Not Your Therapist

Resentment in Marriage: The Slow Build That’s Hurting Your Relationship

Kayla Reilly MSW, LCSW

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Resentment in marriage doesn’t usually come from one big moment.

It builds slowly… quietly… and often without you even realizing it.

In this episode of Not Your Therapist, we’re talking about how resentment actually forms in relationships — and why so many couples find themselves feeling irritated, disconnected, and emotionally distant without fully understanding why.

Because more often than not, it’s not about the dishes, the laundry, or the little things you’re arguing about.

It’s about the pattern underneath.

We’ll cover:

  •  How resentment builds over time (not overnight) 
  •  The connection between overfunctioning and feeling unsupported
  •  Why doing “more and more” can actually create distance in your marriage 
  •  The role of unspoken expectations and unmet needs
  •  How resentment grows when you consistently override your own needs 
  •  What to start doing instead if you want to feel more connected 

If you’ve ever found yourself snapping at your partner and thinking, “Why am I so irritated all the time?” — this episode will help you understand what’s really going on.

Because resentment isn’t about one moment.

It’s about what’s been building all along.

This podcast is meant to be a conversation — not a lecture. 🖤

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