The Dad Bods and Dumbbells Podcast
The hosts Mitch and Bart discuss fitness, fatherhood, and guy stuff to help men live a great life, have fun, laugh, and get a little more fit in this weekly Podcast.
The Dad Bods and Dumbbells Podcast
Dad Jokes, Getting to 1000 lbs, and the College Football Championship
Join us as we share a chuckle and then dive headfirst into the gridiron excitement surrounding Ohio State Buckeyes' standout victory over Texas and the intriguing talent of Jalen Greathouse from Notre Dame. We unravel the tangled web of school loyalties and ponder the financial engine that drives college sports, all while celebrating the Big Ten's triumph over the SEC. Our experiences with passionate Texas Longhorns fans offer a humorous backdrop as we reflect on the colorful tapestry of fandom.
Switching gears, we bench press our way into the world of strength training, discussing recent personal feats like a 305-pound bench press and a 330-pound deadlift. With the Ohio State Buckeyes Strength and Power Matrix guiding our ambitions, we chat about the trials and triumphs of setting realistic lifting goals and pushing boundaries. Our lively banter includes the highs and lows of powerlifting preparation, with tales of transitioning from the safety bar to traditional barbells and the wise guidance from powerlifting coach James DeLacy.
As we embrace the milestone of turning 50, we share heartfelt reflections on health, family, and the lifelong journey of parenting. We explore the joys and trials of raising well-rounded children in a supportive yet challenging environment, underscoring the critical role of family as a nurturing foundation. Life lessons from this new chapter emphasize the significance of maintaining muscle mass, planning for longevity, and finding fulfillment in personal achievements. Join us as we cherish these insights and invite you to ponder your own journey and the values you hold dear.
The conversation weaves through personal milestones, fitness journeys, and the responsibility of raising exceptional children while celebrating the joys of fatherhood.
• Sharing a humorous dad joke to kick off the episode
• Celebrating the local sports hero, Jalen Greathouse
• Discussing college football dynamics and team pride
• Committing to the 1000-pound club and fitness challenges
• Reflecting on turning 50 and embracing aging positively
• Navigating parenting: balancing support and resilience
• Exploring the importance of family connection amid distractions
• Encouraging listeners to join their fitness journey and share feedback
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Welcome to DadBots and Dumbbells. My name is Mitch.
Speaker 2:Hey, I'm Bart.
Speaker 1:Thanks for listening, liking, subscribing. Thanks for reaching out to us with questions, comments. We love you guys.
Speaker 2:Yeah, absolutely, and we've had a nice uptick in listenership over this last month here, so excited for the new people listening out there. If you're listening for the first time or the first couple of episodes, I hope you're enjoying this. We've got another good one coming up your way right now, absolutely.
Speaker 1:We're going to talk a little bit about where our power thousand numbers are. We're going to talk about the new national title champs. We're going to talk about turning 50, which you are in a couple of weeks.
Speaker 2:And we're going to do a little bit of father talk. I think it'd be good to go, so let's get going. Well, let's kick it off with a dad joke. I got this one today. What do you call an illegally parked?
Speaker 1:frog.
Speaker 2:An illegally parked frog.
Speaker 1:Illegally parked frog. A frog leg? No, I don't know, dude, I'm terrible at this Toad. Oh, that's good yeah.
Speaker 2:All right Moving right along, hey, those's good. All right moving right along, hey, those are fun.
Speaker 1:How about those Ohio State Buckeyes? The Buckeyes.
Speaker 2:Well, you know, they whooped on Texas.
Speaker 1:Don't say it. Okay, texas, they whooped on Texas. Don't say it.
Speaker 2:And so you know, I had a hard time cheering for them. And then we were watching the Champape game, found out that one of the wide receivers for what? Notre Dame, yeah, went to Mills Elementary.
Speaker 1:Oh really Then to Westlake High School. That's cool.
Speaker 2:So it was like my son goes to Mills Elementary, so it was like a graduate of Mills Elementary.
Speaker 1:That's awesome.
Speaker 2:So that was cool.
Speaker 1:I've always wanted to do something so extraordinary and be part of something where they talk about my elementary school. Yeah, they go all the way back. Yeah, all the way back to my elementary school. It was fun.
Speaker 2:On social, some of the teachers posted that they remembered His name was Jalen Greathouse and he got a touchdown and one of their touchdowns was they're trying to come back, but anyways, that was cool. That kind of drew us in a little bit. But OSU is just dominant.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's hard to beat a team that's stacked with money and just best team money could buy Good for them.
Speaker 2:It's fair. But most of the big schools have a lot of money. They're obviously spent the most. But here's the thing they're still 18 to 21 year olds. 18 21 year olds can panic. They're not adults. They're especially men are not fully mentally formed in their like brain. They're still developing, and so to be able to coach and and put a team together, that it can be that dominant is still no matter how much money they spent, my opinion still impressive how about the how about the Big Ten, though?
Speaker 1:man, that's pretty cool. The SEC's dominance is over, so I do like that, even though I hate Ohio State.
Speaker 2:There you go.
Speaker 1:There's a silver lining for you, you know the only thing about Ohio State that you know. Everything else is great about Ohio State except the fans. The fans are the worst.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, they're the absolute worst well, you could say that about texas. You could say that about a lot of. I mean, if I, being here in austin, you know texas fans are great but if you didn't like texas and you thought they were kind of like the big bully on the hill type, you know vibe, which they can kind of have, that vibe, I'm sure for smaller schools that don't like the fact that texas is so big, texas feels like kind of what it must feel like to go to a like a Laker game, like out on the road, and there's half the fans are Laker fans and you're just like dude calm down yeah, and it's like you guys don't even yeah.
Speaker 1:Well, what's funny is there's this. Uh, there, there was this kind of video YouTube that I saw, where they go around and ask people with, at like, a Texas game, with Texas swag on and be like, uh, did you go to Texas? And they ask like hundreds of people and nobody. And I was like, are you a hardcore Texas fan? Oh yeah, did you go to Texas?
Speaker 2:No, have you lived in Austin? No, but I drew through it once.
Speaker 1:And that's how I feel a little bit. It's like uh, I I had somebody like I think it was about a podcast I heard is, if you didn't go to that school, like why are you, why do you even? Care and so, like being a ducks fan, it's like I didn't go to I. You know I did go to iu, so I can't be a hoosier fan, but I couldn't be a ducks fan based on that logic. So that's of sad.
Speaker 2:But when you live in a town for an extended period of time, you live in Eugene which is where the Ducks are.
Speaker 1:It's a college town, yeah Right.
Speaker 2:Now, if you lived in Corvallis, which is where OSU is, and you were a Ducks fan, I would have no respect for you.
Speaker 1:Well, I do have to say that, because you've got to be a beaver in that world. Yeah, oregon State sucks even worse than Ohio State, so we'll enjoy that.
Speaker 2:Well, there you go. I hate them all. I'm glad you have a point of view. I hate when people don't have a point of view. I love the worst thing in the world is somebody without a point of view. Objectively they're the worst. Go for it. Great it here. Okay.
Speaker 1:so we're about a month into this year month into it it seems like it's going way too fast I mean, by the time you listen to this, uh, it'll be one day greater. So, um, I, so we, we committed to doing this thousand pound club, which is our big thing, which is really cool. I'm excited about it. But I realized I haven't actually maxed out on any of those things ever since high school, so I decided that I was going to throw. We have about 330 pounds in plates at my house, so I decided I was just going to see if I still got it.
Speaker 2:You know, do a little warmup.
Speaker 1:So I threw on, I sent you the video and you said no rep. Which, boo, you're the worst I did. So I put on like 280 and I did rep and it was like, oh, that was easy. So I threw on 295, did an easy rep. I was like, oh, this is easy. So then I put 305 on, but I had to get my wife to come out and spot me just in case, even though and this was squat or deadlift.
Speaker 1:This was a bench press. Oh okay. So then I put up 305, but I did it so easy it looked well. I said I sent it to you and I was like, dude, I just did 305 and you were like no video, no proof, that didn't happen and so I had to re-rep it right away. I was like, ah crap. So we put the weights back on and we we videoed it. Um, so I think I could probably do 330 at this point point. So I'm going to try that next. Um, and then I was like I haven't done deadlift, dude, I haven't lived. I haven't done deadlift like maybe ever, I mean maybe. So I had no idea. I've done a little bit here and there, but never really consistently. And so I went for a run in the morning. My son came out at like 6.30 because he was getting ready for school. After I finished my run, I started throwing all the weight on the bar just to see if I could pull it, and so my son took a video of it and I pulled 3.30 with ease.
Speaker 1:I mean you said I was struggling a little bit with the first part.
Speaker 2:It was great. It was great. I didn't realize. You really don't lift at all, so the fact that you don't do that would make sense why it was just a little wobbly. Yeah, like in terms of your balance and just technique.
Speaker 1:I need to spread it out a little bit, but I also so all that to say I think I could probably get I don't know. We got to get together and do it again. And then I was like squat. I mean I've done some squat like in high school and stuff, but I haven't maxed out in squat forever. And when I do your workouts I do about two, oh five reps.
Speaker 1:So I do 12 reps of two oh five or whatever. So I threw. You know I didn't want to bother anybody to spot me, so I just went out and put three oh five on and repped it pretty easy. So I might be at the 1,000-pound club already.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know.
Speaker 1:How bad does that make you, by the way, this tubby little guy?
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's great. I mean, look, if you can get your bench over 300, then you're so good.
Speaker 1:That's the hardest part.
Speaker 2:Because right now my bench is probably I mean, I just did 250 for one three times in a row. So when you can do it three times in a row in a workout, it means you can probably do I could probably, you know max out 265 you know, dude, I watched your reps.
Speaker 2:Dude, I think you could do 280, uh, well I'm, I'm potentially, but, but the point is like I, I'd like to. I'd like to believe that in a competition I could get 270, 275 right around there, which is like two plates and 25, so that would be an absolute dream to be able to bench that much.
Speaker 1:But what?
Speaker 2:I have to do, though, because that's not that impressive, to bench 275, is. I've got to make up for that in my deadlift, so right now I'm doing sets.
Speaker 1:That's what you're strongest in, yeah.
Speaker 2:Well, in terms of just the weight I'm pulling, my sets are at 385. Dang. And so, even though I know I could just put four plates on and pull it right now if I really, really needed to, what would that be?
Speaker 1:four plates, that would be 4.05.
Speaker 2:Okay, I'm just using unfortunately, you're all going to hear this I'm using the Ohio State Buckeyes Strength and Power Matrix.
Speaker 1:I hate you so much. It's so good though.
Speaker 2:To just incrementally work myself up, uh to the. That's why I'm doing three sets of one rep with, with a max weight, uh, that's, you know, probably 92 percent, um, kind of estimated 92 percent of my true max and so it just it.
Speaker 2:It really seems to just fire all the right you know right things, build the power, build the power, build the strength. And so so I've just kind of incrementally that, like tomorrow is is my deadlift day, so I'll do, I'll do three, 90 for for sets, you know, for sets of one. You know one rep for three sets, and then drop back down to like three, 35 or five to finish. You know, so it's, it's a a cool, it's a cool program. Uh, anyone who wants it, I'll, I'll, I'll put a link that you can or just email me. Yeah, I'll send it to you it's pretty cool, uh.
Speaker 1:The question I had, though, when I google ohio state matrix, when I uh, when you send it to me, I ask and I'll ask again so is it because you basically put the weight, the poundage that you're at, or is it you at the top? It has like 300 to 305 and then it has the workout for there. Do you I going to go with how, on a bench, 350? So I'm going to have the 350 matrix, or is it just current max type thing?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean it's current or estimated max. So let's say you said you did 305 on the bench Right. So I would start there. Video proof. Video proof. It's been done. I've seen the video, so start at 305, which will probably have you repping at like 290. 290. Here I'll pull it up here just so we can kind of see it. But yeah, so then you do that and then, as soon as you can complete all the sets at the rep count, that it states. So here I'm going to zoom in three.
Speaker 1:Oh, so it's meant to make you fail.
Speaker 2:basically, no it should be challenging. Okay, so it says 200 for eight, 230 for five, 240 for three, and then jumps up 280, 280, 280, and then back to 225 for 5. So then that should be pretty easy for you to do so, then from there, that's the 300 to 305 range. Then you want to kind of bump up to the 310, 315 range.
Speaker 2:And as soon as you've kind of completed a, you know, one of the matrices for all the reps, then you move up okay and sometimes there's a you know, between the the two different columns there might be five or ten pounds there, so you can kind of if you're like that was tough, but I did it, yeah, maybe just just bump up five pounds instead of the ten pounds that it probably writes there. It's just so you're not like going from hey, I knocked out all my sets till like next week. Now I can't even do the yeah max.
Speaker 2:Yeah, uh, but yeah, I mean, if you put your 320 here, 320 to 325, it has you repping out at three, at 295 for one for three sets of one sets of one right. So, even though your your max probably would be 315, 320, at that point you're not, you're still about. You know, eight percent under your max.
Speaker 2:Okay to ten percent right that's cool so then that helps with like injury prevention too, because you're not, you know, every week just trying to go for a max, go for a mac right, which is so hard on your and your shoulder capsule and just all the rotator cuff stuff yeah, I think for me it's muscle endurance is definitely going to be an issue, so I'm a little nervous doing all that work and then being fatigued when it's actually time to max out.
Speaker 1:But, what I'm really excited about is what you said is entering a powerlifting competition and seeing what we could do. Yeah, it would be pretty cool.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean. So just a quick update on me. I mentioned this 250 bench. I squatted 315 a couple days ago.
Speaker 1:Is that pretty normal?
Speaker 2:I'd never worked. I'd never gone for that much weight. That was actually like I've never squatted 315 in my life it was kind of funny because I've always kind of I've just been in the bodybuilding world where it's like sets of five to one to five reps. They're just not like something you would do because it doesn't necessarily elicit the best muscle gain, you know hypertrophy gain.
Speaker 2:So switching over, it's like so I would get up to like 265 for five, you know, and just use a safety bar and like go deep and all that kind of stuff. But that would be kind of the limit. So now that I'm like, okay, let's see where I can go.
Speaker 2:The goal was 295 for one and I did it and I was like I could do three and I'm like, okay, well then that tells me that I'm going to go up to 315. I did one. That felt great. I went back to 295. I did two more reps, two in a row, like for a set, and then I was like, okay. So that gave me an idea of like where I kind of want to continue, dude, we could probably knock out 1,000 right now. We're not that far off, let's do it.
Speaker 2:I think it's like the more we get accustomed to, the heavier weight. And the other thing is like if we were to do a powerlifting competition, we would have to or I would have to get away from the safety bar and actually use the bar and put it on my back.
Speaker 1:What's the?
Speaker 2:difference. So safety bar, also called a yoke bar. It has like a pad here and a pad down here and then they have handles Around your neck. So the bar is usually about 65 pounds, so it's a heavier bar.
Speaker 2:Sometimes at the end it drops a little bit lower, but it just basically puts it kind of like a hex bar yeah kind of puts the weight more centered in your body, as opposed to putting all the weight right on the top of your your spine. Yeah, um, it's just it's so. It's a little more effective at like just moving the weight into like a more comfortable position um, and I, I was doing front squats but it just hurt my wrists, yeah, and my neck was getting a little aggravated. This has been the best way to do it, but you can't bring a safety bar to a powerlifting competition.
Speaker 1:I'm going to use a safety bar. Guys, don't worry, I'll be fine. I brought my own bar. It's fine yeah.
Speaker 2:So anyway, so I'll have to. If I'm going to do so, I'll have to. If I'm going to do, if we're going to do a powerlifting competition at some point, then I'll have to at least transition over or use or kind of go back and forth. What I'm concerned about is that, like I've got just, I tend to be tight up in my T-spine, like the T1, t2. And so that tends to be right where the load goes to, and then it just sometimes it kind of affects my neck if I'm like, because you know you're pushing with all this force and it's like you're just you're putting such a load right into the part of this, the vertebrae, that can get grumpy so yeah, I was getting like some tingling, some nerve stuff noise and my chiropractor's like probably better to not back squat yeah, I've had, I've had some neck issues since I've started lifting pretty heavy um, and I can't, they can't shake it.
Speaker 1:It's like right, you know probably about like that is that first t1, t2 spot? Yeah um, so, yeah, um, anyway. So I love it, man, it looks like we're getting, we're right on track.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah. So I think, I think, yeah, to be fair, if we like, really just like, took a bunch of pre-workout, got crazy went to the gym and just like get yoked, I think we could probably hit a thousand right now, just knowing where you're at right, because if you're at like 315 on bench right three, you could easily pull 350.
Speaker 2:yeah, so that's already like 665, and then all you have to do is what squat? 325, 335? That'd be cool. Yeah, you could do it. So you're right there, and I'd say I'm about 50 pounds away, just in a safe way.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Like I could probably squat 330, bench, I'll just say 260. That's what? Six or 590, yeah, and then I'd have to deadlift 410, so I could probably do that I mean so, but. But I want to do it the right way, so I so, yeah, I'm reaching out to james delacy, who is a powerlifting coach, and just to get some information. You know, maybe even haven't built me out a program that I can follow, um, you know, at the gym so that if we end up doing an actual powerlifting show, I hope we do.
Speaker 1:Yeah, man, I mean, you know, I've I wanted to compete in Austin, the strongest man as well.
Speaker 2:Oh, buddy, dude that would you out there pulling the tractors? That's your, that's your milieu. I've always wanted to do that dude, just redhead, like just nordic, nordic guy strong man.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I read, I read the, because the same powerlifting competition has the strong man as well. That we're talking about okay uh, definitely sounds pretty tough, yeah, but you're always the one that told me he's like dude you, because I used to throw those uh sandbags and run to them and I can throw like twice as far as everybody else and you're like, bro, you might be like really strong.
Speaker 2:Well, early days. Uh, cg games like that was your. I mean especially the prelims you had to like drag the dude, that was brutal.
Speaker 1:I still hurt from that bear crawl drag yeah yeah.
Speaker 2:So all that stuff kind of plays into your strengths, I think, yeah, um, okay, so that, yeah, so, anyway, more on that we'll. We'll keep you guys updated on how we're doing with that. But, uh, if you're interested in any of that kind of stuff, I highly recommend uh james delacy. You can find his website. It's uh, lift big, eat bigcom awesome dude and him and his wife are both amazing. They're beasts she's a like I I think she got second in the Commonwealth Games and like Olympic weightlifting.
Speaker 2:Yeah, she's legit, she's full like tilt crazy athlete and they've got two young kids and all that. That's wild yeah.
Speaker 1:Well, cool, so you're about to turn 50. Yeah man, how are you feeling?
Speaker 2:You know, know, it's, uh, it's, it's interesting, it's it's an interesting time.
Speaker 2:I'm about six weeks out from being 50, march 5th, uh, so it's, you know, it's, it's kind of the inevitable. I feel great in the sense of like health and all the kind of things that you're supposed to, you know, check the boxes, um, so there's that. You know, I have a wife and kid, that's all. I mean. Everything's going great with us, and and so there's a lot to be thankful for. I think the goal with all this, you know, turning 50 is just being, you know, the gratitude of like where I'm at at 50 and like how great my life is, and you know just. But I also think that I, you know, even just like the whole idea of like the strong, you know the power lifting and like going and doing like a show or something like that. You know, I think it probably ties into like.
Speaker 1:I just it's fun to be strong, yeah, when like, and you're freaking, cut too.
Speaker 2:That doesn't that doesn't hurt. Thank you, man.
Speaker 1:You probably look really good naked. I haven't seen you naked, but Well, after the show We'll compare notes.
Speaker 2:But yeah so, but yeah so. It's just all those things and just really trying to find, like you know, my wife talks about, like you know, this next chapter. Like you know there's kind of how to look at life and, like you know, there's the like 0 to 19, right, you know like kind of that chapter. And then there's the like 20 to maybe 35. And then there's like 36 to 50, which is like we're both in that.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:But I'm kind of transitioning into, like this 50 to probably 65, I feel like 15 years. I mean, I think there's a reason why generations are 15 year. Generation or something about 15 years is like a decade. You know you could say, oh, every decade it's a chapter, but I do feel like 15 years really feels like.
Speaker 2:You know, this time where, like, longevity is super important keeping muscle mass not getting injured, you know like thinking really long term about you know investments and and building something, and you know, of course, our biggest investment is jack bryant, our 10 year old right and you know, and just pouring into him, yeah because you know, in the next eight years he's gonna graduate high school and that whole, like you know, just pouring into him yeah, because you know, in the next eight years he's going to graduate high school that's wild dude and that whole, like you know, and we'll just have done what we did and hoping that the you know things we've instilled in him are, you know, are enough to have him go out there and like, achieve a great life and really be successful at whatever he wants to do.
Speaker 2:So you know, there's a lot of examples of kids that don't launch well, or launch for a little while, and then they come back and they're like well, and I don't know, you know it's interesting, just it's. You know, it's a little bit of a. It's hard to know what your kid's going to struggle with.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:You know right now he's thriving on a lot of what he does and so that's really cool, but hard to know, right, it's hard to know how life's going to, what that's going to be for him, so there's a lot of faith in that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think there's I mean there's attributes, right? You look at all the formula of kids that have failed in college, that uh that you would consider, quote unquote, like not successful, whatever it is. But I think the enduring values of what makes your kids who they are is they have a loving family that they can go to in times of need, times of struggle, um, but they're not looked as uh problems and I think think that that, at least for me, has been a key factors. I don't want my kids to ever feel like I'm gonna be mad. It's gonna be a learning process. Yeah, it might be hard, it might be. These things that we're learning are always gonna make it hard, just like when you work out really hard. You're gonna be sore, um, but coming to him in a position of let's, let's eat dinner together every night, you know, let's get to go to all their school activities, which is fun, and then be supportive but also push them. We're finding that with our daughters we're having to push her to do hard things and because it's easy, especially when you have somebody that's resistant to hard things, you know you have to really kind of be the parent and I think that's what is the struggle. You know you want to be friendly, you want your kids to love you, you want to have fun with them, but also you're their parent. And that transition from being fun to having those hard discussions and pushing them.
Speaker 1:We were going through that chapter in our life where we want our kids to be excellent, not just to achieve, but excellent humans, excellent citizens of the world, excellent parents themselves and whatever. And part of me what I've focused on is we are, we're called to do one thing, and that's be the parent of these kids. And so if I, if I, decide to take the easy route it's kind of a similar road right, she's struggling with dealing with how it's easier to just not do anything. Right, and it's easier for us to not do anything, just status quo, it's fine, do whatever you want, we're cool. But the hard thing is the stuff that she doesn't want and she doesn't like, and she's going to project her frustration and anger of what we're making her do onto us. And that's really hard, you know, but it's so essential, I think, in these, especially these. Next, because my kid is right in the middle of your kids. My kids are a little younger and a little older than Jack.
Speaker 1:But what I've found to be true is if we can be consistent with the things we're doing. It doesn't have to be a one sweeping moment, it doesn't have to be these big, grandiose things, it can just be. Let's make this a priority, and for us it's always been. I want to eat dinner with the kids. I want to be with them at their certain things.
Speaker 1:I think if your hard and fast rules are like I never miss a school event, I'll never do that. It's like that that sets everybody up for failure, like it's impossible. You know I I was traveling one time for work. I missed my son's birthday. You know, like he's three years old, I missed his birthday. Is that a huge deal? I doubt he'll be scarred forever for it. But if I said I never miss birthdays, then I've already failed him. You know I've already lied and I think that's. The other thing is being pretty honest with your kids too is that you don't have to be super duper like all the facts. But you know, as far as the kids go, I think honesty is going to be the best policy with with they need we got to treat them like they're smarter than they are a lot of times Right, and I think too, modeling I mean, and that's the thing it's like.
Speaker 2:My son knows I work hard, but I'm working hard when he doesn't see it right. So when I am home I'm relaxing a lot. I've worked, I've trained such and such a minute amount of people. Then I went to the gym and did an hour and a half. Then I took care of this and that and that, but but by the time he's home now I'm home just resting right, chilling, and so there's interaction with him.
Speaker 1:But I'm tired.
Speaker 2:Right and I and it's easy to like get on the phone. One thing we did I bought him and I a I a sudoku like workbooks. So we're not like because I could play sudoku on my phone but I could just like. The phone is like because it it because we're limiting his screen time, yeah, but I have a lot of screen time myself and it becomes kind of a barrier and so something that you know I haven't solved it because I'm still doing it yeah, but it's something that it's like.
Speaker 2:You know, I need to consider that, even though he knows on some level that I worked all day and then I also worked out and now I'm home chillin and it's still, it's still like he I'm gonna do something he can't do. There's rules that I don't have to follow, that he has to follow. You know, it's like there's just opportunities for conflict there.
Speaker 2:That that I you know. Yeah, that I'd like to. I need to take a look at just so and limit, and so the sudoku was like that exact thing, like I'm gonna get both of us books, so that when he wants to like play sudoku on my phone now I can say hey, let's get a books out and let's let's do, and I said I'll pay you five dollars if you finish every sudoku and it totally motivated him. I don't know if that's great parenting.
Speaker 2:No, you got to give him something to grasp on, but he's like all about it.
Speaker 1:He's like, yeah, dude one of those things that's hard too is yeah, I think of course there's got to be exceptions to following the rules. You know, I try to explain to kids like why they can't be on their devices all the time, but my son this kind of hit me hard a year or two ago. He did an impression of me and the impression was me on my phone. What?
Speaker 2:does, dad do?
Speaker 1:He just sits there scrolling through his phone and that was like ouch, that's not how you want to be remembered. No, not at all. I love my dad. He was great at scrolling on's not how you want to be remembered.
Speaker 2:No, not at all. Not at all. But I love my dad. He was great at scrolling on his phone.
Speaker 1:He was always on Instagram.
Speaker 2:And I think he had a lot of followers, which I guess was important for him. Yeah, it's not ideal, I would have liked it if he followed me a little bit more.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, it could hurt, but I think it's more like you know, I don't want to be that guy either. You know, and the problem is especially with what you do too it's like you've got to be available at times, like you can't just leave your phone and that's money, you know, if you leave your phone for three hours like it could cost you money. So I think there's got to be a balance that and I'm going to work on that too, yeah, that's good.
Speaker 2:Cool, let's wrap it up. Man, it's been a great episode. We're about 30 minutes in, so let's, uh, let's, do our listeners a favor and well thanks.
Speaker 1:Thanks for uh. Thanks for talking about these things. Turning 50 is a big deal.
Speaker 2:It's a big chapter. I can't wait to celebrate you and I can't wait for that episode.
Speaker 1:The 50 year old episode would be awesome yeah, all right, thanks for listening, guys.
Speaker 2:Love you later.