Why Listen to a Relationship Podcast? BONUS EPISODE

Randy and Beverly jump into some reasons why people - even single people - can benefit from listening to a relationship podcast. Building your relationship skills - like learning to understand Heart and Head styles - isn't just positively life changing with a partner. It can help you navigate work relationships, parenting or finally understanding your weird neighbor. If you've wondered what a relationship podcast like Heart Versus Head can add to your life, give this short 10 minute bonus episode a listen. 

Heart Versus Head is a podcast about relationship styles and how those relationship styles influence communication in the most important relationships. The hosts - Randy Hampton and Beverly Craddock - are a married couple who are sought-after relationship coaches, award-winning authors and regular people who (like everyone in relationships) are just trying to stay connected through all the noise of life in the modern world. You can learn more about the couple and their work at HeartAndHeadCoaching.com, where you'll learn to fight better and connect again.

Transcript

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Welcome to Heart vs. Head, a podcast that helps couples communicate

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and fight better. wondering why in the heck should I listen to a relationship podcast? That's what we're going to hit today. Beverly, why should people listen to a relationship podcast?

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Well, there's several reasons. Obviously, we want a successful relationship. We don't want to be with somebody that is unsatisfactory, someone that makes us miserable. So ultimately, we want to be happy. They want to be happy. We want to be happy together. with that goal of relationship success, you're probably going to want to reach out and get some advice. You know, this podcast is all about tips and information, education we share.

SPEAKER_02 1:18

From a head perspective, it's kind of the old, well, we don't want to suck. I don't want to be a bad partner. I don't want my partner to be angry that I'm a bad partner. And so it makes sense for me to listen to a relationship podcast so I can be a better partner. We've Bumped into somebody. We were talking about our podcast and they said, I don't need to listen to your podcast. I'm not in a relationship, which is cool. Thank you for not listening to the podcast. However, why should somebody not in a relationship listen to a relationship podcast?

SPEAKER_01 1:51

There are several reasons why someone who is not in a relationship would seek advice. And one of those would be just getting more clarity about your own values, your own goals, any unhealthy patterns that you might have. It's also helping you to make a better match to kind of find that person that you're looking for. A lot of the heart and the head theory behind it can help you if you're single so that you can figure out, am I looking for a heart? Am I looking for a head? How do I know the difference? What am I looking for exactly or not looking for? You can also, if you're single, learn information about just emotional intelligence, boundary setting, better communication skills. And all of these things make dating a better, efficient use of time. As Randy said, avoid mistakes. And it helps you to go out there with and intention, we can reach our goals much more efficiently if we are well equipped as we head out. Now, I want to throw out there, I'm really known for these analogies and metaphors, so I'm going to give you one today. If you won the lottery, you came into a lot of money, let's say, there's really a couple of choices. One, you can just wing it on your own.

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Yeah, most lottery winners do not maintain their fortunes.

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The other idea is you could learn from all of that and say, okay, I just got all this money. I am not necessarily money savvy. It's not my forte. Maybe I should hire some help. So if it was your money, you would want to find a coach or somebody who had the expertise to give you some guidance.

SPEAKER_02 3:44

Okay, sure. You'd go out, you'd get a financial advisor.

SPEAKER_01 3:47

Right. We don't learn how to invest money from school. We We can through trial and error, but it's usually not the best way. You might lose that entire lottery money before you realize, oh, that didn't work. I learned something. And of course, friends and family are going to give you advice right and left. That's usually not the best place to get advice. In fact, if you want to look back at your family growing up, you know, were they millionaires? Probably not.

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Drunk Uncle Joe's shrimp shack was not a good investment of Lottery money. Okay. Okay. It makes sense.

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So we get it with money. Probably not the best person to know how to get the most out of that money, how to make it last maybe my entire life. So sure, we could understand going to get some advice, some help, an investment expert. Think about your relationship. There's a lot of similarities here. This is a one and done. Most people don't want to be divorced. This is for life. It's just as important. as money, if not even more so, because this is your intimate person, someone that's got your back, your team member, your romantic best friend. Why would you risk losing that, screwing it up, going through trial and error, getting advice from TikTok or some influencer or somebody who's well-meaning but has no idea about relationships?

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And that really gets to the third question that we came up with. Why in the heck should people listen to us? Why listen to Randy and Beverly? Why listen to heart versus head? First of all, the name talks about the approach. We look at this very differently. We look at relationships differently. We just do. We look at it from a perspective of the feeling partner, the partner that is making sure everybody's okay, that heart partner, and the logical, yes or no, black, white, color, And because we look at it differently, we understand it differently and we can make it make sense for most people. And that's where we've been successful in our careers as relationship coaches. It's really what makes it different, what makes it unique to us is it works. It will help you understand your partner. So heart versus head is a really great concept that we've just found. that just works. It's an easier way to look at it when you're in a conversation with your partner. Somebody's being head-led, somebody's being heart-led, and it helps you communicate. Us, from even experience standpoint, I make a joke sometimes. This is a second marriage for Beverly and I, so we've both done this before. We both screwed it up before. We both had things in our previous marriages that we go, okay, well, I probably should have done that differently or better or Or I wish my person had done that differently or better. Or I understand why that happened now and all of those things. So you get the experience. We're not a 30-year-old Insta influencer.

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No offense to them.

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No, no. We know a ton of them. Awesome, awesome, amazing people that are doing their thing. But they maybe don't have as much experience in some of these areas as a couple of old people. Beverly.

SPEAKER_01 7:23

Speak for yourself. I'm wise. I'm not old.

SPEAKER_02 7:27

No, no. And we're not trying to old-splain anything. We just want to help you understand relationships. And darn it, we've screwed them up enough and been through enough that we go, oh, okay, that makes sense. And we tell our stories. We talk about our crap. And sometimes that's really helpful. This podcast is designed to get you talking, and that's what we want to do. So hopefully you'll listen to some of these episodes and you go oh wait they're talking about that and that affects my relationship and you may not even be aware of it or know it go talk to your partner about it

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different clients throughout the decade what 12 years that we've been working with folks whether they're clients whether they're couples individuals the seminars we've done for relationships the intensives and the books that we've written the podcast the blogs that we write we certainly have Yeah. Why would you? Stick with what you know. This is what we know. And we love what we do. We're very passionate about it. Love helping people figure it out. And even those that really should break up, love helping them to understand what went wrong and what to look for different next time.

SPEAKER_02 8:57

That's what we do. Beverly, anything you want to add?

SPEAKER_01 9:00

No, I mean, it's hard when you're in a relationship. It's like the forest and the trees. There's my metaphors. But it really is hard to see what you're doing wrong, whereas that impartial outside perspective is really what we can provide and can do so very quickly and effectively, efficiently. Can

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I ask you a really important question? Why do hearts, when you ask them a question, sometimes give you an answer and then completely contradict it? Well, see, because I asked. I said, Beverly, is there anything you want? to add. And you said, no. And then added a bunch of stuff. It's okay. I was okay if you wanted to add stuff. I just wasn't sure why you said no. I

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wasn't adding.

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I know you kept talking. I was like, wait, she's adding stuff. She said no.

SPEAKER_01 10:01

Okay, yes. I would like.

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Okay, we're finished now. Okay, now that there's a yes. Okay, my brain can handle that. I'm good. Okay. Oh, you're done now? Excellent. That's a podcast. That's what we're about. Thanks for tuning in. Check out Heart vs. Head. We post every Wednesday morning, and we love doing what we're doing. So thanks, everybody.

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Thanks for listening to Heart vs. Head. You can learn more at heartandheadcoaching.com and check out new podcast episodes every Wednesday. If you have a question for Randy and Beverly, send an email to info at heartandheadcoaching.com.