Heart Versus Head
A podcast that helps couples fight better and connect again. We're a relationship podcast that keeps it short and gives you and your partner something to talk about... something to argue about... in a meaningful way that turns your differences into strengths. This is Heart Versus Head.
Episodes
81 episodes
Game Night Fights
Why are Head partners so competitive? Have you ever had a game night fight or argued over why you had to spend so much to buy a better car than the siblings have? If you're competitive or your partner is overly-competitive, you'll learn from th...
How Happy Should Your Partner Be
Most people want a partner that supports them and cheers for them all the time. But - as you'll learn this episode - that's not always a good idea. Maybe you actually want a partner that's supportive and cheering most of the tim...
Are You Rowing in the Same Direction
Are you both Hearts? Are you both Heads? Do you think it would be easier if you were with someone more like you? In this episode, Randy and Beverly talk about the importance of balance when it comes to relationship dynamics. In all disagreement...
How to End an Argument: Close the Loop
If you've ever had one of those arguments that the Head partner couldn't move past... this episode explains part of the issue. When issues are discussed, Hearts will focus on the way everyone is feeling about the issue. They want to make it fee...
Relationship Fireworks
Happy 4th of July... In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore ways that couples can bring the fireworks back into their relationship. Whether you've been together a long time and gotten a bit predictable - or you're in a new relationship and ...
Maxed Out
Randy crashed out. He was angry and ready to give up and walk away from even doing this week's podcast. When Heads get maxed out, they can shut down and explode. Hearts get maxed out too - especially when the Head is being angry. In this episod...
6 Ways to Heat Up Connection
In this episode, Randy and Beverly are sharing some quick and simple ways that you and your partner can recover some of that missing connection. Life is tough sometimes and all couples will experience disconnected moments. As connection fades, ...
Word Salad
If you've ever had a disagreement that ended up in the Head partner storming off in a huff before the Heart partner even gets to the "important" part of what they were trying to say, then this episode is for you. This episode is for every Heart...
Stalemates
Have you been having the same argument for a decade? Are you both so stuck in your unmovable position that neither is willing to change? Have you become stale mates? Or at least reached a stalemate? In this episode, Randy and Beverly unpack wha...
The Energy Concept
What are you building in your relationship with your limited human energy? We all have a set amount of energy available to get through the day, the week, the life. Are you using too much energy on the negative aspects of the relationship? How d...
The Connection Dance
Sometimes you need to step back to get your partner to step toward you. In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore how the Heart partner often ends up in Head mode when they're too busy pursuing the Head. The trick... is to step back into being...
Forgiveness
How does forgiveness work for Hearts and Heads? Why is so dang hard for Heads to say "I'm sorry." And why does it feel like Hearts say "I'm sorry" ALL THE TIME. In this episode of the Heart Versus Head podcast, Randy Hampton and Beverly Craddoc...
Your Operating System
At the core of how we each operate in our relationships is the guiding concept of Heart and Head. As people are learning about Heart and Head, they see some similarities between it and other relationship models. In this episode, Randy and Bever...
How To Judge Your Partner
Judging. You know you're doing it. It's natural. It's the comparison nature of having a human brain. You compare yourself to others and that very human action comes with judgement. In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore a better way to judg...
Relationship Polarity
Are you frustrated by the amount of 'pushback' in your relationship? Does it seem like every little thing is analyzed and critiqued? Or does your partner constantly jump in with 'fixes' you didn't ask for? While all relationships experience the...
Get a Life
In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain why Hearts and Heads need to "get a life!" Finding your individual interests and outside support networks can make a ton of difference in a relationship. Also in this episode, you'll meet the annoying ...
There Are No Mind Readers
Randy's head is about to explode. In this episode, Randy has reached a level of exasperation with Heart clients who think their Head partners are just supposed to somehow know what the Heart needs. Dive deeper as we explore why most Hearts have...
What Is Love?
Do you and your partner have the same definition of love? Are you sure? We've found that the Heart partner and the Head partner see love in very different ways. Hearts are feeling it. Heads are managing it. Find out why that matters so much as ...
Balancing Heart and Head
In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain why Heart/Heart relationships and Head/Head relationships don't work like you think they might. Listen and consider how all relationships seek the balance of Heart and Head. The secret isn't finding so...
Under the Hood of a Trauma Bond
Why do we seem drawn to the bad relationships of the past? Have you ever been in a good relationship but felt like you were craving an old partner - even if the old relationship was horrible? Or maybe you keep dating the same kind of problem. W...
Under the Hood of a Fight
In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain why fighting deeper is so important, especially when it comes to those arguments that seem to repeat themselves for years on end. If you've been fighting about the same thing over and over and over and...
Unmasking the Hidden Hurt
Humans generally know it. When we're in a disagreement, we're slinging hurt. So why is it so hard to slow down with our partner and see that they're hurting. In this episode of Heart Versus Head, Randy and Beverly explain how hurt disguises its...
The Honeymoon is Over
In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain why the honeymoon phase can't last forever. And why trying to get it back is actually the wrong approach - relationally and scientifically. And they'll explain how you can learn to communicate in a way...
Why So Angry?
Is your relationship getting heated? Are you feeling more angry these days? In this episode of Heart Versus Head, Randy and Beverly dive into why anger shows up in relationships and how you can navigate the angry moments with more compassion.&n...
You're Not Perfect but You're Perfect for Me
On the one year anniversary of the Heart Versus Head podcast, Randy and Beverly discuss how the podcast almost killed them, explain why they argued about the title of this episode, and finally tell the story of how they met. Plus, they've got s...