Gratitude, Grit & the Bison Mentality: Our Thanksgiving Reset for Real Estate Agents

This Thanksgiving episode hits different.

No guest. No script. Just two operators Shane from Alabama and Duane from Wisconsin getting brutally honest about the year we’ve all walked through:

• Why 2024/2025 felt like a storm for so many agents
• The power of small, uncomfortable rooms that sharpen leaders
• How consistency on social quietly compounds into DMs, belief, and business
• The truth about re-recruiting your own people (yes, it matters)
• Why AI is your half-million-dollar assistant, not your replacement
• Our bold prediction for the 2026 market
• And of course… drunken Green Egg turkey vs. deer-camp ribeyes 😅

If you’re leading people… or trying to lead yourself… this is the Thanksgiving reset you didn’t know you needed.

This episode reminds you:

You’re not alone.

You’ve survived 100% of your hardest days.

And 2026 belongs to the agents who run into the storm like bison not the ones who huddle like cattle.

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Transcript

Duane Murphy (00:01.4)
Welcome to another episode of Agent Real Estate Life. Our mission is to go ahead and bring you some of the best of the best from around the country, the ones that are playing chess, not checkers. So today, Shane, who do we have for a guest?

Shane Kilby (00:18.574)
Today we're going to just roll with it today. We intentionally created this podcast in a mindset and thought process of gratitude. And do wanna back up real quick, cause you know, my partner in crime was a little rusty. said agent real estate life, something like that. Anyway, this is the real estate agent life podcast with Dwayne and Shane from Wisconsin and Alabama. However, this is our Thanksgiving episode where

I know for Dwayne and myself, we are real big on gratitude, because life throws curveballs, right? So today we're just going to make this all about Thanksgiving and just reflecting back a little bit and just kind of looking back over this past year. We've had some trial tribulations. It hasn't been the easiest year in business for a lot of agents, a lot of companies.

Small companies, big companies, we've seen a lot of crazy mergers, we've seen a lot of crazy acquisitions. And I myself have been fortunate, I guess fortunate, mean, we've acquired a lot of agents from a lot of smaller companies that weren't leaving the business, they were just changing directions. So I definitely don't wanna make that look like that was an opportunity as someone else has lost. I hate to see other companies.

fold up, but sometimes it is that time to close that chapter and move forward. So, Dwayne, thoughts, feedback, input, suggestions, where we at?

Duane Murphy (01:52.013)
Yeah, I mean

to look back at where we started, and again, on that Thanksgiving theme a bit, but to look back where we started 11 months ago, 11 and a half months ago with recording to where we are today. I'm grateful for the guests that we've had. I without a doubt have learned as much from those guests, those interviews, those talks as I hope our listeners have.

I mean, there's just like every single episode there's nuggets. then because you're in the episode and you're talking with the guests and you're interacting with the guests and you're trying to listen to the guest and doing that, you sometimes don't catch everything that's in that episode. I've gone back and I've watched almost all of those episodes again. Some of them I've watched several times just because it's like, wow. Like I got to write that down. that's a great.

That's a great, now again, I thought I heard that, but now I'm actually hearing it rather than being in it. So, I I just pure, pure gratitude on, you know, where we've started to where we are. Hopefully, it continues to get a little better. We're not perfect at this. We've never tried to be perfect at this. on there I got, you know, a little vest going, little.

Shane Kilby (03:16.334)
But my Thanksgiving swag is hopping. I got that.

My Thanksgiving drip height height No, it's not you're exactly right though. It's we are sitting All right at 50 episodes for the year so blessed so thankful for that Knocking on 10,000 downloads. So that's amazing We've been asked several times like what what's them? What's the end goal? What's the focus of this podcast and

Duane Murphy (03:22.765)
Thanksgiving best action I'd.

Duane Murphy (03:48.183)
Hmm

Shane Kilby (03:51.084)
You know, when we started this, you know, I think we were just looking around going, hey, we know a lot of great people. We're always attending different events and spaces and rooms to connect with other like, you know, like minded thought, you know, thought provoking leaders, forward thinkers. And so I think that we just, we wanted to connect them because where Dwayne and I met 10, 12 years ago, a lot of those people that we've met and created great relationships with are still

Duane Murphy (03:56.857)
Mm-hmm.

Shane Kilby (04:21.08)
Thriving and crushing the business, but we've all drifted off to other you know other events and other you rooms and stuff like that And so it's kind of given us a way to reconnect, you know with those people like this past week Now we just had you know Seven seven plus years of of a mastermind group that we created back in 2018 called lines then and Then that group was created

out of necessity, right? So we all met at different conventions and conferences, and most of us met inside a technology conference, and connection there kind of grew. So the original focus was to help dive into those takeaways. You know, when you go to a convention or training and you just, you consume all this information.

and then you leave and you don't implement any of it. So that group was originally founded for that reason and that purpose. What it's evolved to is something that's much deeper, much stronger. And so we've grown to connect with one another. We've seen each other's kids grow and graduate high school, go into college, go off and get married, build real estate careers or build other careers. We've also seen

Members suffer losses, right? Some major losses and loved ones and what have you. And that's a ripple effect. So we feel that all across the group. But twice a year we connect offsite. We leave our operations where they are in the good hands of our great people that manage and oversee those operations while we go to seek to learn and grow and develop to bring back to those organizations.

So this past week we had one of those meetups. We do this twice a year. We meet up offsite. We usually rent a big Airbnb, right, house, big enough to accommodate all of the members, all of the member spouses. And for two days straight, we go, I don't know, eight, 10, 12 hours, just deep dive.

Duane Murphy (06:28.151)
Yeah. And it's probably even, it's probably even much longer that when you look at, you know, who's ever the, the early risers in the house, getting a cup of coffee or getting coffee going and already talking, talking life, talking struggles, talking, you know, success and real estate business. And then through, through our planned sessions of that eight to 10 hours, like you had mentioned, and then at dinner, we're still having.

you know, never ending conversations around the dinner table and after as we're hanging out at the house, cause we don't typically, you know, do the bar scene. so I mean, it's, it, I mean, it probably, you know, not scare anybody away if that, that might want to join the, you know, join our mastermind group someday. But I mean, it's, it's like 14 hours worth a day of just life and business and real estate conversations with some of the best of the best.

you know, across the United States and in a very, what you would almost call like an intimate type setting.

Shane Kilby (07:34.498)
Yeah, and please don't don't mistaken this. This is not to drive traffic or create any interest in that group. But that group is something that I and I can speak for Dwayne too that are very grateful to because we have deep connections with all these members throughout the year, every day. I mean, we're texting and cutting up and communicating and just solving

Real-world real estate problems. The group is that I'm so grateful for it. You know, I'll write this down often in my you know notes of gratitude what have you that You know this this group is is

It's a place to go to have those like-minded conversations when you don't really, when no one around you in your operation understands your mindset. There are times we get quiet in our operations. We're not upset. We're just zeroed in, right? And so when you get in a room full of people like that and everybody's zeroed in, nobody thinks anything different, right?

And when you bring that to the conversation, the table just opens up. Like we have, yes, we make itemized agendas and plans, but I mean, like we leave there with 20, 30, 40 % that was never scripted, never put on the itinerary, never put on the agenda. And it ties to this piece of gratitude. Like, Dwayne and I both, like we've been attending some very small rooms.

Duane Murphy (08:53.773)
Yeah.

Shane Kilby (09:15.866)
in the past year or two. And you know, small rooms can get uncomfortable, right? Cause you can't hide, can't, know, big rooms, you kind of, can be anywhere in a room and you're not gonna get noticed. In small rooms, everybody's gonna get noticed. And what I've seen with that is like everybody in the room is thinking the same exact thing. God, am I in the wrong room? Should I be here?

Duane Murphy (09:23.874)
Can't hide.

Duane Murphy (09:28.525)
Yeah.

Duane Murphy (09:44.297)
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Shane Kilby (09:45.41)
And you know, these rooms, we've gone to learn and grow and develop and other skill sets of our business, you know, recruiting and agent attraction and marketing and stuff like that. But you know what the interesting part about both of these are lines, then meetups and these other, you know, small rooms that we've been entering into at a nominal cost, nominal investment. You leave there with a much better feel.

as a leader. I think you grow and develop as a leader above all things and that wasn't what you went in for, but you naturally matter.

Duane Murphy (10:23.286)
No, no, a of these, a lot of these small rooms, like you said, are, are, topic specific, right? We're going, we're going into those small rooms to, to focus in on one item of our business that we want to, you know, fix, improve, add, whatever it might be. And, and I would agree that, that so many of those small groups and so many of those events you walk away with, you know,

with so much more than what you tried to go in looking for. And it's definitely on that leadership part. the air in those rooms is just a little bit different. And you definitely get a little imposter syndrome, I know I do, of sitting in some of those rooms with the people that are in those small rooms and you're just like.

How'd I get in here? this, like I don't know if I belong. And you can't help but walk away after the fact and realize and hear that they're going through the same struggles we go through. They're going through, they've been through that or they're going through it. They deal with the same stuff that we do at any level. it definitely helps. There's the iron sharpens iron.

And it is, that is just an absolute statement to what, to what those rooms do and what those.

Shane Kilby (11:53.866)
Well, you know, and I'll give a perfect example of that. You know, in our roles, Duane and mine, and a lot of the speakers that come on the podcast, you know, we're leading other agents, other students. And, you know, I mean, we're always in business to recruit more business and retain the business that we have.

Well, in reality, that's what every agent's doing. The new agent is recruiting their first deal, their first forever client, their first repeat client, their first referral, right? The agent that's been in the business a while, they're recruiting their repeat business. They're recruiting the listings. They're recruiting the sellers. They're recruiting the referral. They're recruiting the level of service that they want to always provide.

And then as a leader, know, it's our job to grow and recruit agents and retain the agents and look, re-recruit the people that we already have. And I know some of you are gonna be well, you don't re-recruit. Yes, you do. And you know what? I may have believed otherwise at a different time in my life in this business, but not anymore. you know, I mean, nobody likes attrition.

as a leader in this business, team leader, operator, broker, investor, operator, owner, whatever you want to call yourself. Nobody likes attrition. We also, none of us are perfect at picking the right staff member, the right agent. We can't project who's going to be a rock star. And we work really hard to do that. Right? I can tell you this, that by these rooms, I have learned that my picker is broken. And

I have turned and poured a lot of energy into folks that I otherwise might not would have. And the level of belief that those people have for themselves now have them on trajectories that otherwise I don't know that they would have ever been on in this business if I had not gone to be a sacrificial lamb in those small rooms. And it goes back to re-recruiting your people.

Shane Kilby (14:16.142)
I mean, we shouldn't work any harder to bring in new people than we are to keep the people that we have. The message should be the same. So one thing that I've learned over this past year, you know, probably 18 months and probably two years, but it probably took a year for me to get it drilled in my head till I started executing on it. It's just the social media content. And every week now I get a DM or a text message

Duane Murphy (14:40.954)
you

Shane Kilby (14:45.134)
or phone call or voice message of someone telling me how much they appreciate the content that I've been creating. They may be, I mean, some would look at as competitors. The only competition we have is staring at us in the mirror when we get up at 5 a.m. But these are other associates in the business, other operators, other team leaders, other agents. Some are mine, some are not. And I'll tell you what, it feels good to be an example.

and it's not ego stroke it is it's actually a true piece of gratitude because Do when you know this like it's hard to be consistent if you're not consistent you get an attraction and It's like man. I got so many things burning like literally feel like they're burning to the ground that I need to be putting the fire hydrant to Am I getting anywhere with this but it's messages like that to go? Stay on course stay on course and when you look at it from our standpoint, it's like

The things that we thought about praising the people that we love in our businesses, we're just saying it out loud. We're just saying it out loud. And to see how great of an impact that makes on their lives, whether I'm praising them because they just showed up every day for 30 days and did the thing.

showing that gratitude to that individual tells them someone notices and I'm on the right track. So, you know, that's one of the great lessons that I've taken away the past, you know, two years that I've probably put in motion the last 18 months, 12 to 18 months. And deeply, deeply thankful for that. Hey, we're just one of those things, you know, we've had this conversation, how do you quantify it? How do you quantify it?

And it's not that everything has to have a numerical value to it But time is finite dollars and cents are finite and so for an operator we're always trying to Measure things quantitatively speaking and so I see the results now But I didn't in the beginning

Duane Murphy (17:01.125)
Well, it's like, you know, we've talked about it. like, you know, it's like going to the gym. One day ain't going to make a difference. Two days ain't going to make a difference. Right? You can go on and off for a week or you can go on and off for a month and it's not really going to make much of a difference. It's that consistency and that compound effect. And then all of sudden, you know, you look in the mirror, if you're doing 75 hard, you're taking a picture. So you can't hide from it.

every single day for 75 days. even when you are doing that, you're taking that picture every day, it is still difficult to see the change. It is difficult to see where it's making any difference, and then all of sudden it does. And then you're like, whoa. Then you look back, there's that picture from 40 days ago, and you're like, whoa.

Shane Kilby (17:31.342)
I'm doing another one of them at 26.

Duane Murphy (17:56.389)
Right? Or 30 days ago. And you're like, okay, so I'm only 30 days in. I can already see. Imagine where I'm going to be at 75 days. And it gives you that little bit of boost to say, hey, you got to keep going. And social media and prospecting and showing up every day and doing the dirty work and doing the stuff you don't want to do. never, like, will you get lucky and all of a sudden?

have somebody answer the phone and say, I want to buy a million dollar property. I want to sell my house. I'm not talking to anybody else. I just want to talk to you. Come do it. Yep. You might hit lightning. It happens. mean, somebody is going to hit that billion dollar power ball and it's going to be auto pick number. didn't do anything except for buy a ticket. Lightning strike. Right. But it's the ones doing it every day that all of a it's not random chance or luck.

Shane Kilby (18:42.35)
Well you know, there was a-

Duane Murphy (18:51.982)
consistency always pays, it pays down the road. And unfortunately our society, all of us, I'm no different. We're in a must have it, want it now society. mean, hell, we can jump on a phone and have groceries delivered to us in 20, you know, we can have groceries delivered in 20 minutes if we want to pay extra. In 20 minutes, we can have Amazon same day now. All these things, it's a,

Get it now society want it now. I want instantaneous and there's so many things still in life that are not like can you go get it? Can you go, you know, jab yourself in the you know in the butt lose weight? Yeah, you probably can nowadays But but it's probably not gonna work long term. It's it's it's a short-term fix Yeah, it's a short-term fix it didn't change your your eating habits it didn't change your workout habits. It didn't change your lifestyle

Shane Kilby (19:36.066)
You can.

Shane Kilby (19:40.312)
Your habits don't change the results don't change

Duane Murphy (19:50.839)
is a short term fix probably isn't going to work. And so many of the things are that way. And when you look at real estate, you look at life, it's not just about real estate, but you look at all those things, like, you got to do the work every day.

Shane Kilby (20:07.438)
Well, let's change direction real quick. I know we're gonna, we don't wanna take everybody's time on here and they're running around getting ready for Turkey and big naps and getting in the woods with their fall drip. So let me ask you this question though. What do you, and we've shown a lot of gratitude talking about gratitude and giving gratitude. What's one system or one tool that you feel like, even though that's a piece of technology.

Duane Murphy (20:14.82)
Yeah. Yeah.

Shane Kilby (20:34.69)
What do you think that the one tool or system is in 2025 that has helped you leverage the most time or is most valuable to you?

Duane Murphy (20:46.01)
Probably the one I don't use enough. The tool that makes the biggest difference, tech, whatever. mean, for me currently, I probably would have had a different answer with a CRM or with some fancy new tech, because you and I both are always testing something. The new tech, the new bolt-on, whatever it may be.

Shane Kilby (20:46.058)
I had a minute. The phone.

Duane Murphy (21:14.244)
both of our companies and ourselves as leaders, we're always in the forefront of testing something new and seeing what we can do to help our businesses and our people. But I would say for me, as it probably is for you, is AI currently. The AI integrations, the chat GPT, the putting in better prompts and smarter prompts, just learning that.

part of how it can really impact business. We always had some of that dumb tech that we were using back in the day, the kind of the pre-AI, before AI, the structurally, right? Some of the texting features that were out there prior to that. What is that, texting Betty? There's some different ones that we had played with. Riley, that's it, thank you. Riley, we had Riley, you know.

Shane Kilby (21:56.206)
Alright.

Shane Kilby (22:05.496)
Riley, remember Riley? Shout boss, shout boss.

Duane Murphy (22:12.196)
Shell Boss. So we've always been testing some of that early AI, then also it became AI out of nowhere. that's learning to really utilize that and how it can affect so many different parts of all the different businesses that I have. It's mind blowing. It's something not to be scared of, it's something to embrace. It's gonna revolutionize a lot of things.

I know a lot of people are like, hey, it's going to put a lot of people out of work. I don't think so. I think it's going to enhance a lot of people's work. And so, yeah, it's going to take a few less people to do certain things. But, you know, if you embrace it, I think there's plenty of opportunity for everybody with it. So for me, it's for me, it's it's summarized as AI. I mean, chat, GPT, all of them.

Shane Kilby (22:46.862)
Yeah.

Shane Kilby (23:03.886)
Yeah, yeah, I'll go with that. mean look guys, I mean, you know, the automobile didn't replace the horse You know, it didn't replace the guy putting on the horseshoes You know the light bulb didn't replace the candle makers right We had to open our mind and be smart about this if you watch this you need to embrace AI Because embracing it means to learn it and look here's the amazing thing about it

Duane Murphy (23:11.386)
Yes, yes.

Shane Kilby (23:33.23)
If you're if you're apprehensive about it Open it up and say I'm apprehensive about this and I fear that this is gonna replace my my career path Make me believe that it won't Okay, that's a prompt. It's gonna explain to you a hundred different ways You can leverage that tool in your favor to make you better. It's compressed time for me It's like I don't use it to replace anybody

I used it to to get my one hour clear thoughts that I can't get out because I got a hundred things going on and people coming at me that I'd have to do in the middle of the night which means no rest no sleep no recovery and It pulls out my thoughts right there. Are those my thoughts or they're not my thoughts Okay, maybe they're 80 % my thoughts and I put my okay now 100 % of my thoughts but it done some of that heavy lifting for me for us I know you the same way. It's like having a full-time

Half a million dollar executive assistant that ride or dies with you 24-7 you wake up. You can't sleep Let's get to work on something. Bam. There you go My man, let me change directions though real quick. I know you got to wrap up know you got another closing Congratulations on that by the way, happy Thanksgiving for that by the way Two things one bold bold market prediction for 2026

Duane Murphy (24:52.57)
Mmm.

as in where the market's gonna be.

Shane Kilby (24:57.452)
Yeah, what do think?

Duane Murphy (25:01.242)
I honestly think the first two quarters of the year are going to be exactly what we saw this year. I think this year was for the most, I know it's a market by market specific, we're trending up over last year. So I know we're a little bit of a minority that way. I know you are as well, but there's the many markets that are less sales and down versus last year. We're both trending up and both up.

I think the first two quarters of next year are gonna be just like this year. I think once the Fed changes, and I think a few other changes get seeded a bit more, I think we're gonna see a pretty good uptick late spring, I would almost say early summer next year, and start turning up real estate silico. It's been bottom bouncing for a long time. I mean, everybody...

You know, there's always those people that predict that it's gonna crash and it's like, well, everybody's got to predict something. It doesn't matter. Cause if you hit it right, you're gonna sell all kinds of books. Everyone's gonna want to interview you. You're gonna make all kinds of money. So, hey, why not bet the under, right? So some people are gonna bet the under, some people are gonna bet the over. It's like, whatever, it's just betting. Exactly, right? So, but I think you can't keep having the population growth we have and keep doing everything that we're doing and not.

Shane Kilby (26:07.17)
We've already went through that.

Shane Kilby (26:17.986)
Buller bear, buller bear.

Duane Murphy (26:29.644)
and not have real estate sales. Real estate makes the world go round. It's been in its own little recession now for a decent number of years. Every real estate cycle seems to run four to five years. We're in that fifth year. And I think that I'm pretty bullish on where the market's gonna be. I know a lot of people really were for this year. I was a little bit in that camp. I thought real estate was gonna be a little bit more aggressive this year. And it was not.

Shane Kilby (26:55.448)
Well, I mean, we know a lot of people that are up triple digit, double digit, triple digit. Yeah, I think a lot of it has to be whether you take that bull or bear approach to the market. Like, you know the way we operate in the rooms that we get in, we're always taking that Buffalo, that bison approach to the storm. You don't hunker down.

Duane Murphy (26:59.128)
Oof. It's there if you wanted it. It's there if you wanted it.

Duane Murphy (27:14.436)
Yeah, you control the market the market does not control you because Every single day someone's got to buy or sell home So it's just a matter of are you gonna do it or someone else gonna do it? Because if you don't do what you need to do, then yep Someone else is get that sale, but every single day it's happening

Shane Kilby (27:20.62)
Yeah, if you sit there in the middle of... Yeah.

Shane Kilby (27:30.85)
Yeah, when the rates are free and the markets hot and the supplies low, everybody's buying something that they don't have to have. Real estate is a life cycle. We're expanding the family. We're contracting a family. We got an opportunity. We lost an opportunity. We're relocating. We're moving back. Like kids moving to college, moving away from college. If you hunker down in the storm, you feel every turn of the storm.

If you go into the storm like a bison does, then you get out of the storm sooner than anyone else. Is the storm there forever? Everybody? Absolutely. But the bison gets through the storm first. So I think a lot of our people that we work with have taken that bison approach to this storm as well.

Duane Murphy (28:10.532)
Yeah.

Duane Murphy (28:15.524)
The cows get slaughtered because guess what? They run and then they huddle and herd. The cows get slaughtered, right?

Shane Kilby (28:22.498)
This book. Someone sent me this book recently. And it is, there are only two things in life. Well, there's three. There's rhinoceroses, there's cows and there's sheep. I'll let you figure out who survives and thrives. And even better.

Duane Murphy (28:30.202)
Thank

Duane Murphy (28:38.25)
here it is.

Shane Kilby (28:43.768)
Someone sent me this and either I don't know maybe I made a statement or maybe they were trying to get a statement through my head. But nonetheless, do not stand still in those storms. One last question, let you go. And we'll bounce out of here.

Duane Murphy (29:01.43)
I got question for you once you get done with yours.

Shane Kilby (29:04.637)
Go for it!

Duane Murphy (29:08.26)
What's the best part about Thanksgiving dinner?

Shane Kilby (29:10.99)
man food, what do you mean dessert like the eating?

Duane Murphy (29:16.57)
Well, mean, so let me ask you this. What does it look like here when you have Thanksgiving dinner in like a day or two? What's it look like in the Kilby household for Thanksgiving dinner? Now, are you going somewhere else or are hosting in your place?

Shane Kilby (29:35.05)
So first and foremost, never put me on the spot, because I'm not gonna mistreat or disrespect any food item for the holidays, okay? So if you ask me for my favorite, I'm gonna plead the fifth. Now, because I love all food equally, except I don't like liver, I don't like green peas, so don't put them in my menu. However, outside that, I'm tearing up some turkey dressing. My preference, we do a mean

Duane Murphy (29:48.73)
Hmm.

Shane Kilby (30:04.704)
And that's on the schedule too. We do a main green egg, drunk in Turkey. It is the best. It is the best.

Duane Murphy (30:14.522)
you had thrown me off there a little bit when you said green eggs. I was like, green eggs? Why would you put green eggs? The cooker. Yeah. Yes. Yes.

Shane Kilby (30:19.522)
So the green egg smoker, full Clare, it's the Komodo type grill, the ceramic grill. So if you've ever heard of drunken chicken, which I'm sure everybody has, there's a base made for the turkey, right? And so what we've always done, we fill that base with some type of dark beer, right? And we'll put some apples and stuff in there and it's set that in a aluminum pan.

Duane Murphy (30:43.514)
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Shane Kilby (30:49.418)
Then we fill that pan full of chicken broth. I know it sounds crazy, right? Then we set the turkey on top of the vase and that thing cooks down slow and low and guys I have to I have to take a piece of it and set it to the side because by the time I get done You know dispersing that to everyone. There's none left, right? Everyone's like my god turkeys dry This turkey is like the most moist piece of chicken that you've ever eaten except it's turkey

Duane Murphy (30:51.855)
Thank

Duane Murphy (31:14.756)
Yeah, yeah. Now have you ever attempted or done a deep fried? Yeah. Especially if you, the key to deep frying, a lot of people miss it. Hey, just the firefighter in me, please make sure your turkey is completely dry and thawed, because otherwise you're gonna burn down your house. If you don't believe me, just Google it. You will burn down your house and probably your neighbors too. So make sure your turkey's dry.

Shane Kilby (31:21.164)
Yes, I'd love a deep fry too. I'd a deep fry too.

Shane Kilby (31:36.223)
Yes.

Yes.

Don't let your kids be around that hot grease.

Duane Murphy (31:43.193)
Make sure it's thawed and keep the turkey fryers away from your house, please. But the other key to that though, other than the safety announcement right there, is injecting that. Inject it full of garlics and herb before you deep fry it and that truly will give it just an amazing taste.

Shane Kilby (31:51.096)
Yes.

Shane Kilby (31:58.882)
Yeah. Yeah.

Shane Kilby (32:04.462)
Yeah, so we brine it overnight and then of course inject it. Yeah, yeah, so it definitely helps, definitely helps. But that slow cook on the green egg Komodo ceramic type grill, not any type of edible green egg.

Duane Murphy (32:07.492)
Okay.

Duane Murphy (32:11.801)
Yeah.

Duane Murphy (32:16.078)
Yeah. So yours is a more of a true, I would say your Thanksgiving is a little bit more of the traditional turkey stuffing, all the fixings, everyone together. yeah, mine's a little, mine's a little different. So Thanksgiving in our neck of the country, part of the pond, starts, it lands right in the middle of deer season.

Shane Kilby (32:28.978)
yeah.

Duane Murphy (32:42.36)
And deer season around here to me is like a national, it should be a national holiday. I don't care what they say. It should be a national holiday. And this is no beef on you if you don't hunt. That's okay, right? I'll provide, you know, I'll provide the groceries. I'm not that way. So, but falls right dead center, dead center of our 10 day deer, I'm sorry, nine day deer season. We have nine days to go out and do what we wait for all year long. And Thanksgiving conveniently lands right in the middle of it.

So many, many years ago, and I would say about 20 years ago, I made the decision like, sorry, but I am not coming back for Thanksgiving dinner, Thanksgiving gathering or anything of that nature. I'm staying up in deer camp and that has been pretty much the tradition since. So we've gone from having the deep fried turkeys at deer camp and all the fixings. had a guy at our camp, Scotty McGee, and he was a camp chef. And my gosh, he'd have, he would stay back.

Mostly I think it was so he could drink old fashioned starting at about nine, 10 o'clock in the morning. As he's baking pies, know, getting the turkey going, making the stuffing, watching football while we're all hunting and then come back and we have our meal. Since then he's gotten married, has some kids, has obligations to come back to on Thanksgiving. So we don't have that anymore, but we've gone from having frozen Papa Murphy's pizza or Papa Murphy's pizza on Thanksgiving to last year we did steaks.

This year we're doing, it went over well last year, so we're doing steaks again. So we'll probably throw some big old rib eyes on the grill and, and we'll have some of the traditional fixings with those steaks. But you know, I, we always look at it as like, meh, you know, it's, it's a meal. It's a, it's a time for, for those that are there, family, friends, and, and just to, you know, to share in breaking bread together and enjoy it. And here we go. That's what you eat, but we're a little non-traditional.

We used to do the turkey and now we're steak eaters. So we throw some big old steaks on the grill and eat that.

Shane Kilby (34:44.014)
You can't go wrong with a good steak. You can't go wrong with a good steak.

Duane Murphy (34:47.14)
think every holiday could be celebrated with steak. Little bacon jam. I tell you what. Yeah, the only negative part about that is after Thanksgiving is you have all those hot turkey sandwiches and turkey gravy sandwiches left over and there's usually not much steak left over so there's not much for the tree stand the next day.

Shane Kilby (34:50.382)
Yeah.

Holiday eve holiday post holiday

Shane Kilby (35:14.638)
Well, I can assure you if it is a drunken turkey, there's none left. None left, because it is absolutely, it absolutely, there's nothing to carve. It all just falls off the bone. Nothing there. It's good stuff.

Duane Murphy (35:28.932)
Yeah, yeah, without a doubt, without a doubt,

Shane Kilby (35:32.878)
All the bra from the inside and all the beer from the inside and the bra from the Boom. Boom, boom, boom.

Duane Murphy (35:39.385)
Yeah, yeah. tell you what, one other thing, I do have to get to, I do have to actually get to a closing on a house I'm buying. But one last thing on Turkey and Thanksgiving and grateful, I tell you what, I am grateful for you, my friend. Doing this, doing life, doing business, all the stuff that we've been through, hunting trips and work trips and.

Shane Kilby (35:56.376)
Likewise.

Duane Murphy (36:05.826)
You know, we even got in a little bit of vacation trip this past summer to the beach doing all that. Just grateful for you. You you you make me a better person. So I appreciate.

Shane Kilby (36:10.168)
Yes.

Shane Kilby (36:14.99)
Likewise.

I don't know about that. Be careful if you watch or listen to this. I don't know where that's going. you know, I feel the same. It's been a great relationship. I have a lot in common, except for the six months of very cold. I'm good with our few couple of months with a little chilly weather. But yeah, man, the feeling is definitely mutual. Definitely mutual.

Duane Murphy (36:41.454)
Yeah, I mean, I'll be on here for an hour just talking to myself. Otherwise, I mean.

Shane Kilby (36:45.87)
You were earlier Another cut another story for another podcast But we do we think we definitely thank each and every one of you for over 10,000 downloads 50 plus episodes recorded this year you know, we don't know where this is going we know that it's accomplished what we set out to accomplish and We just we're gonna keep on keep it on and if you guys know anyone

Duane Murphy (36:59.257)
Mmm.

Shane Kilby (37:15.02)
that would make a special guest that needs to be on here. We would love to be connected with them and see if we can work something out, right? We hope you guys have a wonderful Thanksgiving season. Please sit down and show some gratitude. I know we've all been through some stuff in some different points of our life.

But if you're going through something, ask yourself not why is this happening to me, but what's the lesson in all of it? Right? We can all sit down and play poor little old me, but ask yourself, what is the lesson that I have the blessed opportunity to learn during this hardship moment? And always take a moment when you're having those hard times to look around you, and social media is evident of it.

Duane Murphy (37:44.932)
Mm-hmm.

Shane Kilby (38:03.658)
And you'll see that most days, our hard days are not nearly as hard as someone else's. And eat good, eat good and stay safe.

Duane Murphy (38:12.25)
Yeah, you survived 100 % of your worst days so far. mean, some easier than others, there's no doubt. as you were saying, there's a blessing, a blessing or a lesson in all of it. You may not always see the lesson immediately. You may not always recognize the blessing immediately, but there's always a plan there and you gotta give gratitude. It's something we talk about in our men's group a lot. You have to give gratitude for the...

Shane Kilby (38:17.516)
and it's made you better.

Find your trap, find your circle.

Duane Murphy (38:42.126)
things that shape you and the difficulties and the hurdles, the challenges, just as much as you need to give gratitude for all the blessings and all the good things too. And a of times you forget that other part. You sometimes, you forget one or the other and you just don't do both consistently. So that's a great one.

Shane Kilby (38:53.838)
Well, like I said.

Shane Kilby (39:03.948)
Yeah, the things that don't break you make you. Find your tribe, find your circle. Don't try to go through life alone. You're not that bulletproof, you're not that bad, you're not that tough. Find your tribe, find your circle. That's where you'll grow and that's where you'll reach new heights.

Take us out, Dwayne.

Duane Murphy (39:22.658)
All right. Well, I tell you what, we appreciate you tuning into another episode of real estate agent life. I got it right there without looking at the notes that time. And, if you, if you liked this episode, and even if you don't like the episode, Hey, I tell you what, like and share it anyway. Like and share it anyway. What the heck? know, thinks. Yeah, it's Thanksgiving, you know, smash that subscribe button. Give us five stars. Cause it does good with the Google juice.

Shane Kilby (39:33.358)
hahaha

Shane Kilby (39:39.958)
Like and share it anyway. And hit that subscribe button.

Duane Murphy (39:51.706)
And I'll tell you what, if you've got something that you have gratitude for this Thanksgiving season, this one's gonna pop here right on Thanksgiving or right close to it, maybe a day or two before, depending upon when it does hit. If you got something that you got gratitude for on whatever platform you have on this, feel free to share. We'd love to see them. We'd love to hear it. And if you throw it out there in the universe, more of it's gonna come back to you. So we would love to see that as well. And until next time,

Shane Kilby (40:23.246)
Peace.

Duane Murphy (40:23.685)
Peace!