In this episode, Randy and Beverly discuss how to handle the touchy subject of interactions with ex-partners, especially when kids are involved. You can't just block 'em and walk away. Whether it's scheduling custody handoffs or providing detai...

In this episode, Randy and Beverly talk about men checking out other women -  from a glance at the cute girl at the mall to the bit too long look at the girls on the beach. Sexual attraction may be biological but it's a dangerous minefield...

In this episode Randy and Beverly explore the ways that Hearts and Heads use conversations for different purposes and how that can lead to trouble in a relationship, especially when you both think you're right. So grab your partner - nicely - a...

Remember that episode about The Moment a few weeks ago? Well, Beverly had a moment too. This time around, you'll see why Beverly told Randy that he was a better boyfriend than a husband... and figure out how that happens in a relationship. If y...

Randy and Beverly jump into some reasons why people - even single people - can benefit from listening to a relationship podcast. Building your relationship skills - like learning to understand Heart and Head styles - isn't just positively life ...

In the words of the great philosopher, Dr. Gregory House, "Everybody lies." In relationships lies can erode away trust or create conflicts in values that do more harm than telling the truth. But is it okay to lie? Maybe just a white lie? Or to ...

There are some defining moments in every relationship. There's the moment you fall in love. There's the moment you realize they love you. And there's THE MOMENT your partner screws it up and lets you down. In this episode, Randy and Beverly tal...

It's the peak of the summer season and that means ice cream. I scream... you scream... we all scream for ... dating to be easier. Why can't I find my person? In this episode, Beverly and Randy discuss how picking a different flavor might serve ...

In this episode, Beverly tells the story of the time she reacted out of anger and frustration and did something terrible. The story leads to a discussion about addiction, disappointment, anger and hope. Is there a murderous twist to the story? ...

What's the key ingredient that will predict success in repairing or improving your relationship? In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain why both partners having a willingness to learn makes all the difference in the world. And they go on a ...

In this episode Beverly has a concept for how to be less controlling in all of your relationships. Basically, think of your partner as a space alien. Listen and learn why thinking this way could really, positively change your relationship with ...

While Heads will often focus on the emotional chaos of being in a relationship with a Heart partner, there's something important that can get missed beneath all that. In this episode, Randy tells the story of the moment he knew that Beverly was...

What are the things that you brought to your relationship? Do you have specific beliefs about what it means to be loved? Are there things your partner should "just know" that they should do to show that they love you? In this episode, Randy and...

One of the biggest challenges in relationship communication is when you try to make your partner happy and they're trying to make you happy. It can end up with frustration and NOBODY being happy. In this episode, Randy and Beverly take on why f...

Do you love your partner or are you in love with that wonderful feeling of being in love? It's easy for our brain to like the wonderful feeling of the early stages of being in love but it can trick our brain into believing that love will always...

Sometimes couples need to argue. Maybe a boundary has been crossed. Maybe your partner and you can't agree on the next car to get - Randy and Beverly had that fight. So how do you have a tough discussion without someone becoming immediately ang...

Heads tend to compartmentalize everything. Hearts are more likely to flow things together that are linked by similar emotions. This can lead to conflict in a relationship when we don't understand it or assume that our partner does it the same w...

Randy and Beverly dive into how people use things like names, pet names, and familiar phrases to create connectivity in relationships. The things people say might mean different things depending on the context but most couples don't really talk...

In this episode, Randy and Beverly discuss how relationships are often seen as "bad" in a moment when a broader view might help both partners see things a little differently. When relationships encounter trouble, the human brain goes into prote...

Well, what did you expect? In this episode, Randy and Beverly explore why Hearts and Heads face so many challenges with expectations and why it is so important to talk about them before the trouble shows up. From completely different vacation e...

In this episode, Randy and Beverly take a deeper look at how needs influence relationship satisfaction and why it's so darn tricky for Hearts and Heads to talk about what they really need in the relationship. From love and respect to topics lik...

In this episode, Randy and Beverly continue to explore the reasons that couples fight: different values, unmet needs and miscommunicated expectations, VNEs. This episode focuses on values, the deep core beliefs that form in our early years and ...

What if you could de-code the conflict in your relationship? In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain the three reasons that couples disagree, argue and fight. By understanding the different values, needs and expectations we have from our par...

How much time and energy do you spend trying to keep your partner happy? In this episode, we'll discuss why everyone is going to fail at making someone else constantly happy. If you're ready to stop trying to guess the secret code for your part...

Why is it so dang hard to make a collaborative decision? Why are Hearts so passive? Why do Heads get so frustrated and short with this stuff? If you've ever argued over something simple - like where to eat - then this podcast will explain how H...