Bringing Selfish Back: A Different Way to Start the New Year

I didn’t wake up on January 1st as a fully transformed version of myself. No perfect plan. No mapped-out year. No “new year, new me” energy. Instead, I felt tired, a little behind, and honestly ready to stop making myself wrong for choosing my own rhythm.

In this first solo episode of 2026, I’m sharing a more honest way to begin the year. One that honors seasonal energy, personal pace, and the quiet wisdom of slowing down instead of forcing forward momentum.

We talk about:

• Letting go of New Year pressure and unrealistic expectations
• Choosing peace, slow, and calm instead of productivity and hustle
• What it really looks like to listen to yourself without guilt
• Why being “selfless” has been glorified at the expense of women’s well-being
• Reclaiming the word selfish in a grounded, responsible, self-trusting way

This episode introduces a theme I’m leaning into deeply this year: bringing selfish back. Not the reckless kind. The honest kind. The kind where you stop overriding your body, intuition, and truth just to keep everyone else comfortable.

If you’re feeling tired of performing, tired of pressure, or tired of postponing yourself, this conversation is an invitation to do less on purpose and start the year in a way that actually feels good.

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A Beautiful Fix

Bringing Selfish Back: A Different Way to Start the New Year

 I didn't wake up on January 1st as the perfect new version of myself all ready to go. I didn't have my year mapped out.

I had nothing, and I  thought, mm-hmm. I'm not doing this.

Nope. I'm choosing me and I'm gonna choose my own rhythm.

Welcome to a Beautiful Fix. I'm Tracy Hill. Each week we'll dive into the latest thought, Jim recharging and reconnecting with what lights you up and makes you feel alive. Let's discover your next beautiful fix together.

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 This is my first solo episode of 2026, and I wanna start it in a way that just feels honest. I don't know, was it just me this year or because I didn't wake up on January 1st as the perfect new version of myself all ready to go. I didn't have my year mapped out. No 90 day plan, no 60 day plan. Not even a weekly plan.

I had nothing, I didn't wake up with my workout clothes on and a green juice in my hand feeling like, okay, let's go. What I felt was a little behind and by a little, a lot, and then I noticed that feeling. I, I thought, what is this? It was. That whole guilt thing that I tend to do, and I thought, mm-hmm. I'm not doing this.

Nope. I'm choosing me and I'm gonna choose my own rhythm.

The holidays, I don't know, again, maybe it's just me, but the holidays have become a lot, go here, go there, do this, do that, and just, you know, decorate from Halloween on. And I enjoy all of that. All of it individually taken by itself is beautiful. It's wonderful. I love it all. I love the decorations. I love the people.

I love the food. I love the celebrating all of it, but all together it sometimes can just be a lot. And some years I'm all in, but this year I wasn't. This year I pushed back. For Halloween, we had one pumpkin on the stoop on, on our front porch one, and we had that one because my son was gifted it, and he brought it home.

And you know what, it just, it just felt like enough Thanksgiving. The meal was the main character not having the perfect wreath on the door, not the table setting, the food, the people, the conversations. That was it. And Christmas, my favorite part of Christmas decorations has always been just simple, warm white lights.

So that's what we did. We had a tree with warm lights, no ornaments. Yep. No. Well, technically there was one, uh, my sons came home and they found their Purdue ornament and they put it on the tree. But besides that, nothing, just warm lights. We had no garland. We didn't put any trinkets throughout the house this year.

I just let that be enough, and it was now, next year, I might go out all out again, or maybe I won't, but this year. I gave myself permission to do what worked for me, and by the time January 1st came around, I was tired, not like burned out, just full. So instead of getting swept up in all the new year, new me energy, all the pressure to be perfect on day one, I chose something else.

I chose peace. I chose slow and calm, and a friend reminded me of something that in addition to my own natural rhythm, it's winter. Mother Earth slows down. She goes quiet, she hibernates. Winter is for introspection. It's for stillness, right? It's not for forcing things to bloom. So I leaned into that. I embraced my beautiful, gorgeous Capricorn energy.

I respected this season, and I respect it myself, and it reinforced something that I've been exploring for a little while now. I am bringing selfish back. Yeah. You can't say that phrase without thinking of Justin Timberlake, and I'm bringing sexy back. I'm bringing selfish back.  . What I mean by that is I'm reclaiming that word. I'm reclaiming it. I'm rebranding it. I am scrubbing a it of all of its negative connotations that selfish is such a bad thing. You know, I've told this story before, but I remember once when a mom, she won a news station, gave her an award for being the mom of the year, and the person who nominated explained, she's the most selfless person ever.

She puts everyone else's needs before herself. And I thought, why do we make that the marker of being a great mom? Why is the bar set there that to be a wonderful mom, you have to be selfless. You have to put everybody else's needs before your own. Yes, that is a beautiful thing when you can do that from time to time.

But man, what message does that send and what kind of imprint does that have on us to see that as the way you become a great mom or a great daughter, or a great sister, or a great friend? Well, I'm done pretending that honoring myself is a problem. Somewhere along the way, we were taught that being selfless was the goal, that listening to ourselves was indulgent or irresponsible.

I believe that for a long time I built a life around it, but here's what I know now. When I abandon myself, nothing actually gets better. Not my relationships, not my work, not my energy, not my joy. So this year, say it with me. I'm bringing selfish back. Yeah. Not the reckless kind, not the ego kind, just the honest kind.

The kind where I check in with myself before I check in with everyone else. Or before I automatically say yes, the kind where I stop overriding my body, my intuition, and my truth, just to keep things smooth. The kind where I choose what feels aligned, even if it disappoints someone who preferred the old version of me being selfish means I rest when I'm tired.

I say no without a backstory. I choose what lights me up without making it make sense for everyone else. It means I trust that my desire, it's information. What I want is not random. Listening to myself isn't selfish. It's responsible because when I'm connected to myself, I show up better. I am more present.

I'm more generous. I'm more alive when my cup is overflowing, I can give from overflow and not depletion.

This isn't about taking more, it's about telling the truth about what actually works. And from there, what I give and how I show up. Is real. This is the year I stop outsourcing my knowing. This is the year I stop shrinking my wants. This is the year I remember that choosing myself is not something I have to justify.

It's something I'm going to honor and not apologize for. So I'm really curious about how this lands for you. If the idea of bringing selfish back stirred something or did it trigger something, I'd love to hear what that means for you right now. Reply to the email that went out with this episode. If you're on my mailing list, and if you're not, let's go.

Go to beautiful fix.com. You can always sign up there, reply to any of my emails or. You can send a direct message, a DM on social media. I'm on Instagram, Facebook, you can just go to a beautiful fix. I read every message. It's me. No one else. And I'll just say this, I've been feeling pulled to create some kind of space or community, something where we can explore this together.

Not another course, not another thing for for us to keep up with. Just support, like real connection. And if that sparks something for you, tell me I'm listening. So here's what I'll leave you with. If this idea of slowing down made you uncomfortable, if doing less, maybe brought up some guilt. If choosing yourself felt unfamiliar, pay attention.

That feeling is telling you something it's probably worth listening to. And until next time, keep getting high on life, one beautiful fix at a time

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