The Lulu Essey Podcast
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How to Build Real Confidence (Without the Bullsh*t) | Summer Superfood Series Pt. 1
Discover the truth about real confidence—and why everything you’ve been told is probably backwards.
Are you tired of confidence advice that sounds great on social media but crumbles the moment you need it most? What if everything you've been told about confidence is actually keeping you stuck in an exhausting performance?
Welcome to the Summer Superfood Series—where we're serving up 15 minutes of pure, unfiltered nourishment for your mind. This week's superfood? Real confidence—the messy, human, and absolutely unstoppable kind that works in your actual life.
In this powerhouse episode, I'm stripping away the confidence myths that keep us feeling like failures and revealing what genuine confidence actually looks like. Spoiler alert: it has nothing to do with being fearless, flawless, or fake.
🔥 What You’ll Learn About Real Confidence (And Why It Matters)
✨ Real confidence isn't the absence of doubt: it's making peace with uncertainty and moving forward anyway
✨ "Fake it till you make it" is confidence sabotage
✨ Belief follows action, not the other way around
✨ The confidence formula that actually works: Take action → Build evidence → Feel confident (not the reverse!)
✨ Confident people aren't confident because they never fail
✨ The Confidence shortcut: Start before you're ready
✨ Done badly is better than not done
✨ Real confidence looks like: "I don't know" without apologizing, treating mistakes as info not character flaws, & asking for help without feeling defeated
✨ Your summer confidence assignment—one thing to try this week while you're still scared
💎 Quotes That Hit Different
Real confidence is this: 'I don't know how the f*ck this will turn out, but I trust myself to handle whatever happens.
Confident people aren't confident because they never fail. They're confident because they've failed enough times to know they can survive it.
Real confidence isn't about becoming someone you're not. It's about becoming MORE OF WHO YOU ALREADY ARE—doubt, fear, imperfection, and all.
You don't need to wait until you feel ready. You just need to trust that you're capable of handling whatever comes next.
⏰ Chapters
00:00 Welcome to Summer Superfood Series: Confidence Theater vs Real Confidence
02:31 Confidence Myth #1: Confident People Never Doubt Themselves
03:49 Confidence Myth #2: Fake It Till You Make It (And Why This Sabotages You)
05:16 Confidence Myth #3: Confident People Always Know What To Say
06:47 Confidence Myth #4: You Need To Believe In Yourself First
08:06 What Real Confidence Actually Looks Like (The Game-Changer)
10:09 The Confidence Shortcut Nobody Talks About: Start Before You're Ready
12:11 Your Summer Confidence Assignment + Next Week Preview
Until next time, Beautiful Souls...
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