Peach Podcast
Two guys and an occasional guest breaking open topics on: Purpose, Energy, Attitude, Commitment and Health through shared experiences.
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S2EP02: Reflect, Realign, Thrive! Here we come 2025!
This episode emphasizes the importance of gratitude, goal-setting, and the role of discipline in personal growth. Daryl reflects on his transformative climbing experience while Doug offers practical insights into achieving 2025 goals, linking personal health to professional success.
• The impact of mountain climbing on mental health
• Importance of gratitude in everyday life
• Reflective questions for effective goal-setting
• Connection between personal well-being and professional success
• Overcoming challenges like nighttime snacking through discipline
• Recognizing discipline as a foundational habit for goal achievement
• Continuous growth through self-reflection and gratitude practices
Hey, hey, hey, welcome to the Peach Podcast. Just a couple of dudes and an occasional guest breaking open topics from everyday life on purpose, energy, attitude, commitment and health. So, if you're ready, listen in as we live, to learn from our losses, gain from our gratitude and laugh as we level up.
Speaker 2:Always remember if you ever feel stuck. All you got to doaryl, daryl. Welcome brother, I am excited to ask you some questions. And I want to ask you this question, darrell when I interviewed you after you did your Misogi, the 10,000 foot climb on your bike that was like maybe a day or two, maybe three at the most after your experience and so, but, darrell, it's been gosh. It's maybe 10 days or so somewhere in there since you've done that. And I'm always curious. You know we go do these, what do you call them, these mountaintop experiences, and yours was literally a mountaintop experience, and sometimes the effect wears off or it's like okay, that was cool, you're not thinking about it, you're not reflecting on it anymore. But where are you with that, daryl? How's that going for you?
Speaker 3:Yeah, thank you, doug, and it was wonderful to get the feedback from a great job on the interview by yourself. But we got a lot of good feedback. Even our book club our book club, you know, text back and you know really thanked us for that and everything else. It's been really great. You know, starting back to work this week, kind of coming back, kind of refreshing. You kind of have the glow of the holidays and then you're like back to real life right On Monday morning. Man, it's Wednesday and I'm still very, very happy and in a good mood.
Speaker 3:A couple of things have been interesting. Josephine was on her run, my wife and she listened to the podcast and her feedback was wow. You and Doug seemed really happy. You could hear the excitement in your voice and I think I've carried some of that through. The other thing, doug, to your point, there's always these mountaintop things and you come down.
Speaker 3:I've been pretty happy with just general follow through.
Speaker 3:There was a handful of items I mentioned in the interview last week the gratitude and the people along the way and I'm really happy that I've followed up with a lot of those items right, followed up with some, you know, some notes.
Speaker 3:I went and printed some of the pictures that we took at the top and I wrote some thank you cards and sent them to some people. I emailed back to Maui Sunriders and they got back to me. You know I reached out to the country club where Dr John is a member at and it was great. I talked to them and they're like absolutely send the card to us, we'll get it to him. Dr John is an awesome guy. He'll love to get the feedback too. So I'm pretty happy that I followed through on some of those items and I just want to stay consistent, continue to have that gratitude. I know that the feeling being at the top of the mountain is probably not going to be the feeling that I probably will have July 3rd at eight o'clock in the morning, but I want to take some of those key learnings and carry them through.
Speaker 2:Right, hey, good job, daryl on uh, you know, I know we've done things and I know you have mentioned in the past and in years past that men would be really cool to send a note or follow up with some kind of a gratitude gesture. Life shows up and we get busy and the intention was there but sometimes the follow through happens, sometimes it doesn't. But well done, brother, on man sending your boys back in Hawaii and other things you've got sent out to just really capture those moments of gratitude in that experience and give back. So well done, keep that train rolling. That's awesome.
Speaker 3:Cool and uh, as we shift, you know, um, we're first week in January. Uh, we're season two, episode two. I'm so excited about that. I love the sound of that. Uh as I've kind of gone back to work and kind of getting back in the day to day. I tell you I see a big carryover. Um, you know, I don't think that a lot of people were like, hey, new year's resolutions or what I want to get done.
Speaker 3:We're a December 31st at seven o'clock in the evening like in the back of our mind, seeing a lot of social media stuff. You know, I'm at the gym, I see a lot more people, which is normal, getting a lot of texts from friends. Uh, a really positive vibe, health vibe. I'll tell one story. We're training for the Shamrock which is coming up. Doug has really helped a lot of us get on some training regiments if they're the couch to 10K or we're following some Garmin coaching and all those items. So Josephine and I have our runs on the same day. So I was out for a run and I'm running and I'm on my way back my run and who do I see on the bike path? It was Josephine coming and I was supposed to run and then she was going to run after but I was a little late, so she's running. So we high-fived as we went back and I went and I took Ava to gymnastics she was running later and she ran into David who's also doing the shamrock.
Speaker 3:And it's like it's like we had it's like three people out running the same day, right, so there's a lot of positive vibes. So, doug, I don't think it's necessarily a one-time thing. Um, you know it's you always kind of reflect on what you've done in the past and you kind of set goals for the future. Michael Easter, uh, who wrote the comfort crisis, he's got this 2% club and he's running a challenge for January and I saw something where he's like it's not too late. I know it's the first week, so, doug, it's not too late.
Speaker 3:Come on, I know that you were working on some of your 2025 goals and kind of looking through things, your 2025 goals and kind of looking through things. But also in our conversations that we've had, you've also done a bit of research on things and got some great, great ideas and everything else. So we're going to talk a little bit about the process in some of the methodology of setting goals and some of the things reflecting, but also we're going to get into some of the very specific things. So, first question for you hey, just one of the things I struggle with is hey, are you focusing on personal, professional, different types of goals, both? Just how did you think about it when you kind of looked at setting goals for this year and reflecting on last.
Speaker 2:You know that's a great question, darrell. I think one of my challenges for me personally is I can tend to be an overthinker and man I will go down the rabbit hole for a long time and neglect the professional because I'm going into the personal, or vice versa, depending on. But I stumbled onto this new process that helped me kind of clarify a little bit of that. It gave me a little more clarity. That helped me kind of clarify a little bit of that. It gave me a little more clarity. It helped me get through the weeds a little faster. It is a process.
Speaker 2:So I had to do some work to kind of dig around and turn the soil and pull some weeds and look at some things and reflect a little bit, and it was kind of interesting going through that process. To answer your question, I am more focused on personal, but there is a. You know there is definitely a lane for the professional as well, but there's some. You know, right now I'm going through some hard stuff For me. It's some personal things that I need to look at, to make some adjustments and, you know, change my trajectory on a few things so that I can, you know, just work trajectory on a few things, so that I can, you know, just work some things out.
Speaker 3:Well, that's great. I definitely think we all struggle, we always, is it personal or professional? And you know, many times I've focused on the professional, I've ignored my personal, and vice versa. So at the end of the day also, doug, don't you think everything blends together? It does.
Speaker 2:They both affect each other. You know when I know for we both know, daryl that man, if your person, if your health is good and your nutrition is good and you're exercising, and you know, somehow some way your relationships are better, somehow, some way your performance at work is better, it just happens, and I think it works the other way as well. But for me personally, I think it's you know, the personal is foundation. I think that's going to affect you way more than if you focus completely on the professional part. I just think the personal part is more foundational than the professional. They're both important, they both serve a purpose, but that's just my opinion.
Speaker 3:So I'd love to hear a little bit about the process we've talked about. Part of looking forward is kind of measuring where you're at right. So, as you finish up, what are the key things in last year versus there? So I want to listen to you about the process you use, because there's some really good nuggets and then I'm going to go into some specific questions. So tell me about the process.
Speaker 2:Sure, sure. So first of all, I wanna give credit where credit is due. It's not my like. I said, I stumbled upon this process. As you know, both you and I are avid podcast listeners. We listen to multiple different people. We'll share podcasts with each other and we take podcast suggestions. So if anybody's listening please there's a text message link and you think there's a cool podcast that fits in this lane of Peach Podcast man, send it to Daryl and I. We'd love to listen to it. We're always open to suggestions.
Speaker 2:But I was listening to Mel Robbins and probably most people who are listening to this podcast probably heard of Mel Robbins. She's becoming kind of a household name out there. She does a lot of great work. She used to be an attorney or something like that, I think, in the past, but has moved into public speaking and she's got an amazing podcast show and she gets real, raw and real on her shows and brings on a lot of experts. But she was talking about I stumbled onto her, I was looking.
Speaker 2:I think I was bored or something one day and needed something to listen to and typically when I go out and run or hike, I'm not listening to stuff. I usually, you know, leave stuff out. But this one particular day I needed. I just felt like I needed a little something to listen to. My mind was going a million miles an hour.
Speaker 2:So I found Mel Robbins podcast and she talked about the seven things you can, seven questions you can ask yourself to kind of get your 2025 ready or your next year ready, and so I'll just give you what they are. You know just the key points. Before you do the seven questions, you go back and look through your photos, like, go through your iPhone, and you can. I guess in your iPhone you can pull up photos by year and I guess in your iPhone you can pull up photos by year. And once you have that section, that segment, that category pulled up, you go through your photos with some intention.
Speaker 2:You go through and the first thing you're going to look for you're going to go through all your 2024 photos starting from January and you're going to look for photos that catch your eye, that bring back great memories, memories of joy and laughter, and what you're specifically looking for. The key word here is looking for highlights. So, as you go through January and you see a photo, you're like oh my gosh, I remember, I totally forgot, I went to that play or I went to that wedding, or, oh yes, me and my daughter went to this dinner and man, we had such a great time and we laughed. So you don't just look at it, you look at it and you log it down. You write down oh, you know, January, whatever had dinner with daughter laughed and we lasted forever and it was great. Highlight or saw this play, or saw this movie, or did a marathon or whatever. It is right. So you're going to highlight month by month, by using your photos and just kind of capturing, what made you feel good, what brought you joy, what brought you laughter. That's an important question, because that's going to come in later on.
Speaker 2:And then, since you have gone through those photos already, the second part of looking at those photos is you're going to find out what was challenging. Okay, Hmm, what were the hard times, right? So the first question you're going to ask yourself is what are your highlights? The second question you're going to have, which will be a little easier because you will have just gone through the photos, is what were the hard things in that last year? What were the things you were challenged with that you struggled with or man brought you to your knees. You know, look at at those things. And then the third question what did you learn about yourself? And I thought that man, when I heard that, I was like, wow, what did when I put those two, those three steps together, I'm like that in itself is a great process. You should do that just throughout the year, right? What are you learning about yourself? So then, now, once you have this, once you've seen your highlights, once you've your highlights, once you've discovered what's hard for you, and then you take that information, you found out what you learned about yourself. You've got kind of this map, this blueprint of your psychology, what makes you tick, what you see as highlights and what you see as hard things, lessons you've learned.
Speaker 2:So the next thing you're going to ask is what are you going to stop doing? That should be. You know that might come easy, it might come slow, whatever. And when you ask these next questions, it's important that if you can't think of anything immediately and most of us will, most of us know without looking at even pictures what we need to stop doing and Be open to letting that be a process, Let it unfold. I found when I did this process, there were some things I knew immediately I needed to stop doing. But it's funny because there's things as time has went on since I've done this, then I'm like, oh gosh, I should probably stop doing that too. So be open, you might find things to stop doing in June. Man, that's okay, Add it to the list. Add it to the list.
Speaker 2:The next question is what? What should I start doing? And same same uh concept from the last question give you, be patient. If you're stuck, you're frozen, paralyzed and like, or afraid to say, gosh, I just start doing this. Write it down anyways, just write it down. And as time goes on, there's going to be other things that are going to come to mind. You'll remember, like you know, I really need to start doing this.
Speaker 2:And when you do the start doing part man, if I can encourage you to just really look at what you just said, I should start doing X. And then, if there's a way to reverse, engineer it so that you can bring it down to a micro habit and turn that little start doing into its own process, Like, okay, I want to start losing weight, right, Okay, well, how do you break that down? And maybe you start with. You know what I'm going to start with just drinking the amount of water I'm supposed to be drinking every day. Make it simple, Do that for a week or two and then you can add on. Okay, well, I'm going to be a little more aware about what I'm eating. It doesn't mean I need to change what I'm eating, I'm just going to be aware of it. Start logging that down, man, because once we can learn how to measure things, we can start bringing meaning out of them. So, again, we've talked about.
Speaker 2:The next question was stop doing, start doing. And then what are you going to continue doing? And after you have reflected for the year, you'll know you'll have a bunch of stuff, like man, these are the things that I did that were fun, these were the things that brought me health, these were the things that brought me laughter and joy and connection and love and vibrancy, all that stuff. So what are the things you're going to continue doing? And then the last question is, now that you have this blueprint, this map, to really get, after you know, some things in a really mindful and purposeful and intentional way. What's one thing you can do today to take action? You know, and again, be kind to yourself. Start small, Even if you're somebody who can go out and crush something really big. Get in the habit of starting small and, man, you'll be amazed at how many more things you'll actually start, instead of overthink like Coach D Fresh can do sometimes.
Speaker 3:I like it. I like it. So I wrote down photos, which is awesome and it is really cool. Going back, I try to use the heart one after a vacation, because you get, like I don't know 200 photos right. I like to use the heart thing to just pick out the top ones, oh, your favorites yeah.
Speaker 3:Yeah, because I'm you know. So those, so overall photos I got highlights, heart things. What did you learn about yourself which helps you with your kind of map and blueprint? Stop, start, continue, right, yes, there. And then what can you take action today? A couple of things I took from this One. I like the seven questions right, I saw this thing and it was the 25 questions to talk to your spouse about to improve your relationship. I'm like 25? Josephine would whack me.
Speaker 1:After the third one right, I ain't answering no 25 questions.
Speaker 3:So it's manageable. You know what I mean. It's manageable. And then the thing I really took from there do you know how many times Doug in business we do? It's called stop, start, continue. You do it all the time, but how many times you do that in your personal life, like almost never. And your stop doing is my version of edit. Remember we talked about that. Hey, how do I edit those? So that was really really cool. Um, I love the process, simple, but it's really good and and and, uh, and those, like you said, you don't have to, you don't have to wait, right, you don't have to just do this once a year and everything else. So I think that's great.
Speaker 3:So I got a couple of questions for you. I'm going to ask two of them and you can kind of feed them in. Overall, the one thing I thought about is hey, I might have this goal for next year, but the question is, how do your goals for next year kind of align to the long-term vision of yourself? How do you think that works between how much you know? How does that? How do you think that works between? I want to set something, maybe I want to do something very tactically for the next six months. But how does, how do you relate those to where you want to be long-term?
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's a great question, Daryl. I think that's something I've developed over the years that you know. Over eight years ago, when I started my really super intentional health journey just being frustrated, yo-yo dieting and all that stuff I guess about three years into it I realized I had found myself getting into these. Hey, join this 90-day challenge. Hey, do this 100-day challenge. Hey, do this challenge, challenge, challenge. And you know what? I would complete the challenges. Then I forgot about them, and whether it was pushups or whether it was drinking enough water or whether it was walking so many steps, they all dissipated afterwards.
Speaker 2:And I remember thinking back then at some point, maybe three years in going damn, I've done so many challenges and I've completed them. And all for what? What was the point of it? Just to do a challenge? And I had a small shift years ago in my psyche, thinking you know, if I'm going to do something from now on, I need to be super intentional and I need to make sure how does this? So here's the question how does this challenge serve me when I'm 80, 90, or a hundred years old? So, man, if you can answer that one question, you're going to. You're going to avoid just doing challenges for the sake of challenges, which is a big time waster, really.
Speaker 2:I mean sure you might be able to do a hundred pushups in one set, but you know, if you're not doing that in a year from now, who cares? You know we, we, we forget. You know there, there was a time I was able to do 100 pushups in one set and I shared it. Social media did all this, but you know what, you know who's asking me about that? Now? Nobody, nobody, right, like nobody cares. What I did three years ago, when I was able to do 100 pushups at once, it was fun, there was a lot of fanfare in the moment, but it didn't serve me.
Speaker 2:I can't do a hundred pushups now. I mean, I can do plenty, you know, for my age and all that stuff, but man, it would have been nice if I would have just found a way to, instead of making it a hundred pushups. How do I do pushups in a way that will serve me, so that I'm doing them when I'm 60, 70, 80, 90 years old? And so for me, that's the biggest question I ask is how can this challenge, or how does this goal, set the stage so that I can build something out? It has to have this continued process to it, because the one thing I've learned for certain is that man life, health, longevity none of that stuff ends. There is no finish line with any of this stuff until you're in the grave. Once you're dead, then you can stop. Yep. So I don't know if I answered you clearly or no.
Speaker 3:I think it's a, I think it's really good and I think it's a good call out for us is um, I, you've and you've, you've been this, you know, I, I look at consistency, but I do think there's something that you said is, you might really want to do something and might be an action there, but I think just that little. How does that fit into your long, long-term goals? I think is good. And um, there's not that many big long-term goals, right, if you think about it, you got your health, you got your relationships, you've got things. There's tactics along the way and, no, that's really good. Hey, I'm going to add these two, right? So, number one are there any new skills you want to learn next year? If so, how would you acquire them? And then the second question are there any habits you're trying to build or break? Sometimes, like you said, are we going to stop? Are we going to continue? But just curious, are there any new skills you need to acquire next year and, if so, how do you do them?
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, this is. You know it's sleep, daryl. Sleep, getting ready for bed is a skill. I'm learning that. Getting ready for bed so that I could have quality sleep is a skill that I'm lacking. I know about it, I educate people about it, I know the science behind it, I know that what happens when you don't get enough sleep, and I know little hacks that you can apply throughout the day if you don't get enough sleep, how to kind of help your brain restore so you can get through the day with enough energy and focus and clarity.
Speaker 2:I'm realizing that and I've tried for years to have the skill of turning all electronic devices off at a certain hour and then picking up a book or meditating or stretching, finding something to do that's relaxing, listening to some soft music, something that's relaxing. But listening to music that does require some technology. So don't get too extreme where you're going crazy in your head and start slow. Man, maybe you listen to music or maybe you whatever it is you pipe in something but then eventually that turns into reading a book. So the new skill I am trying to build this year is to be massively consistent with turning off technology.
Speaker 2:Daryl, I used to say things like nine o'clock. From now on, at nine o'clock I'm turning off all technology. But the reality is what I've learned over the years is that, man, for most of the I'd say 75 to 85% of my life, nine o'clock is going to be just fine. But there's going to be that, you know, 15 to 20, 20 to 25%. Where you know I'm I'm out hiking, backpacking with the fellas. You know nine o'clock, ain't you know it's going to be. We're going to be up talking at the campfire and all this other stuff, and you know it might be 10 o'clock. So no-transcript find an hour before bedtime to turn off all technology.
Speaker 2:And how I'm going to do that like I was talking about reverse engineering and making it a micro habit is I'm going to start with 15 minutes. So in the month of January I'm only going to turn off all technology for the first 15 minutes, and then in the month of February I'm going to increase that to 30 minutes and then so forth. So, as you can see, every 15 minutes, as every month goes by until I'm up to an hour, and I'll tell you, daryl, when I do things cause I've done other things in my health that way where I've taken, even though I could do the big chunk right now. It's not sustainable. But if you, if you drip it in really slowly over a long period of time, you your priority shift in your psychology and all of a sudden what you think is not, what might not be sustainable If you go balls out in the beginning, becomes very sustainable in the longterm. So that's that's the new skill I want to build and I'm sorry, what was the second part of your question?
Speaker 3:No, no, you, you, you address both of them. Uh, you talked about skills and habits. I'll tell you what Doug. Uh, this sleep thing is real. Oh yeah, man, the amount of things out there. In fact, we're going to have a podcast on sleep, probably in about a month. We're doing some research on it. Um, they said that sleep, literally, is something that could impact up to 15%. Up to 15% of your longevity your lifespan in sleep, I believe it.
Speaker 3:And there's this you know the way they talk about it, it's called QQRT, which is different areas of sleep quantity, quality, regular, right, are you regular in the timing of your sleep? So there's a lot more science behind this, doug, and I know that's awesome and I know that definitely you and I are starting to kind of poke into this, but there's some real, real interesting facts here. So we'll definitely do so. I think that's great, right, like, like, what challenges do you think are out there with what you're setting as far as your goals and how do you plan to overcome them? Because, doug, trust me, you and I aren't setting, like, some simple things. Like, you know what, you know I'm going to get out of bed in the morning. Right, we set challenging goals, so there will be some challenges. So, as you kind of look at it, what are going to be some of the struggles you're going to have and how do you think you'll address those?
Speaker 2:Yeah, so one of the challenges that I'm working on and I'm just kind of kind of maybe continue to do here is snacking at nighttime. Daryl, I think that a lot of people have that challenge of just they want to eat at nighttime, and so one of the things that helps me not snack at nighttime is if I'm not watching TV, if I just commit to a fasting plan which I'm doing right now to a fasting plan which I'm doing right now at six o'clock, I just no longer eat. Now, I was sharing this with Josephine the other day because we were talking about nutrition and just the discipline of it all. And, man, sometimes you get this food chatter, man. It's like come on, man, have a brownie or have a snack. Or even sometimes, daryl, I just want a fricking apple, right, and I've already had all my calories, I've had all my macros, everything's good. But it's just that old habit of man hey, this is a great show, you know you're not having popcorn, but have an apple or an orange or something and it's like, no, I just I don't need to eat.
Speaker 2:What I have found to be very effective in this process is to journal. So in that moment I will journal. Man, I really want a snack right now, but I am grateful. So I'll change the language and saying although my body thinks it wants to eat, my brain knows that my body's consuming fat right now and how awesome is that. And so I'm training my mind and my body to just understand when I feel those triggers and those cues of wanting to snack. It's taking some time but, man, I'm starting to feel the benefits and I'm seeing how it's getting stronger and stronger. When I get the snacking cue in my body now, I'm almost instantly go to whoa, man, I'm burning fat right now. This feels great. It's doing, you know, this nutrition system. I'm following this lifestyle. I'm following. It's actually working. I can feel it working.
Speaker 2:Where before having that the challenging process of? Just because, I tell you, man, anybody's listening to that? I think most people, man, they just have that blaring snacking noise in their head, man, especially at nighttime, and it's due to boredom or stress or just plain habit. Darrell, I think it was my. You know, I grew up watching TV, eating Twinkies and Ho-Hos. Man, that's well. I was a latchkey kid, you know my, both my parents were working, doing their thing and, man, that's not. My babysitter was TV and a hostess, well, doug.
Speaker 3:I think the thing that really came out in that book we read on comfort crisis is um, we almost never get into hunger because, we're so used to snacking, so used to snacking, and when you think, oh, I'm hungry, right, the reality is that's actually a good thing for your body, your body basically, because if your body never gets hungry, it can never actually kind of start to flush out the bad toxins, and so few times do we ever get hungry, right, and so I think it's a big thing. I know there's a lot of different things there. I'm glad you mentioned that.
Speaker 2:I'm glad you mentioned that word hunger, Daryl, because I have a journal specifically for nighttime, specifically for when I'm feeling what I think are hunger pains, but a lot of times they're not. And at the top of that journal it came to me the other day what I'm doing going through these challenges of hunger, and I titled it the Art of Hunger, going through these challenges of hunger, and I titled it the art of hunger. And I think we, as the people of society, we have lost how to use the art of hunger Like it. There's some purpose in that. There's purpose in hunger, there's strength in hunger, there's a cleansing in hunger your cells get cleansed, I mean there's so much that goes on that we have lost the art of hunger.
Speaker 2:And too many people hear the word hunger and they're like they avoid it. It's like when you hear a cold plunge, like I ain't getting in that thing right. But there's so many benefits to stepping into that moment of discomfort. So the art of hunger is my journaling man and I encourage other people to grab a journal. Whether you're going to fast or whatever, just write down how you feel when you're feeling hungry. What's going on in your head, what's really going on. You'll be amazed at the things you discover and then you can change that language so that it starts serving you.
Speaker 2:Instead of saying, oh I'm so hungry, oh I'm so tired, oh I'm really grumpy. No, you can say no, my body's eating fat. It's going to start learning to use fat for energy. My folk, my mental clarity is going to get better and I'm going to get stronger. It's going to spill over into discipline, because now I'm telling myself when to eat not the junk food, right? So there's a lot of, there's a great, a lot of benefits to the art of hunger, as I like to call it.
Speaker 3:So I got two more questions. I'm going to answer this one after you, but I think this is going to. Hey, if you look at 2025, how do your goals this year differ from last?
Speaker 2:Oh, that's another good question, darrell. You did your homework, man, you got some good questions coming in. Brother, can you repeat it just one more time, because I got all excited about the questions that I forgot what the damn question was.
Speaker 3:One more time because I got all excited about the questions that I forgot what the damn question was how do your 2025 goals differ from last year's resolutions?
Speaker 2:How do they differ? Well, for me personally and again, I've been very intentional about what I'm going to, what challenge or what goal I'm going to place for the last few years. So for me, they only differ because they're moving forward. It's something a little harder or a little longer. Every goal that I'm setting for 2025 is an intentional goal to set me up for something in 2026. Like it's gonna build on that. And the same thing for my last year's goals for 2024, they were all something that got me ready for 2025, whether it's in discipline, like I really need. I feel I need a lot of work in the discipline area. So there are some things I did in 2024 to help me build that.
Speaker 2:I break it down to a micro habit, but when you work with micro habits, you've got to be patient and be willing to go. The take three years to get solidified in a certain habit, to take three years to become a super disciplined person. You know, take the frustrating setbacks and the fall downs and the scraped knees and whatever it's going to take so that you can move forward. So for me, my goals are different just because they're designed that way. You know they're growing. They're always growing for me, but microly. So it's not some big substantial change in one year or the other. It's just little things that have evolved over the years, through the months and the weeks.
Speaker 3:Um, if I look at it, um and maybe this is a little bit of my Masogi hangover, right Um is, uh, what my goals this year are hard challenging. My goals this year are hard challenging. I just want to do them all with gratitude. You know, we're running the shamrock right and two months, two months and a week. You know what. I'm not going to go out and run and do my training and just be like I hate this, I'm mad. You know it's like no I'm. You know I like yeah, do I really enjoy it? Not really, but it's like no I'm. You know I like, yeah, do I really enjoy it? Not really, but but it's doing something. So I think I think I have some challenging goals. I just want to try to remind myself do it with gratitude, right? I'm thankful that I can run.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 3:I'm thankful that I have the opportunity to participate in a challenge of you know, half marathon. Just in that self-talk, doug, I know a lot of it's self-talk and everything else, it does work, yes, yes, and so that's my thing. I think we're always going to have a challenge. I want to make sure, whatever I do, only do one goal what's your, what's your dream goal? If you could achieve, achieve one thing this year, your dream goal, what would it be?
Speaker 2:Because I'm such a mindset person and I think this one goal, if I could achieve this at a super freaking elevated level, then I think it will spill over into anything in your life, and that is the art of just massive discipline. Discipline is man, it's a superpower. And I'm just going to paint a picture. Imagine you wanted to get healthy and you had massive discipline. It's going to happen, daryl. Imagine you wanted to get healthy and you had massive discipline. It's going to happen, daryl. Imagine you wanted to build wealth and you had massive discipline. It's going to happen, daryl. Imagine you wanted to have an outstanding and amazing marriage or relationship or connection with your kids and you had massive discipline.
Speaker 2:With discipline, man, you can find a strategy. You can talk to people who have gone before you and built what you have been, get their plan and then you put the plan down and now you need the discipline to follow through, to execute on a daily, consistent basis. And I'll tell you that in my overall health, I think I do that pretty well. There's areas where I can improve. Like I said, I'm fasting because the snacking thing was keeping me stuck in this damn loop, but, man, I've been doing this whole fasting thing and working on the discipline for the snacking area in my life and, dude, I'm seeing results like crazy right now. But yeah, in marriage, in connection with kids, in finances, I need to definitely cultivate that discipline in those areas a little bit more so.
Speaker 2:And the bottom line is is if I can just change my identity through this process I'm doing, to become to realize that I'm a disciplined person, daryl, instead of saying I'm not disciplined in finances or I'm not disciplined in relationships no fuck that I'm a disciplined person, daryl. Instead of saying I'm not disciplined in finances or I'm not disciplined in relationships no, fuck that I'm a disciplined person. If it's something that matters to me, I just want to be a disciplined person. That's the character I want to achieve. And I'm going to be honest with you, daryl, right now I'm not there. I'm coming from this chaotic place in my mind and in my heart where it's a little all over the place and it is all these different categories. So I'm shifting and trying to create evidence for my brain to say oh yeah, look, you are disciplined in your finances, you are disciplined. You're looking at your budget, you're looking at your accounts, you're monitoring your spending, just like you do in your nutrition, just like you do in your exercise, but also with my kids.
Speaker 2:That's one of the things I learned in my going through this whole process is one of the things I want to start doing is, you know, what I don't do is schedule time with my kids. It just happens willy-nilly Like I'll be on a phone call and next thing you know it's like, hey, oh, hey, by the way, what are you doing this weekend? And oh, you know what I'm going to be in that area. Instead of being intentional and saying, hey, you know what, once a month or once a quarter, I'm going to come down for a couple of days and hang out and just get intentional about that. So, yeah, discipline is my. If I had one goal, it would be to become massively superhero disciplined.
Speaker 3:That's awesome. I saw this thing where it said motivation is emotion and discipline is about character. And if you think about it like, motivation is fleeting, we're not always motivated, but we absolutely can be disciplined, right, right. So it's a very, very different. That's a great one. Great one. And the last question before we wrap up so, overall, wait, weren't you going to say what you?
Speaker 2:if you had one one, that's my grat uh no gratitude gratitude gratitude gratitude, gratitude. Yes, let me slide that a little bit.
Speaker 3:Um, hey, so one number one. What do we say at the beginning of our show? Get started, Just start. Yep, Just start. So what's the first?
Speaker 2:small step you've taken toward your goals this year. Gosh, this year, the biggest one that stands out to me right now, because it pulled me in all kinds of different directions and it affected a lot of areas of my life was I gave up Facebook and Instagram for 2025. And I did that immediately. Soon as the clock ticked, bam, I was off social media and it's been. There's gosh, Daryl, I tell you, man, in the beginning I'm like, oh, I wonder what everybody's doing, and it was crazy.
Speaker 2:And then people would send me stuff like funny memes or funny videos and I'd have to reply hey, I'm not on Facebook or Instagram this year, but you can still message me on Messenger because I communicate with clients through Facebook Messenger, but I don't click the links to go to Facebook. I didn't get rid of the apps because you and I have the podcast. Yeah, I have somebody, Megan Murphy, who is putting together any promos and stuff for our podcast, so you will see posts from me on social media, but they are not me doing them, just so you know. I went ahead and looked ahead and see how could I make this happen and still keep the podcast name out there and keep it flowing as best I could.
Speaker 3:That's a big one. It's a big one. It's a big one. I've, I've. It's funny, um, some people that have amazing social media processes and, um, uh, follow-ups and everything else, uh, now, oftentimes they don't do what you did. You kind of went too extreme, but you know a lot of them I've heard. You know really only commit to like less than 30 minutes a day, right, or something small, and then they just focus on, they use social media as like an, an action like you're doing. It's an action to get something out. It's not a just scrolling, you know, kind of taking it in. Uh, so that's good.
Speaker 3:Some, some cool stuff, doug, some cool stuff and um uh, yeah and um, I'm going to, as we close this out, um, we're going to institute a new segment. We might do it at the beginning, might do it at the end, but we're going to try it out. And each week, doug and I are going to research a quote and we're going to call it the quote card. We took this off a guy named Inky Johnson, and so I'm doing it this week and then Doug will do it next week. So the quote that jumped out at me is the place where you are right now. So the quote that jumped out at me is the place where you are right now. God circled on the map for me. Ooh, the place where you are right now. God circled on the map for me. So right now I'm sitting here on a podcast with you, getting some great insight about what you're doing, and it kind of gets back to. You are where your feet are. So how does that fit with you, doug?
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know I love that quote, daryl, and so, just for the listeners, so your process, because I love this quote card thing, daryl. So you're going to bring a quote to the table and then you're going to ask me how that relates to me or what I think about it. So this week is my turn, I will. So, yes, I think what that reminds me of. I remember, um, when, when, when you are, when you acknowledge that you are where you're supposed to be. That doesn't mean just in the happy, joyful times. That means when you're stuck in a nasty pit full of crap and life just sucks. And when I say that, it immediately reminds me of a quote I heard from Tony Robbins years ago that life happens for you, not to you. And that's a simple sentence, simple two sentences, right there. But, man, when you take the time to really journal or ponder or reflect on what does that mean? Life is happening for me.
Speaker 2:So if I'm in the midst of a really hard, hard time in my life and I can switch because in those hard times, daryl, let's face it, we're human beings we're going to feel like, oh shit, this sucks, or that that's unfair. I can't believe that that happened to me. I can't believe they did that to me. But what if you turned around and said man, what am I supposed to learn from this? Like, if somebody really hurt your feelings and, instead of feeling like a victim, taking some ownership with that time? You know that, god, that if God puts you in this circle at this time, that you are where you're supposed to, where your feet are planted in this moment, then there's a, there's some valuable lessons in that moment and and I know from my own personal experience that it's really in the hard, challenging times that we, if we choose, can learn.
Speaker 2:So I think from that that quote Darrell, the quote you gave, I think it's just, it's a great reminder of that life is happening for us. But you always have the choice to be someone who says life is happening to you and, man, I'll just tell you right now, if you choose that route, it sucks, and it sucks for a long time, but at any moment, in the snap of a finger, you can change it to life is happening for you. What's the lesson I'm learning right now? How can I use this to add value to my life and to add value to other people's lives, because you will be able to share that experience and who's with someone else down the road who's going through something that hard, and you can share the wisdom you gained from it and how you got through it. So life's happening for us, brother.
Speaker 3:It is, it is, and we are wrapping up second episode, season two. So Doug kind of interviewed me, I interviewed Doug. We've got some good guests lined up. You can probably hear we got some ideas in the background. Definitely sleep, recovery. Can't wait, doug. We're definitely going to have a whole episode on recovery and I'm really excited about what you're doing up for the next two weeks up there. So I'm sure we'll be able to use that as well. So, doug, I'll turn it over to you to wrap up, and we're almost out.
Speaker 2:Absolutely For sure, daryl. Thank you very much, man. It's great seeing you, man. And two, I was thinking about what is season two? Why do we have another season? But really, darrell, for me I was thinking what is season two going to represent? Because each season is going to last about 90 days. About every quarter we're going to switch and go into another season and I think for me so far, based on what we started, season two is really about foundation. In season two, we're going to help give our listeners a solid foundation to get their hooks into 2025 to really make some shifts, change some trajectories. Be aware, man, if we can help you create awareness, then we've knocking it out of the park. So, with that said, daryl, let's just sign off how we always do, that ain't going to change, and just say God bless you and peace out, peach out, we're out, bye.