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Coffee Talk With The Cajun Mamas: Mom Brain!!

• Chris Logan Media • Season 2 • Episode 3

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Ever find yourself in the grocery store parking lot, only to realize you completely forgot what you went in for? We understand that feeling all too well, and in this episode, we offer a lighthearted exploration of "mom brain," that all-too-familiar fog that descends when you're balancing a million things at once. Join us as we laugh through personal tales of forgetfulness, like the time we spaced on picking up a child's 4-H fundraiser order. With humor and empathy, we discuss how even with calendars and alerts, tasks can slip through the cracks, and why it's vital to be kind to ourselves and lean on our community for support. Parenthood is full of these moments, and whether you're at home or juggling work and family, embracing imperfection is part of the journey.

We're excited to have Grammy-nominated artist Laura Huval join us, sharing her unique perspective on managing "mom brain" while pursuing a thriving musical career. Discover how her album "Sing the Rosary" marries the spiritual with the everyday, and why she believes holistic health is key to battling brain fog. Laura also gives us a peek into her parish missions and cultural pilgrimages in Louisiana, showcasing the power of music and tradition. As we chat about the importance of family calendars and the sweet tradition of king cake during Mardi Gras, we celebrate the joy of staying connected and supporting local businesses. Get ready to smile, laugh, and maybe even feel a little more understood.

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Speaker 1:

all right, welcome to coffee talk with the cajun mamas.

Speaker 2:

Today we talking about mom brain, mom brain and how it's a real epidemic sweeping the nation.

Speaker 1:

I want to just say mom brain though, because I feel like this could be a dad thing too.

Speaker 2:

It could stay home, you're definitely could it be parent brain, it could be parent. But are we blaming our kids on this, like is it just the kids? I think it's more than just the kids.

Speaker 1:

I don't know man Today we're talking about mom brain. We're going to call it mom brain, but it's just not only moms, because we know dads have we're not discriminating.

Speaker 1:

We're not discriminating. We know dads have this too. Let's talk about our grand sponsor before we get started with this. I had to have this too. Let's talk about our grand sponsor before we get started with this Topic. Very good topic Gautreaux's Donuts. They are at 705 South Adams Avenue in Rain, Louisiana. They're family owned and operated. They open seven days a week 5 am to 11 am.

Speaker 2:

Get your donut fix any time of day. Well any day of the week. I mean Any day of the week, yeah.

Speaker 1:

Well, any day of the week. I mean Any day of the week, yeah. And you know what Like. If you have something special going on, like a birthday, or you want something special ordered, you just have to call them and they'll make it for you. They have a very large selection of donuts. Obviously, they have kolaches and butter biscuits. They serve in a pot community coffee and their king cakes are to die for Y'all. They have probably any kind of flavor you can think of cream cheese, raspberry, strawberry cream cheese. Give them a call, go check them out and get an amazing king cake from Gautreaux Donuts.

Speaker 2:

You have to.

Speaker 1:

You have to.

Speaker 2:

If you're in rain go to Gautreaux's, yeah, and if you're not, go to their Facebook page and check and see where they might be delivering their king cakes in the area. You might be able to get one at your little local grocery store too Could. Could, might, could.

Speaker 1:

So thank you, goat Rose, for being our sponsor of January All right Today we're talking about Mom Brain, and I have so much to say on this.

Speaker 2:

I cannot wait to discuss this, because I feel like it's used as an excuse for things but like a legitimate reason that I can't remember nothing and I can't focus. Sometimes I feel like I can't remember things. I have things in my calendar, on my phone, reminders and things and I still like if I don't stop what I'm doing at that moment and do it, I will get distracted by something else and not do it. Like that time I forgot to go pick up the 4-H stuff. You know my kids in 4-H and they had a sale, a fundraiser. I knew the day was coming like a month in advance, sometime in november. Did I put it in my calendar? No, I didn't. I took for granted, thought they was gonna send me a reminder email. That didn't come. So the day approaches and this is, mind you, we have orders for like 10 people.

Speaker 1:

The day approaches and I didn't want to do it because I was like this looks like something I'm probably gonna forget about, probably gonna yeah, you see, I don't have time you were smart and you prioritized.

Speaker 2:

Remember we said you gotta say no sometimes, okay, but so I did this order and um turned it in. I remember to turn it in turn in the money and everything. The day approaches where we're supposed to go pick things up and one of the ladies I had gotten her order for calls my mother-in-law and she's like before I go pick it up, I just want to see if maybe you were gonna go and pick up everybody's. And miss connie, my mother-in-law, was like no, I, I didn't even know it was the day to pick up. Let me ask koa. So she texts me. No, she called me. Miss Gina wants to know if you're going to go pick up her order. And the blood left my body.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, oh, my God you know, the sinking feeling. I knew there was something I forgot.

Speaker 2:

Oh my, I hate that feeling when you know there's something you forget. I didn't even have that feeling. I didn't even have it. I just poof over, not even knowing. I was like that was today. And she's like, well, I don't know, you know when is the day. And I'm like, hold on, Don't panic, Hold on, Let me find out. So, sure enough, it was that day. And bless Miss Gina's heart. She went and picked up all the orders for me and I went. So I was like, don't bring them to me, I'll go to you. You know, that's the least I can do. Leave them outside your house. I don't even have to go in. It's just sweet potatoes, mainly. So went and drove pick up the sweet potatoes from her house. But bless her little angelic heart. Thank you, Miss Gina.

Speaker 1:

I was like I felt you did the Lord's work that day.

Speaker 2:

Yes, but I felt mortified. I'm like I can't. This was my responsibility as the 4-H mama, uh-huh, and I couldn't remember, but you know it's, so it's it's okay. It's okay, we're giving grace. We're giving grace.

Speaker 1:

It's hard. It's hard because you know like, okay, us. I want to say this we stay home, thankfully. I don't know how I got it all done when I was working. You know, like these women that go to work every day and that have to remember everything school you know what goes on at home. I don't know how I ever made it and I just forget things. And I'm home, you know and like, but there's so many things you multitask and a lot of times there's never only one iron on the fire.

Speaker 2:

That is it. That's the thing. There is never just one thing in front of me or on my mind and I don't know how to fix that. Can it be fixed? Is it just life? Is it just our job? Our, our part of our part of our makeup is to multitask and stuff. You know what I mean?

Speaker 1:

I think of this in this stage of life yeah, in this day and age too, like there's not, just like okay, there's not. You gotta think back. Then, all you had was what you could have you know, like your family, you had your little dishes and, yeah, I guess you were still multitasking at the time yeah, on on a different level. On a different level, but now we just have too many other distractions.

Speaker 2:

There's other things, yeah, like a whole like you know, like picking up the 4-H, correct you? Know, yeah, yeah, and my husband's like. You know, if only you had a device that you could put all your appointments in.

Speaker 1:

That you know you keep on you all the time. That could really change my life.

Speaker 2:

That would just change your life, and I'm like, first of all. First of all, I use the reminders and they don't go off. First of all, I swear I put that reminder and don't look. I've learned now, though you know it only took me how long to learn this. Don't use that little remind. You know every phone. If you have an iPhone, it comes with a reminder app and you can dot, dot like it's a checklist. It don't alert you.

Speaker 1:

No, it doesn't.

Speaker 2:

It don't alert you, so I forget about it. So I have to make an appointment on the calendar to remind me to order toilet paper. You know what I'm saying? Like two o'clock order toilet paper. No, that's just an example?

Speaker 1:

no, but it's true.

Speaker 2:

I'm like why I have to make an appointment to remember to check and see if I'm out of blah blah blah, because at the time when I'm thinking about I might be out of this, I am at the grocery, not the grocery store. I am in pickup line or something you know like. I'm not where I can do it at the time. So I have to make these appointments. Now I make literally an appointment in my calendar. And also stupid old iPhones. This is Apple, listen.

Speaker 1:

They're listening to you, Koa. Are you listening, Apple? I hope you're listening to koa malonso.

Speaker 2:

She's got something to say um, when you make an, uh, when you make a new event in your calendar, why is the alert set automatically? No alert, you ever know like you have to go and hit remind. You have to go and watch I'll. You have to go and watch I'll quit using Apple Calendar if that helps.

Speaker 1:

You did Because they have all these weird holidays on there. It makes me think I have things going on and I'm like no, it's just Flag.

Speaker 2:

Day. It's the yes, you know it's. Yes, I know it's nothing.

Speaker 1:

Okay, george Washington jumped for the first time today and I and it's on my calendar. It's on my calendar.

Speaker 2:

So when you do an event, a new thing, you go down where it says alert, alert, oh my God Alert, and it's set to none. You have to tap it and hit at time of event, five minutes before, an hour before, whatever. Why is it set to none? If I'm putting this in my phone, I need to be alerted about it.

Speaker 1:

Because not everybody wants to be alerted every time. They need to be reminded to go take a dump. You know, oh, I forgot to take a dump today. I better go do that. I need to be alerted. You know, like no.

Speaker 2:

I do not have to set reminders for that, my body is on a clock, baby.

Speaker 1:

Oh Lord, Don't forget to call the bathroom.

Speaker 2:

No, but seriously, I do have a device and I have been using it, but you know, the 4H thing just got the better of me. I ain't gonna lie. So If you have the mom brain and you're, if you're watching this on our YouTube channel, please weigh in on this in the comments.

Speaker 2:

Yes because we want to know do you have this? And people say it doesn't get better as you get older, like when you I don't know, maybe it's like a menopause thing too, like that you kind of get brain fog. Yeah, this is just hormonal things we have to look forward to. Oh, come on, I know hormonal things we have to look forward to. Oh, come on, I know.

Speaker 2:

Okay, but it I feel like at this stage in our life though, it's mainly juggling all the things for the kids, oh it's, you know it, surely is I mean, that's why they call it mom brain for your family, family, family stuff, balancing work, home life, uh, being the maid, the chauffeur, the cook, all the things. You know that. It it's a lot on the mind. It's the mental load of it just makes you forget things and like brain fog. Yeah, it's happening.

Speaker 1:

It's happening. It's happening right now, right now Live happening.

Speaker 2:

Let me take a second, because that's something else I want to bring up, but we're going to stop right now before I forget, obviously you know, let me take a second because there's something else I want to bring up, but we're going to stop right now before I forget, obviously, you know, before I forget, to mention Laura Huval Music Ministry y'all. Laura Huval is a Grammy-nominated recording artist, catholic speaker, author, music minister, educator, retreat leader. She wears many hats and she wears them all beautifully. She has a new album called Sing the Rosary. If you see Sarah's wearing that beautiful shirt it says when you sing, you pray twice. That is Sing the Rosary. You know, when you sing unto the Lord, it's like praying twice. I love that. That's her. That's Laura Hubel's shirt, by the way, anyway.

Speaker 2:

But you can book Laura for an event. She's available for mornings of reflection, adoration, parish missions, women's conferences and more, even pilgrimage. She'll guide you to holy city spots in uh sites, not cities in Louisiana, uh, with cultural immersion experiences included along the way. It's a very unique experience you can get with Laura. So go check her website out at laurahuvalcom and you can listen to Sing the Rosary and her other albums on Spotify and streaming services. Her handle is at laurahuvallmusic. Thank you for being a sponsor, laura.

Speaker 1:

Thank you Laura.

Speaker 2:

Okay, I need a sip of water.

Speaker 1:

Okay, well, I'm going to tell you what stumps me way too often. Tell me my kids' names. Ooh, so like I'll be like Joe, I love Roz, you know, and I remember my daddy it was just me and my sister and he would say, uh-uh, lainey, you know like, I do it with my two all the time. Like that is something so simple that I should be able to. I named you myself and I still can't, like I'm still going to call the wrong name you know about all of them.

Speaker 1:

Sometimes I'll go through the whole gamut.

Speaker 2:

I don't know why that happens. It's like your brain can't, it's like a brain fart and you can't you know?

Speaker 1:

it's really fun when you go to the doctor, okay, and they're like date of birth, and I can't remember my kid's date of birth because there's four of them and I'm like it's hard convincing someone that you are their parent. You are in fact the mother when you can't on the spot say that their birthday.

Speaker 2:

You know, I just have two to remember and I still sometimes I have to really stop and think. And for for brian, like her birthday's on the 15th and she was born in 20, nope, you see, I just did it again. Her birthday's on the 16th and she was born in 2015. So I say 16, 15. Sometime I say 6, 15 16 and Ria's is 17 18, so I could mess that up all the time. I just the wheels are turning in my head.

Speaker 1:

It's just yeah, it's almost like you have to. Date of birth should be so easy. I should be able to say da, da, da. You know like it's a lot, and it's a lot to remember for me. That's something so simple. I know Best day of my life can't remember it Not the date.

Speaker 2:

That there, you know, is. Let's see mom brain. You know, okay, go ahead. You know what an important thing I want to validate. Okay, I recently had a hormone panel done with, uh, emily, yeah, okay, renewed vitality and turns out my progesterone and testosterone levels are both low, which I was like. What does that mean?

Speaker 2:

okay among other things. It can also mean, like she said, well, do you have brain fog? And I was like who doesn't? Yeah, but isn't that normal? Like I just have, that's just life. And she's like, well, yeah, but could also? Low testosterone can also cause brain fog and like memory things, and I'm like I felt so validated. I'm like it's not just me forgetting things. I mean, it probably is, yeah, but it could also be yeah. So she got me on the path to like some, some supplements before we try medicine yeah, to see to encourage my body to naturally produce more testosterone. Now I'm not into it far yet.

Speaker 1:

Well, let me just tell you you are very prepared for today. Your mom brain is at an all-time minimum today. I'm on my game right now. You know we've we got things, lots of things, and I, on the other hand, was stumbling out of the door with things. So you know what?

Speaker 2:

well, I'm in. I can't wait for you to be able to do the hormone panel with her and see, because I know you will once you're done nursing and stuff. So but yeah, but yeah, that was very interesting to me. So if you have, you know, severe brain fog, memory, you know mood swings or anxiety or anything like that, I'm going to encourage you to go find a naturopath or a holistic doctor and let them do a full hormone panel on you and just see, Just see yeah, just see where were you at, because I'm interested to know.

Speaker 1:

There's no way I don't have something. Some type of deficit, because I'm telling you, my brain is a real and the brain forts and the brain fog is so real, so real, oh my gosh. All right, before we forget, yeah, let's talk about our petite sponsor. Sure Title and Abstract Attorney Maria Peet has over 20 years of experience in the real estate, banking and home building industry, so she knows a little bit about some Sure Title stuff.

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Speaker 1:

Thank you, maria. Okay, let's see. Have you ever forgotten?

Speaker 2:

a kid somewhere. No, Okay, but it has come close. In fact it wouldn't have been a problem, because I remember I almost forgot one at your house One day. I was working out or something and Brynn I think it was Brynn was at your house playing and I was in the direction to go on home, forgot Brynn was at your house, turned around, had to go get her. But other than that, I don't think so you.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, yeah, yeah, we sometimes I dance in, you know, and we'll be like I haven't forgotten them there. No, no, no, jojo, jojo, I forgot Jojo. I danced in once and I was like, hey, did you go get Jojo and Jojo?

Speaker 2:

picked her up for like 15 minutes. 15? Okay, that's not too bad. 10, 15 minutes. You know, and y'all can literally walk to the dance studio, but she's too little to walk by herself.

Speaker 1:

No, we can't do that.

Speaker 2:

Not in today's world.

Speaker 1:

But yeah, it's hard, when are all of them? And that's me. When I get in the core, I'm like, okay, one, two, three, four, I've got to count them. One, two, three, four. I'm like one, two, three, four. Everybody's like, yeah, one, two, three, four. And Roz is always hollering, yeah, and I'm like you can't even count but okay, Just make sure we got them all you know, you don't want to leave anybody home. Yeah, you, you know it's. And then there's only four of them.

Speaker 2:

Can you imagine these parents that have more than more than that? You know like you see how kevin got left home alone. It happens. Oh, I mean, there was two more kids oh yeah, kevin, surely so.

Speaker 1:

I mean, you can't, you can't blame those accidentally you know they're a little quiet child at home.

Speaker 2:

Especially the quiet ones. Yeah, yeah, you know, the ones that don't make a fuss, that's the ones that get forgotten.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, poor things, oh my goodness. But you know, I guess it happens to get your little child. I know what about? You know, like we are always ready to we plan, we try to plan, okay, but in planning we forget about things. So sometimes I just forget to cook or you know, yeah, definitely forget clothes in the washing machine.

Speaker 2:

Mm-hmm 100%. The dryer too. You know, sometimes these clothes go around four times before I get to them.

Speaker 1:

And y'all. I have friends that are like, oh my gosh, they can't leave the house because they forgot clothes in the washer. I'm not that person.

Speaker 2:

No, I will have to rewash sometimes because I'm like they probably have a smell by now, so I'm going to rewash.

Speaker 1:

This morning I had to do that, rewash some, because I was like when Just put them through a quick rinse again, I put a little soap in it.

Speaker 2:

You put a little soap.

Speaker 1:

I don't remember when I put them in.

Speaker 2:

Okay yeah, if you don't know exactly when, how long they've been sitting there, put a little soap and do it again, but I've definitely put an extra rinse cycle on, before you ever left the house in like mismatched shoes or slippers or something I have. I have definitely left the house in those black slides we both have a pair of them in, like you know, like not supposed to leave the house in slides, but you're supposed to I was like okay, I'm rolling with it.

Speaker 1:

I'm committed now we are too far away, I am not turning around back. No, okay, yeah, oh, for sure. I don't think I've ever done two different color shoes. I don't know maybe I have. I definitely have worn stuff inside out. Oh, that's a definite um yesterday actually, I my gown on and I'm trying to nurse the baby and I'm like why aren't these buttons working? It's inside out, it's inside out. Yeah, I feel like I have lots to say about this, but I'm having, I can't think of.

Speaker 2:

I'm liking these, these suggestions, because, yeah, because I think we can't organize our thoughts. That's another symptom. Yeah, we can't, we can't organize our thoughts. No, it takes a okay. So it kind of takes a toll emotionally when you feel like you are like don't you feel like you're failing sometimes because you can't like, like the brain is scattered and it's not. Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2:

So and it and it, like people can see it outwardly, see my, my scatterbrainedness or you think they can I think, that they probably, I think they cannot and I think you think that they can't, but I think well, you know what?

Speaker 1:

if they can't, good, but I just want you to know that it's definitely happening. And if that is you and you are feeling like you are scatterbrained and you can't remember things, we here with you, we do the same thing you know, but I think it's just a part, a part of a season season, a life I don't know. I would like to know weigh in if you are an older, you know person without and maybe you know, your life has quieted down a bit are you still as scatterbrained?

Speaker 1:

do you still get scatterbrained? You know, because they're there there's a lot to be scatterbrained. Do you still get scatterbrained, you know? Good question, because there's a lot to be scatterbrained about now for us. But I wonder, does it get better? Does it get worse?

Speaker 2:

I think if I asked my mama that right now, she would say it gets better. I think, yeah, I'm confident.

Speaker 1:

Because my mama, she has to put things in like two calendars for her to be able to remember that she has something to do. Oh, maybe it's subjected to the person, I guess, because I'm just like how, how do you forget? And she's like if it's not on the calendar, it doesn't exist. Okay, if it's not on the calendar, it doesn't exist.

Speaker 2:

That's why I have to have my little calendar and I tell my husband hey, if you see she can see your calendar, Are y'all family sharing the calendar?

Speaker 1:

Not this one. Okay, probably should, but I feel like that would probably be too much for my mama. Might be. We family share definitely between Chase and I. And my kids can see what's on the calendar too, so it's not a surprise to them like we have something to do today. What are we doing today? Okay, they see a little heart next to something. They know Valerie's coming. You know I'm probably going to be out whatever, but uh, that's kind of been helping us because I like, I tell Chase I'm like check the calendar check the calendar, put it on there.

Speaker 1:

If it doesn't, if it's not in there, it's not gonna, it's probably not gonna be remembered, you know right, so there's that okay, y'all, let's talk about laura huvall ministry one more time.

Speaker 2:

Laura is a grammy, grammy nominated recording artist, catholic speaker, author, music minister, educator, retreat leader and a member of the family band sweet cecilia. Y'all have to go look her up. Y'all have to listen to her beautiful singing voice and look up sweet cecilia. While you add it, they sing a lot of uh, cajun french music and it's like their, their voices, like the melodies together. Oh so beautiful I love that.

Speaker 2:

You can go download it at laurahuevallcom slash rosary, and you can book her for events too. So go check out her website, laurahuevallcom. Follow her on Spotify and all the streaming services. Her handle is at laurahuevallmusic. And thank you for being a sponsor of Coffee Talk with the Cajun Mamas, Laura. Thank you, Laura.

Speaker 1:

But here's something I don't want you to forget. What's that I don't want you to forget? To go get a Go-Tro's king cake.

Speaker 2:

I wish I had one right now. What kind? Right now I would want a strawberry. I like to do half and half, so like strawberry cream cheese on one half, and then I'm feeling I don't think I ever had a lemon one before. Have you had a lemon?

Speaker 1:

Surely so Because okay, there's two different kinds of people. Okay, you got your people who want them fruits in it and you got your people who want like the more creamy stuff, Like chocolate.

Speaker 2:

But I like cream cheese though, yeah yeah.

Speaker 1:

So I can't get down with the people that just want fruit. I can't get down with that. I want creamy cream, I want chocolate, I want like that's just my taste gotcha. But sometimes when you go, when you're dealing with other people, they're like it's lemon and raspberry or it's lemon and cherry, I want the cream cheese, I want creamy, I want creamy, and so, yes, I have. I have tried lemon. Is it good?

Speaker 2:

Yeah, it's good, it's not my go-to, but it's kind of like, yeah, when you get a lemon-filled donut or something, that's yeah. But when you get a lemon-filled donut or something, that's yeah. But when you want a king cake, you want it creamy.

Speaker 1:

This is your reminder not to forget to order your king cake. Get yourself a good king cake for Mardi Gras. My sister-in-law, devany, always gets a Goat Rose king cake when it comes to Mardi Gras.

Speaker 2:

It's a tradition around here, that's right 705 South Adams Avenue in Rain, rain, that's where you want to go, open seven days a week, 5 to 11 am. You can get donut birthday letters to y'all. You know, if you don't want a king cake, you want some donuts. They have. You can do that for your birthdays, you can do that for special events, um, and they have a large selection of donuts and glazed chocolate donuts, cinnamon rolls, cinnamon twists, all the things. The fritters, the fritters, flat as a flitter. It's a flat as a flitter in there. Yeah, go. So go to go troves and support a small, family owned and operated business. And thank y'all for being a sponsor of the coffee talk with the cajun mamas podcast.

Speaker 1:

Thank y'all very much and thank you for not forgetting to, to tune in to. Yes, talk with the Cajun Mamas.

Speaker 2:

Yes, we hope you never have the mom brain so bad as that. You forget that we have new episodes every week on Wednesdays that come out and we want to hear from y'all. So weigh in on the comments. Go to our YouTube channel.

Speaker 1:

Yes, like subscribe on YouTube too because, we've got quite the setup.

Speaker 2:

We do have quite the setup now. Our fabulous producer has cameras from all directions on us now, so you can really see everything. You can get up close and personal with us. All right, y'all Be blessed, have a wonderful day and we'll see y'all next time.