The Lulu Essey Podcast
Welcome to The Lulu Essey Podcast — a raw, unedited space for honest conversations about building a life that feels deeply aligned with who you truly are.
Here we explore the full spectrum of well-being: mental fitness, emotional resilience, authentic confidence, and the courage to create a life on your own terms. Through lived experience and evidence-informed approaches, you'll discover that transformation is truly an inside job.
Each episode offers practical tools and tiny, consistent steps for navigating anxiety, uncertainty, and life's challenges. You'll learn how to build confidence from within, find calm in chaos, and deepen connection with yourself and others — one small, powerful action at a time.
Come as you are — no judgment, no quick fixes. Because creating a meaningful life isn't about perfection; it's about progress with self-compassion, acceptance, and the willingness to embrace both light and shadow on your journey.
Episodes
38 episodes
What If You Didn’t Have to Choose Between Confidence and Joy? | The Neuroscience of Real Self-WorthUntitled Episode
Ever felt like Confidence and Joy were things you had to earn—by achieving more, pleasing everyone, or performing perfectly? In this episode, I share the science that flips that myth on its head. You’ll learn why real Confidence and genuine Joy...
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19:27
Why Saying No Feels So Hard—And How To Stop People-Pleasing
People-pleasing isn’t just a bad habit—it’s a nervous system response rooted in ancient survival instincts. In this episode, we unpack the hidden neuroscience behind your fear of disappointing others, explore the emotional cost of Approval Addi...
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21:28
Your Nervous System Compass | Understand the Science Behind Your Emotional Triggers
Your body often knows something’s off before your mind does. That racing heart? Tight shoulders? Stomach in knots? In this episode, we unpack the neuroscience behind those automatic reactions—and show you how to decode them.Still dismiss...
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Season 1
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Episode 36
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16:07
Stop Waiting for Permission to Live Your Life | Summer Superfood Series Finale
You don't need anyone's approval to rest, say no, or want what you want. This episode reveals the 5 permission slips you've been waiting for—and why the only signature that matters is yours.Still waiting for someone to give you the green...
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17:12
Body Wisdom & the Neuroscience of Intuition | Summer Superfood Series Pt. 3
Your gut’s not overreacting—it’s predicting. Discover your body’s 4 secret superpowers (plus the science that makes it real). Your body is basically a walking, talking supercomputer and it's been trying to send you messages t...
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Season 1
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Episode 34
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17:41
Joy Thievery: How to Steal Back Your Happy | Summer Superfood Series Pt. 2
Feeling burnt out, joyless, or stuck in the productivity loop? In this bite-sized episode, discover how to reclaim your joy—without quitting your job, escaping to Bali, or fixing everything in your life.Welcome to Joy Thievery: ...
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Season 1
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Episode 33
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15:44
How to Build Real Confidence (Without the Bullsh*t) | Summer Superfood Series Pt. 1
Discover the truth about real confidence—and why everything you’ve been told is probably backwards. Are you tired of confidence advice that sounds great on social media but crumbles the moment you need it most? What if everything you'v...
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Season 1
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Episode 32
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13:27
Why Your Relationship With Yourself Shapes Every Relationship You Have
Are you stuck in the same painful relationship patterns? What if every repeated conflict actually starts with the most important relationship of all—the one with yourself?In this transformative episode, I reveal how your inner world driv...
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Season 1
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Episode 31
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20:46
It Starts With You: The Relationship That Changes Everything
What if every hard relationship in your life—your partner, your friends, your colleagues, even your family—could be traced back to one relationship you tend to forget?The one with yourself.This week on The Lulu Essey Podcast
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Season 1
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Episode 30
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29:43
Spring Clean Your Mind: Tiny Tools to Reset Your Inner World
Spring is here—and with it comes the perfect moment to reset your mind, refresh your energy, and clear out the mental clutter that’s been weighing you down.This episode is a Mental Fitness refresher—a highlights reel of the most p...
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Season 1
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Episode 29
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30:42
Who Are You Without Your Job Title? | Reclaiming Self-Worth Beyond Work
Feeling lost without your job title? In this raw and honest episode, Lulu reveals what really happens to our self-worth when work disappears—and how to rebuild your identity from the inside out.Discover Lulu’s original WHOLE Identity Fra...
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Season 1
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Episode 28
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25:08
The Creativity Prescription: Rewire Your Brain, Boost Mental Fitness & Reclaim Joy at Work
In this energizing episode of The Lulu Essey Podcast, Lulu shares how creativity functions as essential neurological medicine—fueling not just artistic expression but emotional resilience, mental clarity, and business innovation.
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Season 1
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Episode 27
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27:22
Who Gets to Define Creativity? Reclaiming Your Power from Gatekeepers
In this provocative episode of The Lulu Essey Podcast, “Who Gets to Define Creativity?”, Lulu Essey challenges the gatekeeping of creativity and asks the question too few are willing to name: Why do men still largely defi...
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Season 1
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Episode 26
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25:09
The Silent Heroes of Mental Health: Tools to Support the Supporters
In this heartfelt episode, Lulu Essey honors the unsung heroes who walk beside those facing mental health challenges — often carrying an invisible weight of their own. You’ll learn practical tools like The Permission Question<...
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Season 1
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Episode 25
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15:55
The Whole Self Approach to Mental Fitness — Beyond the Pills
In this vulnerable episode, I share my recent relapse and return to medication after 30 years of managing bipolar disorder. But this isn’t just a story about medication — it’s about what real mental fitness looks like beyond the pill...
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Season 1
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Episode 24
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38:20
How to Rebuild After Breaking Down: What I Did When I Had Nothing Left
This isn’t a comeback story. It’s what healing actually looks like when you’re not okay… but trying anyway.This week, I’m offering a quiet, honest look at what it means to rebuild from rock bottom—through what I call T...
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Season 1
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Episode 23
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25:43
When I Can't Find My Own Light: A Brutally Honest Journey
In this raw and deeply vulnerable episode, I share what happened when I found myself in a dark place, unable to access the very tools I teach others to use. After recording an episode about confidence, clarity, and calm, I realized I was feelin...
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Season 1
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Episode 22
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34:32
How to Build Confidence, Clarity & Calm—One Tiny Step at a Time
Confidence isn’t something you’re born with. Clarity doesn’t come from overthinking. And calm isn’t waiting on the world to settle down. In this episode, Lulu flips the script on three traits we often think are fixed and unreachable. She reveal...
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Season 1
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Episode 21
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29:48
Tiny Tools for Big Moments: Mental Fitness in Real Life
Feeling overwhelmed by uncertainty, sadness, guilt, or not knowing how to help someone you love? In this powerful episode, Lulu shares four real-life mental fitness tools designed for the messy, not-so-Instagrammable moments. These are not quic...
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Season 1
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Episode 20
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27:44
The Truth About Mental Fitness: Why Positivity Isn’t Enough & What Really Builds Resilience
Ever been told to "just be positive" or “you have so much to be thankful for” when you're struggling? In this eye-opening episode, Lulu dismantles the myth that mental fitness means avoiding or denying negative emotions. True resilience isn’t a...
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Season 1
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Episode 19
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31:15
The Motivation Mirage: Why the Spark Fades (and How to Get It Back)
Ever wonder why your initial excitement for a new project or habit fades? In this episode, Lulu reveals why the fading spark isn’t failure—it’s a natural part of growth. Discover the "Motivation Mirage" and why waiting to feel motivated is a tr...
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Season 1
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Episode 18
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28:42
Consistency to Habits: The Missing Link & Getting Back After Failure
What happens the day after you break your streak? In this powerful follow-up to Episode 16, Lulu reveals the critical bridge between consistency and habits—and why understanding this distinction can save you months of frustration. Learn why hab...
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Episode 17
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23:03
Why Consistency Feels So Hard & The Brain Science of Making It Stick
Why do we struggle to stay consistent, even with the things that matter most? In this transformative episode, Lulu breaks down the neuroscience of consistency and reveals the "Tiny 15-Minute Promise"—a simple yet powerful approach that changed ...
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Season 1
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Episode 16
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33:37
How to Manage Anxiety & Uncertainty: Your Mental Fitness Toolkit
In this raw, honest conversation, Lulu opens up about navigating everyday anxiety - from work uncertainty to health scares. She shares the transformative Facts vs Feelings tool that changed everything, showing you how to separate what's ...
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Season 1
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Episode 15
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32:41
F*cking Fabulous in February: Your Guide to Radical Self-Acceptance and Joy
Ready to stop waiting and start being fabulous NOW? In this unedited, honest conversation, Lulu Essey challenges the 'not enough' narrative and introduces a revolutionary approach to February - one that transforms it from a month of comparison ...
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Season 1
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Episode 14
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31:30