The Lulu Essey Podcast

Why Consistency Feels So Hard & The Brain Science of Making It Stick

Lulu Essey Season 1 Episode 16

Why do we struggle to stay consistent, even with the things that matter most? In this transformative episode, Lulu breaks down the neuroscience of consistency and reveals the "Tiny 15-Minute Promise"—a simple yet powerful approach that changed everything for her. Discover why traditional all-or-nothing approaches set you up for failure, how to work with your brain instead of against it and why tracking your wins (instead of your misses) rewires your neural pathways for success. Whether you're building a business, improving your health, or pursuing a creative dream, this episode gives you the science-backed tools to break the frustrating start-stop cycle and make consistency a way of life. (Part 1 of 2)

Key Takeaways:

  • The surprising reason why bigger goals often make consistency harder—not easier
  • How 15 minutes a day is more effective than sporadic long sessions (and why neuroscience backs this)
  • The power of micro-consistency: how small, daily actions create deep neural pathways
  • How to train your brain to recognize: "This is important to me" through simple, repeated actions
  • The hidden key to success: The most consistent people aren’t perfect—they just know how to return
  • Why tracking wins instead of misses reshapes your identity and builds unstoppable momentum
  • How aligning with your natural rhythms (morning person vs. night owl) makes consistency easier
  • The neuroscience of habit formation: what neurotransmitters are doing when you stay consistent
  • Why "overnight transformations" trigger stress—and how to set yourself up for real, lasting success
  • Identifying your personal "consistency style" and making it work for you

Chapter Timestamps: 
0:00 - Why Consistency Feels So Challenging 
6:45 - The Neuroscience of Habits & Neural Pathways 
11:20 - The Game-Changing Tiny 15-Minute Promise 
16:15 - Turning Overwhelming Goals into Simple Steps 
20:50 - The "Track Your Wins, Not Your Misses" Tool 
25:30 - How to Work WITH Your Brain’s Natural Rhythms 
28:40 - The Science Behind Consistency & Habit Formation 
32:00 - Preview of Part 2: How to Recover When You Fall Off Track

Powerful Quotes:

"The power isn’t in the minutes. The power is in the message you send yourself when you show up, no matter how small the action."
 "The most consistent people aren’t the ones who never miss a day. They’re the ones who know how to come back when they do."
 "We think bigger goals will get us faster results. But the most ambitious goal in the world means nothing if we can’t consistently show up for it."
 "Every time you show up for those 15 minutes, you’re literally telling your brain, ‘This matters.’"
 "Consistency is where the magic begins. It’s the birthplace of transformation, the foundation of meaningful change."


 

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