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How To Make And Keep Friends As An Adult

• Chris Logan Media • Season 3 • Episode 49

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Adult friendship is weirdly emotional and strangely logistical at the same time. One day you have a best friend you see nonstop, and the next you’re measuring closeness by whether the group chat has gone quiet. We sit down with coffee and get honest about how friendships change as you change, especially in the busy years of motherhood, work, kids’ schedules, and family responsibilities.

We talk about the real places adult friendships start: the gym, mom groups, sports, school events, and anywhere you keep showing up. We share why moving makes you rebuild community from scratch, how “pick up right where you left off” friendships are the rare gold, and why most of us are doing our best to keep bonds alive through quick texts instead of long visits. If you’ve ever joked that the girls’ trip will never make it out of the chat, you’ll feel seen.

Then we go a little deeper into what friendship looks like in this season: prayer requests, checking in when something feels off, and the kind of friend who helps you breathe again just by laughing with you. We also shout out our sponsor and producer, Chris Logan Media, and why having the right support makes creating this podcast possible.

If you’ve been craving closer adult friendships or wondering where your people went, press play. Subscribe, share this with a friend, leave a review, and tell us: where have you found your best adult friendships?

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Friends Change As You Do

SPEAKER_02

I just I I feel like I don't know, your your friends change. They don't change. They just they you know, like they do their own thing. You change too. You change too. Yeah. And um and so whenever uh uh I think about, you know, people trying to make friends now, they come into a new place, is like, where do they find a friend?

SPEAKER_01

Mm-hmm.

Welcome And Sponsor Shoutout

SPEAKER_02

You know, I guess in a mom group or like at the gym. Sports. The gym, I mean, that's where we go. That's where we met.

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Welcome to Coffee Talk with the Cajun Mamas. Grab a cup of coffee, settle in, and let's dive into real conversations about life, motherhood, and a little inspiration to brighten your day.

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Welcome to another delicious episode. Delightful, hot and ready episode of Coffee Talk with the Cajun Mamas. Uh, first of all, we're gonna thank our sponsor, Chris Logan Media. Thank you so much, Chris, for always um You know, if it wasn't a team you know, producing this um what you call this production.

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This production. It's a podcast, but yeah.

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No, I was gonna say like this gym, this oh, this treasure. Treasure. This treasure of a podcast.

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If it wasn't for Chris Logan Media, we probably wouldn't have a podcast because it was him that first approached us with it and was like, have you ever thought about taking your short form content and like making long form content, like podcasting? And um, we were like, who's gonna wanna listen to us talk for 20, 30 an hour, you know? And he's like, you might be surprised, you might just try it. And here we are, like over a year later, still talking.

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It's and y'all know for sure. It's yeah, we've been doing this for a while. Um, and he believed in us before we did. What a mushy moment.

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Oh, we probably just made him very uncomfortable.

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Very uncomfortable. Anyway, thanks, Chris. And uh, and if you are interested in podcasting, y'all reach out to Chris uh at Chrisloganmedia.com or in any other way to um you know freshen up your business. Um, what you call it?

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He he does like content creation and you know, just promotional services and um also like a fresh way to promote your business. Yes, and he's a man of many hats. Uh he not only has uh the podcasting and producing aspect of it, but like he ha has a radio station and it's like 90s, 2000s uh rock music. And it's on an app too. Yeah. So you don't have to be local to listen to it. You can do listen to the planet.

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Planet radio, listen to the planet. Oh, yeah.

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Okay, so thank you, Chris Logan Media, for being a sponsor of Coffee Talk with the Cajumamas.

Friendship Through Different Life Seasons

SPEAKER_02

Yes. Okay, what are we talking about today? Today we're going to talk about friendship as an adult.

SPEAKER_01

Oh.

SPEAKER_02

What does that look like? Okay.

SPEAKER_01

What does that look like? Oh, put that phone on silent. God they don't.

SPEAKER_02

Um so, alright. Being, um, I don't know, so I feel like let's let's discuss this.

SPEAKER_01

If I have had hold on, I gotta tell you, this is a friendship moment. Your scapula is hanging out on the side of your neck. Put put it back in.

SPEAKER_02

Okay. So in my life, I have had best friends, but they've all been different people. Okay. Like all throughout my life. Like I've had, and I still are like I'm still friends with them. Yeah, you know, we haven't, but we're just not as close anymore. So um, like friendship looks different at different seasons of your life, I guess.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, it's rare, very rare, to have a friend from childhood that like you're still friends with as an adult. Um, you know, the seasons change and stuff. And I I can look back on my childhood and I have two to three that stand out to me as like that was my girls, that was my people, I was with them all the time, you know, and we've taken different paths in life. Like, thankfully, for like social media and stuff, you can keep kind of keep up with people. Yeah. But like as an adult, if you don't still have that childhood friend and and and are close with them, it can be hard to like have a close friend as an adult.

SPEAKER_02

Especially like if you move somewhere new, you know? Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

So like you gotta find your tribe all over again, right?

SPEAKER_02

So my best best friend since I was three, her name is Jenny Lejeune, and she now lives in North Carolina, but we all we grew up together all of our life, and then she married her husband, who is a Marine, and so of course they they live all over.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

Okay. Well, she asked me to be the her first child's godmother, and so we have still remained very close because of course I wanna I wanna see how everything goes, and we just but we don't talk all that much, but when we get together, it's like you pick up right where you left off.

SPEAKER_01

That's a mark that's a a sign of a gr a true friendship, I feel like you can just pick up right where you left. Yeah, no awkward moments, like there's nothing that's like. No, like I'm so sorry I haven't talked to you in a while. It's just like here.

SPEAKER_02

Like you're you just pick up. Mm-hmm. You okay? How's Gracie doing? So she Gracie's now in college, by the way. And um, we're still, you know, we are still in touch, and now I can text her and stuff.

SPEAKER_01

No, I know it's not.

SPEAKER_02

But um, she like so she's lived in California, she's lived in in North Carolina, in Virginia, all these places, and she has to start all over again, you know, every time she moves, and she has a photography business. So you kind of like have to prove yourself to a whole nother, you know, place and get established there. So like finding, but she's never going to not find friends. Like she just has that about her that she could find anybody to be her friend, you know, like they she she's like that. But I just I I've always been here, you know, and and so some people go and some people right, you know. Right.

SPEAKER_01

I guess you just the flavor of the uh um just the flavor for the past eight years, I guess. When when is my season gonna run out? Oh no, I hope not. I hope not ever. No, people ask us all the time if we were childhood friends or they think we're sisters. We're related. Yeah. We were both Gidris, but we weren't like we're related probably somewhere along the line, but like not really the same family of Gidris. But um, yeah, and we're like and they're usually surprised that we w didn't grow up as friends, like we met as adults.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah. I just I I feel like I don't know, you your friends change. They don't change, they just you know, like they change too, you change too. You change too. Yeah. And um, and so whenever I uh I think about you know, people trying to make friends now, they come into a new place, is like where do they find a friend?

SPEAKER_01

Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_02

You know, I guess in a mom group or like at the gym. Sports. The gym, I mean, that's where we go.

Group Chats And Scheduling Reality

SPEAKER_01

That's where we met. Or wherever their kids. Yeah. You kind of go where your kids go. Yeah. And then you just hope that to hit it off with somebody and make a connection. You know? Yeah. And I mean, friendship now looks more like um like texting throughout the day. It's not so much like getting together. I mean, you and me get together it whenever, anytime we have the opportunity, but we also work together. Um, but like you know, we joke all the time about how like when the the date or the girls' trip or whatever makes it out of the chat.

SPEAKER_02

That is huge. That's so huge. I can't tell you the last time it made it out of the chat for the Mam Tourage.

SPEAKER_01

Not even a that we've all been in one place or something, not even a brunch, you know.

SPEAKER_02

It's so hard. It's hard to get it together to where everybody because it's it's in our lives right now, it's like, okay, well, this one's got this, and this one's got this. And yeah, we even made like a funny coffee talk about, well, okay, well, you know, Kate's going to do this. It's just everybody's got their own thing. It's so hard to get it all together. I remember the last time I got together with my my teacher friends, there we were missing two or three because not everybody can make it. Yeah, you know.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, adult friendships can be work if you want them to, you know, last and flourish.

SPEAKER_02

But yeah, it's super challenging to get all together. Yeah, you know.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, thankfully for group texts or texts in general, because you know, a lot of times it's like we don't get on the phone off hardly ever. Like we'll FaceTime if it's important, but like we text all the time. You know, or even if it's like been a day where I'm like, oh my god, it's one o'clock and I haven't heard from you yet. I'm like, what's what what you doing? Or like what's wrong? What's going on today?

SPEAKER_02

You know, that's the day. Like the other day I was trying to call you and you were in a massage, and I'm like, oh my god, something's wrong. Like something happened because I knew you were in Lafayette shopping with your kids, and I'm like, oh my God. Like, and when she answered, I'm like, oh my god, you're not dead. You know, like it was like an hour, maybe. I couldn't get in touch with her. It was stupid because she's always have my phone there with her, you know. But uh anyway, so that's that's what our that's what friendships look like. I feel like a lot of times is a text relationship. Yeah, you know. Um, we did get to go recently. Sometimes we get to hit up the store, you know, the the thrift shops or the antique stores when we can fit it in. Like if it if it falls perfectly.

SPEAKER_01

If the stores aligned.

SPEAKER_02

If the stores aligned, we can fit it perfectly in, and those are just the best days. Magical times. Like I picked her up the other day. She was like, hey, let's go on Sunday afternoon and and go train a little bit. And when she comes out of the house, she was like galloping, coming out of the house, prancing out, like never where we're not, you know, we don't have our kids other than when we work in, you know. Yeah. So which even when we travel and we work in, you know. Yeah, but that's fun work. That's you know, it's always fun.

SPEAKER_01

It's always fun work, but yeah, there are some times where like we have to put aside the distractions if we can and like really focus and get some meetings and schedule things and you know, that that side of it.

SPEAKER_02

But yeah, but when we can sit down and just talk about not that kind of stuff, yeah, that's very rare. You know, that's a very rare thing. So tell us about your friendships in your seat in this season of your life right now. What's it look like? Um, I feel I feel like the retired, like people who retired, I bet you they get to visit a lot, do you?

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, let us know. Um I want to know if you're that age. I mean, we almost 40, so like this is what it looks like for us right now. It's like getting together when you can, which is not as often as you would want to, but like the relationship survives on texting a lot of times. And I feel like we'll come back to um, you know, like when you're in high school, like you get to train a with your friend all the time. Like it's just oh yeah, that's all you do. Yes, and so when uh in the retired age, maybe we get back to that where it's like I'm going, we go and have dinner or lunch or whatever, and it's okay because you ain't got to see about so many people.

Living The Season You Are In

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like I it's scary. I kind of look forward to that, but then also I still like picking up socks and stuff off the floor, you know. Like I I don't know. I know what you mean. I like you know, yeah, it's aggravating sometimes, but then I'm also like one day, you know, I'm not gonna have anything.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah. So I think it's you gotta try to live in the season you're in and not think too much about what was or what's the live in live in this season right now and make the best of it.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, yeah.

Prayer As Modern Friendship Support

SPEAKER_01

And um another thing I feel like friendship is at this age is like, oh, I need your prayers. Oh, I need you to pray for me. Or like we have a group of like all the time, we sometimes we don't even talk in there except to say, How can I pray for you? Yeah, like can I pray for you? Because uh this stage of life is a lot of just like um surviving sometimes, like when things you get in a groove, but then life throws a curveball. And I know that's at any age, but I just feel like when kids are in the mix in this season of life, it it it really throws a wrench in things, you know. Oh yeah. Um, or family members, you know, that you have to see about or whatever, and they, you know, need your attention, which takes the attention away from the kids and the fan the home life and everything. It's just it feels magnified, especially when you have little ones. So a lot of times it's pray, pray, pray, pray, pray. And like that's the that's what keeps the friendships and the connections going is those prayers.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, exactly. And sometimes it's because you can't get together because somebody's kid's sick, you know, and you're like, oh gosh, you know, take me out of this season, you know, the sixth season. But it's just like it's always something, it's always something that you can't get with your friends. Um, but I just I yeah, prayer, definitely. We're always texting, can you play? Can you pray for me right now? Sometimes I don't even know what's going on, but they're just like, just pray for me. Yeah, you know, pray for us to make it through. And that's that's that's sometimes all you need from a friend.

SPEAKER_01

I saw a reel one time that was like um two friends walking toward each other, and it was like their IQ. Have you ever seen that? Like it had a number, and it was like as they get closer, the IQ gets smaller and smaller and smaller. That's how I feel when we get together. Oh my gosh, yes. You can just like quit overthinking things and you can ha like take a mental break and laugh about stupid things and just ridiculously stupid things, yes.

SPEAKER_02

That's yeah, I mean, that's the best. Our friendship, I feel like. Yes. When we can get together and just really go go go back and forth and just die laughing, and people think we drunk or high, and we just be in us. We can our IQ does go down.

SPEAKER_01

I feel like it does, and I'm but that's okay.

SPEAKER_02

I'm so smart lady.

SPEAKER_01

I'm perfectly fine with it. Yeah, yeah. If you have a friend that you can do that type of thing with, that like just mental break that you get by being around them, go ahead and tag them. Tag, tag them in the comments, send them this video or something because uh, you know, that's just another level of y'all's friendship that y'all gonna connect over. Just be like, sure. Yep, that's me. Yep, that's you. And we send each other reels all the time, like, yep, that's us. That's it.

Subscribe And Closing Thanks

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Chris Logan Media. He is our our podcast producer, um, along with his team. And we couldn't do this without him. And he makes us look good, he makes us sound good. The video quality is like more than we ever dreamed of. We tried to do it ourselves in the beginning. Let me just say, that was a that was a big no. Um, just let Chris Logan Media do it for you, and it it's gonna come out good every time.

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You won't, you're not gonna regret it. You won't. Let me just tell you that. Even he nailed up this beautiful shelf.

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Oh, he did. He helped us out this morning with that shelf.

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Yeah, um like he had the time to do that.

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I mean, look, he takes the time for us, okay? So if you are looking to start a podcast or you have questions about what that would look like for you, um, go to Chris LoganMedia.com. There's a contact form. I'm pretty sure there's a phone number as well. You can call him. Um, and also a website, um, not website management, although I think he does dabble in that for businesses too, but content creation, like um short little commercials or pro promotional reels and stuff. He is great at doing that kind of promotional content for your business.

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So he's keep a lookout because he's got new things coming.

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Yeah, new things coming, especially for the millennials for our generation. I love it. Uh yes, he he has his own radio station, Listen to the Planet. But you can go to listen to the planet.com if you're not local and you can stream it online. And he's got a special um channel coming for millennials for all of our jams. So be on the lookout for that. And thank you again, Chris Logan, for being um just the man that you are. That's right.

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The man with the plan. With the plan, always. All right. See y'all. Thank you for listening. Yeah, see y'all next week.

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