Midlife Butterfly: Stop Self-Abandoning & People Pleasing by Healing Your Nervous System — Feel Alive Again
Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women who are tired of self-abandonment just to hold everything else together. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide, this podcast explores emotional truth, nervous system healing, self-remembrance, feminine aliveness, and what it really means to come home to yourself after years of over-functioning, caregiving, people-pleasing, and survival mode.
If you've been feeling emotionally exhausted, disconnected from yourself, people pleasing, overwhelmed by everyone else's needs, or unsure who you are beyond your roles and responsibilities — you are not alone.
Each episode meets you where you are — in the exhaustion, the confusion, the quiet longing — and gently guides you back to yourself through nervous system awareness, embodied reflection, and deeply honest conversation.
This is a space for women navigating midlife awakening, emotional burnout, identity shifts, relationship patterns, self-worth, feminine healing, and the quiet longing to finally feel alive again.
You don't need to become someone new. You just need to remember who you truly are.
🔗 Connect with Kena:
🦋 Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
🌐 Website: midlifebutterfly.ca
Much love 💜, Kena Siu
Episodes
95 episodes
#85 - What a Bicycle Accident Taught Me About Nervous System Healing
Have you ever ignored what your body was trying to tell you until it forced you to stop?Ten days ago, Kena had a bicycle accident — and what followed wasn't a story about pushing through, but about finally, fully listening. This...
BPF #9 — Let Go of Control & Let Pleasure In
Butterfly Practice Fridays are short, intimate episodes designed to land in your body, not just your head.Consider this your weekly permission slip.Every Friday, a simple practice to help you come home to yourself. Press play. Do ...
#84 - Why You Can't Feel Pleasure Until Your Nervous System Feels Safe
Your body isn't betraying you in midlife — it's been trying to talk to you for years.The tension, the tightness, the stuck feeling you can't quite name? It's not new. It's just finally loud enough to notice.🦋 You'll Discover:
BFP #8 - Sreen Off for good Rest
Butterfly Practice Fridays are short, intimate episodes designed to land in your body, not just your head.Consider this your weekly permission slip.Every Friday, a simple practice to help you come home to yourself. Press play. Do the thi...
#83 - The Importance of Rest for Your Nervous System
Why can't you rest, even when you finally lay down?Rest isn't just sleep — it's a nervous system state. And most of us have forgotten how to actually let our bodies get there. 🦋 You'll Discover:Why pushing ...
#82 - Leading From Pleasure: The Nervous System Shift To Stop Creating From Pressure
Are you creating from devotion, or are you creating from need?One question from my mentor cracked me wide open on a walk by the canal — and it's reshaping how I show up for my launch, my clients, and myself. 🦋 In this episode I'...
BPF #7 — The Art of Savouring: A Practice for Simple Pleasure
Butterfly Practice Fridays are short, intimate episodes designed to land in your body, not just your head. Consider this your weekly permission slip.Every Friday, a simple practice to help you come home to yourself. Press play. Do the th...
#81 - From Self-Abandonment to Living in Pleasure: A Midlife Woman's Return to Her Body
You've spent years leading from the doing, the controlling, the checklist — and you're exhausted.Kena shares her own journey out of self-abandonment and people pleasing, into a life guided by her cycle, her body, and pleasure itself — an...
BPF #6 - A Practice for Releasing Stress
Butterfly Practice Fridays are short, intimate episodes designed to land in your body, not just your head.Consider this your weekly permission slip.Every Friday, a simple practice to help you come home to yourself. Press play. Do ...
#80 - Reclaim Your Worth: Ending Self-Abandonment to Remember Your Midlife Identity
Where in your life are you still living from the neck up — and what happens if you let your body answer instead?In this episode I sat down with Kamesha and Denise over at Wisdom in Bloom, and we went deep on what it actually costs to rec...
BPF #5 - The Law Of Mirrors: A Midlife Practice for Self-Awareness & Healing Relationships
Butterfly Practice Fridays are short, intimate episodes designed to land in your body, not just your head.Consider this your weekly permission slip.Every Friday, a simple practice to help you come home to yourself. Press play. Do ...
#79 - Stop Attracting Toxic Relationships: Healing Self-Abandonment & Your Nervous System
Ever wonder why the same kind of person keeps showing up in your life — just wearing a different face?In this episode, we’re unpacking why “toxic relationships” might not be about anyone being toxic at all — and what your trigge...
BPF #4 - The Versions of You That Self-Abandonment Left Behind
Butterfly Practice Fridays are short, intimate episodes designed to land in your body, not just your head.Consider this your weekly permission slip.Every Friday, a simple practice to help you come home to yourself. Press play. Do ...
#78 - The Cause Of “Feeling Broken” Is Self-Abandonment. Reclaim Your Wholeness In Midlife
How many parts of yourself have you left behind just to be liked?In this episode, we explore why you're not broken — you're fragmented — and how calling those rejected parts of yourself back to the table is the real path t...
BPF #3 - Nervous System Healing: How Midlife Women Start Loving Themselves Again
Butterfly Practice Fridays are short, intimate episodes designed to land in your body, not just your head.Consider this your weekly permission slip.Every Friday, a simple practice to help you come home to yourself. Press play. Do ...
#77 - The Real Reason Midlife Women Struggle to Love Themselves (It's Self-Abandonment, Not Self-Esteem)
Have you ever wondered why you're supposed to suffer for love?What if the love you keep looking for outside yourself was your responsibility all along?In this episode, we explore why suffering for love is a progr...
BPF #2 - Processing Dark Emotions & Heal Your Nervous System
What if the emotions you've spent your whole life hiding... are actually the ones trying to guide you home?Butterfly Practice Fridays are short, intimate episodes designed to land in your body, not just your head.Consider...
#76 - When Self-Abandonment Was the Strategy That Worked & How to Come Back Home
You've done everything right. And somehow that's exactly the problem. This episode is for the woman who has built a beautiful life by overriding herself — and is finally ready to stop. 🦋 You'll Discover:<...
BPF #1 - Redefining Pleasure - Butterfly Practice Friday
Butterfly Practice Fridays are short, intimate episodes designed to land in your body, not just your head.Consider this your weekly permission slip.Every Friday, a simple practice to help you come home to yourself. Press play. Do ...
#75 - How Much Longer Are You Willing to Wait? Breaking the Comfort Zone in Midlife
Is there a friend you keep meaning to call — and you haven't?Is there a life you keep meaning to start living — and you're still waiting?This is one of those episodes that came from real life, raw and unfiltered. This week, Kena l...
#74 - From Over-Functioning to Feeling: How to Reclaim Your Aliveness in Midlife
Are you moving through your days efficiently — but feeling strangely empty inside? What if the life you've built looks fine from the outside, but something underneath has gone quiet?This episode is an invitation to stop, feel, and ask th...
#73 - Reconnecting with Pleasure in Midlife: Intimacy, Shame & the Path to Feminine Aliveness with Trina Read
Have you ever felt completely disconnected from your own body — like pleasure was something that happened to other women, not you?What if the shame you carry around sex isn't a personal failing — but a pattern you were never...
#72 - The Slow Fade: How People-Pleasing Steals Your Identity
You didn't lose yourself all at once. It happened one small yes at a time.In this episode, we trace it back — to the exact moment the slow fade begins, and why most women can't pinpoint when they stopped being themselves.People-pl...
#71 - Why High-Achieving Women Feel Exhausted from Self-Abandonment
Many high-achieving women think they’re exhausted because they’re doing too much. But beneath the over-functioning, caregiving, people-pleasing, and constant responsibility, there’s often something deeper happening: self-abandonment.In t...
#70 - Emotional Eating In Midlife And What Your Nervous System Wants
Have you ever finished eating something and immediately felt worse — not from the food, but from the story you told yourself about it?What if there was nothing wrong with you — and the only thing missing was understanding ho...