The Lulu Essey Podcast
Welcome to The Lulu Essey Podcast — a raw, unedited space for honest conversations about building a life that feels deeply aligned with who you truly are.
Here we explore the full spectrum of well-being: mental fitness, emotional resilience, authentic confidence, and the courage to create a life on your own terms. Through lived experience and evidence-informed approaches, you'll discover that transformation is truly an inside job.
Each episode offers practical tools and tiny, consistent steps for navigating anxiety, uncertainty, and life's challenges. You'll learn how to build confidence from within, find calm in chaos, and deepen connection with yourself and others — one small, powerful action at a time.
Come as you are — no judgment, no quick fixes. Because creating a meaningful life isn't about perfection; it's about progress with self-compassion, acceptance, and the willingness to embrace both light and shadow on your journey.
The Lulu Essey Podcast
Knowing Your Thoughts Create Your Reality Isn't Enough—Here's What Is
You know your thoughts create your reality. You've heard it everywhere: Instagram, TikTok, every podcast, every book and workshop promising transformation "in minutes." You get it. You understand it. You KNOW it's true.
So why hasn't your life changed?
Here's the truth most content skips: awareness isn't the finish line. It's the starting line. And the hard part: the unsexy, unglamorous, repetitive work that gets edited out because it doesn't go viral and it requires effort. That's why you feel stuck. Not because you're failing, but because you were sold an incomplete map.
This episode dismantles the myth of instant transformation and reveals what actually creates lasting change: neural pathways, self-compassion, self-love, practice, and the willingness to do tiny, unsexy, unglamorous steps over and over again - even when you can't see results yet.
What You'll Learn
- Why awareness alone doesn't break decades-old thought patterns
- The neuroscience: how your brain actually rewires (spoiler: slowly)
- The 3 essential stages: awareness → acceptance without judgment → willingness
- Why you must stop using Mental Fitness tools as weapons against yourself
- How tiny, repeated practices compound into real transformation
Powerful Quotes
"My thoughts in this moment are not ruining my future. My future is not so fragile that a few hours or days of confused thinking will derail everything."
"You're not doing it to fix yourself. You're doing it to SUPPORT yourself. There's a HUGE difference."
"You are not broken. You don't need to be fixed."
⏱ Timestamps
00:00 - Why "awareness" became a trap
05:45 - The myth of instant transformation
08:45 - Neuroscience: what's actually happening in your brain
12:55 - The actual path: awareness → acceptance without judgement → willingness
18:45 - "Are my thoughts ruining my future?" A powerful reframe
25:50 - Self-compassion, Self-Love first: stop using tools as weapons
29:10 - Tiny Tools that support real transformation
31:55 - You are not broken. You can do this.
Referenced Tools The Kind Witness • 3-Breath Reset • In This Moment Only • LOVE Framework • WHOLE Framework • ENOUGH Framework • "I Will Not Abadnon Myself" • Gratitude & Grace
Join the Conversation Where have you felt most aware but still stuck? What tiny practice helps you move from knowing to living?
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Thank you for being here. You are enough. ✨