Hope Beyond Betrayal: Healing from Porn Addiction & Infidelity
You've just uncovered a painful truth about your partner's porn addiction or infidelity — and it's devastating. So, where do you go from here? How can your marriage survive the shock and betrayal? This podcast offers hope, healing, and practical steps for couples navigating the fallout of porn use and betrayal. We dive into the damaging effects of porn on the brain, explore how boundaries can help restore intimacy, and share a powerful path to recovery. Through our own journey of healing, we reveal how our marriage not only survived but was transformed into something stronger and more connected than ever before. Tune in for stories of resilience, insight, and expert advice on how to overcome betrayal and rebuild the trust and intimacy you deserve.
Episodes
68 episodes
#68 - "He Opens Up in Group, But Shuts Down With Me: How Can my Husband Overcoming Shame to be Safe?"
In this episode, David takes a listener question that asks tough questions regarding shame: Her husband shuts down or diverts the conversation to himself and his pain when she brings up hers.How can they overcome this? Can she get him t...
#67 - Does Porn Normalize Sexual Assault? The Cornell Case and What Research Shows
In this episode, David brings up the recent court filing of the Cornell Case in which sexual assault at the forefront of outrage because 1) there was no prosecution and 2) there were men that knew it was happening and did nothing.David ...
#66 - My Christian Husband Says He'll Quit Porn for Me — Is It Wrong to Want More Than That?
In this episode, David and Eileen welcome their guest anonymous to the podcast to open up about her story with her and her husband after betrayal. Is someone who is willing to give up porn for the relationship, but is struggling to accept it is...
#65 - 8 Misconceptions We’ve Discovered that Couples Bring Into Couples Coaching Part 2
In this second part of a two part episode, David and Eileen cover 4 additional misconceptions they have seen couples bring into couples coaching over the years. As they go down the list of experiences and misconceptions, they try to set the rig...
#64 - 8 Misconceptions We’ve Discovered that Couples Bring Into Couples Coaching Part 1
In this episode, David and Eileen cover 4 different misconceptions they have seen couples bring into couples coaching over the years. As they go down the list of experiences and misconceptions, they try to set the right expectations to help you...
#63 - Things I did Right and Things I did Wrong in Navigating my Husband's Betrayal
In this episode, Eileen takes the mic to talk through a recap of her journey through betrayal in the early days and recounting some ways that she can look back and feel good about some of her decisions, and mull over ways she wished she had don...
#62 - How Betrayed Partners Find Motivation to Heal From Betrayal Trauma
In this episode, David and Eileen shift the focus to the betrayed partner, addressing a trap many fall into: waiting for their spouse to change before allowing themselves to heal. That mindset — however understandable — keeps healing contingent...
#61 - Why Men Lose Motivation in the Work — And What Can Motivate Them
In this episode, David and Eileen discuss how many men in recovery fall into one of two categories: those who don't believe they have a real problem, and those who admit it but resist doing the actual work to change. This episode unpacks why tr...
#60 - How Claiming the "Porn Addict in Recovery" Label Helps You Finally Speak
In this episode, David shares some testimonies from clips of people who have come out and shared their story of hitting rock bottom with porn addiction and how that gave them the courage to come forward with it.Highlighting statistics, D...
#59 - Is Infidelity a Moral Failure — or a Pain Response? with guest Dr. Kathy Nickerson
Dr. Kathy Nickerson, a psychologist and researcher who has surveyed over 5,000 people on infidelity, joins David and Eileen to challenge the idea that cheating is simply a moral failure. Drawing on her research, she explains that most betrayal ...
#58 - We're Pregnant! How Major Life Events Resurface Difficult Emotions in Recovery
In this episode, David and Eileen follow up on their social media announcement that they are expecting a fourth child! They discuss how the joyful experience also brings up feelings from the past and the complicated conversations that can come ...
#57 - How to Work Through Dangerous Assumptions in Betrayal Trauma Recovery
In this episode, David and Eileen bring up how their experience in working with couples has really highlighted how assumptions can get in the way of couples finding each other after betrayal. Most couples don't see themselves as being afraid, b...
#56 - Is He Capable of Betraying Again — And Is She Capable of Rebuilding?
In this episode, David and Eileen dive into the powerful concept of "Capable" and what it truly means in the context of porn addiction, sex addiction, and recovery. They unpack the uncomfortable truth that both the addict and the betrayed partn...
#55 - AI Porn, Lust, and Our Kids: How We Can Affect The Future of Porn Addiction
In this week's episode, David talks about the future of AI and how it is already being used for pornographic purposes. How do we navigate the future of an industry that is harmful but is also going to double in the next 7 years?David ad...
#54 - Plagiarized Remorse: Why AI-Generated Apologies Fail the Betrayed Partner After Infidelity - with guests Morgan and Elaine
In this week's episode, David and Eileen welcome their guest couple who are going through a triggering event on their 9-year recovery journey. When a connection attempt comes from an AI source rather than the person's heart directly, can that h...
#53 - Comparing Your Recovery to Others: The Hidden Trap in Betrayal Trauma & Porn Addiction Healing
It's easy to look at someone further along in their recovery and feel like you're falling behind — but comparison can quietly become one of the biggest traps in betrayal trauma and porn addiction recovery. In this weeks Podcast, David and Eilee...
#52 - The Lies Broke Everything: Can a Porn Addict Practice Transparency?
In this episode, David breaks down the thing that really broke trust: the lies.Here he discusses the anatomy of a lie, the three stages of discovering truth and ultimately the antidote: radical honesty. But what keeps a recovering porn ...
#51 - Can You Motivate a Porn and Sex Addict to Change? - Listener Questions
In this episode, David and Eileen take a couple listener questions regarding porn addiction recovery and use examples in their own journey how this can be progressed:1. Should I set a time limit on him to make progress when he is unwilli...
#50 - "Prove That You Will Fight For Us" - A Delegation from the Betrayed to the Porn Addict that Can Change Everything - with guest Zack
In this episode, David speaks with Zack, who recently had a discovery day event and is working to get into recovery. Zack brings some questions to the podcast along with his story which presents a powerful request from his partner: prove that y...
#49 - Meet Me in the Valley: Porn Addiction, Triggers & Empathy
In this raw and honest episode, David and Eileen both open up about what it looks like to hit rock bottom in the same season — drowning in triggers, wrestling with hopelessness, and feeling the weight of porn and sex addiction up close.
#48 - Savior Complex and Sex Addiction: Why the Desire to "Fix" Hurts the Betrayed - with Guest Matt and Michelle - Part 2
In this episode, Eileen and David continue their discussion with guests Matt and Michelle. This week, they focus on Michelle and her healing needs after years of pain. They are at the starting point of recovery after 17 years of infidelity and ...
#47 - The Madonna/Whore Complex and How it Leads to Infidelity - with Guest Matt and Michelle - Part 1
In this episode, Eileen and David walk their guests Matt and Michelle through several questions in their relationship history. They are at the starting point of recovery after 17 years of infidelity and porn addiction. Now that Matt has his eye...
#46 - 3 Things That Saved My Marriage Long After Porn Was Gone
In this episode, David walks through 3 things that helped him save his marriage many months past porn being a part of his life. Through the course of this episode he highlights the following 3 points:1. I never got out of seeking help
#45 - Is Arguing Good in Recovery After Cheating has Occurred?
In this episode, Eileen and David tackle the difficult subject of how we handle arguments in recovery. Is it good to have them and what form can they take?Ultimately, they work to break down several ways this can work to end the relatio...