Coffee Talk With The Cajun Mamas

A Conversation with Kristin + Jeneé from Well, Wanna Talk About It Podcast

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We have Kristin and Jeneé from the Well, Wanna Talk About It Podcast on this episode!

A real estate deal isn’t supposed to change your life, but sometimes it does. We’re joined by best friends Kristin and Jeneé, and their story starts with a modern Louisiana home, a virtual tour with sketchy service, and a buyer who shows up without ever seeing the house in person. Add a busted pipe, last-minute stress, and a whole lot of heart, and what should’ve been a simple transaction turns into a friendship that feels like family. 

From there, we go deeper into what adult friendship looks like when life gets heavy. We talk about letting go of a “forever home,” the weird emotions of walking back into a place filled with your memories, and how faith and timing can shape the paths we don’t understand in the moment. The conversation also touches grief and the way new relationships can hold you up without trying to replace what you’ve lost. 

Kristin and Jeneé also share the behind-the-scenes of starting their podcast, Want To Talk About It, without a built-in audience or a social media machine. We unpack the pressure of algorithms, consistency, and burnout, plus the practical strategies that help, like batching content and building space for real life. The biggest theme is impact over numbers, from listener messages that hit at the right time to using a platform for small acts of service that ripple outward. 

If you’re building a podcast, trying to stay creative as a mom, or craving friendships that can handle the hard conversations, this one will stick with you. Subscribe, share the episode with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find the show.

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Okay, she's not real.

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I'm all to my website.

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So we chat and let's drink typical of you know that type of transaction.

SPEAKER_01

So that's not typical. My real estate agent.

Welcome And Sponsor Spotlight

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Welcome to Coffee Talk with the Cajun Mamas. Grab a cup of coffee, settle in, and let's dive into real conversations about life, motherhood, and a little inspiration to brighten your day.

SPEAKER_03

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Meeting Through A Home Purchase

SPEAKER_03

We have two best friends in the studio with two best friends today. Yes, and they are um rain area natives, which is not far from Church Point. Go ahead and introduce yourselves if you don't mind.

SPEAKER_04

I'm Kristen, and I am actually from the Lake Charles area. Okay, okay. My bad.

SPEAKER_03

I hear that. We have almost almost a Texan in here, basically.

SPEAKER_04

But and so I moved to the Lafayette area, what about three, three and a half years ago? Um, and that is actually how Jennae and I met on accident.

SPEAKER_01

Right. I grew up in the rain and bayou area, and however, it's Lafayette Parish. Uh-huh. So schools, friends, everything I I've done has always been in Lafayette. Um, however, ended up deciding to build a home where I grew up at the end of the day. And after about four years, I got tired of the back and forth, back and forth. Everything we did again was in Lafayette. And so we decided um after a lot of thinking of putting the house on the market. So, and this was supposed to be built for a forever home. So we finally put it up on the market, and Kristen bought our house. So we live in Lafayette now, but that is how her and I met. So, about four years ago is when y'all met? Yes.

SPEAKER_04

It'll be four years in October. Yep. Yeah, we I bought this house and then I ended up on a podcast. I don't know how these things happened, but uh that seems that escalated quickly, as they say.

SPEAKER_01

Well, she she was in South Carolina, so they bought the house without even ever seeing the house or walking in the house. I did a virtual tour on FaceTime with sketchy phone service.

SPEAKER_03

Oh, wow.

SPEAKER_04

We weren't here to close. My brother-in-law, we signed power of attorney for my brother-in-law to close on it. So we didn't meet at closing. We didn't, I didn't see the house before. Um, and we were actually on, I was on the phone with her. There were some things that transpired through purchasing the house. I mean, if you buy a home and it doesn't come with lawn service, pool service, uh, plumbing, house care, then I don't know what you're doing.

SPEAKER_01

This house was my baby. I subcontracted it. So it's not like we had somebody build it, like I was involved in every single aspect of it. Oh, yeah. My dad kept the yard up, she kept the pool up, so we had to clean or come. They were about a month from moving in. And so you can't let the pool sit, you can't let the grass get tall, you can't, I mean, so I had someone come in and clean. I had everything was just constantly kept up. Do you mind if we go put the dolphin on for the pool? I do not mind.

SPEAKER_03

Oh, yeah, yeah. Do I owe you money for this stuff? No.

SPEAKER_01

Well, meanwhile, a pipe bust. Oh. And we get a call, we're like, oh my God. I said, and I told my dad and my husband, y'all gotta go in and take care of this. Uh-huh. And so they immediately went, and before she Meanwhile, the water company calls me, and so I don't have her phone number.

SPEAKER_04

I just have Facebook reach out on Facebook. I'm like, can you recommend a plumbing service?

SPEAKER_01

It's already done.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

And she's like, Well, do I owe anybody? I'm like, it's already done. I mean, so if this was my baby, I wasn't gonna let my baby get messed up before they even she'd never seen the house in person. Yeah so when she drove up, we happened to be on the phone.

SPEAKER_04

Okay, because but then we had started corresponding after this whole water situation. Okay, okay, she's not gonna drive.

SPEAKER_03

So we chat chemistry typical of no, you know, that type of transaction. So that's not typical.

SPEAKER_01

My real estate agent is a best friend of 20 plus years.

SPEAKER_04

And my real estate agent told me I was not allowed to contact the seller because it's unethical. Because I'm like, but there's a hurricane in South Carolina, I can't travel, so we might have to bump closing. Well, their new home is contingent upon closing on the and like I don't want them to think like financing fell through or something. Like, I want to be coming.

SPEAKER_01

It was nerve-wracking.

SPEAKER_04

And my real estate agent said, No, you may not call them. That is unethical. And if I would have just called them, this could have they weren't re they needed another couple of days to move. They stayed till middle of the night moving out. They didn't have to do that.

SPEAKER_01

We could have stayed another month and a half, actually. Well, you know, I mean Because they didn't move in until that about that time.

SPEAKER_04

That the pool was so nice and clear, though, when I didn't know. It was beautiful. It was so nice. I had the house cleaner go in and clean.

SPEAKER_03

What a dream. Well, that's gonna tell me.

SPEAKER_04

Silver powder with wine and crumble pee. Yeah, yeah. I mean, champagne, crumble cookies, champagne glasses. I'm like, mm-hmm, it's the right kind of pet boy from the right peanut from the youngest daughter. Come back to that eat.

SPEAKER_01

My youngest daughter actually wrote her a note and her youngest daughter and put it in her room whenever she got there.

SPEAKER_02

Whenever, whenever you you don't come with that kind of energy.

SPEAKER_03

So I've been knowing you a lot longer. Okay, and you wasn't about to buy a house from me.

SPEAKER_01

My real estate agent, Slash Best friend, told me, she goes, you know that's not normal, right? You know everything that y'all are doing is not your problem. Yeah, it's not normal.

SPEAKER_04

And I would just like to say again, as I've said previously on the episode, you mentioned that I don't appreciate that, Lisa.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah. Um, incredible lady. Yeah, the house meant everything to me. And it was a very difficult decision to sell it.

SPEAKER_05

I'm sure.

SPEAKER_01

Um, so we were very, very blessed because I thought, you know, as you're kind of crying when you leave, thinking I'm never gonna be in this in this house again. And um, so to have someone walk into the home and then call you, be like, hey, do y'all want to come and hang out? Do y'all wanna come have drinks? Do y'all want to this and that? And I'm like, it's your first night there. So maybe y'all should just spend that time there.

SPEAKER_04

Something at nine, I'm on the phone with her. And I scream because I'm like, is this real life? Like, I am in love with this happening. I thought she just witnessed an accident. I thought somebody was dying.

SPEAKER_01

She was screaming on the phone.

SPEAKER_04

I'm like, start crying. What happened?

SPEAKER_01

What happened? And all of a sudden I hear, it's so beautiful. And I'm like, oh, she just pulled up to the house. So I was actually on the phone with her the first time she ever seen it in person. I'm like, come hang out. She's like, It's your first night home. Like, don't you think you're fan. Not only that, because this house was a little different. It wasn't a normal Acadian style home. It was very modern and don't belong here. Um and I was like, the last thing I want is to be there. And then her husband or somebody's like, Well, I did this. I don't like this. You know, I'd rather them have their moment. But I also was scared, what am I gonna hear? That because people were really ugly online.

SPEAKER_04

People talked about the living room. It could use a little more storage in the living room. Is this a good time to talk about it?

SPEAKER_01

She's a she has too much stuff.

SPEAKER_04

No, that's what it is.

SPEAKER_02

Sorry, me.

SPEAKER_01

It's a middle minimalist house. And I'm like, why do you have three air fryers and two blenders? Because they do different, they air fry differently.

SPEAKER_03

That's I got rid of two of them.

SPEAKER_01

Oh, that's the house wasn't built like that. If it don't have a place, it don't belong, is how I was taught. And so I built the house with um I didn't need I moved out. I moved out when some of my cabinets was so empty. She's still, still in the house she's in today.

SPEAKER_03

Still, there are empty cabinets. I wish we would like that. I've I feel like sometimes I wouldn't be so stressed if my cabinets weren't so overflowing with stuff. Opening it.

SPEAKER_02

If it's not there, then I'm just gonna fill it with something. Oh I will fill it.

SPEAKER_03

I feel every square inch of my house was right.

SPEAKER_01

Well, that's where she is.

SPEAKER_03

So everything. That's right. I know.

SPEAKER_01

So it was, I just um I'm very I'm very fortunate that I can go to the house anytime I want. She didn't change the codes for a long time. So I had the code. She's like, go, go get whatever you need, go do whatever you need. So um Also her dad has keys to all the doors in case the codes don't work. So that's rare. That's very rare to sell a home that was extremely personal, and then to find out um that I could have saved my tears because I can go to the house anytime I want. I can, you know, so I'm not sure. It's not weird, though. It doesn't, it didn't feel weird like having somebody else living in your house and well, to be honest with you, yes, in a way, because she did do similar things. I had a wall with three huge canvas pictures that were framed in shadow boxes. She actually went and put three of her big canvases of her family. So there was something that I felt like she kind of kept the same feel. She said she loved there's things in there I did that was very, very personal to my family that is

Letting Go Of A Forever Home

SPEAKER_01

still there. So she did do that. On the other hand, the house is not a hundred percent how like I remember it. So when sometimes when I walk in, it's a little reminder that it's not yours.

SPEAKER_04

I I have stuff. And clutter and I have stuff. And she doesn't have stuff.

SPEAKER_02

She'd be lady, huh? Nice and clean. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

So um, so yeah, I mean, sometimes it's like, oh God, I wish I can have it back. And then um, but then sometimes you have to remember why you moved in the first place. And a house is a thing, and it's it's always gonna be a thing, and nobody can take that from you. Nobody will take it my name's on things have it back.

SPEAKER_03

Who would have thought that that was like the way that you met now your best friend? Like it's everything to me.

SPEAKER_04

Everything in this in this world happens exactly the way God planned it to. Um, I I had a best friend who friends for 40 years, and um less than two years after I moved in, she and I had obviously become very close. It was like family. I unexpectedly lost my friend of 40 years, and that was horrendous. Oh um, but it's like, and I I tell her, I'm like, well, listen, you can't go die. My other friend die, you can't die. That's a lot of pressure.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04

I think that everything happens the way it's supposed to. We had actually put an offer in on a different house, and they wanted a lot more than we were willing to pay. She actually had another cash offer that fell through before us.

SPEAKER_01

And they wanted to rip up the kitchen, the the wife wanted to rip up the kitchen, huh? And everything. I'm like, golly. And um, that we went on the market on a Friday. We went under contract on the Saturday or Sunday, so it went very quick. And by Monday, they backed out. And by the way, and they were already, they were one of the offers. It was multi-offered, and but the cash offer obviously went first. That fell through on the Monday. We went under contract with her on the Tuesday.

SPEAKER_03

Wow.

SPEAKER_01

That's quick. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

So the friendship developed after like you got settled in the house and y'all still stayed in touch and stuff, but like how when did you kind of like know, like, oh, this this is because this is my personal. You know, this is something.

SPEAKER_01

When she never went away. She never yes.

SPEAKER_04

Actually, her husband's personality and my personality are scarily similar. Um, he is the chaotic, loud, funny guy, um, and she's kind of like the balancing. And and it's very similar. She thinks, because he works out of town, she gets a break from the chaos. Uh-uh, yeah. No, no, no. You stepped right on in. And I think, I think probably um the we met in October is whenever I actually um well, November is when I officially moved in the house. Um, but by December, I was at the family gathering for her husband's birthday. Right. And I think pretty much every family gathering that either one of us have had, birthdays, things like that, ever since we it it just never stopped. It does.

SPEAKER_01

I think what um what has carried the friendship, um, because obviously there's, you know, we're very different. And so there's things that I know she annoys me, I annoy her. What? And like sisters. Yeah. I thought this would be the proper place to take you to tell you about how. So, yeah, so listen, I have some things I want to talk about. Um, but seriously, I think one of the things that has kind of kept us together because it's not perfect, and um the things that I need in my ways is obviously very different than what she needs and wants. Um, however, she still lets me be me. And it does remind me a lot about my husband. Um I'm very in my ways and very difficult and very OCD type, and um she lets me be me.

SPEAKER_04

You're telling you about yourself, not me. I love this. Yeah, I'll get there.

SPEAKER_01

Okay, it's coming, it's coming. And so I think that if you meet somebody and in a short amount of time you become super close, and then life happens. Yeah. And we've had a lot of life things happen in both of our lives.

SPEAKER_04

Big life things happen.

SPEAKER_01

And the fact is that it constantly was pulling us together, and even in those tough times, that I have behaved in a manner that she should have probably walked away and never talked to me again, you know, because I may be selfish in the way that I take my space. And um, it hurts her, but she still allows me to be me and give me what I need first. And so I think that kind of is what carries us because when it comes down to it, we are ultimately there as genuine friends, even though normally that's that's a friendship of 20 or 30 or plus years. Right.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01

But the fact that we love each other the way that we love each other and we care about each other the way that we care about each other, and we have kind of had some little bumps in the roads, but we always come back and sit down and give each other the respect and we talk it through, and they're not easy. They're not easy talks, but we um I think it's just the genuine care for each other and genuine respect for each other that has formed where we are today.

SPEAKER_04

Our lives kind of are parallel, something that we we've talked about a little bit on our podcast, but they don't even say that they have a podcast.

SPEAKER_03

No, we need to mention that too. For anybody listening, like, yes, another similarity which we found so interesting is that they are two best friends that also have a podcast. Let's and tell everybody the name and um and where they can find it at, but I'm sure it's on like iPods.

SPEAKER_04

Well, yeah, well,

Loss, Faith, And Unexpected Timing

SPEAKER_04

want to talk about it, and it's on um YouTube if you want to watch it, and then all of the other platforms Apple, Spotify, Amazon, iHeartRadio. Perfect Deezer. It's on the Planet App Matter. Yes, yes, that's wonderful.

SPEAKER_03

I love that.

SPEAKER_04

So y'all can get all of us in one bathroom.

SPEAKER_02

So it's something that we've total package, huh?

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, something that we've talked about on the podcast a little bit is about your grandbaby that's coming. And something that we didn't talk about on the podcast, though, is how parallel our lives have become. Um my son and his fiancee also told me that they were pregnant, what, a month or less after her daughter and her husband told her that they were pregnant.

SPEAKER_01

So we're both gonna be pregnant grandparents at the same time.

SPEAKER_02

It's like everything just keeps so that happened.

SPEAKER_04

It's yeah, even whenever there have been times when one of us is gonna be like, okay, this is like because listen, friendships that are as intertwined as ours, and it sounds like y'all's as well, there are there are hard times. I mean, there are times when I'm like, okay, if you were just my friend, I'm gonna need a minute. But as my podcast partner, I can't take that minute because I still need to know what the topic is for next week. But and so but in those moments, it's like even when there's times when you're going, okay, I need a minute because one of us has said or done something to upset the other one, there's been things in life that just hate bringing it back. Just keep bringing it back.

SPEAKER_02

And God's making those things apparent for y'all. Yes, and um, and keeping y'all, you know, working with each other and right. See, I believe that.

SPEAKER_01

I believe that everything from the start of this, um, even down to decorating the studio. I don't like cheetah print. I don't really, I'm not a fan, I I rarely ever wear that. I'm just it just never was a thing for me. And when I was um trying to design the studio, I ended up putting something together and was it cheetah or leopard? I mean they're close to that. Were they all the same? And I ended up sending her a mock-up to get her approval, and immediately she's like, no. My eyes started sweating. And I'm like, how does she care about aesthetics? Because I'm an aesthetic, aesthetic one. She don't care.

SPEAKER_04

And so I did, I was a friend's favorite print, but I didn't know that.

SPEAKER_01

Oh, but it came, that was, and I'm like, and I even my oldest daughter's like, since when you like, I don't, I don't know, but for some reason I think this is great.

SPEAKER_04

You know, I don't think that was listen. I have said from the very beginning, if there is someone in this world who does not believe there is a God, I have a story for you. I have a story for you because there's no way that all of this has happened without God having a hand in every step of it.

SPEAKER_01

It is the timing, the mildest the timing of everything. And his timing.

SPEAKER_02

Right.

SPEAKER_01

Obviously, we didn't go with that, but for me, I was like, Kristen, this is, I feel like this is Lindy, you know, coming in somehow and you know, being somewhat a part of this.

SPEAKER_04

I still have to have talks with him sometimes because his time and my time, not the same. Oh, and I don't appreciate it. I'm like, hey, big guy, let's talk because that's not what I had in mind.

SPEAKER_02

But then sometimes I'm like, oh God, thank thankfully you know what's going on. You know better than me.

SPEAKER_01

You would always look back. Every single thing you can look back and be like, oh, thank God that didn't happen when I wanted it to happen. Right. Because I would not have been good. No. And you know, I just had this conversation with somebody the other day, and it's like, you know what, you would have never been able to make this decision. So God made this decision for you. Yeah. You know, and so it unfortunately we have to be patient and we have to wait. And, you know, patience isn't always. Yeah, a way to protect you. But it's so, yeah, I think the it's been it's

Starting A Podcast From Scratch

SPEAKER_01

played a part, and it's it's you know, he's reared his head um several times to remind us, you know.

SPEAKER_04

So what made y'all want to start a podcast? I didn't. You did. I'm kidding. We did. Uh someone else, we can't remember who. Probably multiple people. They're like, Y'all should turn a camera on. Oh, because it was like a ping-pong match watching us go back and forth.

SPEAKER_01

Well, we were in a place in our lives we wanted to find something else to do. Our kids were older and stuff. And um, you know, when you're a housewife and your paycheck comes from your husband, which neither one of us in our situation.

SPEAKER_04

I need you to be very careful on this topic and tread lightly because I got some comments on social media about my opinion on this.

SPEAKER_01

I mean, not anymore, but yeah. She got better, she got much better now. But um, we're both in a situation that nothing's ever thrown out there in our face, nothing ever with our husbands and stuff like that. We're very fortunate in that aspect. Um, however, personally, I felt like I I'm better than that. Like I want more. Yeah, I want something for me. Yeah. And I feel like I had more to give and more to offer and just all these things. And she was feeling like she needed something more.

SPEAKER_04

Well, I was trying to flip a house with $20,000. I was trying to do a lot of different things. Make her go to real estate school with me.

SPEAKER_02

I was truly, oh my God, it sounds like me. Yeah, I have some ideas. I have no time whatsoever, but I want to do all the 500 different jobs that are all profitable.

SPEAKER_01

Yes, and um fun. Yeah, I want them to all be fun. I do things because nothing on anybody else's time or schedule.

SPEAKER_04

No, right. I felt like anything that I had an idea to do that we were gonna do, I mean, we spent so much time together anyways. Yeah, but I'm very realistic.

SPEAKER_01

And so um She's like, what are you gonna do?

SPEAKER_04

Paint walls with 20 grand, Kristen? I'm like, no, we're gonna flip a house.

SPEAKER_01

I don't know where. And so we went ahead and uh somebody ended up throwing out the thing, you know what y'all should do? Y'all should do a podcast just from watching us banter and stuff. Um, and I don't know, after a little while, I was like, Can we do that? I mean, but it's difficult because most people do a social media following first. Yeah, yeah. And then they get into podcasting. We decided we're gonna do something that neither one of us were big into social media. We had no following.

SPEAKER_04

I had never plugged in a camera and a microphone.

SPEAKER_01

And we decided, so we feel like we've kind of done it backwards. And how's it going? It's going good, but it's almost like when you stall, it's like Okay, where do you go from here? Because to start a podcast and then trying to build a following, yeah, you know, and then of course, you have life, you're still a wife, you're still a mother, you still have unexpected things that go on that you have to kind of prioritize, you know. But at the same time, you have to consider because we're not doing a podcast by ourselves. So it's like if she needs something, I need something, it's well that I mean, because one minute is like, well, hey, I need to work my schedule around this, and I'm like, okay, and then I need a minute, and she's like, Okay.

SPEAKER_04

So it's it's when it's how it is for us too when you're having to schedule something around that, because it feels sometimes like you're in the sea by yourself, and you're like, God, does anybody else deal with this? Because it is hard to lose this week.

SPEAKER_02

We definitely do, and it's like um we we are all we're most of the time wanted together places, and I have four kids, little ones. She's got older kids but still young. And it's like we got our husbands, we got and and we get invited to cook-offs all the time. And it's like if we would go to every cook-off, we would never be with our family. Yeah, um, but then also like we have to like schedule things together. So our day-to-day, we do our all our podcasts in one day for the month, and then um, and then our day-to-day might look like we sit at the table at my house after her kids go to school, and then my kids homeschool too. So it's like we have to like our schedules have to coincide. We go to the point where our kids are sick, and you know, like it's just a happy thing.

SPEAKER_04

Is there a divide between y'all's personal life and y'all's professional life at this point? Like, that's I'll call her sometimes and I'm like, excuse me, can you put me on hold and put my best friend on the phone? And I'm like, I don't need my podcast partner. Oh, yeah. And then like, hey.

SPEAKER_01

And she's like, hey, and then she'll start talking.

SPEAKER_03

Well, we have to it flows pretty good, I think, for us, but there are times where I'm like, or or she'll be like, we haven't done anything fun in a while that is not work-related. We just went through that.

SPEAKER_02

Even though work is fun, even though work is fun, yeah, but like we're so used to filming everything. Yeah. You know, like we go to the antique store and and it's funny, and you know, like, and we love doing that. But then sometimes we just don't get to like be in the home store.

SPEAKER_04

Yeah, like just turn the camera off and just be present.

SPEAKER_01

So that's where I get to because you always wonder what do people do this for? You know, like when you get into it, we got into it, it's gonna be fun.

SPEAKER_04

And that's the only reason I got into it, by the way.

SPEAKER_01

I wanted to help people, I wanted more meaningful conversations, in-depth conversations. I want people to take away things whenever they're done listening. I'm just more of an in-depth person. She just wants to have fun. And so I figured, okay, if we let you do it right, it works. Um, but why do people really get into podcasting, social media, you know, because is it-did you like it? Sometimes people want attention. They're looking for attention, they looking for gratification, they're looking for the likes, they looking for that. But then what happens is you get so deep into it, and then what happens when you're not getting the likes? And then you start, then it I find like people start like why am I doing this? And I just find it's it's a slippery slope, you know. So it's like, how do you determine, you know, you have to question, okay, what did we originally start this for? And where do we want this to eventually end up?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. Yeah. So there's there, I know exactly what y'all are saying because there's times where we are both to the point where we're like, I don't want to look at my phone anymore, I don't want to talk to nobody, I'm tired of people in. Why am I still doing this? What's the re what is why? And then we'll get a message or a comment. Somebody's like, Y'all have no idea how much happiness y'all bring me.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03

I'm going through a divorce, I'm going through cancer, I'm going through hard times, and y'all's video, I look for y'all's videos. I'm like, and we send each other, we'll screenshot it and we'll send it to each other. Every single time. This is why.

SPEAKER_02

This is why we do what we do. And when we started, you asked that question, how do we get started? We didn't just say, Hey, I want to do a podcast. We just had we just had chemistry in the world.

SPEAKER_03

Or even on social media, we didn't say, I want to, I want a big following. No.

SPEAKER_01

We it was by accident when y'all started recording and posting. What was the reasoning behind it?

SPEAKER_02

It's like being relatable to other people because we deep in the mama trenches right now, and being there can be lonely sometimes. Yes. And um, I I had babies again after I had babies, eight years, then more babies, and that's when we really, you know, like before that, we really started coming together as a friendship, and we met at the gym, but it was just like there's another mom friends, well, not just mom friends, like grown people being friends is so important. It's another layer too.

Friendship Versus Podcast Partnership

SPEAKER_01

It's so different.

SPEAKER_02

You need that person, you need that person that you can talk to, brain dump, like we talked with uh your brother about. But it was just like it was nice to have somebody on my side that wasn't my husband. I love him, he's great, he's my spouse. But women just we we feel things, and I feel like the relatability was the biggest thing for us when we got started. I was like, let's do this, it's gonna be fun.

SPEAKER_03

Like I've always just thought I want to make people feel seen, feel validated, feel like they're not alone, there is hope. We bring our we talk about our faith a lot. Um, and I feel like that's our the way God is calling us to evangelize in this way. Um, it may not be in a church, but it's in the world, and it's just showing people like that he's there to turn to in in good times and in bad times. And um, yeah, that's that's what we always come back to when we like, what is this all for? Like, or like, God, why did you give us this platform? It can't just be to like dress up in moo moos and drink coffee, although having the time of my life doing it.

SPEAKER_02

And now I have a collection of moo moo's that I want to share with the world.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. Display case. Yeah. Um, we just like whatever, whatever, whatever you want. And when there's opportunities, I'm sure y'all come up come across this. When there's when we're presented with an opportunity like to to work with a business or you know, do promotions for somebody. If we both don't feel a peace uh in our heart about it, the discernment. I mean it it's a no, you know. We have a guest very similar. Very, very similar.

SPEAKER_04

We have a guest that we she was all oh, let's do it, let's do it. And then I was like, I just don't know. And then I finally got on board and I'm like, okay, and then I was like, I don't know. And then she's like, I don't know. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And so now we're back to we've tabled it because uh yeah, because the discernment, like you said, we we just can't really get on the same page. So I totally understand.

SPEAKER_01

How do y'all do it whenever it does feel like it becomes work and people are counting on you to do it? And it, you know, it's like, how do you get the motivation back? Is it always just because we've had the same experience? Is what are we doing this for? You know, the numbers look like this, you know, but people are like, oh my god, you get the messages, and you get I love this one, and then you have someone come say, Oh, me and my husband were just talking about this, and and it's like, oh, okay, and people are another win.

SPEAKER_03

You know, people are watching, yeah. Right. I think it's it's great that y'all are together too, because I find when one of us is up and the other is down, we can level each other out. We can level each other out. Like, there's when I when I'm like, I don't want to look at this no more, like I can't keep up with the comments, I can't do this or that. She's there. Like, I got it, I got her email, I got it, and vice versa. When she's like, I I can't right now, I'm like, I got it, you know. So God like just gave us each other. Um, but it's okay to take a little bit of time too. And we've had to like that's hard for us too.

SPEAKER_02

It's very hard. We are the both the type of people that when we wake up in the morning, we work in, and when we go to bed at night, we working. So and and we're parenting at the same time. So even putting our phone away for five minutes, I know this is horrible. It's horrible, but yeah, it's a sacrifice. We love it so much that it's it's what we constantly think about. It might not be, you know, this business, it might be Lime Life, it might be, you know, but I don't know, we just love what we do. But then also there comes a point where you're just gonna get so tired and exhausted, and you're like, okay, I can't do this right now. I can't, I can't think of this as a very old.

SPEAKER_03

It comes in waves, you know. Yeah, but there's times where it's like, it's okay that I didn't make a reel today. It's okay that I didn't post today. And don't let yourself become obsessed with the numbers. And I still do. I mean, I still there's still times where I'm like, dang, I thought that video was gonna do so good. Yeah. And it, you know, it's not, it's at 50,000 views, and there's somebody else going, 50,000! That's me. I'm fangirling right now. So it's just all about perspective. It's like, well, no, that's that's still good. Like it's still okay. If we break a thousand, we're like, okay, that's good. I can't even do it.

SPEAKER_04

And by viral, I mean over a thousand. Right. Not a million. That's great, though. Yeah, not a million. I have had a couple.

SPEAKER_03

I have one that was at what 50k almost? Yeah, yeah, we have. There's been a few, but um it's just about being consistent, y'all. Yeah, and and that's what okay.

SPEAKER_01

With with that being said, uh huh, being consistent, that's all you hear. It's extremely important. But on the flip side of that, when you need that minute and you need that break, and I'm like, I I just but if I don't feel like posting, I don't feel like editing this to make a post, I don't feel like doing this. But you're so scared. If I don't do that, if I'm not consistent, then the numbers aren't there. Then I because you have to deal with the algorithms. Algorithm, yeah. So how do we?

SPEAKER_02

We batch content. I was gonna say that. And so when we get together and we we make content, we allot time that we're not on our computers or not talking about something else, and we're like, okay, we're gonna do four coffee talks today,

Burnout, Algorithms, And Batching Content

SPEAKER_02

and then we have them for a rainy day. We got four weeks of coffee talks. We're gonna, you know, we're gonna create uh a cooking video, and you're gonna do the lifestyle part, and I'm gonna do the actual recipe part. So we're gonna we're gonna come together and we're gonna get to we're gonna get too literally.

SPEAKER_03

We try to make as much content when you feel inspired, do a lot.

SPEAKER_02

Do more than you do, do as much in the core. And y'all are having the stupidest conversation ever. Yeah, we do car talk. Yeah, I love that.

SPEAKER_01

You know, yeah, we do car talk, and it's actually where we kind of started when we went before we started doing car talk as we were preparing for the podcast and like doing the studio, getting all the equipment, doing that kind of stuff. And everyone loved the car talk. Then the podcast started, and then between the episodes and doing all our own work and stuff and keeping up with the social media, cars talk stopped because it was like, okay, we're not in the car as much going have lunch. We're not in the car going to the gym.

SPEAKER_04

But when we all stopped about podcast stuff that we're not gonna put on private conversations about like the next time.

SPEAKER_01

So then you're having to have conversations about okay, we what about the friendship?

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, don't let that die.

SPEAKER_04

And don't let that be neglected. That was my husband's one concern whenever I told him, I'm like, hey, me and Janae are gonna start a podcast, and he was like, Don't let it ruin your friendship. That was my husband's one concern. Don't let it ruin your own.

SPEAKER_01

Have y'all ever had a moment where y'all needed a break from each other?

SPEAKER_02

No, I want to be in her pocket all the time. Really? Yeah. You feel the same way about me? I'm not lying to you. No, no. Like whenever she goes away, if I or like if she doesn't uh like text me for like four hours in the morning, I'm like, what the hell is she doing?

SPEAKER_03

I just think the same thing at night. Because she she's having family time.

SPEAKER_02

If I know she's doing something, you know, it's her family time.

SPEAKER_03

But like at night time, when I'm in the bathtub, I'm like, hmm, should I text Sarah? I know it's family time, but okay, I'm gonna text her. And I'm like, if she don't answer me right away, I'm like, what she's doing? I'm like, oh, what'd she no?

SPEAKER_02

But like we cannot literally go a few hours without like And there have been times where we're obviously aggravated with each other, but I'm just like, but I'm the type of person like hey, I'm so sorry. Like she's a better time, and then I probably handle it.

SPEAKER_03

And I'm like, no, it's fine. It's fine. Like I'm not mad. I'm not mad. It's okay, but uh, I'm not mad, I just need a minute.

SPEAKER_04

A minute for what? Oh, you tired of me? Take a nap.

SPEAKER_01

I believe in going anywhere. I believe but you know, I I was started finding live coaching. So I am really big. If you feel like you need a minute, you feel like you need time, you feel like you need to sort through your own, you know, it's okay. And she gets really nervous with that.

SPEAKER_04

I'm like, yeah, what's going on? What you doing over there? Yeah, you're you're a talk it out kind of person. Well, I'm a very talk it out kind of person.

SPEAKER_01

But I'm okay with if I need a, you know, if I need to. I want to talk about it until I'm mad.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah. Me too. I want and I want you to get happy. Yes, I want it to be. Because I love you. Yes. And I wouldn't have to do anything to hurt you.

SPEAKER_03

Yes. I'm like, uh, but I am a little I'm like, okay, I need a minute.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, let's pray on it.

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Yeah.

SPEAKER_02

But we do we we do. We're like, okay, let's pray on it. Now, especially in discernment. We're like, let's think about this for a little while, or let's pray on it. Or if if we have a disagreement, I don't even know what it's really about.

SPEAKER_03

Where to eat lunch, I guess. I don't know. You know, no, I mean, li life, life is life, and you're not gonna agree on everything. I don't care how good of a friend you are, but it's how you handle it, and y'all, y'all might handle it different than we do, but it's it gets handled. It has this all that matching. Unmatched energy. That's how we handle it.

SPEAKER_04

Unmatched energy. If she is like, okay, this has frustrated me or I feel some type of way, I'm gonna come at her very soft.

SPEAKER_01

And in her head, she is thinking a lot of different things. If she would say that and meet me where I'm at, no, the comp it would not be a productive conversation. Right, right. And so that's where you're weak. I'm strong. We are very good at making sure um to not match each other's energy in the moment. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And so we can come back and have like a real conversation.

SPEAKER_04

It really is like sisters. Like we really we can get mad at each other, but nobody else can get mad at her. Nobody else can say anything. I can tell her all about herself, but nobody else can will.

SPEAKER_02

And we'll and I'm the type of person that I'm like, and and this person, uh. And I'll tell them that to their face. You know, like so it's not there's really no secrets. Yeah, same, same. Yeah, and I but nobody else can do it. There's some good stuff in that, you know?

SPEAKER_01

Right. Yeah, yeah, I say all the time, not everybody. Don't talk about my friends, right? Same. Not everybody could do it though. I mean, I just don't think not everybody could do it.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah. Where do y'all see this going? Do y'all do you see yourself doing the podcast or more for a while, or what we want to.

SPEAKER_01

So I always think that I mean you shouldn't start something if you're just gonna keep it here. I think that if you're gonna start something, your goals need to be here, or what's the point? Yeah. Um, so I mean, I think big, I mean, I think we both agreed to that. I just want to keep having fun. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_04

I want to keep doing the things that are fun. You want to wait at that. Well, but she wants to get it.

SPEAKER_03

If at any point none of this becomes it's not fun anymore, and like it's a stress added to our life, we will have we will revisit it. Oh, yeah. We always said that, like with pot Cajun Mamas in general, like if it ever becomes where it's something we dread or it's just not fun anymore, then the season might be end. I don't know. But it ain't ending though. No, no, no. Come now.

SPEAKER_01

We go through the same thing, and um, at the end of the day, it's like you said, there's a message that comes through. Somebody stops you to tell you this, you get a call about this, and it fuels you all over again, and it just reminds you of why you started this in the first place. Yes, and so it's thank God for those things.

SPEAKER_04

I think it would be cool to one day have um like people reaching out to us and saying, Hey, we want you guys to come to, like you said, you guys get invites to cook-offs and things like that. They will. I think things like that, like that's my small goals. I mean, listen, I think the big goal for everybody is you know, the sky's the limit. I'm gonna ride this train as far as God takes us on it. I'm going as far as He carries me, I'm here for the ride.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, but I do I want to reach people on a bigger level. Yeah, I want to reach people to where it matters. Yeah, I want what we're doing to matter, what messages to be meaningful.

SPEAKER_02

I think that we started that way, but now it's become that way. Big foundation for us. And um by by the cook-all thing, I just want to say, like, I wish I could be in all those places. Of course. You know, yeah, all at one time. But um, but then you know, you gotta make that separation between, you know, this is my family time and this is my treasure time, and um and and we go to the things, like I said, that we discuss and we you know, like the retreats, that's like you that's yes, 100%. I'm on board for this. I'm a hundred percent on board for this. Um but you know, things that you know we might not be able to get everything done, but but it it does, and I don't think we started out thinking that we definitely didn't start out, it would be on the level that we uh are

Using The Platform To Help People

SPEAKER_02

blessed with right now, but the foundation of helping people at um at a higher level, it's just it's something so special, and we just kind of happened upon it, I guess.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, it's I would love to feel that I would love to have that. She just had that for the first time um what a couple weeks and go weeks ago. So Rock was telling us about when he went to Turlings and that he was poor and couldn't eat. Um, but one of the lunch ladies, Miss Rose, would always let him eat. So he had like a negative lunch debt, you know, and um so we ended up calling Turlings, finding Miss Rose, she still worked there. 37 years and she was a substitute teacher for two years before that. Yeah, whoa. And so we called and asked if we can go, like the podcast and rock um could put in. Yeah. We all pitched in to pay some kids lunch debt.

SPEAKER_03

Oh, I love that.

SPEAKER_01

So we went to Turlings. Um, they let us go meet everybody in the cafeteria. We met Miss Rose, and we honestly it was such a small amount.

SPEAKER_04

I mean, it wasn't easy.

SPEAKER_01

It was like $150.

SPEAKER_04

And we paid off four kids.

SPEAKER_01

They said it would they said it would take care about four children. We got in the car and she was like, I love this feeling.

SPEAKER_03

This is what it's about. I love this feeling.

SPEAKER_01

I think the the last time. I mean, think how small of a gesture that is, just to go into a private school because it's a misconception, everybody's rich, and everybody, you know, yeah, but that's not true. Right. People go and they still, you know, their their income isn't of everybody else's. And so it was such a small gesture, but to think, and they ended up um more people ended up raising more money to go and pay more kids.

SPEAKER_04

People have reached out to people he went to high school with have reached out to him and said, Hey, you inspired it.

SPEAKER_01

Right. And Turlings Catholic on Monday, we went on Friday and took care of this. And on Monday, they actually made a whole thank you thing to Miss Rose. Oh yeah. Like they honored her, um, Miss Rose. It's happening. So it's already, oh my god, I want to do more of this. She's like, I love this feeling. Yeah.

SPEAKER_04

I think the last time that I felt like that, that that's not the first time that that's happened with the podcast, but um, remember whenever we did the fertility episode? Right. And I dealt with lots of infertility. And I had a girl that I went to high school with, a friend of mine, um, hadn't talked to her in 20 some odd years, and she reached out after that episode and sent me a message on Facebook about how touched she was and how heard and how seen she felt. And that was that's that same feeling. That's that is what I'm searching for. That is what I want in my life.

SPEAKER_03

And that's what you have to hold on to whenever you feel like I'm just spinning my wheels, this ain't going nowhere, nothing's happening. I would rather I'm I'm just gonna quit. Like, that's what you have to hold on to. Oh, well, it was such a pleasure talking to y'all.

SPEAKER_02

Thank y'all so much for coming. No, thank you guys for having me.

SPEAKER_01

This was really helpful because I think like I had so many questions. Okay, how did y'all do this? Did y'all ever experience this? Because, like you said, I mean, there's different things in life, you feel kind of alone, yeah, you know, and so it's like to have other people who have already done it and have you know are ahead of us. Yeah, it's good to kind of you know have those conversations.

SPEAKER_03

Anytime y'all need to ask or talk something.

SPEAKER_02

Yeah, but guess what? We're gonna be asking y'all too.

SPEAKER_03

So thank y'all so much.

SPEAKER_02

Keep that, let's keep that uh that road going. Yeah, both ways. Both ways.

SPEAKER_03

Yeah, absolutely. Um, we'll tell everybody one more time like how they can find you in the podcast, social media, all that.

SPEAKER_04

Well, I want to talk about it. It's the podcast. It's um you can watch it on YouTube, you can listen to it on all of the platforms. Um, you can email us questions, comments, thoughts at um wanna talk pod at gmail. And then social media, obviously, it's Facebook, Instagram. You'll have a page for the podcast? We do. So together.

SPEAKER_01

Okay.

SPEAKER_04

Okay. Yes. We have a podcast. We have personal pages.

SPEAKER_01

We have personal. Yeah, but you're trying to grow that. We have personal, and sometimes you kind of throw some things on there, but we do have a well want to talk about

Where To Find Them And Wrap

SPEAKER_01

it on all their individual pages. Okay. Perfect.

SPEAKER_03

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SPEAKER_00

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