Bookends of Recovery: A Podcast About Addiction, Betrayal Trauma & Healing
I share addiction recovery tools & betrayal trauma support so others don’t learn the hard way like I did. | Clean from my DOC for 30+ years | Healed from betrayal trauma after husband’s pornography addiction disclosure. | You’re not alone. Recovery is possible. I believe in you 🌻
Episodes
95 episodes
After Addiction Disclosure: What to Expect; Betrayal Trauma, Hypervigilance, Chaotic Emotions...and Hope
I think something that’s important to talk about is what happens after addiction disclosure. It was something I wasn’t even remotely prepared to experience. I didn’t expect the emotional chaos that happened in the weeks and months afterward. It...
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Season 2
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Episode 89
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44:16
Brief Announcement...What's Your Daffodil today? Bookends of Recovery eBook on sale
Spring has always felt like the season of regrowth to me.Every year when my daffodils bloom, I’m reminded of something I didn’t always believe was possible… my own healing.In this brief announcement, I’m sharing a reflection on th...
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Season 2
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Episode 88
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4:50
Betrayal Trauma and Hypervigilance: My Story of Healing After Porn Addiction
Today's episode is about what it felt like to discover my husband’s pornography addiction, the hypervigilance that followed, and how healing finally began.
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Season 2
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Episode 87
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36:35
Is Something Wrong or Is It a Trauma Footprint?
I share a recent moment when my brain went straight to panic mode during a simple disagreement, what that taught me about trauma footprints, and the gentle check-in tools that help me stay grounded.
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Season 2
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Episode 86
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26:20
Between the Bookends: A Practical Guide to Recovery & Healing
Recovery and healing don’t have one ending. They have two bookends. One bookend is the moment that changed you. The other is the moment you chose differently.One holds the addiction. The other holds the healing.One holds the betra...
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Season 2
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Episode 85
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35:22
The Strong You: A Guided Meditation
A quick and gentle guided meditation to help you reconnect with your inner strength, especially during moments of fear, doubt, or overwhelm. This practice is about remembering who you are when things feel challenging.
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Season 2
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Episode 84
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9:50
Rebuilding Self Confidence after Addiction and Betrayal Trauma
If you’re in recovery, loving someone with addiction, or healing from betrayal trauma, struggling with confidence is incredibly common. Learn how to rebuild it in today's episode.
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Season 2
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Episode 83
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32:21
Valentine’s Week When You Love Someone with an Addiction
Valentine’s week can be challenging for a lot of people.But if you’re in a relationship with an addiction, especially pornography and/or sex and love addiction, it can feel even more overwhelming.If you’re struggling this week, you’r...
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Season 2
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Episode 82
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26:18
Stop the Chaos: Finding Ground When Emotions Feel Like Too Much (with a free workbook)
Have you ever felt that kind of internal chaos? The racing thoughts. The emotional whiplash. The urge to numb or fix something that isn’t yours to fix. That moment when fight, flight, freeze, or fawn kicks into overdrive. Whether yo...
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Season 2
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Episode 81
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27:24
Workbook Walkthrough: Three Circles & CFT
As promised...it's a workbook walkthrough for The Three Circles & CFT (You don't need the workbook ...
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Season 2
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Episode 80
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19:32
The Three Circles & CFT: Recovery, Boundaries, and Healing for Addicts and Their Loved Ones
In today's episode, I revisit The Three Circles and add in CFT. It creates structure without shame, boundaries without pressure, and awareness without rigidity. And when both partners use it, it becomes a shared language for healing instead of ...
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Season 2
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Episode 79
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25:53
ARC: Tool for Moving Through Triggers, Workbook Walkthrough with a Special Announcement
ARC is a three-step tool for moving through triggers in a way that supports your healing instead of overwhelming it. Today's episode is a
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Season 2
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Episode 78
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26:53
Self-Grace in the New Year with a Workbook Walkthrough
This week’s episode is focused on something I’m practicing this year: self-grace. It includes a workbook...
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Season 2
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Episode 77
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19:23
Workbook Walkthrough: Will you set recovery & healing resolutions or intentions?
As the new year begins, many of us start hearing the familiar question: Should I make resolutions or set intentions? They may sound similar, but they come from very different places. Which one works best for you? With this
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Season 2
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Episode 76
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23:16
Announcement: AMA on Reddit 12/29/25-1/2/26
I’ll be off work next week and thought this would be a good time to open the floor for an AMA on my Reddit page.
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2:59
Quick Guided Meditation for Releasing Stress, Worry, and Regret
In this guided meditation, you’re invited to slow down, breathe deeply, and release the weight you’ve been carrying.I use gentle imagery and intentional breathing to help you exhale stress, let go of worries about the future, and loosen ...
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Season 2
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Episode 75
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12:23
Compartmentalization in Recovery and Healing: Understanding the Survival Strategy
If you’ve ever felt like you’re living as different versions of yourself, this one’s for you. In this episode, I'm talking about compartmentalization and how it shows up in addiction and healing for both the person in recovery and the people wh...
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Season 2
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Episode 74
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33:20
Part Two Workbook Walkthrough: Tools to Handle Stress, The Ultimate Workbook
Stress sucks! Let's talk about ways to relieve it. This is part two of the walkthrough of my workbook, but don't worry, you do not need it in f...
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Season 2
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Episode 73
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45:44
Workbook Walkthrough Part One: Tools to Handle Stress, The Ultimate Workbook
Dealing with stress? Who isn't right? This is part one of the walkthrough of my workbook, but don't worry, you do not need it in front of you t...
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Season 2
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Episode 72
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37:21
Gratitude Rewires Our Brain: Perfect for Addiction Recovery & Healing
Gratitude isn’t about pretending everything’s fine. It’s about retraining your brain to notice what’s also true. It’s also about understanding, “Yes, this is hard, but look at all the good that’s still around me.” And...
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Season 2
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Episode 71
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28:12
The Gray Area in Recovery and Healing: Why There Are No Absolutes
Black-and-white thinking brings us comfort in a chaotic world. When life gets challenging, like it does in addiction or betrayal, gray feels like quicksand. It means we might have to sit in discomfort, hold conflicting truths, or accept that we...
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Season 2
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Episode 70
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20:04
Beating Boredom in Recovery and Healing
Boredom is the time to experiment, to rediscover what excites you when you’re not chasing a dopamine hit. And no offense to workout routines or organizing your junk drawer (again), but there’s a whole world beyond the usual “healthy hobbies” we...
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Season 2
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Episode 69
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27:25
Breathe Through It: Simple Breathwork Tools for Calm and Focus
When stress hits, our bodies often go into fight, flight, fawn, or freeze mode. It can show up as a tight chest, racing thoughts, or shallow breathing. In this episode, we’ll slow it all down and practice three powerful breathwork tools: be...
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Season 2
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Episode 68
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20:20
From Fear to Freedom: Simple Tools to Calm Your Mind
Fear can stop us in our tracks, keeping us stuck in anxiety, overthinking, or avoidance. In this episode, I share two simple techniques: Play the Script to the End and Stop Sign methods. They help you quiet fear, calm your min...
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Season 2
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Episode 67
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21:47
Core Boundaries That Remind You of Your Strength and Worth During Recovery & Healing
Boundaries aren’t about pushing people away, they’re about protecting your healing and recovery and honoring your worth. In this episode, I share core personal boundaries, why they matter, and reflection prompts you can use today. If you strugg...
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Season 2
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Episode 66
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