The Inner Spark: Menopause as a Spiritual Awakening with Amanda Green

In this rich and expansive conversation, Alison is joined by the inspiring Amanda Green who is a Transformation Coach, Leadership Facilitator, and Spiritual Guide. Together, we explore the idea of menopause as a spiritual awakening and a powerful portal into deeper self-awareness.

Amanda shares how she works with women to connect with their spiritual intelligence, inner wisdom, and power which is often buried beneath the busy-ness and expectations of life. She talks about menopause as a time when the body and soul speak more loudly, inviting us to slow down, pay attention, and make space for healing and release.

Amanda explains how experiences like hot flushes, vivid dreams, emotional shifts, and even illness can be part of a larger energetic and spiritual shift. Amanda also touches on the roles of feminine archetypes, the elements (earth, fire, water, air), and past life healing in her work, and how menopause can be a threshold moment that awakens intuitive gifts and deepens purpose.

This is a warm and reflective chat for anyone curious about the soul side of menopause – and the possibility that what feels like falling apart might actually be a deeper becoming.

You can find Amanda on Amanda Green | LinkedIn or (4) Facebook and her website is www.amandagreencoaching.co.uk

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Episode 6 - Amanda Green FINAL

[00:00:00] Are you or someone you know and love going through the menopause? If this is you low and welcome to find your Spark, real life menopause moments. I'm Allison and I'm excited to guide you through all things menopause. In this empowering podcast, we'll dive into honest conversations, share real life stories, and bringing guest insight to help you feel supported through every stage of the menopause transition.

Hello and welcome to Amanda Green. I'm absolutely delighted to have you on Find Your Spark Real life menopause Moments. And I think we met probably about a year ago or so now. And the work that you do absolutely fascinates me. You are a self-confessed, skeptic turned mystic. So we can talk all about that in a sec.

But during one of our more recent chats, we were talking all about menopause as we do, [00:01:00] and we talked about. It's menopause and spirituality. And at that point I knew I needed you on this podcast. So thank you very much and welcome. Thank you, Alison. You are very welcome. So for the benefit of our listeners, please can you.

Tell me what you mean by skeptic turned mystic. Yeah, so it's a pleasure to be here, by the way. I love what you're doing and how many people you are helping with your work, and that's what we're interested in, isn't it? So, uh, yes. So I was a diehard skeptic. I was not interested in anything to do with spirituality.

It. Probably freaked me out, to be honest. So, um, I like to phrase myself as a skeptic turned mystic to explain I'm still on the journey and this is not where I thought I was going on the journey, but here we are. And so I have gone through quite the transformation of developing a spiritual connection and understanding myself as, [00:02:00] um.

As spiritual and have developed some extra sensory abilities as well, which I, I cannot deny. So that, that's where we're at basically. Perfect. And before we dive into the connection between menopause and spirituality, tell me about your menopause journey and how you went through that journey and went on the, your personal transition, transformation, whatever you want to call it.

Yeah. Yeah, so they were simultaneous. I entered perimenopause at the same time as I was going through this spiritual awakening, which has taken quite a few years, been more intense in the last sort of three and a half years. Um, and I. It's coincided because, and so I've developed some different understandings of, um, the purpose of menopause as well and the, the spiritually intelligent perspective around it.

Obviously, there's a lot to do with medical science and hormones and the physical side. I, [00:03:00] I don't deny any of that. I'm a woman, so I experienced them, but I have been given this ability or this interest to dive a bit deeper beneath. All things that are in 3D reality and happening to understand the deeper meaning of them.

So I've come to understand that. The menopause is an initiation and it's a gateway to entering the, um, third realm of, of being a woman, which is to be a wise woman. So it's, it's, um, yeah, it's a gateway and it is an opportunity and an invitation, but there is a lot of negativity around it, and the symptoms that we have as well can be very challenging.

So it can become a bit of a doom and gloom kind of topic, but it really does have a profound level of, of transformation and beauty within it as well. Perfect. And, and I love that because all too often we do focus on the negative, the doom and gloom, the horrendous time [00:04:00] that we're having. Um, you know, it's not as often that menopause is spoken about in a positive way and, and how we can find different, um.

Positive aspects, as you've called it, a gateway or, you know, thrive through our symptoms, through finding different ways of coping, et cetera. So when you're talking about this gateway, what was your gateway? Hmm, that's a good question. So it's been, it's been quite big for me. Um. I do take it seriously because the symptoms are sometimes incredibly challenging, but I suppose for me, it's brought up for me how I truly, really feel about being a woman.

I. And, um, it's also brought up for me the, the subconscious fears that I had around being a woman and also the subconscious fears that I had around perimenopause symptoms because the symptoms. [00:05:00] Do dredge things up. But what I believe is, and what I understand now is they are not dredging things up now. So we don't just suddenly get anxiety for no reason.

An anxiety is a cover emotion for, um, suppressed anger, uh, doubt, guilt, shame, insecurity, anxiety is just like the top level of it. So when we have things like that, it's speaking to a fear that I've come to understand is old. We've had it for a very long time. It's just we've never dealt with it. So it's not that all of a sudden we're, we're going crackers and we're suddenly becoming anxious.

It's that we're dealing with. A level of suppressed emotion, a level of emotion that we have pushed down, denied, rejected, suppressed, kept away. 'cause we're too busy, um, throughout the years and it's bubbling up now so that we can work with it so that as we go through to becoming the wise woman and the, the wisest version of ourselves, we're not carrying any of the anxious [00:06:00] or fear-based patterns in our psychology.

So it's coming up to be released. Fascinating, isn't it? Like you say, you know, there's no denying the, the symptoms and horrendous time that some people go through, but you know, there is a different way of looking at the menopause, you know, and, um, you know, tell me more about, about the, what you found out on your journey then about menopause and spiritual connection and, um, you know, how you've used this to your advantage.

Yeah, so I realized I had very deep rooted, so this wasn't obvious to me on any level until I, um, went more deeply on the journey and until I really started developing the ability I. To connect very deeply with emotions, and at the same time, I started enhancing, or my intuition just started enhancing, and I also developed extra sensory abilities so I could see more deeply [00:07:00] into where things were rooted.

And this is a bit, that's gonna sound a bit bananas, but honestly, I've had so much experience with this, I'd be a fool if I'd denied it at this stage. I can't. It's just who I am now. I had past life memories that came up of times when I was a woman and how I was treated. And it showed me how I viewed being a woman in this life because I'd had previous incarnations where I'd had different experiences of being a man and a woman.

And that's very true for a lot of people, not just me. And it showed me. Um, where I was disconnected there and then I even, I developed these abilities, which, which everybody has access to. By the way. I am not something special, it's just that it, uh, it's my job to help people with this sort of, sort of understanding, uh, reluctantly.

But I developed an ability to be able to go into pain and I did have a lot of period pains. So I could meditate and go into pain and discover what the underlying cause of it was. [00:08:00] So I developed this belief now through seeing the evidence that all pain and discomfort is connected to a deeper. Meaning, or a deeper, it's got a deeper reason for being there.

And, um, I was so disconnected from the truth of the divine feminine. I was overly reliant on the, the masculine traits. And, um, also I think as a western culture has valued IQ and logic over intuition for, for a very long time. So it values the masculine over the, over the feminine or yin and yang. Use whatever terms you want to use.

This is just my sort of personal experience and it was true and I, and it's why I had such bad period pains because I wouldn't go with the flow. I wouldn't relax, I wouldn't connect to my intuition. I was a workaholic. And I think a lot of symptoms around menopause like the, the brain fog and the anxiety.

And the strong emotions are very connected to performance anxiety [00:09:00] because I think we have a culture that you must be productive much of the time. And I think a lot of people, whether they would admit it or not, do feel guilty relaxing for extended periods of time or always think that we should be doing more and more and more.

Um, and it's really not who we're. Actually meant to be. And that's what I've been learning. I'm not at the end game. I'm still, you know, working through these patterns, but I've, I've had to do a lot of it. And the bizarre thing is, and I don't, I don't mind sharing this is when I was little, I knew I wasn't comfortable being a woman.

I knew that as a little girl, and it was very strong for me. So I would model my behavior on what I thought was powerful, um, so that I could feel worthy. And that, that came through in all the pains that I had. So isn't that just bon Its it, it's, it's bizarre, isn't it? How, how the, when you've like gone [00:10:00] on this journey, how you've learned so much about your yourself mm-hmm.

And then use that to your advantage to help you through. This period of time, and I suppose you are now, in fact you tell me then what's, what was your career journey been? 'cause you've gone on a huge change in your career as well. I. Yes. So I, I do have 20, 20, 20, 25 years of experience in business development and sales and business growth, um, in corporate, self-employed and education.

And, uh, I was very much, I believed in what I could see at the end of my nose. Not not much else, although I was always interested in psychology. I've always had a hunger for that. Um. And I knew I loved helping people. So I trained as a coach over about, about 10 years ago actually, um, because I've worked in sales training and, uh, helping people with that side of things.[00:11:00] 

And I found that a lot of stuff came down to confidence rather than knowledge of a, a product or a service. And, and so that led me onto the coaching path and then. I decided to go into self-employment as a coach, which at the time I thought was a crazy decision because all I could see was coaches on LinkedIn everywhere thinking, why are you going to leave your very nice job?

Um, at the management school at Lancaster University, I loved working there. Um, I like being in a learning environment as well. Why are you leaving that brilliant job to go and be a coach when there are so many out there? And I didn't have a niche at that stage, but I just had this massive compulsion that that's was my.

Path at that time, and that's what I was meant to be doing. And so I called myself an emotional health coach at first because I had a really in-depth understanding of emotions and what they mean and how we're meant to work with them. And then that's, I think emotional intelligence leads to spiritual intelligence.

It's [00:12:00] a bit of an natural root, really. And so then I went on. Start exploring what I didn't know because how can I comment on something that I didn't know? I knew nothing about spirituality. All my stuff was based in what was logical and scientific and psychological and psychotherapy. I did that, sort of did those sorts of courses for a while and then, um, I studied spiritual intelligence intellectually for some time, and then I started having.

Actual psychic experiences and I went through this. This is nothing light. I went through over three years of depression and dark nights of the soul. Uh, because I, I was very skeptical. It frightened me. I wasn't okay with being that version. And it still brings up, you can probably see it, tell it in my voice a bit of emotion there because it was so hard.

So it's nothing light that I've entered into. I've not come in with like, oh, lovely, let's just, let's. Get some psychic abilities going on, having these experiences, [00:13:00] it was absolutely excruciating because I really didn't want to be that version of me, but I've, I can't deny it or be an idiot and be an absolute idiot at this stage if I didn't say clearly.

I've got some work to do here. So now I do specialize in spiritual intelligence. I don't come out with all the radical stuff. Obviously, if I'm delivering workshops for businesses. So I, but I tailor it to what people's appetite is and what they're ready for. And it's basically about connecting with the, you know, the part of ourselves that exists beyond 3D reality.

During your, your work as a, as coach, uh, well self-employed work, the, um, in you working as a, a spiritual coach. Have you supported individuals that are going through their menopause and, you know, supported it in, in the way that, that we're discussing now, looking at, you know, the spiritual side and, and how they can understand their emotions more [00:14:00] and understand the pain, et cetera.

Yeah, very much so. Because when emotions are coming up, when fear-based emotions, I would say that emotions live in one of two camps. One is rooted in fear and the other camp is love. So when it's fear-based emotions when they're coming up, they are only coming up at a time in someone's life, in my humble opinion, uh, when they're ready to deal with it.

And we, we go through emotions in layers. It's not a linear process. You can't bring, uh, linear and a lot of logic to emotions. Emotions are almighty. They will blast logic out of the water, which is a, an interesting term to use. 'cause emotions and water is the element. You know, what's the element for that?

Um, and so they're coming up at a time when somebody's ready. To move beyond them. And it can be incredibly challenging and incredibly painful. And I know I have been there. I don't talk about anything that I haven't dealt with myself. Um, you know, when you're trying to function and all of a sudden. Huge waves of [00:15:00] doubts come up, huge waves of anxiety.

Um, or you suddenly realize that you've been operating on a pattern of, they call it fog, fear, obligation, and guilt. And that's where your decisions are being made from. Because virtually everything we do is emotional. I. You know, it's emotionally driven and I think that, um, people come to me when they've recognized certain patterns in themselves and they want to go deeper.

So that might be something like people pleasing or control. I would say they're two of the largest, um, factors of going against the divine feminine where we think that we're in control of everything. And so when we're not in control, when these emotions are coming up or we're feeling anxious. All of a sudden that sends us into a complete spiral.

And the, the lower mind is frantically trying to get hold of it, but it doesn't have enough power. The higher mind, which is your spiritual side, has all the power. And you know, we really struggle with uncertainty and we really struggle with, um, [00:16:00] sometimes thinking that we're weak or vulnerable and, um. That there's something wrong with us, but there isn't.

It's just an, it is just an invitation to say, one that we can't ignore as well. It needs to be strong enough that we can't ignore it anymore. It will not be suppressed. It's, it's the gremlin that's coming up, dancing in your face saying, now's your time. Like, let's go there. Let's get into this. So I'm sure obviously clearly not breaching any confidentiality or anything like that, but what type, you know, can you, can you give us some examples of how you've supported somebody through, um, you know, through that, that journey themselves?

Yes, so, well, my client base is professional, so because I've always been in professional, um, working situations, my client base is, it is men and women. Um, but it is, yeah, professionals that can be anything from, um, chief people officer to coaches and therapists, managers, you [00:17:00] know, business owners. Those are the types of people, um, that tend to be attracted to my work and.

Yeah, I, I just go with everybody, the level they're ready to, to be at. So I recognize I've had quite a lot of spiritual experiences. Now. Not everybody's ready to hear about all of that. Some people are fascinated, you know, but, um, I just meet people at where they're at, and so we go as deep as they want to go to.

So it would be, it could be anything from, oh, I'll tell you about, I'll tell you a common story. So. A lot of the people who come to me for one-to-one work, that's not the same as doing workshops and, um, uh, programs for businesses and independently. The people who come to me for one-to-one work are intuitive or potentially psychic and maybe don't know it yet.

So they're all very empathic people and they're either consciously aware of that. You know, the kind of person who really wants to make a [00:18:00] difference, um, is quite feeling getting emotive. Um, care cares about people or they have, um, shut it down so far, they've got no awareness of it, and they're very much around control.

And so they're ready at the point they come to me for one-to-one work, which is why I never, I never push one-to-one work. I wait until the, the person comes and they're, and they're ready. They are ready to go to a deeper level of understanding themselves and also activating their intuition and bringing themselves into balance so they can balance their yin and yang energies beautifully, which means to become whole.

'cause if we're just all one way all the time, we can't be whole and and balanced. So we do quite. Um, deep work. Can I help people understand how to work with emotions? Because you can't bring a lot of logic to the game. You can't bring thinking, just [00:19:00] thinking to emotional challenges because it's physiological, the emotional stuff, we literally feel it in the body.

So there are different techniques that are better, and I help people understand why it's coming up for them. And also it was always meant to. It's not because people have got anything wrong or because they've suddenly become weak. Um, it's actually because it's part of your destiny to look into the particular flavor of fear that's coming up for you.

Now, I don't always go into this bit 'cause it's not entirely necessary to go into past lives. You don't have to understand past lives to understand the, the present moment and move through that. But for some people it is actually a critical part of the journey and needs. Deeply helpful for them. It makes, it's just the thing that clicks everything into place and makes perfect sense.

So if people want that information and if it's given to me, so I meditate before recession and I will receive certain loving guidance and information for people. And if they want that, I will share it with them. I don't know what's gonna come through [00:20:00] until it comes through, but it always comes from a, a good place.

And also I position it, you know, I'm a fully trained, experienced coach, so I'll position things as in you, you don't have to believe any of this. I'll give it to people, but let's make sense of it. Let's get some value. Outta it so people understand why they would be having that particular information. Um, and just because it may be fascinating for people to know, I can tell you of a common one which happened to me, uh, which is connected to sometimes to hot flushes because that flushes is one of the symptoms that I've had a great deal of.

And they can go away for ages and then they come back again. So at the moment, I'm going through another intense period of transformation and I feel it physically and I have to do less work and I have to meditate more. At that time, and I get a lot of hot flushes and I was shown that the hot flushes, um, are burning away the old, so they're literally here to burn away old patterns and take away old emotions and old beliefs that are holding us [00:21:00] back about our power as, as a woman.

How worthy we are as women. Um, so one I will often have, I realize how crazy this sounds as well, but remember I wasn't skeptic. Uh, I still am a little bit, but again, that will be silly now. So I had this, one of my earliest past life experiences was when I woke up in the middle of the night and I could smell burning and I was having hot flushes at this time, I could smell burning, and I thought, what the heck is that?

And it was intense enough for me to get up out of bed and go, I'm gonna have to go downstairs and check this out. Now, I've never left a pan on or the oven on ever. So I went downstairs thinking I was gonna find something like this that would explain the smell could smell and you take it seriously, don't you burning, you're gonna go, you're gonna go and check.

I've got kids in my house, so I couldn't find anything. And at that point the smell had di like disappeared. I thought, well that is so [00:22:00] weird and a bit disconcerting, but I checked everything. Nothing was on, um, everything was put away as usual. And so I went back upstairs and got into a bed and, and lay there thought, oh, I'll just try and relax now and go to sleep.

And then I had a really intense body experience, which of, of which I've had many. I have to tell you, I've had this feeling of a red hot poker going through my entire body, like from the base of my spine up through the top of my head. Now, it wasn't excruciating, but it was painful enough for me to take it seriously.

And I think I have to have these things because I would deny it. My logical mind would just go, that is, that was nothing. It was just a dream. No, it wasn't. It was fire going through my body. And then I had a past life memory of being burned as a witch. Wow. If you listen to my laugh, you might say that's pretty obvious 'cause I've got a right Kaggle.

But, uh, that's, that's what happened. And so I realized that I was so afraid of [00:23:00] psychic ability and spirituality because I've died for having it in a, a past life. And so all our fears that we have are actually not irrational. You know, some of them we think are irrational because we can't place them in this life.

None of them are irrational. All of them have actually happened in another lifetime. And those are the ones that you bring through to this life, um, to play with. And not denying childhood psychology. I've done a lot of work around that. That all has a part to play as well. It's all connected, but um, yeah, that's what I've found to be true and I discover it with.

All of my clients and that's why these past life memories come through so that we can work and and heal them now. And so I will, I've regularly had that experience for all the clients of mine, and I mean senior people in business who understand and connect with all this stuff and have been burned as witches or many other things.

There's loads of other things that have happened to people. Some mundane, some absolutely massive, [00:24:00] and. One of the things that sometimes when I do the meditation and pick that up for other people, when it's a, when it's a burning, I can feel the woman's rage. Like it's a powerful woman who has abilities, who is trying to help people, and she's just been killed because someone didn't like her.

Someone thought she was a bit too clever, you know, didn't like what they were doing, and I can feel the rage in the woman, and oftentimes that will come through in this life as suppressed anger. That is bubbling away, needs to come out. Otherwise he goes into depression, which is exactly what happened with me, uh, for, for a long time.

Wow. It it is absolutely fascinating, isn't it? You know, when listening to you, I, I could listen to you all day. Suppose you know, you, you've made this transition from your corporate role. You're now working in your own business. You're a coach, you know, but you do so much more than than coaching individuals.

So, you know, tell me. [00:25:00] Tell me about what else you do. Yeah, I, I actually love designing workshops and programs, um, and delivering them. I love working with people, so I, I like taking huge topics as well and breaking it down. So I've done loads of stuff, everything from two hour workshops online or in companies or delivered my own events as well.

And I will do any topic that I feel excited about. I love leadership as well, and I think spiritual intelligence. Has a massive part to play in leadership. I also do interview leaders around that topic as well, which is fascinating. Um, so I've done everything from delivering a, a six month leadership program to running my own events.

And recently you attended one of course, which was, um, tarot as a transformational toolkit. So tarot is one of the. Things that has helped me the most on this journey. It is not something I thought would ever be coming out of my mouth, but tarot is, [00:26:00] I think, really misunderstood. It's a fascinating personal development tool and is full of, um, psychology, I would say Jung in psychology.

And, uh, it represents 78 facets of the human psyche and it's something that every single person can, can relate to. So I will do workshops around that where I can. Bring the mystical side in, but also to help people, how they are a human person, having a, a spiritual journey and um, how to rela how to make it very relatable to everybody's life, because I love talking about spiritual intelligence, but it has to make sense to people.

It has to be something that we can use and work with and integrate rather than just being like. Some of it is out there obviously, but um, yeah. How do we use it? How do we work with it? How do we understand ourselves as a form of energy that is way beyond the brain, the body, the emotions, and the thoughts?

'cause that's what we're [00:27:00] talking about really on a basic level, it's the higher mind. And so I've also developed a leadership model called Elemental Leadership that is steeped in spiritual intelligence. And that's gone out to a few businesses and organizations already, but I, it's like growing organically.

It's my baby and it's growing organically. But uh, that's based on the four elements of earth, air, water, and fire, and how they are components of ourselves and their archetypes that. Exist in our subconscious that every single person can relate to those symbols and, uh, they all mean something about our psyche and who we are.

So I've also got a few archetypes within there that I'm playing with and using to explore with managers and more. So it can be like, just one example is that in the fire element, one of the archetypes is the warrior. In the water element, one of the archetypes is the caregiver. And both of those are really key facets of our psyche.[00:28:00] 

And just because someone displays more warrior traits than, uh, another, doesn't mean that they are just destined to work with that archetype. Usually to bring it into balance, we need to be working with both of them. There's 12 of them all together in the, in the model. But yeah, that's it. We know with, there's so many layers to us, and I think spiritual intelligence helps us uncover that and unravel it when we like to put labels on things in this society.

And that's fine. And sometimes that does help people. Like if you've got a label of dyslexia, that can be very li liberating for some people to, to pinpoint it. But I think we are so much more than we understand, and I don't want people to be pigeonholed. In fact, sometimes when you are the care you take on the caregiver role and relevant to menopause, women have traditionally taken on that role.

I would say that still now very careful I everyone to generalize. Um, but still now I would say women are sort of emotionally [00:29:00] responsible. They take on the. Responsibility in the household for the emotional side of things. A lot of the time, not always. And um. Sometimes when people do that all the time, it can build up resentment, which is almost like a backed up fire.

And the Warrior energy's ready to come, ready to come through more, but people have resigned themselves to certain roles and it doesn't mean that you need to to do that. It might be that you have loads of warrior energy to being through, you just haven't connected with it. Just as an example. Um, and all of those archetypes have a light and a shadow side as well.

So the shadow side of the caregiver will be the people pleaser, who's then completely, you know, putting everybody else's needs ahead of their own. And you know, if you've got, if a warrior's got too much fire, they're just gonna burn out basically, because we gotta have the balance all the time. So, yeah, I just love exploring things with a very open mind.

I. People and having a bit of fun as well. Not, you know, it's good to laugh, isn't it? [00:30:00] It is, definitely. So if you were to give somebody, um, you know, somebody's listening and you were to give them one or two tips to support them through the menopause, then from the spirituality side, what would you say? I would say learn how to love yourself.

And that's one thing it will teach you if you open up to the lesson, because I believe that our journey on this life is to open the heart. And I think we build, we're very good at building little walls around the heart. You know, when we have a certain experiences and I think I. We need to love ourselves.

And if somebody had said that to me a few years ago, I would rolled my eyes out listening on, what the hell are they talking about? Because it just, this was not my language at all. I was, I was interested in achievement and productivity, and I still am, but with a balance. I think we have to learn how to love ourselves and we need to teach our children to do the same thing.

And what I [00:31:00] mean by loving yourself is yes, make time to slather lotion on your legs or have a bath for what you're doing. You know, great to have self-care, but self-love. The ultimate self-love is actually being able to love ourselves unconditionally at the times when we least want to. So at the times where those darker emotions are rippling up to the surface and we're getting frustrated with them, or angry or frightened, those are the times where unconditional self love is required and you have to learn to be, uh, the mother to yourself.

And give, give ourselves that level of compassion. I found it so difficult. I no compassion for myself. I was very, very tough on myself to just have that absolute compassion and I. Let go of the resistance and when we start to let go. 'cause if you think about control, if you hold anything too tightly, it creates enormous tension.

Try to leave, lead a horse and hold the re really tightly. The horse's gonna be going, what the [00:32:00] hell is going on? You know, he's just let go a bit and relax with ourselves. Let us feel what we need to feel, because that's the only way that it starts to actually heal. It's very easy to push things away or get distracted, but when people push too hard, they will either, and this is what I call like a cosmic wallop.

Or a cosmic sledgehammer. You or a slap. You can, uh, you can have an accident. Or you know, the amount of times I, I see people post on LinkedIn that they've had a big accident or something's happened. A lot of the time it's been a lesson to say, slow down. You know, life is gonna change here. Life needs to change.

You're being course corrected. So I think I. That's where we can really have big episodes if we don't take care of ourselves and learn. And it is really difficult because we haven't been taught to slow down in this society. We're taught to speed up constantly, do more, do more, do more. But if we, if we don't have enough time, [00:33:00] I.

That used to be a self-fulfilling prophecy I lived in for a long time. If we don't have enough love or support or resources or money, or you name it, whatever it is, it's always speaking to a deeper belief that we're not enough. And actually, if you are here and you've got breath in your body, you are like this spiritual side says, yes you are.

You are worthy. There's nothing more that you need to know. So I think it's just allowing that tenderness. To come through for ourselves. The stuff that we sometimes give so easily to other people, we have to learn how to do it for ourselves. And actually, I was driving my girls to school yesterday morning.

It's funny as well, 'cause when I was young I thought if I was gonna have children, I would have boys. And again, it was that subconscious fear of dealing with women and women's issues and the feminine side. And how funny, I ended up having two girls who I love more than life itself, but in the car the other day, it suddenly dawned on me.

I'm now talking about this love thing and I show my daughters a lot of love. I always have. Um, but I thought. Am I teaching [00:34:00] them? So I'm saying we're not being taught about self or am I teaching my girls and I think I am by being who I am. But I was having a chat with 'em in the car saying, you know what's really important girls?

You must learn to love yourselves. And, and I explained what that means as I've just done now that we need to be doing this for the future generations to be more powerful than we are. Yeah. You're so right. As you said, it's so easy to get caught in that, that that race of. Doing more, working, more, working long hours, not taking time off for not even just yourself, but not taking time off to, to have time with your family.

And you know how many people go on holiday and they're on the, the phone, on their emails, and, and I know sometimes it's, it's required, but sometimes people feel that it's, it's expected. And, um, I know that's always been a bug bear of mine over the years that, you know, people need to. Take that time for themselves and their family.

So I, I completely, completely get [00:35:00] where you're coming from. Now, there'll be people listening to this who will be thinking, oh my goodness, I need to work with Amanda. So how can, how can people reach you? We'll put your contact details in the show notes, but you know, what, what type of things do you do and, and what have you got coming up?

Oh, thank you, Alison. So you can find me on a Amanda Green Coaching. That's my website. I'm also on LinkedIn, Facebook, and Instagram under that name. And. You can check out my one-to-one coaching offers, definitely. And if I periodically put on workshops and events and free workshops as well, sometimes it's definitely worth following on social media.

Find out when they are. And they usually go out first to my newsletter subscribers, which is, um, available on my website. Um, and I also run workshops for businesses. An organization. So if you, if people want something a bit different, I'm not gonna talk about being burned as a witch those days. [00:36:00] Uh, but, um, if some people want something different, like elemental leadership for example, and people want to start exploring themselves on a deeper level, but in a really fun, insightful way, it's surprising how connected people are to this material because we speak the language of nature already.

Uh, so yeah, just feel free to get in touch and, um. We'll have a look at what works. I like meeting objectives as well, so yeah, just help people to meet them in a, in a different way. Oh, thank you so much. I've loved our chat today. You know, and it's just brought a different, obviously we've talked about many things, but it's, it's brought a different perspective to menopause, which when I started this podcast, I wanted to bring, I wanted to bring guests on that gave different perspectives and different stories, and as it's called, it's real life menopause stories, so.

Yeah. Um, you know, thank you so much for, for being a wonderful guest, and I'm sure people will be getting in touch with you soon. Thank you, [00:37:00] Alison. I've loved every minute. Thank you so much for listening to find your Spark, real life menopause moments. If you'd like to learn more, visit www.sparkshr.co uk.

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