The Lulu Essey Podcast
Welcome to The Lulu Essey Podcast — a raw, unedited space for honest conversations about building a life that feels deeply aligned with who you truly are.
Here we explore the full spectrum of well-being: mental fitness, emotional resilience, authentic confidence, and the courage to create a life on your own terms. Through lived experience and evidence-informed approaches, you'll discover that transformation is truly an inside job.
Each episode offers practical tools and tiny, consistent steps for navigating anxiety, uncertainty, and life's challenges. You'll learn how to build confidence from within, find calm in chaos, and deepen connection with yourself and others — one small, powerful action at a time.
Come as you are — no judgment, no quick fixes. Because creating a meaningful life isn't about perfection; it's about progress with self-compassion, acceptance, and the willingness to embrace both light and shadow on your journey.
The Lulu Essey Podcast
Rewriting Your Story Without Erasing Your Truth (Part 3)
What if your most profound healing begins when you stop allowing trauma to write your story? You are so much more than the worst things that have happened to you.
In the final part of this Trauma and Healing Series with Hawa Who from KEEPCALM.ORG we explore the most transformative shift of all: moving from “this trauma is who I am” to “this trauma is part of what shaped me.”
Recorded during my own mental health crisis in April, this conversation is raw, unpolished, and deeply human. Healing isn’t about perfection. It’s about presence and becoming. And together, Hawa and I uncover how reframing your narrative, embracing community, and honoring your truth can expand what’s possible for your life.
If this is your first time here, this episode stands alone. But I encourage you to also listen to Part 1 (Episode 40) and Part 2 (Episode 41) for the full journey.
✨ In Part 3, you’ll discover:
- How to shift from victimhood to empowerment—without bypassing pain
- Why community can be just one trusted person who truly sees you
- The distinction between trust and love during mental health challenges
- How to reframe trauma stories without erasing truth
- Why you move from being broken by your experiences to being expanded through them
- Dr. Wayne Dyer’s timeless wisdom: “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
💬 Powerful Quotes:
“You are so much more than the worst things that have happened to you.”
“Your trauma doesn’t disappear. It becomes one chapter in a richer, more complex story of who you are becoming.”
“Healing happens not when we’re perfect, but when we’re real.”
Chapters & Timestamps:
00:00 – Reframing trauma without erasing your truth
04:47 – From trauma identity to empowered narrative
06:34 – Building authentic community (why it can be one person)
08:02 – The stories we tell about trauma and how they shape us
11:19 – Wayne Dyer on changing perspective
12:45 – Series reflections, becoming, and next steps
🌍 Resources & Links:
📍 KeepCalm.org – mental health advocacy & community support
📍 Hawa Who – creative, model, author, poet & cybersecurity analyst
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💛 Remember: You are not broken. You are becoming.
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