#54 - Reclaim Your Voice: Become Sovereign in Truth and Body

What if the healing you’ve been searching for isn’t something you need to find… but something you need to express?

In this intimate conversation, Kena sits down with voice liberation coach and sound healer Skylar Temple Singer to explore the profound connection between voice, nervous system, womb, and identity — especially for women in midlife navigating reinvention, loss, or awakening.

Together, they explore how losing your voice isn’t about speaking less, it’s about disconnecting from your soul’s truth. And how reclaiming it can dissolve old conditioning, regulate the nervous system, and awaken deep self-trust.

This episode weaves personal story, somatic wisdom, spirituality, and a live vocal activation you can experience in real time — reconnecting throat and womb through sound.

If you’ve ever felt muted, disconnected, or unsure how to express who you truly are… this conversation is an invitation back home into embodiment, alignment, and freedom.

✨ In This Episode You’ll Learn

• How your voice directly impacts your nervous system and emotional healing
• Why many midlife women feel disconnected from their voice and how to reclaim it
• What happens when throat and womb reconnect through sound and embodiment
• The truth about self-trust, boundaries, and saying yes from alignment
• How liberating your voice awakens creativity, clarity, and sovereignty

🦋 Reflection Questions

1. Where in your life are you still silencing yourself to stay safe or accepted?
2. What might open if you trusted your voice as a sacred instrument of truth?
3. How would your relationships change if your no and your yes came from alignment?

🦋 Work With Kena If you're ready to move beyond knowing and start truly feeling it in your body — I'd love to support you. I guide high-achieving women back to who they truly are, beyond the roles, over-functioning, and patterns that have kept them disconnected from themselves. 

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Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women navigating emotional exhaustion, people pleasing, self-abandonment, nervous system healing, identity shifts, and midlife awakening. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide.

Music: Back Home by Alex Productions and  Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

Transcript

Opening Poem And Guest Intro

Kena Siu 0:00

What if the healing you are searching for is hidden in the sound of your own voice? Midlife butterfly, a woman in the sacred in-between. She's not who she once was, and not quite who she's becoming yet. She's unraveling, awakening, remembering. She's navigating life transitions, divorce, loss, impatient moods, with a burning retire for freedom, joy, and souled living. She feels the pull to rise, to fly. She's no longer afraid of her own queen. Welcome back to the Midlife Butterfly

Skylar’s Path To Voice Liberation

Kena Siu 0:42

podcast. This is Kenneth Hugh, your host, and I have today a very, very special guest of mine, a sister, a demon of light of the sun. I just love her, Skylar Temple Singer. She's a voice liberation coach and sound healer, helping women heal their bodies, wounds, and voices so they can remember who they are and live in devotion to their truth. She is the founder of Intuitive Sound Healing Arts and the creator of Unmuted, Temple of Remembrance and Soul Voice. She offers transformational journeys that awaken confidence, embodiment, and divine expression. Her work invites women into remembrance, where sound becomes medicine, the body becomes temple, and the voice becomes a sacred instrument of liberation. Skylar, such a pleasure having you here, sister. Thank you so much. Yes, or you're shining. So so so fun to reconnect with you. I would like first of all to tell us what's your story for where you are now. Like what happened or what brought you to be, yeah, to be a coach to for voice liberation? Beautiful question.

Skylar Temple Singer 2:17

Um, you know, I was reflecting on this before we started talking because you and I were together in September of 2022 being roomies in like multiple different places all over Costa Rica for I think it was like three weeks. Yes. And that was actually one of the big tipping points for me in my life around my voice. And basically up until that point, I had always loved singing, but I was scared to show it. Like when I was a little girl, was somebody heard me when I thought nobody else could hear me. And I just I felt embarrassed and like just kind of closed up and felt like my voice wasn't good enough and like it wasn't worthy. And so I would do things like join choir, but I would not want my voice to stand out from the crowd. And then I would even get solo sometimes, but I would still be like really scared. And and and then I mostly just kept the singing to myself. So I eventually became a sound healer and a yoga instructor and was guiding meditation. And my client started asking me if I sang. And I was like, nope, just for myself, not in sound healing. Like that that would be too much. Like that that wouldn't fit like my scope of what I think a good sound healing would be because my voice isn't good enough. And like these are all the stories that I had. And then right around the time just before you and I and all of our sisters got together in Costa Rica, I had really been just recognizing the weight that I was feeling on my throat. It felt like there was all this pressure, all this like constantly losing my voice, and also this true desire. I really just wanted to be heard by my own self. Like I wanted to hear my true voice and not just copy others. And so yeah, we sat in a in a ceremony together with ayahuasca, beautiful two nights. And on the second night, at the very end, if you want, they go around and with no music or anything, people can offer a song. And it's always said that like if you offer a song in these kinds of spaces, it really like whatever you do in these spaces, it kind of comes true in the rest of your life. And so I sang a song, and it was like very raw and very passionate, also. And it was Time for Greatness by Fia. And then and then I sang it again in another way, and I and I did a performance when we were down in another area with our sisters, and and then I posted it online and I told everybody that, hey, like this is actually my birth name, and

Breaking The Fear Of Being Heard

Skylar Temple Singer 5:17

I want to I want to sing more. I don't just want to be a meditation guide or sound healer, I want to be a singer too. So then people started asking me without even me like telling them that I sang all of a sudden they knew because my frequency shifted. They're like, hey, are you a singer? Like, do you want to sing with us? Come in, come and jam. I was like, I don't know how you knew that, but yeah, that's what I've been calling in. Wow. Fast forward to last year, like 18 months ago, a friend of mine just asked me if I would lead a vocal activation. And I was kind of like, oh, huh, yeah, I guess I could. And so I did. It was for a group of 40 women at a day retreat, and it was just groundbreaking and so powerful. Like so many women in tears, people having huge breakthroughs that helped them reconnect and speak to their parents for the first time and years. And that just like really set it in motion for me. And since then, I've been doing voice retreats, one-on-one work with people. That's the voice liberation coaching, creating online courses, and just sharing and supporting where I can.

Kena Siu 6:32

Oh, wow. That feels so empowering and beautiful because as you said, we it's our throat when it's just feel this heaviness or you know, pressure on it that is like you need to start like speaking your truth. You need to start speaking, or as in your in your way, it was like you gotta sing. Like the calling was there, really, like, hello, right?

Skylar Temple Singer 7:03

Yeah, yeah. I mean, it was so strong, and it's like that sometimes it's the it's the calling, and then and I've gone through so many more waves of it also this year, because there's like, you know, it's it's like we're continually breaking through all these ceilings. And I got I've reached a certain point this year where I was like, yeah, I feel good, I'm expressing my voice and all this stuff. And then my partner, my current partner came into my life and he's a musician, he's super expressed, but he's got the exact opposite skill set that I do. Like I came from sound healing and then like like intuitive singing, and but like singing for a structured group, like when I'm guiding a meditation, and he does these open-ended jams where you just get to be free and wild. And then all of a sudden I found all this resistance in myself of like, oh, like, okay, I know I really want this, but like there's a part of me that's just like holding on, holding on, holding on. And and that's that's that is the thing to break through. It's that's the biggest part, is like that part of you that's saying, Oh, you have to do this. Like, you don't actually have to, but you desire to. Yes.

Kena Siu 8:20

Wow. And this is connected to the to the thing that I want to ask you something, because many women in midlife, you know, they feel like they've lost their voice, you know, after the years, because they are, you know, they are caregivers or they're compromised or they silenced, you know. So for them, what do you think is or what is it for you? What is it like finding your voice? What does that really mean at a deeper level?

Skylar Temple Singer 8:52

That's a beautiful question. Uh so to me, you know, like we we can say we can identify all the parts of the body and identify the throat, it's right here,

What Finding Your Voice Really Means

Skylar Temple Singer 9:06

but that's that's not the voice isn't an anatomical part of the body. The voice is something that moves through you through air, through vibration, through intention. And it's it's truly the sound of your soul. So to find your voice is to find your soul. And that's yeah, to to lose your voice is to be disconnected with your heart's truth and to to not be living in resonance with what you truly desire, what's truly best for you. So I can imagine, yeah, being a caregiver, being a mother, being in a job that doesn't resonate, a res a relationship that doesn't resonate for so many years into a certain point of life. You've fallen out of resonance with your soul's true voice. And it's not it's not gone, it's not broken, it's just like needing to get back on the bicycle and like uncovering all the chains and like cobwebs and things that have been covering it.

Kena Siu 10:22

I love that. Yeah, your voice is yeah, it is the sound of your soul deeply. I I love that, and so how how is it that you help people in that way to find that voice again? Ah, so many ways. You want to share a couple of them, yeah.

Skylar Temple Singer 10:47

So we'd say voice liberation is a an opportunity to go into the universe of your voice, which is the universe of your soul. And this is a a process that is deeply emotionally healing, clears childhood trauma, ancestral trauma. It's really based in in somatics as well as like visualization, and as well as doing like parts work where we go in and and talk to the different parts within. So there's like learning how to first there's kind of like listening to like what is actually the tension or the like stress or or excitement, something. What are the qualities that you're feeling in your throat and in the rest of your body that are related to the blockages or the the flowing openings of your voice? Like finding where those physically are in your body, and then finding out what they have to say. What is it your inner child? Is it actually

Somatics, Parts Work, And Mantra

Skylar Temple Singer 12:02

your parents? Is it something that someone said to you a long time ago that you've been holding on to? And and then learning how to love it all, essentially. Uh, there's there's also vocal toning, use using different mantras, connecting to the bija, seed syllable sounds of the chakras, which are sounds that resonate with the universe, they're like musical notes of the universe, and as well as connecting to different deities, a lot of which we've learned in temple body arts. Yes, by Sophia Tom, our mentor.

Kena Siu 12:41

Yeah, ah, beautiful. Yeah, it makes sense because, as you said, all those mantras and and having the presence of these different goddesses, it's it, it's it's a way of getting into that energy. And as you said, like that's the healing part of it, right? By expressing whatever it is the body needs to bring out and then process those like well emotions or whatever kind of trauma or wounds are in the body that need to be expressed through the voice, but we know that also the body needs to express itself.

Skylar Temple Singer 13:28

Yeah, so sorry, my my wife I just slowed down for a minute there. Okay, you can hear me, we're up to date. Yeah, yeah. It's um my belief about the voice is that yes, there are a lot of techniques to learn how to properly support your voice, like breathing, drinking water, or different singing techniques, and really like the the techniques can only support you in your choice to truly know and own your own voice. So like I I tell people that I don't teach anybody how to sing, I teach people to love their voices and to remember that their voice is a healing instrument that isn't here to sound perfect, just like it's a perfect metaphor for life. Like we're not here to be perfect and and to wait to do life until we can do it perfectly. It's just all here now, and and that's where the freedom and the beauty in it is, and when we just let ourselves do it, and then it becomes like that first step. Oh my god, now I'm really flying. And and then, like you'd be surprised with how much beauty comes out of that. Because a lot of times when you're first opening up your voice, it also means that there's a lot of dense emotion stuck in your body, and so when you're first opening your voice, it might not sound that pretty at all. And this is why a lot of people have the belief that they don't have a nice singing voice, that they can't sing. Everyone can sing. We we we sing as we speak. Life is our is our music, and the yeah, that happened with me in the beginning. Like every time I made sound, it just like I it just had a lot of grief in it. And I that's what I was moving through, and it like I was judging all of that for for being bad, and and like I shouldn't share it with anybody, and that's why I create spaces like I do now, is because people need a safe place to to express it and to learn how to love and accept all their emotions as they are, and then and then so much beauty comes out of that.

Kena Siu 16:15

Yes, yeah, since we were not taught how to feel, we struggle with those emotions, right? And then that's I believe that's why we were told like we have like positive emotions with between quotes and then the negative emotions, when in reality it's just uh emotions are just a guidance system for us to get back to yeah, into alignment, into harmony within within us. How do you think that our voice affects our identity?

Technique Versus Truth In Singing

Skylar Temple Singer 17:02

That's a fun one. I mean, you can put on so many masks with your voice. And you really can't hide when you speak, like I would say the mainstream culture of the planet, especially like this region of the world, likes to pretend that we can't truly like understand and feel somebody just by seeing them or hearing them. But we can feel and sense everything just by being present with each other. Yes, so people learn to to intonate in a in a certain way to try to hide their feelings. I actually haven't thought that much about this in a while. So I'm like, ooh, this is there's just like always infinite things to think about with the voice, and like yeah, when we're more excited, like our voice gets higher, and we're like, oh my god, it's so exciting! And then when we're feeling pretty down, it's just like pretty monotone and neutral, and then your friends know, like, hey, what's going on? Like, you don't sound like yourself, yeah. So yeah, I I think voice and identity are intrinsically linked. I don't know if this is exactly answering the specific question that you had, but that's kind of where my mind is going.

Kena Siu 18:34

Yeah, go ahead. Okay, no, no, yeah. No, it's just uh yeah, I just I mean, I just wanted to see your point of view because I as you said, like if we don't express our voice, if we don't express our truth, then it means that we are wearing a mask. So we are not being authentic with the other people. We are if we are not expressing who we really are.

Skylar Temple Singer 19:07

Yeah, yeah, exactly. And I'm hearing it in reverse as well, like a way to practice becoming more authentic and stripping off the masks is inviting more authenticity into your voice with every every word, every breath, and just being present with your nervous system and noticing your tendencies. Do you have a tendency to to kind of like crunch up and talk like this and like just kind of get it out? And then it's like, okay, you heard me? Like right at and when I hear that, I I feel like fear of of being rejected or punished or something, like just trying to get the words out super. fast because you have to say something, but there's like all this in your chest. Anxiety, yes. Right? There's anxiety or there's like there's I don't know, there's anger and and the the there's there's every emotion, but just noticing like what are the processes that are happening in your body as you're speaking and can you allow yourself to push past the urge to like cut your words off or like walk away from the conversation or not say anything at all? Can you just kind of stand in the fire and take a deep breath and just like let the words go a little longer take up

Voice, Identity, And Authenticity

Skylar Temple Singer 20:49

a little more space let let the expression be a little sillier without without choosing how it will be without being a character just trusting that it will come out becoming the channel of of your voice I love that becoming the channel of your voice yeah yeah and that comes back to what you said before that remember that their voice is a healing instrument right it just come comes around because the more we can express who we really are the more fear we are we tend to hide ourselves in so many ways and not express in our voice and simple sometimes is like a saying a no right because we're trying to please others because we're trying to be loved or accepted or avoid being rejected and we don't speak what we want to say it because of all those fears or wounds that we are carrying with us. Yeah yeah that's a huge piece of it the power to say no and yes yes and we we learned this in in temple body arts you know pulling out your sword of discernment to cut away what does not serve cutting away the no so that you can be aligned fully aligned with your highest yes like yeah I have been able to communicate so much more clearly say what I want speak effectively like have harmonious relationships show up fiercely with love when something doesn't feel harmonious because of this ability and like every time that I cut something away I I feel staticness or or stagnancy heaviness falling away from me and all of a sudden there's clarity and then I'm not confused about what to say anymore or what to do which brings me to that I I really feel that like what the voice really comes down to two of the pillars of it are becoming worthy of yourself and learning to trust yourself again oh those two pieces are huge are huge for us yeah and when we do that like let's go let's go in reverse actually you know it's like I I feel that we are born that way we're born worthy we're born trusting ourselves definitely and and then all of a sudden there's just one thing even if it's a micro moment where you doubt yourself and or somebody told you not to do that thing because it's bad or to be quiet and all of a sudden a belief forms in your mind that you can't trust yourself or that you're not good enough. And it it starts to like create these fabrications that aren't true inside your consciousness inside the quantum universe of your soul and it creates this like tower structure that you can't even breathe in. And so that's what that's a big thing that I do in a specific workshop that I teach called ritual voice activation.

Kena Siu 24:57

And we go into the the universe of your voice of your soul and we find those structures or that structure and identify like what was the foundation what was the moment that you started building up these false structures and then we destroy it with love and write a new story a new story of trusting yourself and knowing that you're worthy oh that's so beautiful yeah coming back to the soul essence through the voice which is just wow I would like you to extend a bit more of how is the voice connected to the nervous system and emotional healing because it's basically what you do and we'll be talking about but I would like to bring it more to uh that connection itself

Worthiness, Self‑Trust, And Boundaries

Kena Siu 26:05

nice good question yeah I love all these questions so much it's like it it it helps me organize my own awareness of what I do and it and it excites me.

Skylar Temple Singer 26:15

So I love this yeah the voice in the nervous system well humming just like humming tones and stimulates the vagus nerve which helps to bring the body into parasympathetic system so when when we're relaxed when we're able to not be in fight or flight which is the sympathetic so it regulates your nervous system and the best way that that information lands for me to remember it is just think about being a child laying on your mom's chest or a caregiver's chest and the vibration of that humming and just like or just talking and it puts babies right to sleep. Yeah so just that by itself and that's that's also you know what I why I do sound healing why I love sound healing because the instruments have a vibration that help the body and the nervous system and the mind to relax for the mind to drop into theta brainwave state which is where we where we dream where we're more open to change but instead of just having the instruments making the sound you're now initiating it from within your own body I'm also thinking about Dr.

Kena Siu 27:47

Imoto's experiments with the water and saying I love you or I hate you to the water and how it's been proven that our our water you know responds to us and and holds the the verbal charge that we give to it so we are mostly water and when we speak and sing and vibrate to the water within our body it does exactly like what we what we tell it to like every unconscious thought and conscious thought and that's going to impact your nervous system based on that the nervous system will take action on what you're telling the cells of your body to do and so we can direct it with making a beautiful symphony of you know grounding of upliftment of confidence of truth speaking of intuition and wisdom we we have a beautiful roadmap right here inside our body that we can that is activated by the voice yes and the important to reconnecting to this beautiful body and temple that we are it's huge and I think I mean I I learned to reconnect at a deeper level to temple body arts when we were at school with with Sophia because I mean even though I was doing yoga for for many years already it was truly with her teachings and her mentorship that I was able to connect with my body and the the fact that I didn't move that much before like I will dance only when I will go to a dance and then I didn't dance for years because I mean we used to have dances I don't know secondary school high school so I didn't dance for decades and uh yeah and dance is something that comes so easily from the body when we get to listen to it and then by default a lot of times is when the voice just comes out or a simple humming of what you were just mentioning before when it's needed. So that reconnection with the body is is something that we gotta bring that awareness more and more I do believe in in society. Yeah yeah I think I feel that playing with your voice is one of the most powerful ways to become embodied and if you're not embodied when you're using your voice you'll know because it will start to hurt and it won't it won't feel very good in order for me to be able to to speak and facilitate to to sing for hours on end when I sing

Voice, Nervous System, And Vagus Nerve

Kena Siu 31:10

for like my like vocal journey kind of concerts that I've started doing or ceremonies as well it requires me to be deeply anchored within my body that I recognize as a temple like I go within the sacred temple of my body I root down into the earth and and I move the air through my body so that my throat is not the one doing the work like I sing from my womb I sing from my heart I sing from my roots I I sing from all parts of my body and and right like being the the channel for your voice I just allow it to all move through and then and and trust there's there's the trust like knowing that I knowing that I'm worthy to just be the channel and then trust that whatever comes out as long as I'm connected and being intentional with with being the channel which I am in every moment because I affirm it and I choose to live that way then that's what will come through I love it that's true embodiment yeah yes I just love it and what kind of practices so besides the voice itself what other practices do you use to come to that embodiment so you can speak your truth well temple body arts is is definitely my anchor yeah learning these these practices from Sophia have completely changed my world and for for like four years now which is a a combination of a lot of practices it's I would say it's ritual arts and expressive arts therapy uh so it's a combination of dance but not planned or choreographed it's you know energy moving through the body it's meditation it's making altars creating artwork and journaling also going out in nature and what else helps me be embodied doing things that honor me like cooking good food and setting boundaries yeah pause there yeah well thank you for sharing that yeah I think it's also I mean those are a lot of them well if we can say like big practices you know but I think it's also those little things as you said like okay you're choosing where you're going to eat you're choosing to to go and connect with nature is all those things that help us come back to ourselves and nurture ourselves to support the the body that is going to help us really reconnect back with it.

Skylar Temple Singer 34:33

Yeah and it really is everything because it's just like how I mentioned with kind of like taking off the masks with the voice it's like can you stand in the fire and just let yourself like relax a little bit more into your voice it's the same thing how how you do one thing is how you do everything. And so yeah my my embodiment is in is in every little moment like can I take one more breath here can I put a little more intention into this yummy drink that I'm making can I can I pause and ask is this really worth my energy is this what my body really needs right now and that that has to happen all throughout the day because those all all those little choices create your life yes it's every show is every habit every practice that we do and with that intentionality that you said that makes that can so we can create a different life every it's moment to moment really because we only have this present moment nothing else the time is now yes only now so in your experience of working with your clients what happens when a woman liberates her authentic voice so not just singing that's one part but really like in

Embodiment And Singing From The Body

Skylar Temple Singer 36:10

life well first of all it makes my heart just go like yeah it it just it makes me so happy it makes me cry it makes me laugh what happens when a woman liberates her authentic voice well she becomes sovereign she owns her no's so that she can fully live her yeses she she moves with both discernment and flow she becomes connected to her womb as a holy place she because also when when we open up our voice we we also open up our our womb space and vice versa she is able to have the veil lifted off of her of what felt so confusing before or just like just okay but maybe now she's realizing oh well I would why was I putting up with that that so does not honor me that like now that she's connected to her to her physical awareness of how her energy is stored in her body she doesn't want to hold that shit in anymore and and she she now pours from an overflowing cup because she is truly only saturating herself nourishing herself with the things that really truly support her so now she can live her mission in life she can support the people that she wants to serve like whether that is her family members or on a global platform she has the power to to be who she wants to be she's not tired or sluggish anymore either it just it it changes everything.

Kena Siu 38:15

She becomes a a creator and an artist yes and we i creators that's our base yes our creators but as we were talking at the very beginning there's so much conditioning and and programming in the society that we live that we have just is hiding that creator is hidden under so many layers of beliefs or wounds and trauma that when we get to take them away little by little here and there is just bringing that spark back that light that is within us yeah and well this is who we are as women we we give birth and create we create and give birth to life and it's not always meant to be through a physical baby and even if it has been a baby like we're creating life every day in every way women bring beauty and inspiration to the world not to say that men don't just naming what women's superpowers are yes and yeah being connected to to to have a liberated voice is to have be liberated in your ability to create which is like your innate superpower yes and that's why we are talking about this of the power of the voice because how much More we can create, how much more we can give birth to, and you know, with our gifts, with our service, by volunteering, or in whatever way you listener you want to do it, you're open to it. But it's just it's again, it comes to a show, it's it's up to you, it's up to you to take whatever kind of methodology that you want to take in order to heal so you can express yourself, so you can speak your truth because your voice has power.

Skylar Temple Singer 40:38

Yeah, your voice is powerful. You came here for a reason, and everybody's reason is a little different, and we need you, we need your piece of the puzzle, we need your shine and your radiance in order to create more beauty, more harmony, more balance in this time. Now, we we all have a special role, and your voice is the activator of it.

Kena Siu 41:09

Yes, I give me shields. Yes, please. I want to go back off to the womb. I'm actually taking a certification for neuroepigenetic breathing, which is like it's blowing my mind. And one of the things that we were seeing was the fact of how our trachea and the womb is has kind of like very, very similar shape, and use as you said, like they

Daily Rituals For Embodied Voice

Kena Siu 41:50

are really connected to it. So, how is it if you would like to amplify more on what the womb has to do with the voice and our expression? Everything I know, but it but some people might not know.

Skylar Temple Singer 42:09

Yeah, I don't know. I'll I'll explain for sure. Just expressing my yeah, it's like on so the actually when a a baby is a fetus and being developed in the womb, the throat and the sex organs, I believe, are they're created from the same in vitro cells, the same ones. And so they're they're literally like the earliest coming from like the earliest tissues, like they're the same. So that you have basically like two of the same thing in your body, just having slightly different roles. And there's been a lot of studies around this and like how the two are linked. I wouldn't say I'm an expert in sharing all that information, so I'll just share generally that you know they come from the same cells. And yeah, they do. Like if you look at the if you look at like the tonsils in the in the throat, and then you look at the the vaginal canal and the uterus and the ovaries, they look the same. And so how they're connected somatically when like when one thing is closed, the other thing is also closed. And so if you feel tightness in your throat and you feel closed up there, you're likely also having a lot of tension in your in your sex organs, in your in your yoni, the Sanskrit word for vagina. Yes. So like working to relax your throat helps to helps to relax everything with your your womb, with with your yoni, like helps to create more flow. Like if you feel dry in one place, you're gonna feel dry in the other as well. So there's a there's like one simple way that you can like hack into helping this open now. Two sounds that resonate with the throat and the womb. So the bija sound that I mentioned earlier, these sounds that resonate with the universe for the womb is V-A-M, Vom. And the sound for the throat is Hom, H A M.

Kena Siu 44:47

Okay.

Skylar Temple Singer 44:48

And you can just like take a take a few breaths, get yourself a little bit settled, and then after a few breaths, you can take a deep breath in and really aim to not make a like perfect sound, but to to see if you can make the sound from the area of the body that you're targeting. So starting at the womb, yes.

Kena Siu 45:18

Would you like to do the practice?

Skylar Temple Singer 45:21

Yeah, yeah, we can do it.

Kena Siu 45:22

Let's do a short practice here. I hope the sound is gonna come through, but otherwise, I mean, you you already, I mean, you already explain what it's it, and I think it would be great, yeah, for our audience to put this into practice.

Skylar Temple Singer 45:37

Okay, great. Let's do it. Okay, so it's okay if you're not seated, but if you're if you're driving, just please keep your eyes open. And yeah, so just shift your hips a little bit side to side, and if it feels comfortable, close your eyes. And drop your awareness in and down. Magnetize your tailbone towards the earth, lift up through your heart and draw your chin slightly down towards your chest. Drop your awareness in and down, down all the way to your womb space. Even if you don't have a womb anymore, or if you've never had one, you still have an energetic womb space, a center of creativity. And feeling your hips anchored down. Take a deep breath in through your womb space, deeply into your belly, up through your chest, and pull your breath all the way in and up to the crown of your head, and take an open mouth exhale. Let

The Power Of A Liberated Woman’s Voice

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out some tension. This time, sip in through a straw, like you're sipping in energy up through the earth. So breathe in through a straw. Up, up, up, up, up to the crown of your head, filling up with earth energy, grounding you here now to this moment. Three, two, big exhale. You can sigh out. Beautiful. And then we'll do one more deep breath in through a straw. Three, two, one big exhale. Now we are going to make the sound of vom V A M. And I invite you to really, when you take your breath in, to breathe into the womb space and imagine and sense and feel how low you can anchor this sound. If you can resonate it throughout the walls of your womb, like you're giving yourself a sound bath from the inside, connecting to your sense of creativity, sensuality, sexuality. So take a breath in for vom. And it doesn't have to sound like me. You can sound however you want. Take a deep breath in. Sensation.

Kena Siu 50:29

My womb is happier. You feel happier? Yes, my womb is happier.

Skylar Temple Singer 50:35

Oh, yeah. See, notice the smile. Notice how that comes up, how that makes your voice open to tell me that your voice is happier. For me, it's making me want to move my hips. Yeah, that too. All of a sudden, yeah. Beautiful. And then we can also bring it up to the throat just to balance it and this womb throat connection. So to complete, we'll make the sound of you can go low, you can go high. It's all up to you. So, second one, we'll take a deep breath in for hum. From the throat, from the ability to speak your truth, clearly. I notice energy moving through my spine, making me sit taller. I'm feeling the gratitude of my womb, of the connection between my throat and my womb. Feeling power. Awakening. You can complete by just placing a hand over your throat, a hand over your wound. Can

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be the front or the back of your throat. Just honoring these sacred spaces. Oh, Ashay, Namaste. Come back to Kina.

Kena Siu 53:22

Thank you. Wow. So beautiful. Such a simple, powerful practice just to reconnect with the womb, the troath, and of course, with the soul, with who we truly are. So such a gift. Thank you.

Skylar Temple Singer 53:48

Right, and that took like five minutes, maybe.

Kena Siu 53:52

Yes.

Skylar Temple Singer 53:53

You can do this anytime.

Kena Siu 54:00

This could be such a beautiful practice to do in the morning with the intention of speaking the truth open, you know, the your voice through the day. And then I'm sure the day is gonna be completely different.

Skylar Temple Singer 54:20

Yes, yes, yes, totally.

Kena Siu 54:26

Oh wow, thank you. Well, this wasn't planned, and I'm so happy I got to understand it because it's so beautiful.

Skylar Temple Singer 54:36

Yeah, why not? Why not shift your vibration in five minutes? Yes, it's that easy. It's that easy, exactly.

Kena Siu 54:46

Thank you, Skylar. Would you like to share where the beautiful audience of Midlife Autofly can find you?

Skylar Temple Singer 54:55

Yeah. So you can find me on Instagram, Skylar Temple Singer, S-K-Y-L-A-R, T-E-M-P-L-E, S-I-N-G-E-R. It's the same for Facebook as well, and my website, Skylar Templesinger.com. And yeah, those are great places to find me. I encourage you to join my email list. I send out some free vocal activations, guided meditations, and have some other offerings that I share there as well.

Kena Siu 55:30

Awesome. Thank you. We're gonna add all those links to to the show notes so people can reach out to you. And I just want to clarify that her name is actually her name, which I found fascinating. Yeah, it's not made up or anything, it's just amazing. And and you get to embody it fully, sister.

Skylar Temple Singer 55:58

Singer is my family name and Temple Skylar, Skylar's my first name, temple is my middle name, and that that's that's what my parents gave me. So I don't even I don't know if they even knew, you know, that I think I think they did, but they didn't. And yeah, I and I just came into this world being like my name is Singer. Well, okay.

Kena Siu 56:25

Awesome. That's cool. So two more questions before we close this interview. How are you called this chapter of your life at this moment?

Skylar Temple Singer 56:46

Uh the word that came through was like breakthrough. Yeah feels like a feels like a breakthrough time where there's so much beauty and a lot of like flight, wings, wings open, you know, feeling like feeling like a butterfly. Uh and so much learning.

Kena Siu 57:13

Beautiful. Thank you. And what's a pleasure that you enjoy the most?

Skylar Temple Singer 57:20

What's a pleasure that I enjoy the most? Yes. A cow. That I have in my hand. That's what you're having at this moment. Yeah. Awesome. Love it.

Kena Siu 57:36

Thank you. Again, Skylar, such a pleasure having you here, sister, to connect with you, to have you here sharing your wisdom, such a powerful content and wisdom, and that you share with such a beautiful energy and spark and light. And I just, I mean, I love you so much, and I just wishing you the best always. And I hope that your medicine, your power keeps spreading around the world because we need it, and your presence is just such a gift.

Skylar Temple Singer 58:15

Thank you so much. Thank you so much,

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sister. I'm so honored to be on your show. It's it's been lovely to see from the moment that you created it and being here now. And I just I love you and your presence and the questions that you ask and your heart so much and your soul and your voice. Thank you. Thank you so much. Until the next time. Yes.

Kena Siu 58:47

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