Reclaim Your Body & Life in Midlife with Diane Flores

Reclaim Your Body & Life in Midlife with Diane Flores

Ditch diet culture, lift heavy, and step unapologetically into your power.

What does it really take to feel strong, sexy, and confident in your body—especially in midlife? In this powerful episode of A Beautiful Fix, Tracy Hill sits down with Diane Flores, the unapologetic host of Boss Bitch Radio, fitness coach, and former professional bodybuilder who helps women ditch diet culture and reclaim their confidence through strength training and self-love.

Diane’s journey from teen mom to multi-six-figure entrepreneur and IFBB Pro is raw, honest, and incredibly inspiring. She shares how pole dancing helped her heal body shame, why lifting heavy is the key to aging strong, and how embracing her Human Design as a 5/2 Generator changed everything. Together, Tracy and Diane explore what it means to reclaim your life and body from the inside out—especially when the world keeps telling women to shrink.

If you’ve ever struggled with confidence, body image, or burnout, this conversation will remind you that it’s never too late to feel alive, powerful, and at home in your own skin.

Listen to hear:

• How Diane went from teen mom to powerhouse fitness entrepreneur
• The truth about lifting weights for women in midlife
• Why ditching diet culture is the ultimate act of self-love
• How Human Design can help you trust your gut and own your energy
• Simple mindset shifts to feel strong, confident, and free

Reclaim your power. Reconnect with your body. Remember how beautiful life really is.

Connect with Diane Flores

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Website: BossBitchRadio.com

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Reclaim Your Body & Life in Midlife with Diane Flores

Ditch diet culture, lift heavy, and step unapologetically into your power.

 [00:00:00] if I can get a woman to feel comfortable with her body in such a raw and vulnerable way. Yes, girl. When you step outside the door, that shit is so powerful.

Like, yes, it's so good.

[00:01:00] 

Diane Flores is the unapologetic voice behind Boss Bitch Radio. Helping women ditch diet culture reclaim their confidence and build a body and life they love A powerhouse coach, entrepreneur, and speaker. Diane Blends no BS truth telling with compassion, empowering women to live authentically and boldly in their own skin.

But before we dive in, I always love to peek at my guess human design because it's such a fun way to see how we're all uniquely wired. Diane is a five two generator with sacral authority, which means her magic is in responding to what lights her up and trusting those gut yeses. I cannot wait to see how that plays into our conversation today.[00:02:00] 

Diane, welcome to a beautiful fix. What a lovely introduction. Thank you so much. I have the chills because you just tied that all together so beautifully. So thank you for having me. This is gonna be so much fun. I'm glad that we connected. It's Diana. I am so excited for today's conversation. So I was bingeing before we hopped on.

I've been binge, uh, listening to your podcast and you have that energy. You just, I, I'm like an energetic vampire. I just want it. I love your confidence. I love your authenticity. I love how you show up. Um, it's, I, I wanna hear it all. Would you mind just kind of taking us a little bit through your journey on how you got to where you are today?

Oh, how long do we have? We have as much time as you need. Okay. I mean, really what I want people to take away from this is. Where I originated from and sort of my [00:03:00] family of origin and everything that when I was born, you would think would set me up, would not be to where I'm at right now. And it was through a lot of.

Very difficult times. I got pregnant as a young teen. I had two kids by the time I was 19, I became a single mom when my daughter was born. So I had two small children at the age of 19. And I knew when I got pregnant that my life was gonna be changing dramatically and it. The way that I perceived it was my life was no longer mine.

Like I couldn't just focus on myself. I was to be in service of my children. And as a teenager, I mean, I did my best. I know I certainly wasn't the perfect parent, but through that journey, I didn't know who I was. Right? I, I was like this black sheep. This is a story I told myself I would go to school. I had no friends.

I was introverted. [00:04:00] It was very difficult for me growing up because my sister and I got moved around a lot. We had a third sister that ended up, um, passing away. And so through all of this, we were moving a lot. And my, my, my sister who's living my younger sister, you know, we could. Go anywhere and she would meet friends and that was not the case for me.

It was always a challenge. And so that sort of embodiment of feeling like I was just invisible, uh, was like a little bit of a shield for me. And so I was not confident. I struggled with looking in the mirror. I had all the typical things that, um, somebody who isn't confident would, would struggle with, uh, my own depression and.

Things of that nature. So lots of body image issues and struggles with just connecting with other women in general. Now, fast forward, I um, I. Really hustled to get out [00:05:00] of my teenage mom years. I was on welfare and Medi-Cal and government assistance and every living in the projects, I was doing all the things.

I was working two jobs. I worked in the medical field and I also worked at Gold's Gym and I, I was always very, um. Sort of intrigued by women who looked athletic and strong, and I would see them come in and then I was sort of mesmerized by this and I thought, wow, this, they just walk with so much confidence and poise and I'd see these moms, I worked in the daycare because I could bring my kids with me to work and.

The owners of that gym were actual bodybuilders. And so that sort of sprinkled the seed of curiosity for me and I would go in the gym and start kind of tinkering around, didn't really know what I was doing. Eventually, um, through all that, ended up getting married, having a third son, still dabbling in the gym and realizing very early on when I got my first, well probably [00:06:00] second like real career job in the medical field that.

Health was so important. Health was such an important piece of everything we do, our, our mental health, um, how we show up for people throughout the day, uh, just how we handle stress. And when I started really getting consistent with my exercise and going to like fitness classes and things like that. It was another way for me to manage my stress and my, and my depression because I always felt like I couldn't really like, speak my mind, right?

I couldn't just be myself. I was really struggling with a lot of, you know, childhood traumas and not having my mom around and my dad ignoring me the whole nine months. I'm pregnant with my youngest son and I'm living under his roof, like, like a lot of things, and so I just sometimes wanted to melt into the background throughout my career in the medical field, I.

I, because of this really difficult time with expressing myself and, [00:07:00] uh, you know, kind of standing up for myself, I was working for somebody who, uh, was very difficult. I mean, I was crying daily leaving there. I worked there for almost 10 years. Um, he was very well known in our community to just be someone that was incredibly difficult to deal with.

And I dealt with him 40 hours per week and I started to excel, um, quickly because as I. Stepped into his office and worked in the back end of, uh, infectious disease. I was really intrigued in, um, seeing how, you know, the healing process worked and all these things. So I eventually ended up working myself into being his assistant and doing rounds with him at the hospital and being basically his right hand.

And when I left there. Finally it was because I got pregnant with my third son, and it was when I really understood the link between stress and the environment that you're in and your mental health. Because throughout [00:08:00] that 10 year journey of being employed by this man, I was on every antidepressant you could imagine.

And we have a strong family history of depression and anxiety. And so I just felt I was destined like this is just what's, you know, meant for me and it still creeps up. It still pops up. I think it's just a part of situational type stresses when some of those thoughts will sometimes rear their ugly heads.

But what I found fascinating is that when I really started to pay attention to my fitness, my mood changed the way that I could handle my children, changed the way I felt about my body, changed like so many things just by going to the gym for an hour and doing hard things. So that became a passion of mine, and I started collecting magazines, and I started getting into forums and when this was a thing, you know, 20 years ago, and to spare you another hour's worth of explanation, essentially, I started getting more into fitness.

I started working as a [00:09:00] personal trainer. I immediately decided. At that time, I didn't really align with their ethics at the gym because they were trying to sort of convince people into. Personal training in a manner that did not feel good. It felt just slimy, like make them feel really terrible about themselves and like this whole thing.

And so I quit relatively soon and I thought, I'm gonna do this on my terms. And I didn't realize that it was gonna turn out this way 20 years later. But through that journey, I started a business with my sister teaching women how to pole dance, and it started as a mobile business. We would go, like if you were getting married, we'd come to your house and pop up our portable pole and we'd teach you how to pole dance.

And it was the beginning of what was an incredible journey of being connected to how women think what they really want and understanding what they. Come to us thinking [00:10:00] they need, but what, what, what I know they really need. Right? They want like abs and, but I know you really are trying to feel sexy when you're with your partner with the lights on, right?

Like we gotta get to the root of things. Yeah. So, you know, just the fun little entrepreneurial story of that is we went from mobile pole dancing to owning a or or opening up a 500 square foot studio. To a 1500 square foot studio to a, a location that I have now that's almost 2,500 square feet. Over the course of the last 20 years, and through that, much like my human design suggests, I had those ebbs and flows of when things were, I was really lit up about stuff.

Like, you couldn't shut me up. I, that's all I wanted to talk about. I, I was able to really build an amazing, incredible, you know. Multiple six figure business off of just being so passionate because I was sharing with people like, this is what I'm doing. You [00:11:00] need to have this, like more people need this.

And so it went from pole dancing to then realizing women needed, uh, more things with their health and fitness. Right? Not just the wonderful release that it is to just. Dance, like no one's watching and have a great time. They needed more strength because I started getting into bodybuilding and, and really chase that rabbit as a fascination, and I ended up becoming a professional bodybuilder.

I, I ended, ended up doing 16 bodybuilding shows. Sometimes it boggles my mind that I still even, that's even a thing. And I brought in things like boot camps and all these different modalities. To really help shape the woman as a whole from teaching, you know, financial independence sometimes on my podcast, all these things because so much of that matters and I've really built a lot of independence on my own a lot of times doing, you know, learning [00:12:00] from doing difficult things and making mistakes, but really just trying to lessen the learning curve for most women.

That's really my mission. It's like, let's just. You're spinning your wheels, like, why are we doing this? I promise you, I can help you figure it out. Right? When it comes to your health and fitness, even mindset stuff, um, you know, financial things. And now really what the Boss Bitch Empire looks like is, I have a personal training studio in California, which again, because I am a generator and you know, we, we have to lead with our passions.

I. I wanted to come more online. I wanted to reach more women. And so I started the Boss Bitch Radio podcast about four years ago. And at that point we had just also made another transition in my business. So I went from pole dancing to bootcamp and I went, I went all in on personal training. And so I invested a lot in typical gym machines that most [00:13:00] women are afraid to use because they're just so intimidated.

They don't, they think they're gonna get bulky. Right. But I had done. 16 years of bodybuilding, I had com put a hundred girls on stage. I knew what it took to really build that athletic physique that a lot of women were wanting. And I knew it wasn't gonna be doing a Zumba class and going for a walk and, you know, drinking your collagen shake.

Like it, it wasn't that, it's not that simple that, you know, if that's what you're doing, that's why you're frustrated and so. I, I put in these heavy duty intimidating machines to teach women that this is how you build curves on your body if you want glutes, if you, you know, all these things. And so it was incredible because at that point when I made that shift, it was when COVI hit I was already at sort of a breaking point point in my business because I was no longer passionate about the business model that we had.

I knew that I didn't build my body off of doing boot camps, and a lot of these women [00:14:00] where we were servicing were coming into my location because they had seen my pictures all over the internet. They had seen me looking shredded in a bikini and you know, posting my AB selfies and all this. And then they'd come in and they'd be like, I want arms like yours or this and that.

And there's a small population where that's possible. But the reality of it is, is I was spending three days lifting. Heavier than like 10 pound dumbbells. Right? And so when COVID came, the group class thing was looking like it needed to evaporate completely because of what we were dealing with in the pandemic.

And so I decided to make a hard pivot and I said, we're gonna go all into personal training because I know that this is what women need. They're afraid to go into the gym. They don't understand how to use machines. This is where we are fighting. You know, bone density loss. We're reversing diabetes. We're, you know, staying leaner.

We can eat more food. We don't have to diet like psychos because we can act, we actually [00:15:00] have muscle that requires food to stay on our bodies, right? And so I got on the phone with every single one of my clients at that time and I said, look, I have a big ask for you. Because of the pandemic, I've decided to go into a personal training model because it's what I've been wanting to do and I know that that's what really brings results.

And we're gonna go from 18 women max in a class to four to six women max. And you're gonna see. Results two times faster because my eyes are on you. I'm able to touch you. I'm able to like fix your form and it's, you're not shoveling out loads of money for one-on-one personal training, but you're basically, you know, my attention to detail.

Like I'm gonna be there with you. I think all but three of our members at that time. Decided to say, I'm with you. And I was charging them double, double for less, right? I, if you think about it, right? They were doing [00:16:00] like unlimited memberships and they were coming to these boot camps and wondering why things weren't working.

And I'd have 16 to 18 people and now I'm asking you to pay double to come in because it's high touch. Like you're gonna get somebody who's able to spend the time with you. So I know that was sort of tangenty, but it's really the power of when you're convicted about something. And it's just what you know to be true.

Even though you know other people may have their opinions. People that know, like, and trust you and love you are going to follow you, and I've been very blessed to lead as or you know, are authentically as possible and find strength in. The ability to share with podcasts and be behind a mic and really build my confidence over the last four years with the podcast that it's called in a lot of women who were very much like me, the, the quiet, shy introverts.

And it's been a, it's been a wonderful journey and I'm selling my business in [00:17:00] California and I'm all in online, which I'm couldn't be happier about. Diane, I'm just eating this up. I'm literally, I just, I wish I had a big old. Thing of popcorns. This is, you're like popping popcorn. Yes. It's such an empowering story.

So many people just starting from the very beginning, finding out that at such a young age you're gonna be a mom. You know, going from um, life being about you to being responsible for another life is so life changing and to do it at such a young age, but for you. It's just beautiful to watch how your journey, you didn't let any of this stop you.

It, it's like it, it built you up, it made you stronger. You were always kinda looking for the next opportunity. And um, it's interesting 'cause as a 5 2, 1 of the things is it's you, you are naturally magnetic. You have, there's a certain seduction. Two a, a five, two, and I can completely see it. I, because of the way you [00:18:00] show up, you make space for us.

I grew up, um, you know, I'm an introvert. I grew up shy. So when I see women just owning it and just walking in it, I, I'm all for it. But I was gonna say, um, just going back to the pole dancing, everything about your story was very empowering. I wish I could remember the name of the woman. She used to have a show and I think it was on Netflix for a while.

I cannot remember her name, but she was teaching women pole dancing. Sheila, Sheila Kelly? Probably yes. Was it stand up ri or something? Well, yes. Okay. You know what I'm talking about? Stand up to rise up. Mm-hmm. Yes. I loved the, the documentary and I actually took a, I was on some call where she was a guest speaker and um, I apologize.

They're cutting the grass right outside this window. It's all good. It's all good. Um, it's been an interesting day, Diane, of it's, everything is like lining up, but anyway. So I was in this class with her and she was talking about pole dancing, but it, it's an amazing, first of all, it takes so much, uh, [00:19:00] strength, um, but it wasn't pole dancing.

I'm sorry. She was showing us just how to move, um, move your hips, move in a sensual way. But the beauty of it, was it what you were not doing it for a man? It had nothing absolutely to do with, we sexualized so many different things in this country. Was. She was saying that you're doing it for yourself, you're doing it to honor the beautiful feminine body, um, and enjoy moving in essential way.

I found it very hard to do. I couldn't stop laughing. I was in my room. I had the door closed. 'cause you're not, I'm not used to it. So, hearing your story that that was something that you were doing for women, I know that so many women gravitated to when it became kind of trendy to do pole dancing. I think for that reason.

Yeah, it was, I I, my pole dancing, the part of my life was about 11 years. It's what started me in business. And you really, it was, it was fascinating. I, I [00:20:00] mean, I knew nothing about starting a business. I literally, my sister and I taught ourselves. We bought a DVD and we taught ourselves, and I said, as long as we can remain five steps ahead.

Of everybody who signs up with us, we're golden. We're good. Yes. Yeah, she, she's like, all right. So, and that's really how it started. And when I first started, I thought this would be so much fun because in our small town in California, there was nobody offering anything like that. The nearest place was about two hours away, and so I thought.

We gotta capitalize on this because women are gonna love this. This is so much fun. Like, who doesn't? And, and this was my thought back then is who doesn't want to know how to move like a stripper? Like that was what I kind of, that was like my default back then. But what I came to find out is that. Women are holding in a lot of shame about things that they've experienced.

Maybe traumas, um, sexual [00:21:00] abuse, uh, partnered abuse. So many things. I was not, when I signed up to be a personal trainer, I did not anticipate I was going to get to learn so much about. What women go through because it became a sanctuary. They felt safe there and we were doing a very vulnerable type of exercise, right?

You're gyrating your hips and you're undulating your spine and you're touching your body. And that's like such a foreign concept for most women. And then you want me to do this in public? Yeah. Like with people, right? Right. And what's hilarious is because to me, is. The Queen of introverts is teaching pole dance, like how does that even happen?

But I was so intrigued by it. It was something that when I saw it was even a thing, I was like, I have to try this. Right? I'm very much that type of person. If there's something out there, I, I just have to try it. And so when. We started diving more into the background about pole [00:22:00] dancing and really how many different ways people use it as an expression.

There are some people that like it to be more athletic and it's more about doing like the tricks and all the crazy stuff on the pole. There's some people that really want more of like that exotic dancer style. Like there's so many different ways people do salsa poll, like it's very creative, but when.

It came to what lit me up and I knew what made me realize quickly about this sort of like sensual creature that lives within me that I honor like every day now, right? With like little luxurious moments throughout my day is. I started teaching sensual movement and so the side segue story of my entrepreneurial jury, uh, journey is through the evolution of all this and bodybuilding.

I also created a central movement program for people to do online, and it has like a course with all these videos, and I have the music list and everything too, [00:23:00] because I knew that. If you, if, if I can get a woman to feel comfortable with her body in such a raw and vulnerable way. Yes, girl. When you step outside the door, that shit is so powerful.

Like, yes, it's so good. And so with all of these things, it's been a really fun tool for me to also use with my one-on-one coaching clients or you know, I have a group coaching program as well, and I'll throw them some little challenges and stuff, but. It's, it's so much fun. It's so much fun. Once you can get over the giggles and you just enjoy it and don't get, don't take yourself too seriously is what I would tell my clients all the time.

It really is a lot of fun. It is, absolutely. I I love that. Um, so what, you gotta tell us the, the story behind the name. Lost Bitch Radio is, is that specific [00:24:00] to your podcast or was your gym called that as well? What's the story behind the name? So my gym, my studio is called, it's Venus. It used to be Venus Pole Fitness.

And then we, when we took the poles out, it became Venus Fitness Studio. So that's what it is now. And that was really my. Passion for, uh, just goddesses and like, just, just the whole goddess ethereal kind of vibes. But when it came to Boss Bitch Radio, when I was brainstorming the name, I hired a podcast coach and I sat with him and he's like, well, what, what's like the feeling?

Right? Like, what are you? And I said, well, I feel like I've gone to the School of Heart knocks and. Through that. I have like a PhD and I want to make sure that. My podcast is a place where I can share my opinions and my [00:25:00] thoughts about things that a lot of personal trainers and people in fitness aren't going to talk about, like the stuff that I really know is going on, right?

With women or, you know, controversial things in bodybuilding that a lot of body. Females and bodybuilders don't wanna speak about just kind of pulling the curtain back and not being a gatekeeper. And so one of the names that came up was, um, and, and alongside with that is really just the art of teaching women to be more independent because with independence comes confidence too.

And so that, you know, across all things, business, money, everything, relationships. Um, so with that, I had. Front Burner Bitch was my first choice. Okay. And I was like, you know, I don't know that I love that because a lot of it is me just telling women, you know, coaching women to really think about themselves first because they're so outward focused and you know, pouring into everyone else's cups.

[00:26:00] And then when I played around with the name a little bit and Boss Bitch Radio came up, I was like, that's it. That's just, that's just it, you know? So it just felt right. And you've been podcasting for four years now. Yeah. Yeah. I think I'm like at th episode 360 something kind of crazy. Yeah. That's phenomenal.

So let's, let's talk a little bit about health because you're, you're so good at that, that is your world. I, for me, I'm trying, I mean, as generators, exerci exercise, exercise is important for everyone. Obviously it's important for everyone, but as generators, because we do have access to all of this energy movement is even more important because it helps us kind of use up that battery so that at night we can, you know, hit the pillow and, um, fall asleep.

So I'm not the best Diane with, with, with working out and movement. My husband is very much like you. He's in the gym. He is. Um, he lifts weights all the time. [00:27:00] He used to compete. For me, I, in June, I had a challenge where I challenged all my listeners to do Delusional June, where you just wake up June one as her.

I didn't know what that meant, but you're just gonna wake up as her, your future self. She already knows. And so when I woke up on June 1st, what happened was I started working out. I was not, besides walking here and there, I wasn't doing a whole lot. But I watched some videos on social media and normally when I watch videos I'm like, oh, that's really good.

I'm gonna save that. And then I never go back to it. And as I was getting ready to save it, I heard her voice say, or we could just do it now. And I was like, damn it. So I did it and I did it every single day for June. And it's what, August some. I'm still doing it. I can tell. That I'm not quite, I used to jump up outta bed and do it first thing in the morning.

I can feel I'm slipping a little bit. So I do these little workouts. Um, I do yoga twice a week now. Um, yin yoga and then just kind of more traditional yoga and I walk, but I know I need to lift weight. [00:28:00] I know I need the heavy weights for, you know, building bone. Um, what would you say to someone who knows the importance of it, but maybe, you know, we're not doing what we should, how do we get started?

How do, what would you recommend? Okay. I love this. This is great. This is a frequent scenario for me. So one thing I really try to impress upon my clients is, is. Bone is active tissue, and so you are indeed correct, right? Bone is active. And so in order for us to preserve it, especially as women, because we can very easily become osteo, you know, osteoporotic if you will, lifting is gonna be so key for that.

You wanna be pushing your body up against resistance now. We know that, but yet a lot of us aren't doing it right and we need to figure out why not. So I will ask a question like, what are the barriers? What's getting in the way? What is your struggle? What are you afraid of? So that's where I would start [00:29:00] with you, right?

Is that rhetorical? Do you want me? Yeah, let's do it. I'd love, let's, yeah. So this is gonna be just so sad. You're gonna lose any, if you had any amount of respect for me, it's gonna be gone. But if I had to be honest, our gym is in the basement. It. My excuses are ridiculous. I'm not a basement person. Keep going person.

You're good. I, I don't like having to go to the basement for really anything. It, there's spiders down there. It's colder. Like I have a list of it. So everything that I do is upstairs. It's in the sunlight. It's something about going downstairs to the gym. I already feel that. Ugh. And I'm not naturally drawn to lifting heavy weights.

I am more of a yoga person. It's, to me, it's very spiritual. It stops my mind when I do yoga, which is not easy. Um, something about just, I'm not very good at it. It doesn't, it just doesn't feel, but I. I will say I do go through little um, stints where I will work out with heavy weights and I was doing it for a [00:30:00] while and there's something that happens when you do start to get good at it and you see that your lift, you're going up higher in the weights and your form is better.

I will say I start to enjoy it more. It's just getting me from where I am now to starting. Yes, so. With that. I will say I love yoga too. I've probably done 50, at least 50 yoga classes this year, and I only know that 'cause I'm on ClassPass and I've done way more yoga than I have weight training because.

Uh, I've been lifting weights for so forever, so I just, I do the minimum effective dose, right? Like, just to kind of keep everything healthy and firm and tight. I'm not trying to build anymore, you know, I probably wanna drop another five. To 10 pounds for health reasons, really more than anything. But when I'm talking with my clients, I want to really impress upon them that it doesn't need to be one or the other.

Right? I we get really like pigeonholed into like, well, I [00:31:00] just do CrossFit or I, this was, I hear it all the time 'cause I was this person, oh, I just do bodybuilding. I just do yoga. I'm a Pilates girl. I think all of those can coexist. I think they need to coexist because. You have to think about just the different motions of your body, the the things that you want to be able to continue to do as you grow older.

Right? So for example, for me, I wanna be able to, I have like an A ledge above my kitchen and I wanna be able to step on my step stool, step on the counter, and go up there to feed my plants and come down and do all that so I can remain independent, right? Like, yeah. So I know that the stronger I am. I'll be able to do that for a lot longer.

So what does my gym programming look like? I'm doing step ups, I'm doing step downs. I'm using weights so that way my legs get stronger. So then body weight feels like a breeze, right? So I would sit with you and I would say, okay, what are the functions that are important to you as [00:32:00] you, as you're wanting to age?

Um, what. Uh, what do you have access to at home that we can negotiate and not be part of your program? And what do you need to outsource? Because, you know, we can't trust you to do it, right? Yes. And so for some, for right now I have a, a client that I'm working with that's a therapist, and she's lovely. And, uh, I have another client who is a coach.

I'm kinda like the coach's coach. And, and the coach, they have similar but different stories. But the coach, um. You know, kind of same thing. Struggles with getting to the gym and I said, you're gonna need to take, take a look at that. And you know that if you pay somebody and you have an appointment on the books, you're gonna show up.

People freak out about that, you know? Oh. And that becomes a thing. But I think if you can even do that once a week. And you hire a trainer that is, has to be familiar with middle aged women's fitness. You, [00:33:00] because I, listen, I, when I'm at the gym, I have the hardest time watching these male, young male trainers with women because they're doing all kinds of crazy stuff, you know, and it's, it's like, it doesn't even make any sense sometimes.

So I think knowing what your goals are so you can age gracefully and still do what you wanna do and love are so key. And then building your routine around that. And, you know, whatever else, uh, just kind of pokes up. You can have vanity goals too. That's absolutely okay. And then you work those in. Okay. And, um, would you say that the number one thing women and midlife should be doing is lifting heavy weights, or is it really not that easy to pinpoint?

One thing? I think that there's a lot of crossover when you do resistance training into other things. So when you, when you do resistance training, strength training, you know, lifting weights, um, I'll use those terms, uh, fluidly. But when you are putting weight up against your spine, you know, maybe you're doing [00:34:00] a squat or whatever, you are working into mobility and flexibility naturally right?

With, with weight, and it's going to, you know, provide some resistance. So. Your strength training, you're also getting flexibility. You're working on your mobility just by the nature of executing specific exercises, right? Yes. Now, if you are training and you're not just scrolling on TikTok in between your sets and this and that, and you go in, you follow a plan, you know what you're supposed to be executing and how long you should be resting between your sets.

You get in, you get out 45 minutes to an hour. There's a little bit of a cardiovascular component to that as well. So I don't wanna like stick my flag in the sand or however you wanna say that phrase, on just, you know, saying that strength training is the end all be all. Because I don't want people to just only think about that because those other things will get touched, right?

The cardio, the flexibility, the mobility while you're doing strength training, but not to the degree that [00:35:00] we probably need, you know, to maintain like a low levels of body fat. And honestly for longevity. Okay, good to, good to know. Um, yeah, I just, I have, I have to figure this out. It's something I know I need to do more of.

Um, so listening to you, I was like, I, this is, you're a good reminder that I need to get back into this. Yeah. And if your partner already does it, girl, yeah. You're already ahead of the game because I have so many women over in 20 years who have said, my partner wants nothing to do with this. I mean, it comes between their relationships.

I mean, it's a whole thing. So my partner and I are the, you know, he owns a gym and a supplement shop, so it's, it's kind of cheating for me, you know, like we, we are, we're both in health and fitness, but, but even we struggle and I know that. When we're together, it's like, alright, we're gonna go do this. And we go work out together and, and it's great.

And it's a great thing for us, for our relationship as well. [00:36:00] Yes. Uh, for sure. Yeah. Um, so Diane, when, when was the turning point where you kind of stopped worrying about how others perceived you or you stepped into this, this energy, this unapologetic No BS authentic. I'm showing up. The way that I am kind of energy.

You know, Tracy, I think it's a culmination of these scenarios that I've gone through in my life that have been imprinted upon my brain. And what I mean by that is scenarios such as. People making fun of my shoes in school because we had to shop at Kmart or the secondhand store, thrift store, whatever you wanna call it.

And I'd get teased at school for my clothes and eating lunch in the bathroom in high school because I had one friend and when she didn't come to school, I'd freak out and I would just walk the campus and then end up in the bathroom eating my lunch, like all through high school. Now mind you, I only lasted until junior year because I got pregnant [00:37:00] and then I had to go on independent studies.

But all of these little. Touchstones, you know, my father not speaking to me when I got pregnant. Um, just the boss that I had that would just mentally, you know, poke at me and all of these little things. And then finally when I started my business and I decided to, to, to do go pole dancing. I mean, what other controversial thing could I have possibly done in terms of starting a business, right?

Like I have been asked, are you a stripper? My kids got teased at school. It was like a whole thing and, and then, you know, I started bodybuilding. I'm in this like tiny little bikini. But I think through all of these little instances, realizing that. Eventually, as it became an adult, is that people don't really think about you as much as you think they do.

So true. Right? Yeah. Like I was always so worried about what everybody else thought, and so I was [00:38:00] afraid to be myself and this and that, and I'm like, now it's like post and go, post and go like, you know, on social media, like there's some things I'll post. I'll be like, uh, it's a little bit, and if I'm like this about it, I'm like, oh, that's a good one post.

And then it'll be like, one of my most, it's one of my most popular, you know, posts or, or podcasts. So, uh, I think just a culmination of those things and realizing like, I'm independent. I pay my own bills. I'm incredibly successful. I left a marriage from a man who was having multiple affairs on me with my, all three of my children.

I left and have been independent ever since. And I think there's just some kind of. I don't give a fuck what you have to say about it. You know, like, it's, it's fine. You do you I do me. Yeah. And at the end of the day, that's great. You know, I love it. I, um, I wanted to ask you about your profile in human design.

So you're a five two. Okay. And five, two [00:39:00] profiles are, um, they can be relatively rare, but, um, the, the, the five is you are here to impact. To really impact the world. It's, it's the kind of energy that it is kind of beyond your inner network. It's really about having an impact on people. With the Line five though, it can also be the savior energy where you feel like people look to you to have to fix everything.

Um, and it can be draining. Um, and with line fives, you get projected on a lot. Positively and negatively. So sometimes people will project onto you, here's what I need you to be, Diane. Here's what I need you to, you know, this is what I need from you. It's almost like a mirror. And I just was wondering if you could, if you found that to be true a little bit.

But then the line too is the hermit energy. And this is where I was really curious, just hearing your story. So what that is. You're born with these innate natural talents. [00:40:00] But the magic is when you are a little bit reclusive and you give yourself time to yourself, that solitude is where you kind of own that skill.

You kind of get to know yourself, and then you can kind of reemerge from it with the kind of energy that you have. I'm just curious it, does any of that ring true for you, or can you give us examples of how that's shown up in your life? It is a hundred percent true. It is a hundred percent true. So I dove into human design earlier this year through a therapist I was working with and.

YI just, you know, I just went down the rabbit hole. I, I am definitely neurodivergent and so when I get on a topic and I'm interested in something, I am like researching until I feel satisfied. Yes. And so. I still wasn't satisfied because what I was finding this five two, uh, you know, being a generator, sacral authority, like all these [00:41:00] things I was, I felt so seen.

It felt like just one big fat permission slip. And then I interviewed this lovely gal, Dana Faye. She does human design, human design readings, and, uh, she's amazing. And after I had her on my show. I was like, I need, I need a session with you. So I was actually just telling my sister this story. How funny.

And so we had a session, and mind you, I've never met her. I mean, we met online and I think I sent you her, um, yeah. Report, right? So she goes through this with me. And I'm just stunned. That's literally the only word I can think is absolutely stunned. I mean, I got off the phone or off Zoom with her and I'm trying to process all that because everything she was saying about me, reclosing and taking time alone and then needing to take, I'm not necessarily a manifester, but I need to take lots of [00:42:00] thoughts and then I need to kind of like put 'em in a cauldron and like stir it around and then.

Just see what kind of soup it makes and then it's my soup. It does, and then that's how I share it. Right. And that's how I interpret, interpret it with the world. But most definitely, um, I mean, growing up my parents were always constantly like, you need to smile more. You're so shy. Come outta your room. Why are you so quiet?

You need to talk more. Right? This is what was just constantly fed to me, and I'm just, I would just be an observer and I would like to retreat and be in my room for. Hours on end and never go out with my friends. I'm, and I'm very much still that way. You know, I just recently became an empty nester a little bit over, almost two years ago, and I decided that I wanted to live alone.

I have not lived alone my entire life. Yes, right. Like I went from being a child, living with my parents to being a mom and then, you know, [00:43:00] so I've never lived alone. And I thought that's an experience that I deserve to have. Now, mind you, at this point, I'm in a long-term relationship. I'm in a relationship, and we weren't living together at the time, and it's my current relationship now.

But nonetheless, I sat with that for. Almost a year because I, I wanted it so bad. I wanted to be by myself. I wanted to do more self-discovery. I knew that I was going to be kind of evolving out of my brand and who I was growing up and sort of my story. And I made, I talked to my kids and I just, you know, I made the decision.

I talked it over with my partner when I didn't really, unfortunately give him much choice, which is terrible, but I was like, Hey. This is what I'm doing and if we're gonna work out we'll, we'll work it out long distance. And we have, and it's been amazing and it's a better relationship for it, I believe.

And so now it's, we have this long distance relationship [00:44:00] and I do, I spend a lot of time for me to, to come up with podcasts. It requires for me to kind of go radio silent for a few weeks and I am thinking about what my people really need, and I'm journaling about what my people need. And then I am.

Finding other creators and I'm listening to their perspectives. Is there something I'm missing? Right. And then I put it in my soup. Yeah. I love, I I love it. And it's why I was drawn to human design. And you mentioned, you know how you just went down a rabbit hole was generators we're here to master. We, we we're here to master, you know, something.

And so I, I am the same way. But what I love about it is, Diane, instead of you feeling. Maybe the way you felt when you were a little girl and your parents were like, you gotta get outta your room. You gotta get out there. You know, especially as someone who's, who's introverted myself, instead of feeling like there's something wrong with me now you know that that time is sacred.

It is what makes you Diane. It's where your strength comes from. When you reemerge, you [00:45:00] reemerge stronger because you gave yourself that time. So you don't have to apologize for it or feel like you should be doing anything else or be out there with all the people you know that a sacred time. Hmm. Most definitely.

Yeah. And the other thing that was also just spot on in my human design was, uh, my sacral authority and my yes. My go-to is to make decisions with like my gut, like my first gut hit. And I've always had that my whole life. And I was just like, Ooh, I don't know. Should I pay attention to that or should I ignore it?

And then I would just ignore it because it would be going along with what everybody else thought I should do or whatever. And so now. It's like, that's my decision making factor. If it's not a hell yes, it's a no. It's, it's, it's a no. Yeah. And do you feel it in your bo do you literally feel it in your body?

Yes. When it's a hell yes. Yes, yes, I do. I'm like, well, I feel it in my stomach. I feel it rise to my chest. And it's kind of the [00:46:00] same thing when it's a no, but it's, it's a, it's a kind of like a down feeling. It's not an up Yes. Feeling. Well, I love that and I love that you understand the way it feels because for so many of us, we have been conditioned away from believing our body, listening to our body, or we'll override it and we'll think, let me go think about this.

No, we need to get out of our mind into our body, and that is such a gift and sacral authority. I have emotional authority. I'm a little envious because you can make decisions in the moment. You can. I get the SAC role as well, but I have to think about it. I have to. Just give it a little bit of time and check back in to make sure it's still a yes.

But for you it's, it's instant. And that's, there's so much power to that. It gets me in trouble sometimes, but it's probably good trouble. It is. I mean, yeah, I'm not mad at it. Well, Diane, at the end of my shows, I like to do a little speed round and they're never really that quick, but, um, I would love it. If we can just, so let me just ask you a few [00:47:00] questions.

So what makes you come alive? Mm, probably seeing. My children be very genuine about how they love me. Does that make sense? Right. They just are absolutely. They praise me. They tell me how amazing I am. They are just like, mom, you're so special. And I'm just like, are you guys okay? Are you, are you sure? No, because I didn't have that relationship with my mom.

And I think that's really, I've spent a lot of, uh, probably the last. You know, 10 years more specifically, five really heavily being super invested and interested in what my kids are doing and who they're becoming. And, um, you know, there was a lot of years I was on autopilot and just numbing myself out of reality with working myself, you know, 80 hours a week in my businesses and neglecting what was truly happening at home and just [00:48:00] thinking, well, I'm gonna stay married for the kids.

And, um, that's just what. Good wives do. And, uh, I was sacrificing myself and the, and being a good parent in the process. So seeing my kids really honor and respect me is, is huge and just makes it, it's what, what I feel like I exist for really ab it's one of the best investments you can make. And that says so much about you as a mo mother that you are, they're reflecting that back to you.

And I was listening to your episode where you were saying for your birthday. The one thing you wanted to do was spend the day working out with your children. I thought that was beautiful. Yes. And we did it. And that was crazy because my daughter lives in Florida. Both my boys have jobs. Like I was gonna be in a city a couple hours away and they made it happen.

And it was a very sweet and short visit, but we had a fantastic time. It was great. And I have to know, did your stepmom join you and did your. Dad? She did not. Okay. No. We had, you know, because we had [00:49:00] surprise visitors, my grand babies actually came as well. And so my parents, I mean, they hung out with them and took 'em to a little playground and stuff.

But, uh, I got to spend time with all of 'em. So it was quite a special day. It was awesome. Perfect. Wonderful. What's a song that instantly shifts your mood or makes you feel something? Oh, that's easy. Uh, Megan trainers. Me too. Ooh. Ever since I heard it, Kathy put it on one of her calls very early on, and if you're in a bad mood, please girlfriend, go put that on.

Okay. Dance around. Be silly. Be goofy and sing to yourself in the mirror and you'll feel good like there. It's impossible not to. Like it's literally endorphins in your ears. Perfect. Is there a book that cracked you open or stayed with you long after the last page? Yes, it is Bill Perkins Die with Zero one.

Yes, that was an excellent book I read last year. I [00:50:00] highly recommend it if, uh, anyone feels like they're always worried about what, you know, what they're leaving their kids when they pass and leaving a legacy. And it really shifted my perspective of, um, at what point I need to be investing in my child, in my children.

A lot of times we think, oh, I, I, this is how my thought was. Like, oh, I, I'm gonna own a house. I have all this money in this account and that account, and when I die, I'm gonna leave my kids all this money. Right. Well, my 97-year-old grandmother just passed. So if I'm looking on trend with her, uh, genetics, I'm gonna be here for a while.

Yes. So when I'm 97, my kids are gonna be in their eighties and in their eighties, they aren't probably gonna need all the money that I'm gonna be having worked for all these years and saved aside because they'll have their own adult lives already intact. So that really helped me see things differently and shift my perspective.

And my older kids right now are in their. You know, approaching [00:51:00] their thirties and, uh, my youngest son is in like a, you know, these like little transitionary phases they go into, like getting a car. And my daughter moved across the US and my son's trying to get out on his own two feet and all these things.

And, and so I just spin it on his head and, um, giving them resources now versus in 50 years from now, you know? So I mean, that's, there's more to it, but that's really one of the biggest takeaways that's been so great for me, honestly. I love it. Die with zero. Okay. Mm-hmm. What's your favorite little indulgence or guilty pleasure?

Something that just brings you joy? My plants, my plants. I, uh, was really into garden like plants and gardens in, uh, my last year of high school and enjoyed it and. Uh, part of my human design and just kind of getting back to like me and what I wanna do and what lights me up. And so I started with one plant and added another plant.

And now we've got a whole family. I have a whole plant stand. I can see them. There's, you know, they're [00:52:00] all over and it's something that. For me anchors me to being in the moment and being present. It's kind of like my meditation. So when I wake up the first hour of my day, this is my little indulgence. I come in, I check on the ladies, I see if anybody needs a sip of water.

I turn on my humidifier, like I move them around. It's just, it just like, it's so much better than waking up with a phone and email and notifications, and I just feel a lot more grounded after that. Do you talk with them and dance with them? Absolutely. Okay. Alright. I love it. We're doing it. We're shaking it up in here for sure.

No question. What's one thing that always reminds you how beautiful life really is? You know, I think it's sometimes in the little moments, right? Yes. Like I'll sit down, I'm, you know, I've got a cat and I'll sit and I'll just be petting him and I'm kind of just thinking about how far I've come and if I was to meet.[00:53:00] 

The girl I was when I was 16 and 17, who thought like, oh my gosh, my life is over. Like, what am I gonna do? I don't even know how to take care of myself to now. Is it just, it really just makes me grateful for what I have, quite frankly. Oh, Dan, that's beautiful. There's a book called The Gap in the Gain. I might be.

Mm-hmm. But it's, you're right, I haven't read it then the con yet. It's just that I, I haven't either, I've heard so many people mention it though, but the whole concept is most people do not do what you just said. They, they get to certain places in their life, but so few turn around and look at the gap of where they've come from and have a gre, um, grad gratitude and appreciation for it.

That's wonderful that you can look back on her smile and say, look at what we've done. Look at what we've done. It's, it's, you know, I get it with the gap in the gain. It really is a challenge. Uh, and it's something that I've just recently, again, part of me [00:54:00] moving away and getting to know myself and spend time with myself is taking the time to really appreciate how far I've come.

And I, and I still have my moments. My daughter reminds me often, uh, mom, you know, but it, it definitely is something I think we need to reflect upon more because we're always just like. Looking to do the next thing without just taking a second, what's exactly to breathe. Yeah. Yeah. Well, Diane, please share how listeners can connect with you.

Yeah, so I am over on Instagram and that's just my name, Diane Flores, and then underscore I FBB Pro, which is. You know, some fancy letters when you become a bodybuilding pro. And then I have my website, which is boss boss bitch radio.com. And that's probably where you're, where you'll find everything. My podcast links, I've got a lot of freebies on there.

If anybody's interested in starting their weight training journey, I've got like, they're tested and put to put to the test. I put my Instagram [00:55:00] followers, uh, through some beta testing. So there's all kinds of fun stuff there if you're interested. And we're doing a healthy and hot, uh, reset seven day reset coming up in September.

So that's gonna be wonderful. Really melding a lot of what we talked about today with just, uh, you know, some strength training, yoga, mobility, and cardio for midlife women. So it's gonna be a good time. I'm really excited about that. Awesome. Well definitely check her out and thank you so much for, for being here and bringing such honesty, energy, and fire to this conversation.

You got it. And until next time, please, everyone stay high on life, one beautiful fix at a time. I love it. Thank you.

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