The Lulu Essey Podcast
Welcome to The Lulu Essey Podcast — a raw, unedited space for honest conversations about building a life that feels deeply aligned with who you truly are.
Here we explore the full spectrum of well-being: mental fitness, emotional resilience, authentic confidence, and the courage to create a life on your own terms. Through lived experience and evidence-informed approaches, you'll discover that transformation is truly an inside job.
Each episode offers practical tools and tiny, consistent steps for navigating anxiety, uncertainty, and life's challenges. You'll learn how to build confidence from within, find calm in chaos, and deepen connection with yourself and others — one small, powerful action at a time.
Come as you are — no judgment, no quick fixes. Because creating a meaningful life isn't about perfection; it's about progress with self-compassion, acceptance, and the willingness to embrace both light and shadow on your journey.
The Lulu Essey Podcast
The Motivation Mirage: Why the Spark Fades (and How to Get It Back)
Ever wonder why your initial excitement for a new project or habit fades? In this episode, Lulu reveals why the fading spark isn’t failure—it’s a natural part of growth. Discover the "Motivation Mirage" and why waiting to feel motivated is a trap. Learn three powerful tools to keep moving forward when inspiration vanishes: Momentum Loops, the Future-Self Check-In, and the Space Shift. Stop waiting for motivation to return and create systems that generate their own energy, no matter how you feel. Sustainable transformation isn’t about non-stop motivation—it’s about something much more powerful.
Key Takeaways:
- Motivation is the starter, not the engine—it gets you going but won’t power the whole journey.
- The shift from the honeymoon phase to the building phase means progress, not failure.
- Action fuels motivation—don’t wait until you “feel like it” to start.
- Momentum Loops (Tiny Action → Immediate Win → Forward Link) create progress without relying on motivation.
- Future-Self Check-In reconnects you with why your goal matters.
- Space Shift removes environmental barriers that sabotage momentum.
- Sustainable motivation comes from who you’re becoming, not external rewards.
- Structure beats feelings—build systems that generate momentum.
- Small wins accumulate, leading to deeper, lasting motivation.
- The real barrier isn’t lack of motivation but waiting for it before acting.
Powerful Quotes:
- “Motivation doesn’t create action. Action creates motivation.”
- “When the honeymoon phase ends, it’s not the beginning of the end—it’s the end of the beginning.”
- “Momentum Loops don’t rely on feeling good. They create forward movement through structure.”
- “Structure beats feelings every time.”
- “The most sustainable motivation doesn’t come from external rewards. It comes from connecting with who you’re becoming.”
- “Stop waiting until you feel like it—you could be in for a long wait.”
- “Momentum Loops don’t rely on motivation—they create it.”
Chapters & Timestamps:
- 00:00 – The Electric Start & Inevitable Fade
- 03:10 – The Motivation Mirage: Why It’s Not Meant to Last
- 06:04 – Why the Spark Fades (And Why That’s Actually Good)
- 09:08 – Momentum Loops: Your Motivation Replacement System
- 11:48 – Three Components of a Powerful Momentum Loop
- 16:04 – The Future-Self Check-In: Reconnecting With Your Why
- 19:11 – Space Shift: Making Your Environment Work For You
- 21:28 – Beyond Tools: Who You’re Becoming Through the Process
- 24:50 – Bringing It All Together: Moving Beyond the Motivation Myth
Until next time, Beautiful Souls...
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