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Coffee Talk With The Cajun Mamas
Finding Balance: Tough Love Parenting Insights
Ever wondered how to strike the balance between nurturing your child's spirit and instilling discipline? We share personal stories of our own parenting journeys, shedding light on the concept of tough love and its role in raising responsible, respectful kids. Hear firsthand how consistency in household responsibilities and discipline, even if it means using a spoon as a threat, can teach children the value of contributing to the home. From tales of our own upbringing to the challenge of maintaining routines, we explore the profound impact of setting clear expectations and holding ourselves accountable.
Join us as we reminisce about childhood lessons in respect and authority, contrasting how first and second children often respond differently to discipline. We open up about the methods our parents used, like hand spankings and sticks, and discuss the fine line between bending a strong-willed child's will without breaking their spirit. The episode also celebrates the joy of discovering unique gifts at The Pink Paisley, setting the stage for an exciting fall season filled with cooler air and delicious gumbo. Tune in for candid conversations and heartfelt reflections, all while gaining insights on the importance of tough love in parenting.
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All right. Well, this is our last episode for September. Yes, welcome back y'all. Coffee Talk with the Cajun Mamas. Today we're going to be talking about raising coulons with tough love, but first we're going to mention our beautiful Grand Café sponsor, which is the Pink Paisley in Lafayette, on Arnold Boulevard. They have all of our favorite gifts to give, from little BBs to old ladies. That's right, you can get a gift for anybody, and men too. Even men too. There's even a men's section. Yes, there's furniture, home decor, something for the wedding, something for the baby shower. Yes, and they're going to wrap it up for you, complimentary.
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Speaker 1:All right. Today we're talking about tough love, a lot of our videos where we kind of fussing with our kids and honestly, sometimes I'm like man I hope people don't think I'm mean to my kids all the time. I thought all we do is fuss. No, you know, it's not that, no, it's more of just. We want you to feel seen, because we sometimes though sometimes, let's be real.
Speaker 2:Some days you feel like you just stay on your kids. You got to just stay on them.
Speaker 1:That's because they stay on me, man, I know. You know they stay on me and I'm like, okay, that's enough, we're going to get that spoon out and I'm going to threaten them with the spoon. It doesn't always land on their little buds, but you know, sometimes you got to pop that on the table, that's all you got to do. And you got to give your kids tough love. I'm sorry If you are just, you know, letting them do whatever.
Speaker 2:This is not for those who gentle parent.
Speaker 1:Oh or the free range chicken parenting, you know, like that's okay for you maybe, but listen, that's not the type of household that I'm running no, because it's got to be a tight ship for the most part. And if you you on the ship or you're not, and you're going in your room, yeah, and you're gonna help out, everybody helps out and that's how it runs efficiently.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know it's true, I admire you for that of like giving you older ones like the responsibility to help out, because I feel like there are certain things that I ask of mine, but honestly, I could ask more, you know. And they're getting to the age where they just can pick up after themselves. Oh, they can. They can do that. When they're even four or five years old, they can pick up after themselves. But now mine are nine and six and if I don't stay on them, they are little pigs and just will leave stuff everywhere but it's important that we are consistent and we do stay on.
Speaker 1:That's what I, that's what I'm like that was. What was hard for me was being consistent in making them do the same thing every day and not expecting them to just know what to do, you know. So, like now, I do ask more of them because I remember I learned from my maman you know, I've said that before my maman taught me how to do everything the baseboards, the everything cleaning the dishes. You don't leave nothing in the sink.
Speaker 2:Now I leave stuff in the sink let me tell you okay, you gotta pick your battles like what's more important, right?
Speaker 1:but she, she did all that and she taught me how to do all that. So it's going to get done and I know how old I was when I was doing that for her and my mama. You know, if I wanted to go somewhere, you better not ask to go to your friend's house unless you had all them dishes done and that sink was clean. So you know they can do that, they can do all that, yeah, my job was to unload the dishwasher.
Speaker 2:My mama would load and I would unload and then I would dust, you know, and I didn't really appreciate that. But then I got my little, my little allowance too, and I would I can remember being, you know, seven, eight, maybe nine years old, and I would save up my my little three dollars a week to keep my room clean and dust and stuff and I'd go get me a barbie doll, a barbie doll.
Speaker 1:I was a barbie girl, you. You must have been young with a Barbie doll doing all that stuff I was.
Speaker 2:Yeah, definitely younger than my nine-year-old. So you know I got to. The hardest part is to discipline ourselves.
Speaker 1:To do it, to do it and to be consistent with it. I absolutely agree with that, because it takes effort.
Speaker 2:You know, I could easily just let them veg out on their iPads all day long and then not be bothered with them and do it all myself. But what you teaching them, what you doing? You know, yeah, it's true, and then be mad at them for not helping. But you're not requiring nothing, and I'm speaking to myself, you know, here too.
Speaker 1:Oh no, no, I mean, we just we hitting back and forth, because that's just how it is, you know. But yeah, they can, and and that was something that was hard for me to realize- that, what?
Speaker 2:what age was a pro appropriate to give them things to do? You know, and now they're like even as little as four or five. They can help fold.
Speaker 1:Wash your eyes, my little niece, she, she wants to come help me with everything. She wants to help me bathe the baby. She wants to, you know, and she'll come and she'll do that and that's. And if we don't teach her how she'll help me with anything, I ask her, you know.
Speaker 2:She helps with her. Does she help with her?
Speaker 1:own little brother.
Speaker 2:Well, I don't know what she does at home, but I'll take advantage of it when she comes.
Speaker 1:Yes, because she'll help me out. You know she will, and she likes to be with her nanny.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, mm-hmm, so yeah. So in our videos you will see a lot of Well, we aim to be relatable. You know we want to be relatable and you see all these perfect videos on. Instagram I feel like mostly Instagram, but even on Facebook nowadays you see all these reels of the perfect aesthetic and the perfect house and the perfect mama who's like making everything from scratch, oh Lord, and you know there's some time for that. That. I do enjoy making things.
Speaker 2:No, no, you could take you a pop tart out and you could fix a pop tart, yeah. Or you can go get an Eggo waffle out of the freezer. You know there's got to be balance.
Speaker 1:Go grab you some goldfish and get out my hair and get out. That's right, you know. So, yeah, there's always that but and there's, like you said, there's time to be a homemaker and there's time to do all that stuff, because, honestly, that's one of the things that I love homeschooling about is baking is a part of our homeschooling Kind of learning yeah, and now your oldest one.
Speaker 2:she really enjoys baking stuff.
Speaker 1:She loves baking. I can get her off the sofa and tell her she can bake something and honestly, she wanted to bake some macarons and I said that's hard to do.
Speaker 2:That's going to be hard, yeah.
Speaker 1:My kitchen looked a mess, friend, but them macarons was on point.
Speaker 2:Oh, that's awesome, I let her bake whatever she wants.
Speaker 1:Now that's good, All right. Well, let's go ahead and tie in Pizzaville USA with our kids, because Pizzaville USA and Church Point is a great atmosphere to bring your kids. You know when you you have family and you got a lot of kids. It's a little hard to bring your whole family.
Speaker 2:That's right. But they have it set up to where they have a little gaming area that the kids can play at, okay, and then, um, on thursday nights they have live music too, so you can sit inside, or you can sit outside listen to the music and you're not gonna feel like you know your kids, or oh, it's not one of those restaurants that you, you can't bring your kids to no, because they have a little fence stand area in the front.
Speaker 1:If you sit outside, like on the patio, yeah, and the kids can play cornhole and there's just so many things that you can do and enjoy the time together without calling it your kids the entire time that's nice, that's right.
Speaker 2:And if you're interested in some cold, cold beer, you won't be disappointed over there, because they bring it out. It's ice cold and you got a frosted mug to drink it out of too. It's not just pizzas, y'all. They got burgers, they got salads, sandwiches, even dessert pizza. Now, and what kind of ice cream you told me they have over there? She's a hershey's.
Speaker 1:Oh my god if you like your kids a lot, you might let them get a little bit of ice cream before you leave. You know if you good. If they good, you know, while I'm drinking my beer, then y'all be good and y'all can get an ice cream at the end. Yes, that's right, so hit up Pizzaville USA in Church Point.
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Speaker 1:USA for sponsoring Coffee Talk with the Cajun Mamas. Thank you so much All right.
Speaker 2:So what about when you was little Like? You got whipped.
Speaker 1:Oh, yes, was it a spoon or what was it a spoon or what was it? Was the hand baby? Oh, it was the hand. And you know what? It wasn't very often it really wasn't but when it was, it was probably because I was acting the donkey in a store or something in public and my mama would just look at me and say wait till we get home, and that's all she had to say.
Speaker 2:That was worse than the actual whipping the anticipation of when we get home wait till we get home.
Speaker 1:God, they don't and listen. That's all she had to say, because then I was living a life of absolute terror until I got back to my house in pete, you didn't want to talk or say a word, no, and I, mama, please, mama, please, oh Lord, and that wasn't even like my mama. It wasn't really that bad.
Speaker 2:She'd give you three swift smacks on the butt, and that was it.
Speaker 1:My little sister wouldn't cry and that would make my mama mad. She was tough. She wouldn't cry and it would make my mama so mad and it's like she could never get through to her. But that's that second child.
Speaker 2:I believe that wholeheartedly You're so right, because that is exactly how my second one is. My first one. I could break her easy and she would cry and cry and be done with it. I don't use it anymore because they're older, but sometimes I still threaten with it. If I'm going to be honest, I had a little shade, a little paint stick. It's like a little paint stirrer, but I called it the stick. I had me a stick in the diaper bag. I had me a stick in the car. I had me a stick wherever we went, and I don't care who saw me take out that stick. If you was being bad, all I had to do was say you want the stick, that's it. Now, that was my first one, though the second one I could whip, I could spank, sting with that stick, threaten the stick, take it out. Nope, nothing, nothing. She's a different, she's made different.
Speaker 1:They are, they're no-limit soldiers. Yep, those second ones, I'm telling you Jovi was the same way, oof, oh, I'm dropping names in here now. Oh Lord, she's the same way you know, but then, when she grew up, like now, she's just. Her heart is so good.
Speaker 2:But yeah, no, she was not for it. My mama, she tells me like apparently, when I was, I think three maybe you know, I was like that hard-headed, hard-headed and throw tantrums and stuff, and she's like I was just adding my wits in with you and I had to pray. Pray, lord, help me know how to like. You don't want to break a child's their spirit yeah or like what god put in them, those second kids, what he put in them to make them so tough and hard-headed, strong-willed.
Speaker 2:You don't want to break that because they might need that. It could be a good, valuable yeah so she would pray, lord, help me curve it, or like I'm so good, like I love you I forgot what word she used, but it was like help me not to. I don't want to break it, lord, but I need to bend it.
Speaker 2:Bend this for me, because she didn't know what else to do, and so that's my prayer for my second one is is she's gonna need that strong wheel one day and lord bend it to your will, because if not, it could go either way. You know it could be a good thing or a bad thing. It could be praying over them, so that's a good thing absolutely.
Speaker 1:Oh, listen, don't, I know it. They made us something different, um, but yeah, I mean, yeah, I got my little butt with me too me too.
Speaker 2:It was whatever was there like? Could have been a fly swatter, could have been a back of a hairbrush, could have been a spoon.
Speaker 1:Could have been anything. Now, that's the type of mama I am. Yep, like whatever I got is, most of the time, a hairbrush. I have cracked the hairbrush Girl Because and probably just you know, beating scared that's what, that's what scares. That second one was noises. She don't like loud noises but, yeah, the spoons. I would keep that in my car. They sell them for a dollar 25 a dozen at the at the dollar tree. Now, yep, so you can get your spoon, and like I'm not always beating my kids, I'm gonna tell you that, but like I'm gonna make a loud noise with that spoon, though maybe what you gotta do, you Maybe on the table.
Speaker 2:We're just trying to raise them the best way we know how. You know we're just trying to Teach them a reverence for authority, you know, to respect their elders, not just us, but at school too or whoever they come in contact with. You know, try to teach them respect, and sometimes it takes a little tough love to do that it sure does you know.
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Speaker 2:I was going to say but how do you spoil your kids?
Speaker 1:Oh, man with food boss. Food, I mean that's the Cajun way. All I got to do is say, hey, we going to somewhere, horrible like the doctor, yeah, but maybe we going to, but we going to be but mom.
Speaker 2:But yes, Can we go eat?
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, when we going to go eat, where we going to eat, and you know what? It's not like my mom. Okay, my mom lunch, absolutely not with me, because I want to eat. I want to eat too, uh-huh, that's right. So I like to spoil my kids and take them out to when we go out to eat, because I remember whenever I was a little kid, we didn't get to eat out all the time. No, it was for it was something special.
Speaker 2:There wasn't a whole lot of options either, like there is now. I mean jesus no you go around and there's 10 different fast food places or I mean especially in Lafayette, louisiana.
Speaker 1:I mean we blessed with all the places to go eat, it's true, and there's so many different options, all nationalities, like you can pick from any. There's so many options, but back then I mean, there really wasn't much to choose from. So your mama bringing you to the chicken place in town.
Speaker 2:I mean, that was a big deal or we had sonic.
Speaker 1:I was, you know that was relatively new, but I mean not really. Yeah, go to sonic, that was a big deal. My mama would bring us to taco bell boy, get us a mexican meal. Yes, they don't have those, no more, by the way, that's redonkulous right there, get us a mexican meal or breakfast from the mcdonald's mexican pizza. That was my fave, that was, I mean, mean you tell your mama thank you, oh it was a big deal.
Speaker 2:Now, look, now that we're talking about this, I brought my kids the other day to Sam's with me. We had to go get groceries at Sam's. If y'all ain't never been to a Sam's Club cafe, y'all are missing out.
Speaker 1:And y'all, I used to pass by it and say look at those sad people, sad people eating at the cafe, eating at the Sam's. Let me tell you it is not sad.
Speaker 2:My kids. They told me thank you at least 10 times. They thought it was the best ever. They had a big old slice of pizza. They have those big pretzels over there Hot dogs, hot dogs, ice creams, all kind of things we all ate for like $11.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:It was the best time.
Speaker 1:I never thought of Sam's as sad Sam's lunch again.
Speaker 2:Never, since you had it, huh.
Speaker 1:Because I was like, first off, the food's good, second off, it's fast. It's cheap and $11, I could feed all my kids and myself. Oh, uh-uh.
Speaker 2:See, it's the little things sometimes too, Just when you think your kids are getting too big for their britches, you know, take them to a Sam's Cafe.
Speaker 1:Take them to Sam's Club and you If y'all good. I'll get y'all a pretzel at the end, even the little ice creams too. I'll get y'all an ice cream ball. That's it. That's it.
Speaker 2:You don't have to of places to eat. Oh, let's talk about Pizzaville. Let's talk about Pizzaville. Pizzaville, USA. In Church Point. We got Adam and Haley Duplachan that have poured their heart and soul into this place to make it a great experience when you go. They got a game area for the kids. They have indoor, outdoor seating for you. You might want to sit on the patio and drink a little ice cold beer or two or three.
Speaker 1:On Thursday nights you can even listen to live music over there I see a lot of people going in by themselves too and sitting up at the bar and drinking a beer, and yeah, you know, it's just a nice place for anybody to hang out too.
Speaker 2:You know, yep, you can have parties there too. I bet, like birthday parties, they have a nice big room for that.
Speaker 1:Oh sweet, it's nice. We did our baptism, the boys baptism, and then we all. My house is too small, so we all went to Pizzaville in that little extra room. They have. And it was perfect. We were able to, you know, really visit with each other. I had brought a cake and everything, and the service is always top notch.
Speaker 2:The service is good. That's right. And it's not just pizza. They have there y'all it's muffaladas and sandwiches, burgers, salads, dessert pizzas, even even. They have everything. They have something for everybody's taste over there. So y'all make sure to follow them also on tiktok and facebook pizzaville church point location, and you can join their text club to stay up to date on all that they have to offer.
Speaker 1:Absolutely yes well, that concludes our episode four. We are finished with september. We have a whole month's worth of podcasts under our belt.
Speaker 2:This is just amazing.
Speaker 2:This has been a great experience I think I sure hope that y'all enjoy this as much as we enjoy bringing it to you. Oh yeah, you know we have to take a second and mention our grand sponsor for the month of September. This place is so near and dear to our hearts the Pink Paisley in Lafayette. I'll tell you why they're so near and dear to us. They Amy Lemoine that owns the store. She reached out to us quite a while back and said that she was interested in doing a little collaboration with us, wanted to give us an opportunity to have a meet and greet at her store and fast forward a little bit. We use her to print all of our Cajun Mamas merch, our merch, all of our coffee cups and towels and t-shirts. All comes from her printing services at the store. She does that for us and I feel like she really took a chance on us. She did and she's been a big supporter of us.
Speaker 1:Absolutely, the meet and greet was just so perfect. It was a Mother's Day meet and greet. What a better way to. What a better way to. Our first meet and greet was a Mother's Day, cajun Mama's. It was just. It went so well and just the way that she's always at the store. I love to support local business, but when you know it really comes, it's a family affair over there. Really, her daddy runs the upstairs with her, her daughters work there. Her son was working there whenever we went for the meet and greet.
Speaker 2:I mean, the whole family is in on it and her whole staff is so friendly when you go in. They're very helpful. They're going to help you find the perfect gift for whatever you need. It's a gift store, if I didn't say that already.
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Speaker 2:Yes, thank you to the pink paisley for being our grand sponsor for September. And we are we, we, we done friend.
Speaker 1:We out for September.
Speaker 2:We so excited and we'll see y'all in October, when that nice cool frosty oh I can smell the gumbo already.
Speaker 1:Oh Lord Jesus. I said frosty, but it's not going to be frosty, it's going to be crisp, crisp air, crisp, fall air. I can't wait. All right, y'all come back for October.