Not Your Therapist
Life is messy, relationships are complicated, and let’s be real—mental health can feel like a full-time job. If you’re looking for down-to-earth, no-BS conversations about navigating stress, relationships, and personal growth, you’re in the right place.
I’m Kayla Reilly, a licensed therapist, entrepreneur, and real-life human who knows that wellness isn’t about perfection—it’s about finding what actually works for you. This show is for anyone who wants approachable mental health tools, relatable insights, and a little humor along the way.
Each episode, we break down the good, the bad, and the downright frustrating parts of life—from managing anxiety and breaking toxic patterns to setting boundaries and creating balance (without the guilt). No therapy jargon, no fluff—just real talk and practical strategies to help you feel more grounded in your everyday life.
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Not Your Therapist
The Truth About Going No Contact: I Think the New York Times Is Asking the Wrong Question
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Are therapists really encouraging too many people to go no contact with their parents?
The New York Times recently raised that question... and I think they're asking the wrong one.
As a trauma therapist who works with adult children of dysfunctional and emotionally immature families every day, I've seen both sides. Going no contact can be life-changing for some people—and completely unnecessary for others.
The real question isn't "Are therapists causing family estrangement?"
It's "What happens when someone has spent their entire life surviving family dysfunction?"
In this episode, we're talking about:
- Why the conversation around going no contact is so oversimplified.
- When no contact may be appropriate—and when other boundaries might be enough.
- The difference between protecting your peace and cutting people off.
- Why guilt keeps so many adult children stuck in unhealthy family dynamics.
- How emotionally immature parents, family roles, and childhood trauma shape these decisions.
- What healing actually looks like if you want to break the cycle.
If you grew up walking on eggshells, managing your parents' emotions, or wondering whether you're "the problem," this episode is for you.
Because healing isn't about following internet advice.
It's about making decisions from a place of freedom instead of survival.
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