Heart Versus Head
A podcast that helps couples fight better and connect again. We're a relationship podcast that keeps it short and gives you and your partner something to talk about... something to argue about... in a meaningful way that turns your differences into strengths. This is Heart Versus Head.
Episodes
88 episodes
Heads Need A Parade
Does your Head partner want to be celebrated for taking out the trash? Once? In their life? Are you an unappreciated, unnoticed Head partner who is doing everything you can and still finding that it isn't enough for your Heart parnter? In this ...
Finding Your Way Home From Quiet Quitting
Have you ever felt like giving up on your relationship without actually leaving the relationship? Do you have those days where you think, "why try if my partner won't try?" In this episode, Randy and Beverly talk about the trend of "quiet quitt...
Dragging Your Partner Through Change
Retirement? Promotion? Laid off? New baby? Change is hard, especially on couples. In this episode, Randy and Beverly help you understand the transitions that you're going through. You'll learn how the Head partner is doing math and the Heart pa...
Blame (Burning Down The House)
In this episode, we explore blame. Why do we find it so easy to blame our partner for the things that happen in our lives? Go ahead and laugh as Randy and Beverly talk about whether it's okay to blame your partner for something they did in a dr...
What You're Missing When You're Not Listening
In this episode, Randy and Beverly examine why both partners get stuck in "not listening" mode. Communication is different between Hearts and Heads. The Head partner is often communicating to "fix" a problem while the Heart partner will communi...
Getting Needs Met
Are you getting some of your emotional needs met outside of your relationship? In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain how lots of trouble can show up if we're getting those emotional needs met constantly by someone other than our partner. #...
Suffering
Does the Head partner in your relationship seem to SUFFER a lot? Or at least make everybody aware of how much they are putting up with? In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore why Heads seem to like to suffer. It turns out there's a reason a...
Game Night Fights
Why are Head partners so competitive? Have you ever had a game night fight or argued over why you had to spend so much to buy a better car than the siblings have? If you're competitive or your partner is overly-competitive, you'll learn from th...
How Happy Should Your Partner Be
Most people want a partner that supports them and cheers for them all the time. But - as you'll learn this episode - that's not always a good idea. Maybe you actually want a partner that's supportive and cheering most of the tim...
Are You Rowing in the Same Direction
Are you both Hearts? Are you both Heads? Do you think it would be easier if you were with someone more like you? In this episode, Randy and Beverly talk about the importance of balance when it comes to relationship dynamics. In all disagreement...
How to End an Argument: Close the Loop
If you've ever had one of those arguments that the Head partner couldn't move past... this episode explains part of the issue. When issues are discussed, Hearts will focus on the way everyone is feeling about the issue. They want to make it fee...
Relationship Fireworks
Happy 4th of July... In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore ways that couples can bring the fireworks back into their relationship. Whether you've been together a long time and gotten a bit predictable - or you're in a new relationship and ...
Maxed Out
Randy crashed out. He was angry and ready to give up and walk away from even doing this week's podcast. When Heads get maxed out, they can shut down and explode. Hearts get maxed out too - especially when the Head is being angry. In this episod...
6 Ways to Heat Up Connection
In this episode, Randy and Beverly are sharing some quick and simple ways that you and your partner can recover some of that missing connection. Life is tough sometimes and all couples will experience disconnected moments. As connection fades, ...
Word Salad
If you've ever had a disagreement that ended up in the Head partner storming off in a huff before the Heart partner even gets to the "important" part of what they were trying to say, then this episode is for you. This episode is for every Heart...
Stalemates
Have you been having the same argument for a decade? Are you both so stuck in your unmovable position that neither is willing to change? Have you become stale mates? Or at least reached a stalemate? In this episode, Randy and Beverly unpack wha...
The Energy Concept
What are you building in your relationship with your limited human energy? We all have a set amount of energy available to get through the day, the week, the life. Are you using too much energy on the negative aspects of the relationship? How d...
The Connection Dance
Sometimes you need to step back to get your partner to step toward you. In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore how the Heart partner often ends up in Head mode when they're too busy pursuing the Head. The trick... is to step back into being...
Forgiveness
How does forgiveness work for Hearts and Heads? Why is so dang hard for Heads to say "I'm sorry." And why does it feel like Hearts say "I'm sorry" ALL THE TIME. In this episode of the Heart Versus Head podcast, Randy Hampton and Beverly Craddoc...
Your Operating System
At the core of how we each operate in our relationships is the guiding concept of Heart and Head. As people are learning about Heart and Head, they see some similarities between it and other relationship models. In this episode, Randy and Bever...
How To Judge Your Partner
Judging. You know you're doing it. It's natural. It's the comparison nature of having a human brain. You compare yourself to others and that very human action comes with judgement. In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore a better way to judg...
Relationship Polarity
Are you frustrated by the amount of 'pushback' in your relationship? Does it seem like every little thing is analyzed and critiqued? Or does your partner constantly jump in with 'fixes' you didn't ask for? While all relationships experience the...
Get a Life
In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain why Hearts and Heads need to "get a life!" Finding your individual interests and outside support networks can make a ton of difference in a relationship. Also in this episode, you'll meet the annoying ...
There Are No Mind Readers
Randy's head is about to explode. In this episode, Randy has reached a level of exasperation with Heart clients who think their Head partners are just supposed to somehow know what the Heart needs. Dive deeper as we explore why most Hearts have...