Not Your Therapist
Life is messy, relationships are complicated, and let’s be real—mental health can feel like a full-time job. If you’re looking for down-to-earth, no-BS conversations about navigating stress, relationships, and personal growth, you’re in the right place.
I’m Kayla Reilly, a licensed therapist, entrepreneur, and real-life human who knows that wellness isn’t about perfection—it’s about finding what actually works for you. This show is for anyone who wants approachable mental health tools, relatable insights, and a little humor along the way.
Each episode, we break down the good, the bad, and the downright frustrating parts of life—from managing anxiety and breaking toxic patterns to setting boundaries and creating balance (without the guilt). No therapy jargon, no fluff—just real talk and practical strategies to help you feel more grounded in your everyday life.
Hit play, get comfortable, and let’s figure this life thing out together.
Episodes
64 episodes
Why Friendships Feel Harder in Your 30s (And No One Talks About It)
Friendships in your 20s felt easy.Friendships in your 30s? They can feel confusing, inconsistent… and if we’re being honest, a little harder than you expected.In this episode of Not Your Therapist, Kayla is break...
Resentment in Marriage: The Slow Build That’s Hurting Your Relationship
Resentment in marriage doesn’t usually come from one big moment.It builds slowly… quietly… and often without you even realizing it.In this episode of Not Your Therapist, we’re talking about how resentment actually forms i...
Narcissism 101: What It Actually Is (And What It Isn’t)
Everyone is a narcissist these days… at least according to the internet.But what does narcissism actually mean? And more importantly — how do you know if you’re dealing with it in real life?In this episode of Not Your Therapis...
The Parenting Trap That Creates Entitlement (Without You Realizing It)
Tantrums are one of the most triggering parts of parenting… and if we’re being honest, sometimes it feels easier to just give in and make it stop.In this episode of Not Your Therapist, we’re talking about what tantrums actually ...
It’s Not About the Puppies: Why You Overcommit When You’re Already Drowning
You’re overwhelmed. Your schedule is full. You’re already stretched thin……and somehow, you still say yes to more.In this episode of Not Your Therapist, we’re breaking down why people overcommit when they...
Why You Shut Down in Arguments
Do you go quiet during conflict?Do you say “I’m fine” when you’re clearly not?Or do you suddenly feel overwhelmed and need to escape the conversation entirely?In this episode, we’re breaking down why people emotionally shut...
Perfectionism Is Making You Miserable (And You Call It ‘Standards’)
You don’t think you’re a perfectionist. You just “have high standards.”You care. You’re driven. You like things done right.So why are you exhausted?In this episode, we’re unpacking the psychology of perfectionis...
Why You’re Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable People
Why do emotionally unavailable people feel magnetic?Why does the hot-and-cold person spark chemistry… while the consistent, emotionally available one feels “boring”?If you keep finding yourself attracted to partners who pull away,...
Why You Overthink Everything
Do you replay conversations before bed? Rewrite texts multiple times before sending? Second-guess decisions long after they’re made?You’re not alone — and you’re not “just anxious.”In this episode, we’re breaking...
TOOLBOX: The Ladder Method to Beat Procrastination & Task Paralysis
Do you ever stare at a task for 30 minutes… and still can’t start?In this ADHD Toolbox episode, I’m walking you through a simple, practical strategy you can use immediately when you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or frozen: The Ladder Metho...
ADHD Treatment: Medication, Therapy & What Actually Works
n this episode, we break down what really works when it comes to ADHD treatment — and why it’s not about fixing your personality or forcing yourself to “try harder.”You’ll learn:The surprising story of how ADHD medication was...
ADHD vs. Anxiety: Why They Feel So Similar
Do you have anxiety… or ADHD… or both?If you’ve ever felt constantly overwhelmed, distracted, restless, or stuck in procrastination — this episode is for you.ADHD and anxiety can look almost identical from the outside. Trouble foc...
Why You Feel Like a Fraud (Even When You’re Doing Well)
You got the promotion. You built the business. You stepped into the new role. You’re doing well.So why do you secretly feel like a fraud?In this episode, we’re unpacking imposter syndrome — why it...
ADHD 101: Why Life Feels Harder Than It Should
Ever wonder why everyday tasks feel exhausting, overwhelming, or harder for you than they seem for everyone else? In this episode, we’re breaking down ADHD in a way that actually makes sense — especially for adults who’ve spent years thinking s...
TOOLBOX: Using Your Container — An Emotional Regulation Skill for Overwhelm
When emotions spike, it’s easy to feel flooded, anxious, or unable to focus. This TOOLBOX episode teaches you how to use your container—a simple, EMDR-informed emotional regulation skill—to manage overwhelming thoughts and feelings w...
TOOLBOX: Create Your Container — An Emotional Regulation Skill for Overwhelm
When emotions feel overwhelming, it can be hard to focus, think clearly, or stay present. This TOOLBOX episode teaches you how to create your container, a simple, EMDR-informed emotional regulation skill designed to help your nervous sys...
Why Grieving Feels Harder Today: The Loss of Ritual and How to Heal
Grief feels heavier today—and it’s not just because loss is painful.In this episode, we explore how the loss of ritual in modern life has made grieving harder, lonelier, and more confusing than it used to be. For centuries, religi...
4 Minutes a Day to a Better Relationship
What if improving your relationship didn’t require therapy homework, long talks, or weekly date nights?In this episode, we’re breaking down how just 4 intentional minutes a day can dramatically strengthen your relationship—using p...
3 Ways to Set Better Boundaries This Year
If setting boundaries is on your New Year list… but you already feel guilty just thinking about it, this episode is for you.In this episode, I break down 3 realistic ways to set better boundaries this year — without over...
Hormones & Mental Health: Why HRT Could Be a Game-Changer
We talk a lot about anxiety and depression—but what if the root cause is your hormones? Hormonal imbalance is showing up earlier and more often than it did two decades ago, and it impacts everything from your sleep to your sex drive to your abi...
Triggers 101: Understanding Your Reactions
You’re having a normal day—coffee in hand, scrolling your phone—and suddenly your chest tightens, your heart races, and you’re spiraling. That’s a trigger. But what exactly does it mean to be “triggered”?In this episode, I’m breaking dow...
Likeability Isn’t Luck: Easy Tips to Boost Your Charisma
Ever met someone who just has it—that mix of confidence, warmth, and magnetism that makes people lean in? That’s charisma. And good news: it’s not some magical personality trait you’re either born with or not—it’s a skill you can actua...
EMDR Explained: What It Is and Who It’s For
Ever wondered what EMDR actually is—or why everyone from trauma therapists to TikTok is talking about it? In this episode, I’m breaking down Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (aka EMDR) in plain English. We’ll cover how ...
#29 Boundary Boot Camp: From People-Pleaser to Self-Protector
The word "boundaries" has become such a buzzword that many people throw it around without truly understanding what it means. But what exactly are boundaries, and why do so many of us struggle to set them effectively?Boundaries aren't ab...
BONUS: Love Island UK Season 12 — A Therapist Breaks Down Harrison, Lauren & Toni
Ever found yourself drawn to someone who couldn't quite decide if they wanted you? The Harrison-Lauren-Tony love triangle from Love Island UK Season 12 offers a perfect case study in toxic relationship patterns that might feel eerily familiar.<...