside-Down Kingdom Bible, and Preston Sprinkle - to Expose Sprinkle's Heresies Regarding Gender and Sexuality. This Episode does it in an Hour
I've decided to record abridged versions of the lengthy episodes I've recorded: "the ear can handle" only what "the seat can endure." This episode is the first: "The Gay Christian, Up-Side Down Kingdom Bible, and Preston Sprinkle" (May 29...
Today, 9/3, I Realized that, in the Episodes Focusing on Prodigals, I Omitted the Difference Between Horizontal and Vertical Confession of Sin and Repentance, which ALL Christians Need to Know. I've Repented and Recorded this Episode to Explain it.
The title says it all. And I pray that explaining the difference biblically will strengthen you in your walk with the Lord, as it has for me. From my heart to yours, Dennis
From the Bottom of My Heart, and unto the Glory of God, I Recorded this Episode to Thank You for Downloading this Podcast, along with the Growing Number Around the World
This morning, in my time alone with the Lord, I praised Him for how He is using this podcast in my endeavor to "drench" it with biblical truth. Humbled and grateful, I decided to record this episode. From my heart to yours: Dennis
How Gay Affirming Churches and the Gay Christianity Movement are Defined in Titus 2:11-14, Jude 1:4 -13, and Leviticus 18:22. This is a Continuation of the Previous Episode: It's Time for a History Lesson...
In the previous episode, "It's Time for a History Lesson: the Origin of the Gay Christian: an Example of the Identity Crisis Festering in the Evangelical Church," I said it was one of the most important episodes that I've recorded. This episode...
It's Time for a History Lesson: The Origin of the Gay Christian (1946-2026): an Example of the Festering Identity Crisis in the Evangelical Church
This is a long episode, but one of the most important I've recorded. I am skipping my usual introduction and asking you to jump right to the episode. It will speak for itself. Please check out June 20: the two types of compassion- one ...
If You are a Recovering Prodigal or Living as One, once a Pastor or a Christian Leader, I've Recorded this Episode, as a Former Prodigal, to Minister to You
On April 17 and 18, 2024, I recorded "A Prodigal Comes Home" - my personal journey. Of the many episodes I've recorded, they have received the most downloads. On April 29, 2026, I recorded "My Journey to Becoming a Prodigal." It has also receiv...
Requesting Prayer for a Homeless Man who has AIDS
Less than 90 minutes ago, I shared the gospel with a man named Terrence. Please pray for him. As you listen to this podcast, you will know why I am asking.
I Knew Jesus Forgave Me of the Sins I Committed Under the Name Same-Sex Attraction. But the Regret for Committing those Sins Haunted me. Not Anymore. If You Identify, this Episode is for You
On May 25th, I recorded "Taking a Beloved Scripture out of Context: John 3:16" (check it out). That's what I had done with Romans 8:28: "God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to...
My Eyes would Glaze Over when I Read Galatians 5:16: "But I Say Walk by the Spirit and You Will not Carry out the Desire of the Flesh." And I Wondered: How do I do that? Until...
It's embarrassing. Galatians 5:16 puzzled me for decades. Much of what I share in this episode, I gleaned from the following books: "The Bondage of the Will" (Martin Luther); "The Mortification of Sin" (Puritan John Owen); "The Enem...
"The 7 Levels of Intimacy with God (why few Christians Ever Reach the Final One)" - a YouTube Video by God Built
During my time alone with God this morning, I decided to go to YouTube to see if a Christian teaching video would be offered. True to YouTube's algorithm, which selects videos based on the types of videos you choose in the past, "The 7 Levels o...
You are Born Again and this Podcast is Leading You to Stop Identifying Yourself as a Gay Chistian. Or you are an Evangelical Pastor and You No Longer use Gay Christian with Your Church. Now What? Romans 8 Holds the Answer
This episode takes you through Romans 8, a chapter that, perhaps more than any other in the New Testament, unpacks the identity of a born-again believer in Christ: who they were before being born again and who they are now. If you are born agai...
You are Born Again. You Struggle with Same-Sex Attraction and with Walking in Obedience. You've Prayed to be Made Obedient and for More Grace - and Nothing Happened. This Episode Looks at Why - and it's for "ALL " Born-Again Believers.
This episode is taken from "How I Learned to Deal with Same-Sex Attraction Biblically and all Desires of the Flesh" - a series. I explain that after years of struggling with same-sex attraction and praying to be made obedient, like a dog chasin...
The Previous Two Episodes Presented the War Between the Flesh and the Spirit, and God Disciplines His Children as Proofs of Being Born Again. In this Episode, I Add a Heart that Cries Abba: Daddy, "The" Father.
Galatians 5:17: the war within born-again believers in Jesus proves that someone is born again. Hebrews 12:8: God discipling His children is another proof. This is how it reads in the Amplified Bible: "Now if you are exempt from correctio...
Follow up to the Previous Episode: You Identify Yourself as a Gay Christian, Because You've Invited Jesus into Your Heart (the Sinner's Prayer) - but are You Born Again (what it Means to be a Christian)? How can You Know for Sure?
In this episode, I share several verses that prove we are born again. I also unpack 1 Thessalonians 4:1-8 and how it applies to a born-again believer who identifies as a gay Christian - and the seriousness of it before Jesus. This may be the mo...
You Identify Yourself as a Gay Christian, Because You've Invited Jesus into Your Heart (the Sinner's Prayer) - but are You Born Again (what it Means to be a Christian)? How can You Know for Sure?
Far too often, praying the Sinner's Prayer to ask Jesus into one's life is thought of as the agent in becoming a Christian: to be born again. This is a condensed version: "Dear God, I confess that I am a sinner. I believe that Jesus died ...
Compassion that Coddles, Deceives, and Imprisons...Compassion that Convicts is Grounded in Spiritual Truth and Transforms...Do You Know the Difference?
This episode has the potential to open the door of a prison that masquerades as grace and is a lie. You may be in that prison, unaware of it. And I ask: Of the two kinds of compassion, which one describes your church and you? This episod...